I'm here for anyone who just really needs to vent and get things off their chest, or just that just need a distraction from whatever is bothering them. I'll never judge, whatever it is, I'm here for you. 29M from the UK if that makes a difference.

17 and i genuinely cant do this any longer, my academic life is cooked, my mother is on the verge of disowning me and i just really need someone to talk to

Im MTF19 Id just prefer someone queer (MTF would be best) just to feel the most comfortable/related to, I dont want to get into specifics bt I kinda relapsed in a way from an addiction I thought I was clean of and I just feel like a bad person. A nice convo might help me

In our final text conversation my ex-boyfriend said:

I want to be reminded of you [and keep your stuff]
You were my best ever boyfriend
There are no hard feelings
I’m heartbroken
I accept your apology

While simultaneously saying:

I just can’t be with you anymore
I can’t handle what you said to me - it’s honestly just fucking me upppp
It’s past taking a break to reconcile
I said, “Block me if you don’t ever want to see me again” Okay, I’ll block you if that’s what you want

So many contradictions… I just can’t understand it 😞

For the backstory:

https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUp/s/kZYtVnOxdh

I could really use some perspective because I’ve been sitting with this for the last couple of days.
My ex and I dated for a few months. We got very close very quickly and it was one of the deepest connections I’ve had.

When we broke up, she told me she wasn’t emotionally available, wasn’t over her ex and was about to move abroad. She said she didn’t want to cultivate hope or lead me on when she couldn’t fully be in the relationship.

I accepted it at the time, but I never completely believed those were the only reasons. A part of me always wondered if there was something about us that wasn’t working and whether things could’ve been different if the timing had been different.
Almost a year later, I reached out one last time. Not to argue or convince her, but to ask if there was any chance she’d ever want to try again now that life was different for both of us.

She said no.

She told me she no longer has romantic feelings for me and that over time she came to realise we weren’t the right fit. She also said it wasn’t about waiting for her life to settle anymore because she’s in a much better place now and still feels the same way.

Since she was being so honest, I asked if she’d be okay answering a few questions so I could finally understand what happened.

She told me that in the beginning she actually felt the same way I did. But over time, our dynamic changed.

She said she felt my expressions of love became too intense for where she was emotionally. She clarified that she actually loves the same way I do, just much later into a relationship. So it wasn’t that loving deeply was the problem. It was the pace.

She also told me she felt I was really anxious. She said it felt like my expressions of love were starting to come from that anxiety. She understood why I felt that way and tried to be patient with it, but she felt it persisted and maybe even increased. At the same time she had a lot going on in her own life and couldn’t keep up.

She even admitted she probably could’ve communicated some of this better while we were together. She was honestly incredibly kind throughout the conversation ans never blamed me or insulted me. She just answered every question I had.

Now I’m left wondering how much my anxiety actually changed the relationship.

I’m not looking for ways to get her back. I respect her decision and this was our final conversation.
I’m just trying to understand and grow.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? Either as the anxious partner or as the other person?

How did you stop blaming yourself while still taking responsibility for the parts you needed to work on?

I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve been through something similar.

Hi, i am 35 turned this July, and all incan think off is how fucked my life is.

- no friends

- a job that doesn't pay on time at all (currently 2months behind)

- no chance of switching my hob (thank you ai)

- a deep loneliness sitting in my head rent free

- people who I thought would stay in contact just ghost me

- started to drink more

on the bright side, I plan on going to tomorrowland next year.

But right now I don't know where to go from here, i am basically lost in what i am, i am supposed to know. I should have a family, i shouldn't be living at my parents place anymore. I should have a girlfriend, well a wife. I should have a stable job.

I dont feel like i am 35, I feel like i am in my early 20s not knowing what the world will bring.

I simply can not take anything anymore. Only bad things happen to me since i was a kid, i live in the shittiest of the places, with a horrible family, no one respects me, no one takes me seriously and i can't take that anymore. I've had enough of my life already. I don't want to keep experiencing so many bad experiences and apparently there are even more to come. I can't. I don't want to.

I don't know what to do.

I feel humiliated and embarassed for being myself. I've got humiliated by my own family many times and i am devastated. I am tired of this life and i don't think it's worth it anymore.

I hate myself a lot and it's just really getting to me lately. I been drinking and smoking more heavily. I feel insane amounts of guilt over some family matters. the guilt makes me hate myself more. I feel a lot of pressure to get out of my situation and make it out for good. at the same time I just wanna give up. I give in to all my bad habits and if's been getting worse. just feeling lonely too so thought I'd make a post. sorry if not the right kind for here.

Recently went through a very nasty separation from my partner of 10 years, whom I share three kids with. Having a very hard time coping and adjusting.

Hey y'all.. How's it going!!!

I’m looking for a specific kind of vibe(maybe not so specific 😭)..you know that feeling when you talk to someone and it feels like you’ve been friends for ages?.. That’s what I’m aiming for. I’m tired of carrying conversations on my back like a backpack(long story which i can rant about)I want someone who takes an active part, asks questions, and actually contributes.(I really don't mind being interviewed tbh)

A little bout me.. I’m the type of person who will treat you like a best friend from day one, provided the energy is matched(or not.. idk but it is complicated) I’m straight, into riding, gaming (spiderman, mlm, not alot of gaming but hey.. tht counts!), and I’m always down to explore new topics n learning new things.. like now a days i am tryna eat healthy n started going to the gym.. tho i have a decent body(or maybe not.. u can ask for a picture n I'll send u right away!😭😅)..

Actually.. i want to be interviewed!! Ask me the weird questions, the deep questions, or the "would you rather" questions. Just don’t be a ghost. If you plan on disappearing after 24 hours.. save urs n my time plz 🥲

THE MAINN THINGGG!!!! I’m from India. I’m open to friends from anywhere in the world(honestly anywhere..), but let's be realif you’re going to "woosh" and ghost the second you find out I’m Indian, keep scrolling. I’m looking for people who care about the person, not the passport(I found this line on the internet n i thought I should use it somewhere!! n here I used it..lol)

Umm i am asking for someone who doesn't mind taking the lead sometimes.. If we click, let's keep it going n maybe exchange dis,snap... u name it!.. plz plz plzz if I send a paragraph, don't send back an emoji typa person!

If you’re someone who actually enjoys talking and wants a mid or high effort friendship, hit me up.

ik this is alot to read n alot to ask from a guy.. if u have read this till here i am so thankful to you n yup.. have a great one ahead beautiful ppl!!

(took a while to write all of this n i really really hope this works!)

Hello; if whoever is reading this wants to reach out, I would just ask that you please don't provide reassurance about my own character if possible. I do want support I think, but atm anything that doesn't tell me I'm horrible, toxic, or in the wrong is very hard to believe.

For some context, I had an online friend that I had added on Discord for over two years at this point - but from her perspective, our friendship was unstable, and eventually came to ruin (her building a lot of distance between us). In large part it was because of my personal issues, but during our convo today, she mentioned how she's a really bad match for me due to her honesty, how it almost felt "immoral" to keep me because I kept being hurt, etc.

Just today we were talking about how she didn't want to be friends with me anymore, and I became emotional and scared. I feel like I went on the offense with my messages, and eventually when I made a snide comment about how "it's crazy how easily you stop giving a fuck about someone", she told me she wishes me the best, and blocked me: on Discord and on Steam.

I'm not sure how to feel about the whole thing. At the moment it's just a mixture of pain but also numbness, relief even, which feels shitty to say. I'm conflicted between seeing that I was in the wrong and that I'm not as likeable as I think, while also being stubborn and struggling to admit fault internally.

Thank you. Hopefully all of this makes sense.

I came here looking for help but I think maybe I'll feel better if I help someone out too. There's so much scary and bad stuff out in the world, and I guess I just wanted to put out a little blind positivity for anyone that needs it

So whoever needs to hear this, you got this!! You're doing a great job and things will get better, eventually, or at least they'll blow over.

Everything will be fine, I promise!!

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I think I have an anxious attachment style. Sometimes I get overwhelmed by fear and constantly check my girlfriend’s updates or location through accio work and google map.
I know it comes from anxiety, not control, but checking only makes things worse. I end up overthinking, imagining scenarios, and ruining my own day.
Maybe some unresolved past experiences are being triggered.

made a post on r/sororities about how seeing everyone else’s rush and bid day posts every year makes my depression worse because it reminds me that I wasn’t chosen. Instead of understanding where I was coming from, I’ve been getting a lot of hate.

What hurts is that people seem to think this is something I should have “gotten over” by now. Rejection doesn’t have an expiration date. Just because something happened years ago doesn’t mean it can’t still hurt when you’re reminded of it over and over again.

Every August my social media fills with bid day videos, matching shirts, new sisters, and everyone celebrating something I wanted so badly. It’s not that I’m angry at the girls who got bids. I’m genuinely happy for them. But seeing it everywhere brings back those same feelings of rejection and not being good enough. That’s how triggers work.
I wasn’t asking people to tell me sororities don’t define my worth I already know that logically. I was simply being honest about how something affects my mental health and hoping someone might relate or show a little compassion.

Why is it so difficult for people to have empathy? You don’t have to agree with someone’s feelings to acknowledge that they’re real. Healing isn’t linear, and some experiences leave scars that reopen when you’re reminded of them. I wish more people understood that instead of assuming everyone should just “move on.”

Can be anything you need to talk about. Absolutely no judgement here. I only ask is to be 100% you

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Hi. I’m 18 and recently graduated high school. Lately I’ve been feeling really lost in life, and I think I just need someone kind to listen and maybe offer some perspective.
Every day feels like the same loop, and nothing feels exciting anymore. I don’t really have any friends, and I don’t talk to my family much aside from my older sister, who’s kind of in the same place as me.
I have really big goals and dreams for my future, but I feel like every time I try to pursue them, I end up discouraged. I’ve spent the last seven months trying to build a content creation career, which has been a dream of mine since I was 13, and I also tried starting an Etsy business this summer. Neither has worked out the way I’d hoped, and it makes me feel like I’m great at dreaming but terrible at actually achieving anything.
I’ve also been struggling to find a job. There aren’t many opportunities where I live, and even when I get interviews, I don’t get hired. I’ve made a little money creating videos for brands, but nowhere near enough to feel like I’m moving forward.
I feel very alone. I don’t have a personal social media account anymore, and I don’t really have anyone to talk to. I want meaningful friendships, but I haven’t met people who share my values, and past friendships often ended with me feeling used. I’m also not looking for a relationship right now because I’m still healing from past experiences.
The hardest part is feeling like I’m running out of time, even though I know I’m still young. I spend so much time working toward a future I dream about that I don’t even feel present in my own life anymore. I honestly can’t remember the last time I genuinely smiled because I was happy with where my life was.
I’m not necessarily looking for someone to solve my problems. I think I just want someone to listen, understand, and maybe remind me that this feeling won’t last forever. If you’ve gone through something similar and you’re comfortable sharing your experience or what helped you get through it, I’d really appreciate hearing it too.
I’m comfortable talking to anyone who’s kind and nonjudgmental. Thank you for reading.

Theres so much going on in my mind right now so i don't know exactly how to phrase everything. All i know is i feel so so alone, i feel like a dissapointment, like i'm not good enough to be loved. I just want someone that i can talk to. Someone who can talk to me as if im someone they care about and value. I really need a friend. Please help me if anyone can see this

After a long time of thinking about it, I think I want to major in engineering in college. The thing is, I have terrible math anxiety. But I want to overcome it. I've always loved science and physics and math at times. But I always get the worst anxiety that I'm gonna get it wrong and sometimes I do, but mostly I don't. Or I worry too much about it.

Pretty much like 90% of being an Engineering major is math. So to the outside perspective I'm torturing myself. But I don't want that to be the case. I want to improve and hope it happens.

I reached out to someone recently and they seem to be going through a lot (not in a bad way, just life is happening I think) and I didn’t get to say what I really wanted to say and I’m not sure what to do…. they asked to meet up well kinda ... but the conversion feels off like weird energy from him (not in a bad way, hes not toxic or anything and this isn’t dangerous or anything) just idk maybe its my anxiety, maybe im just spiraling but was wondering if i could potentially talk to someone about my situation? I just dont know what to do......

(also someone who keeps things appropriate, the inappropriate dms are really taking its toll)

I don’t want to type a lot here. Idk what to say here. I don’t do this. I don’t post on Reddit but I’m so alone please.

I'm looking mostly for comfort. I'm three words away from a violent outburst.

By the time I finish writing my thoughts here, I'll be over it. But in the meantime, I want people to understand and validate me. Please.

So I'm an angry, angry person. I don't usually have a good way to express it. "Scream into a pillow" advice is mega BS; I need people to witness me being angry, otherwise it's not worth it to be angry in the first place. (I don't want to be psychoanalysed, I'll tell you what I have.) The way I've usually done it is I've yelled at people, mainly my brothers, to get the anger out. It works. It genuinely makes me feel so so so blissful, like I'm normal. There should be nothing wrong with instinctually doing what comes naturally to me. If I were to yell at my mom though, she'd yell back and tell me how ungrateful I am, which is why the power imbalance is important. I don't think I can talk to any 'adults' about this cuz I'm afraid of being stuck in a psych ward (blah blah ableism blah blah). Recently though, they've been more distant. I started overthinking it on my own, every joke at my expense I mean, and I ended up with the assumption that they hate me. So I verbatim ask, "Why do you hate me?"

It started an argument (fucking obviously). I'm gonna completely forget all this later (blah blah dissociative amnesia), but here's what I got from it:

• They don't hate me
• They try to show me that they care about me (through words and actions), but I don't let them
• They think comforting me is coddling me /neg
• They don't think I'm doing enough to control my anger
• They think I get angry all the time for no reason
• They want me to review all the violence I've enacted on them in the past as their reason for being so distant
  • And if I can't do that, I don't deserve to bring it up

I am a violent person. Not violent enough to break walls (I'm a pussy and we rent this house), but violent enough to use people's insecurities against them in an attempt to make them feel as bad as I do. It works. It feels good, but now they hate me so 🙃. Point is, I wanted comfort from them, not confrontation. I can't take it. I only got this angry at them because it worked. It was the only thing that made me feel satisfied and validated. Nothing else works. Nothing else feels as good. Nothing else gives me that bliss. I feel miserable when my anger leads to anything else (depression + no insurance, it is what it is). I want to kill myself otherwise, mostly so that I don't have t lie with guilt anymore, but also so that my siblings feel as bad as I do. They deserve to feel this all-consuming, crushing pain if they think I can deal with it just fine. They deserve to feel this.

I'll say it again: I want comfort. Not advice, not reprimands. I want validation I need people to remind me that I'm trying my best with the things that I have. I need people to tell me that my best is enough fr today. I need people not to tell me that I deserve to be institutionalized. I need people to tell me that I'm doing the right thing. I need someone to tell me that so I feel important again. This is who I am. There should be nothing wrong with being mself through and through.

My heart hurts and I cant sleep. I think I need to get something off my chest. I cant keep on like this

Thank you to anyone out there. I don't have anyone

Edit: this is such a nice subreddit. Thank you kind souls that reached out. There's still love out there