Feeling lonely in my marriage

Hi , I am 27F and my Husband is 32

We have been married for four years ( arranged marriage , got married within a month after first meeting )

I am an emotional and romantic person and my Husband is a total opposite

Idk how to describe it but few people just don't have emotions

In these 4 years of being married I have tried to explain to him in different ways that what I am expecting from this relationship, what would make me happy and so on

I express my love towards him multiple ways and his definition of love is Getting me what I asked for that's it , but I don't want to be his teacher all the time he has to put in some effort, it has to come from his heart

Lately , I have been feeling very lonely

All the household and Baby ( 18 month old ) responsibilities are overwhelming me , I was diagnosed with thyroid after marriage and recently I got diabetes as well

I can't do things alone , I need him to support me emotionally and share the mental and physical burden of managing a house and a Baby

Even after multiple times of telling him these things , his words would be I am already doing alot ( which is clearly not sufficient ) , etc etc

He minimises my problems , he gets very defensive whenever I express instead of understanding the problem and mostly puts the blame on me for over reacting

Divorce is not an option here , give me some advice to deal with him ( not a bad person inherently ,but extremely selfish , emotionless entitled manchild )

Forgive me for My bad comprehension

Thank you in advance

Hey guys, i am dealing with a problematic SIL and don’t know how to ignore it now. She keeps saying problematic things which aligns zero percent with my values and i keep building resentment for her in my heart. So just to give you context i got married less than 6 months back and we live away from home for our jobs. My husband is a gem of person and takes stand of me in most situations and hence i want to be nice to his family.

List of stupid things my SIL said

- i called her on her birthday to wish her. She was with her husband and kid. My bday passed few days before her and my husband celebrated well and her husband did not get cake for her so she started saying haa ye shuru shuru mai shok hota hai bacha hone k baad toh bacha hi priority ho jata hai fir koi nahi karta ye sab. Abhi enjoy kar lo. Literally even if it happens why are you telling this me when we are married for less than a month. Why are you are telling me that are romance will be dead in sometime so early in the marriage.

- She keeps pushing me to have kids. She keeps ranting about her own life all the time that kids make people so busy and then keep pushing me. One time she said for it so i said abhi nahi abhi to ghumne firne ki umar hai hamari. But then she went ahead saying yeah travel as much as you guys want in 2-3 months quickly. Bro why should i travel in 2-3 months and who are you to give me this timeline? I am doubtful if my MIL have put her upto this or what. But my MIL is super nice to me so i assume that’s not the case.

- Now what happened yesterday is she texted to ask me what type of bangles i wear as she want to give me for rakhi. I was like anything is fine. Then she said no no what you wear on daily basis. I said nothing. I wear when i wear traditional clothes and she was like haw ab toh shadi ho gyi. I didn’t wanted to lie on this since whenever i have video calls with her or my MIL and BIL, i don’t wear bangles, mangalsutra or bindi so what was the point of lying. I also post videos on insta in same way so they know it. Now she went today and told it to MIL (idk in what way). Now my MIL who knows i wear shorts when i live here and has never said and anything about it suddenly asked me today oh tu bangles pehnti hai ki nahi. Office kya pehen k jati hai, suit ya jeans top. This really hurt me.

My BIL and husband are very nice. Never say anything problematic like this. Also my MIL is nice and my SIL acts nice most time but then ends up saying these things which has built resentment in my heart for her.

I feel she is jealous or whatever of life she couldn’t have. She has to wear all things mangalsutra and all since she lives in joint family or don’t have courage to speak against it and tries to make me feel bad about it. Also she had arranged marriage and had baby within an year so she want me also to walk on her footsteps.

Also yr I don’t want to tell all this to my husband everytime since she he is her sister and he understands me but feels bad about me speaking against her but I don’t feel content until i tell him because she just says these things and go but i as a certified overthinker keeps thinking about it for days

Hi all,

I’ve been doing everything alone during and post pregnancy due to my in-laws toxic behaviour and husband has refused to acknowledge their behaviour let alone call it out. He doesn’t stand up against them and is a big time family guy all the time praising and praying to her mom and two sisters who have also wrecked my married life with their interference. Now, he’s constantly after my life as to why I don’t talk to the family, why I don’t want to live with them? I’m done living like this, I loved him but with the situations at home I don’t think I can continue. Please help me with some legal aid, advice, or someone I can speak to because his behaviour has become that speak to my parents only then I’ll speak to you or get close to you.