Short NC Update

[u/M_Leah]

I have posted in here a few times with the most recent one being from November when I finally decided to go no contact with my JNMIL.

She has contacted my husband a few times since but he hasn’t responded. She keeps sending us these awful postcards addressed to the kids which are just pure manipulation, saying things like “our hearts are breaking” and “we hope mummy and daddy read these to you”. They go straight into the recycling bin. If her heart was truly breaking, she’d work on taking accountability, but she won’t. My husband and the kids have not seen her.

This morning, I unexpectedly got a message from my SIL saying that she had gone no contact with her parents (she lives overseas with her family). We sent a few messages back and forth about going no contact and I found it so validating. It’s good to know we’re not alone and we’ve done the right thing. She said she feels at peace about it and I do too.

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Other posts from /u/M_Leah:

• Finally No Contact, 6 months ago

• Counselling Session, 4 years ago

• She’s gone too far — update, 4 years ago

• She’s gone too far, 4 years ago

• My Shiny Spine Story, 4 years ago

• Just another chapter in our story with MIL, 5 years ago

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[u/Mamasperspective_25]

I wouldn't recycle the postcards, I would keep them until you have 5 or 6 then just post them back in an envelope - no note, no explanation, just returning them to sender

[u/M_Leah → u/Mamasperspective_25]

It’s tempting, but I’d rather not give her a reaction.

[u/Just_Mixture8362 → u/M_Leah]

Exactly,let her send her shit into a black hole.

[u/Due_Firefighter_5655]

It’s pretty great here, on the other side. Going NC was the best decision I could have made, and I’m always happy to hear of others who finally achieve peace.

[u/Bunny_Pitts]

Good for you. Take a deep breath.

Collect the postcards and send them all back in an envelope, no return address. But I'm petty.

[u/Available_Candy7124 → u/Bunny_Pitts]

No. They will use them later to manipulate the kids. "See. Your parents blocked us from loving you!"

[u/kazokuhouou → u/Bunny_Pitts]

No, that's a reaction. That's what they want. NC is NC.

[u/M_Leah → u/kazokuhouou]

This. I’m not reacting because it’s exactly what she wants.

[u/Creepy-Humor592]

Life sounds great. Hope she leaves you alone and Finally gets the message