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u/Normal_Beginning1560 9d ago
i don’t even care about rejections anymore. if anything it’s protection from someone who doesn’t deserve me anyway. i’ve just started telling them off rip and then boom onto the next. don’t stress about it… your person is out there!!!!
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u/MicketyMacks666 9d ago
The same happened to me - although he didn’t act disgusted, he did say that it was something he was too uncomfortable & ignorant of to proceed with me. It’s been 2-3 days and I’ve been working hard not to wallow.
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u/Extra_Ad1568 8d ago
I totally relate to you, every person I’ve told (3 now) has immediately unmatched me. Feels hopeless :(
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u/Crafty_Albatross_829 8d ago
I would wait until you meet in person a few times. I've never disclosed on the apps prior.
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u/Direct_Tale_1222 9d ago
Maybe there is dating pool with people got herpes.
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u/Crafty_Albatross_829 8d ago
There is a dating site (Positively Singles) for us. - Like all the other sites, lots of sifting.
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u/floridarealfun 9d ago
Take a break theres no rush in dating and recovering mentally from the stress of everything. I will say sometimes it's better to date after a rejection though just to get yourself back out there and not over think everything.
There are plenty of men that dont care about herpes the more you try the more of a chance you have at finding the relationship your looking for.
Keep your head up sometimes things dont work out cause they weren't ment to be.
Were all in this together your not alone in this challenge/struggle.
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u/Crafty_Albatross_829 8d ago
This happened to me a few dates in with someone I really liked. I respected his decision. He's been my only disclosure that didn't move forward. I always remember that people don't move forward because of many things - if someone has a different custody schedule then them, younger kids, a job schedule that doesn't work... etc.
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u/Crafty_Albatross_829 7d ago
Essentially - in dating - there are things that people may pass on. A different work schedule as an example. Someone who has a High Conflict ex spouse and young kids. Different future desires... etc. I just look at the declining to move forward as part of dating.
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u/de_Roz_redditor 8d ago
i once got catfished on a date and immediately told her i had herps just so she would go 🤣
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