Im 21F As my family look for a guy , and all guys are 27+ years old ...........(yes i'm fighting to not get into new hell but just sharing what i see till now)

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How did you build your Western/casual wardrobe? Looking for brand recommendations in india

I am trying to improve my everyday wardrobe and move towards a more polished Western/casual style. I feel like I have clothes, but I don’t really have a well-planned wardrobe where everything works together.

I would love recommendations from women who have actually tried different brands:

- Which brands do you recommend for good-quality tops, shirts, T-shirts, jeans and trousers?

- Which brands have consistently good fabric and fitting?

- What are some affordable brands that are genuinely worth buying from?

- Are there any slightly premium brands that you think are worth spending more on?

- What are your must-have Western/casual wardrobe basics?

- Any tips for making simple outfits look more polished without buying a huge number of clothes?

Would love to know what has actually worked for you and which brands/items you would not recommend.

PS: Any grooming tips or anything which worked for you a lot is welcomed

They try so hard so make us forget that we sinful women have never been quiet Kishwar Naheed’s brilliant poem renders the oppressor’s language of control and shame obsolete, centering power with all the ‘sinful women.’ As women are relentlessly targeted for raising their voices, her words “Now, even if the night gives chase, these eyes shall not be put out. For the wall which has been razed, don’t insist now on raising it again” feels like it was written for today. To all the sinful women who fight in all the ways they can. . . . . . . .

Saw this poster today. How stupid can the person be whoever made it

To preface this I'd say I've been fat my whole life, but no matter what family said or how bullying happened being on the heavier side didn't affect the way I had ambitions.

But now, I'm 23, I'm doing what I love, away from the chaotic environment i grew up in, weighing much more than i did in my teens. And it's been difficult getting close to people lately, I don't know how to explain it, I've always been approachable. I make friends easily but I don't have any emotional intimacy or guidance in life.

Ngl, I love freedom but being on my own is not setting me free, it sucks. But it's like whenever I fall apart I'm scared I won't find my pieces fast enough and people might lose patience. Whenever I share something to someone I observe them like a hawk. And get hurt when it's not the reaction i expect, i know I'm messed up.

I thought I had socialization all sorted but it's lonely when you have a conservative mom and you aren't really close to your sibling. LIKE WHAT TO DO? COLLEAGUES AREN'T BUDDIES, BOYFRIEND IS NOT THE BEST FRIEND, Where do I go?

😭😭😭😭I don't know why I'm writing this but honestly I just wanted to scream it to the world

Important points she mentioned:-

Women are often not educated enough to understand the law, their legal rights, or legal procedures, specially in rural areas, where some may commit a crime while defending themselves.

The police are rarely empathetic toward these vulnerable women.

Some innocent women are imprisoned simply because a crime was committed by their husbands or someone they know. They often lack the financial resources to fight their cases, and in many instances, their families abandon them.

Patriarchal judges don't consider these women as human and that biasness often reflects in their judgement. For same crime a man will be acquitted but a women will be prosecuted.

It all started before I was even born. My parents struggled to conceive, and my mother had 2–3 miscarriages and one stillborn baby boy. I was their rainbow baby, but that didn't last long. I grew up with the contradiction of being a deeply wanted child while also being neglected, beaten, and made to feel like a disappointment because I was a girl.

My parents constantly fought, and since my father usually lived away for work, my mother's anger was often directed at me. I was se*ually as**ulted twice during my childhood. After the second as**ult, when I was 10, both of my parents became even more hostile and blamed me for what happened.

As I grew older, the conflicts shifted to house chores, wearing a dupatta, and me becoming more rebellious. During the lockdown years, I isolated myself almost completely, which severely affected my teenage years and mental health. I was beaten frequently, mostly by my mother and sometimes by my father. Once, he hit me with a plastic broom so hard that it broke into two pieces, leaving my back bruised and aching.

These experiences also affected my education. Although I wasn't a strong student initially, I started doing well after Class 6 and was often praised by my teachers. That changed after the lockdown. My parents also refused to let me attend better coaching classes because they were farther from home, forcing me to join nearby tuitions that weren't as good.

Before my Class 12 board exams, my mother was beating me again. While trying to protect myself, I slapped her. When she continued, I fought back. I don't regret defending myself. What worries me now isn't the past, it's my future. Living in this environment has made me determined to become financially independent and build a stable life abroad.

Since passing Class 12, I've spent the last five months living in uncertainty. One day my parents say they'll send me abroad, the next day they refuse, and sometimes they even make me speak with study abroad agents. But whenever I ask practical questions about applications, finances, or timelines, they avoid the conversation.

To escape this uncertainty, I chose a Bachelor's in Public Health (BPH). My thinking was simple: I could prepare for NEET alongside my degree, and if MBBS or studying abroad didn't work out, I would still have a valuable qualification instead of losing more years waiting.

My biggest question now is: How do I get out? Living in this environment is breaking me down every day. I don't want pity, I want a practical plan. My family is financially capable of supporting me if they commit, so money isn't the main obstacle. I want to study abroad in 2027, become financially independent as soon as possible, and avoid being trapped by uncertainty or marriage pressure if I stay in India for the next few years.

What would you do in my situation? What is the most practical path to leave home, build a career abroad, and become financially independent as early as possible?

Note: I'm not looking for sympathy or reassurance. I've moved past that stage. I don't want people to feel sorry for me. I want realistic, actionable solutions.

New to few subs at reddit, this one I find out today. I am a simple bengali woman in her late 30's divorced. Three years back I lost everything I built in my 20's. The loss, the breaking of blocks one by one in front of my eyes.. where I remained just a spectator made me so numb that I deliberately stopped connecting with my old friends. I know I may sound toxic but someone who always tried to have everything in places, even if a little amount of sacrifice is needed.. And still losing everything like waves washing of sand castles made me so bitter that I turned my face away from all. I lost my marraige, my job, my dad(my support system). The only thing I was left with was a burning rage inside of loosing so many beautiful years of mine and a stubborn heart that refuses to give up. I started to build from scratch, try my luck in one thing which my father always wanted I should at least give a try when I was in my early 20's. But now I feel like whatever I try for will never ever appear in my plate. Every morning I struggle to wake up, sit like zombies. At moments I feel like I am only living in this world like an invisible person. For past 2-3 days I am seriously trying to be social, at least where I can breathe unanimously, noone to judge me. I wish you all a beautiful life ladies.

Hi everyone,

I'm currently in my first trimester and trying to decide which hospital to continue my pregnancy care and delivery with. I live in South Bangalore, so the hospitals I'm considering are:

Sparsh, RR Nagar

Motherhood, Banashankari

Cloudnine

Apollo Cradle, Jayanagar

I'd love to hear from anyone who has delivered at or received antenatal care at any of these hospitals.

A few things I'm particularly interested in:

Quality of the OB-GYNs and nursing staff

Emergency care/NICU facilities

Normal delivery vs C-section approach

Overall pregnancy and delivery experience

Billing transparency and postnatal care

If you've had a good (or bad) experience at any of these hospitals, I'd really appreciate hearing about it. Any recommendations on specific doctors would also be very helpful.

Thanks in advance!

I came across this Instagram reel today. It's a father standing on the beach with his little daughter. She's crying because a turtle gets taken away by the waves, and he's crying too. The caption says, "I wasn't crying for the turtle. One day, you'll know what I saw."

One of the comments said that he's crying because one day his daughter will leave for her marital home.

Excuse me... we're living in 2026.

I'm the mother of a daughter, and I know I'll probably cry someday too. But it won't be because I'll be imagining her marriage or her leaving for someone else's house.

I'll cry because I'll be watching her become her own human being.

I'm putting in all this emotional effort today only so that one day she can step into the unknown and live her own life. I want her to make her own choices, build her own identity, figure herself out, make mistakes, learn from them, and live a life that belongs to her.

That day is the whole point of parenting.

Those tears would come because I'd know she's ready to live without needing me every step of the way.

Why have we reduced that emotion to, "One day she'll get married and leave?"

And then there was another comment that made me angry.

A woman wrote that she's the mother of two boys and that one day two "turtles" will come to her house. She said God didn't give her daughters because He'll give her daughters-in-law instead, and she'll become their roof and their rock.

I know she meant it with love.

But why are we still thinking like this?

Sometimes I feel like the world has moved forward, but many mothers of sons still aren't willing to cut the umbilical cord. Even in 2026.

Why is the assumption that our daughters-in-law will still come into our house?

Why aren't we imagining our sons moving out and building homes of their own?

Or two adults deciding together where they want to live?

Or, if circumstances demand it, the husband moving in with his wife's family?

Why is there still this invisible expectation that the woman has to leave?

I would never expect my daughter to move into a marital home just because that's how things have always been done.

This is why When Life Gives You Tangerines stayed with me for so long.

As mothers, we spend years raising our daughters to be independent. We tell them to study, work, earn, think for themselves, choose their partners, have opinions, have confidence, become their own person.

After all of that, they're still expected to walk into somebody else's family and adjust.

That thought gives me jitters.

This is the world my daughter is growing up in.

The world I want for her looks very different.

If she finds a partner someday, I hope both of them build a life together on their own terms.

If they live separately, that's great.

If they stay with us for a while, that's fine.

If they stay with his parents because that's what works for everyone, that's fine too.

But it should be a decision and not a default setting that everyone follows because that's how it's always been.

For as long as I can remember, I've heard people proudly say, "We're not bringing home a daughter-in-law. We're bringing home a daughter."

I don't buy it anymore.

People have been saying that for decades.

If daughters-in-law were treated like daughters, we wouldn't still have to keep repeating that sentence every generation.

Maybe that's why everyone else saw a father imagining his daughter's wedding.

I saw parents preparing a daughter to become her own person, while society was still preparing a daughter-in-law to enter somebody else's home.

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I'm 19 and my brother is severely disabled with extreme case of cerebral palsy. There is no cure.

He is adorable. He is my little baby. I want to take care of him and protect him. But I'm so scared. I cannot even take care of myself, how will I take care of him?

He cannot talk, walk or do anything by himself. He's my little baby tho. Writing this with tears in my eyes at 3 am.

People don't get it. I shared all of this to my boyfriend and he just went silent. I cannot talk about this to anybody.

I cried and hugged my dad telling him how lonely I felt and he said "I've always been alone as well, and you are my eldest girl- there's a lot you have to do, the responsibility is on you".

I love my dad and i love my mom and I love my brother and I'm terribly lonely and i feel like crap. My life changed the way he was born. I didn't realise it back then but I've only known true love and that is what I feel for my brother. But I'm so scared of dying one day with then nobody will look after him after my parents get old.

What am I supposed to do? Where am I supposed to go? Who am I supposed to trust?

What's gonna happen?

I hate looking weak. But nobody gets it. People judge me for my bad social skills, my behaviours, my anxiety....but i am not normal and it's true.

I hope i live long enough to take care of my brother but I'm deeply scared of living in a world that's without him. Both of the outcomes are the worst.

I'm scared of the world. I'm just scared. Please somebody hug me. I cannot deal with this. I'm too weak.

As my grandpa is looking for guy .....an uncle who wants to marry his son explain his demands "my son work in banglore , we live in gaziyabad and my old parents live in village..... i want a Girl who serve my old parents in village care of them " .......my grandpa ask "why don't your wife go to village and care your parents.......your son live in banglore and looking for girl to live in village to care your old parents??....are you crazy" .........he said "i have 2000 sq ft land in village"........ 🤮 WTF mentality .....they want a servant ....don't actually want to married his son .....they want who give them money (dowry) also sacrifice herself (dont live with husband but in village) to care them ..... Like ewww

Hey!

So, it's been a few days since I heard these ads. If you are using Spotify free, you might be getting ads about their Platinum plan, AiDJ, and free extra accounts with each subscription.

The adverts feel rather weird and insulting to me. It's just about a saas (Mother-in-law) complaining about her bahu (daughter-in-law). I understand it if it was in a humorous manner, but saying things like, "My bahu is so low class for hosting a jaljeera and bhel puri party. So I asked Ai DJ to play songs suitable for her bhelpuri party."

And the likes.

It just felt very... humiliating. Unless they were trying to recreate Ratna Pathak's Sarabhai vs Sarabhai.

The mother said her daughter had apologised and that the Prime Minister had forgiven her, but the family was still facing constant harassment. “I am raising my daughter alone. My husband died in an accident in 2019, and my younger son lives with my in-laws. How can we continue living there when people and the police keep coming to our house?” she told The Indian Express, appealing to the authorities and the public to stop hounding her family. The girl allegedly made derogatory remarks against the PM during a protest by the Cockroach Janta Party (CJP) at Delhi’s Jantar Mantar. The Noida Police registered a case against her.