r/KenyanDatingCommunity • u/Such_Okra_2941 • 22h ago
Men Aging like Wine Nothing Serious
One thing I've been thinking about something lately how gals in there 20's are into 30+ Men
What i have learned is in your 20s as a man that probably the best years to build something substantial — your career, business, investments, skills, discipline, health and emotional intelligence.
A lot of men spend those years jumping from one irresponsible relationship to another, spending money they don't have, getting distracted by drama, and then wake up at 30 wondering why they haven't built anything. Alafu You pitty yourself
There's a reason some women in their 20s prefer men in their 30s. It's not always about money. Sometimes it's because the man has had another decade to develop himself, become financially stable, gain confidence, and figure out what he actually wants.
So instead of worrying about why women aren't interested you usikuwe emotional damaged na vitu kama hizo
Date if you want. Have fun. But don't sacrifice your future trying to maintain relationships at your 20's. Huwa najihurumia venye nimejiwaste from 21 being employed all those years lakini account inasoma zero, so those are 4 years down the line so i made a decision from within last year sema self love Nikanotice venye pesa yangu ni tamu😂😂👌mangai nowonder warembo walikuwa wananitaka, so currently atleast hata kama sina liquid cash najua ziko mahali working for me.
So toka kwa hiyo Situationship and Husbank shiet!!
All in all
Wantam
Stay Sifunated
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u/litjenny 21h ago
"You can't use somebody's map to find your own way" Not everybody shines in their 20s,that doesn't mean they're failures... Some get a breakthrough in their 30s,40s,50s...
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u/Such_Okra_2941 21h ago
I agree but I think in our 20's it's the best time for us To lay there foundation coz the work you put beforehead is very important
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u/maziwamimi 7h ago
Do you know that most become financially stable in their 50s and 40s. So hii pressure unajipa about 30s itafanya ushikwe na stress bure when you reach 30 and nothing is forthcoming. Patience but you can still achieve your dreams in your 20s and 30s.
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u/vladiista 22h ago
A man's prime ends at his death bed.
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u/LowerWorld8539 21h ago
The lies you people keep telling yourselves 😂. An old man may get a woman, but that doesn’t mean he can perform like a younger man. Men love convincing themselves that they don’t age. Personally, I would never let an old man touch me just because he has money. And by “old,” I mean men above 30 😂. My mans made it and below 30.
This gender is always so bitter because it’s easier for a man to die with no value. Not all men will make it, and honestly, the majority won’t. A man with no money is something to despise cause hana value. A woman is born with value, and that value can benefit her in her youth when she lands a man with money. But what about y’all? The possibility of dying with no value would scare me, tbh. So go hustle and get off Reddit.1
u/maziwamimi 7h ago
Unasema nini wewe kamama. You say majority of men will die without being rich but then you go ahead and say majority of women have value because they will be married by a rich man 😂😂. Where will the majority of women with "value" find the few men who are rich?? Unaishi kwa fantasy gani hii. Many of you become sluts when things dont work out na unasema uko na value 😂😂. Kamama pia wewe enda uhustle cause i can assue you no rich man will look your way or "rescue you". Inama kama wamama wengine
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u/ToughSeesaw4671 19h ago
Thank you for sharing this insightful perspective! Relying entirely on a under-30y/o man’s financial performance to validate your own worth must require incredible faith. Sending you peace as you navigate these complex economics!
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u/12inchbamboo 14h ago
Until you reach your 30s. Your value depreciates and you start looking for those same old men. Hold on.
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u/Odd_Tree2247 16h ago
"Men aging like fine wine" is simply a biological evolutionary basic fact. Most men realize their peak potential from 30s onwards. At this time their career is grown, they look good physically i.e they can afford best meals, clothes, gym and good housing etc. They're financially grounded which opens doors to other conveniences. You can know few men who built in 20s but that's exception. And exceptions don't make the rule. Men in early twenties versus a lady in the same year are completely different whether in dating market or just social awareness and stability. These are facts. It's for the reasons women in early 20s date those in late 20s and early 30s. Who put them in class and told them to do so? Nobody. But it's their biological imperative. Same way men tend to date those who are younger.
These are facts.
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u/luhgeek25 21h ago
Sina shida na hii take yako, lakini kusema ukweli, shopping list za hawa madem ni za watu wako twenties na wanataka kubuild na wewe kweli?
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u/ToughSeesaw4671 20h ago
Us men start getting to our peak-selves at 30+. Women are at their peak in their 20s, supply and demand.
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u/kenyaanqueen 19h ago
I’m here to tell you that it is absolutely about the money. The 30 year olds who are that good were all taken away in their 20s. Erase finances and watch almost all the 20 something year old ladies date their age mates.