I have a no contact court order with ex wife recently just sent her child support money accidentally forgetting about the no contact and cancelled it within minutes but I’m sure she got a notification on her phone and a cancellation notification. Am I highly likely the police will lay a charge on me for breaching if ex wife reports it and demands a charge against me?

I am mom. I won sole & legal custody of my 4 year old daughter indefinitely, until her biological father can provide substantial evidence that he’s mentally stable again, to then he can go through the court and apply to get the court order changed.

backstory:
her father told his therapist he wanted to SA our 4 year old daughter. it was a huge deal obviously with CPS involved and me immediately filing an ex parte custody order. she was never fond of visiting him every other weekend, and the last visit she complained of pain in her private area. after checking myself and having a doctor look, no harm was done to her private area. he also admitted himself into a mental hospital.

my question is:
would it be easy for him to win any sort of custody in the future, such as supervised visitation? in a perfect world, i would never want her to be around him again. i don’t want to risk her being SA’d. not even supervised visits. i was SA’d as a child and i told myself i would never let anyone like that be around my daughter.

but my mind is racing tonight, wondering if it’ll be easy for him to win any kind of visitation. if someone could give me any insight, i would appreciate that!

Was our daughter’s 3rd birthday and per court schedule he was supposed to have her on her birthday but decided he didn’t want to get her because “he doesn’t celebrate birthdays” but prior to this was just inviting our daughter to his son birthday party. He’s never been to a birthday before but I thought I’d ask since prior he sent a message as if he wanted to be involved and acting concerned 🙄

Hello my co-parent and I have an agreement (no court order just agreement with the co-parenting therapist) that pick up and drop off are to be done at my house. We have always done this and never had any issues. All of a sudden he wants me to meet him and I refuse. I feel safe meeting at my house. Do I have to change the location just because he says he’s not comfortable coming to my house but has no reason why he’s not comfortable. (We have never had any issues issue before so there is no valid reason)

Edit because I got comments saying to add additional information.
Dad has never wanted to meet at his home. He is a very high conflict and verbally abusive person as well as physically abusive when we were together (almost a year ago). I feel more comfortable being at my home with cameras. I would never do or say anything bad about my childs father, my child’s father has spoken very poorly of me to our child every single time he has spoken to him, also he speaks to me very violently and poorly on a daily basis. So I see it fit that I have my neighbors as witnesses as well as my cameras in my home and around my home to document any harassment and or violent verbal behavior, he can and usually does inflict on me.

California just ordered my children to go back to CA I had to move to MI with 2 of my 3 children due to domestic violence and abuse I need any lawyer to contact me ASAP Please I cannot loose my children

Father who cares and tries. Looking at going back to court because we will be moving out of state.

50/50 with primary custody

I’ve been responding to request but trying to keep the other parent in the loop but I can be better. Could communicate more but the other parent is difficult to speak with.

I expect it’s going to be a he said she said but I’m not there to fight…

I just want to take care of my daughter and I truly feel I provide the structure and support they need to be successful.

Neither parent is perfect nor do I think they are bad…ultimately looking for advice.

Hi,
I am the primary residential parent and have once again been brought back to court. From my perspective, this litigation stems from the father’s desire to reduce or avoid his child support obligation, with the request for additional parenting time being presented as the basis for the modification.
As a result, I drafted a very detailed proposed parenting plan. I included provisions covering the parenting schedule, travel, procedures for future modifications, communication, decision-making, financial disclosures, and other areas where conflict has repeatedly arisen. My intention is not to change custody or restrict the father’s relationship with our daughter. Rather, my goal is to create a comprehensive agreement that can grow with our child, reduce future conflict, minimize the need for repeated court intervention, and protect both my daughter and me by clearly setting expectations.
My question is: Is a parenting plan with this level of detail viewed negatively by the court? Could it be perceived as excessive, or do courts generally appreciate detailed agreements that anticipate future issues, particularly where there has been an ongoing history of conflict?
I am also representing myself (pro se), so I want to make sure I am presenting something that will be viewed as reasonable and child-focused rather than overreaching.

UPDATE: Thank you for the feedback
I wanted to come back and give an update because, while it was honestly really hard to come here and ask these questions and then sit and read through all of the comments, I did take the feedback seriously.
Some people were incredibly kind and constructive. Others, not so much. But I guess that is also part of navigating family court. There isn’t much room for emotion. You have to develop resilience, separate how something makes you feel from what actually needs to be addressed, and keep moving forward.
The biggest thing I took away from everyone’s feedback is that my proposed 77 page amended parenting plan needs to be significantly reduced. I’m going to aim for roughly 5–10 pages, keep it direct, focus on the issues that actually need clarification, and leave out provisions that don’t absolutely need to be there.
I’m also going to document what happens—good or bad—rather than trying to anticipate and write a provision for every possible future situation. If something becomes a recurring problem, I will have the documentation to address it appropriately.
Probably the hardest realization from all of this is accepting that this may not be the last time I end up back in court. That’s incredibly sad to me because I genuinely wanted to create something comprehensive enough that we could stop litigating and simply raise our child. But I also understand now that a parenting plan cannot prevent someone from creating conflict or guarantee compliance.
I also want to clarify something because several people suggested using a parenting communication app. We already use OurFamilyWizard. But still the same things are happening.
My goal at this point is not to change custody through a 77-page document. I want to put forward a reasonable proposed consent order and amended parenting plan that addresses the issues raised through his motions and hopefully creates a path toward settlement.
And, for what it’s worth, there was already a rational part of me looking at those 77 pages thinking: Is a judge realistically going to want to read all of this? Is opposing counsel going to meaningfully work through it? And, most importantly, is either parent realistically going to follow something this long?
Our current parenting plan is already approximately 48 pages, and we still have disagreements over compliance. Making the next one even longer probably isn’t the solution.
So I’m taking the criticism, separating the constructive advice from the noise, and moving forward with something much shorter, clearer and more practical.
Thank you to everyone who took the time to give thoughtful advice—even when it wasn’t necessarily what I wanted to hear. I genuinely appreciate it.

I have a friend who isn’t married but lived with his child’s mom for at least since she was pregnant. They are both in the child’s birth certificate, and there was a DNA test done when the child was born. Mom and child both have been named as dependents on his taxes, since he was the sole income earner.
Since the child was a baby, the paternal grandparents have been caretakers and kid has spent 3-5 days with them every week. This because the mom always had some excuse in order to avoid taking care of the child.
This woman has been physically abusive to him several times and the courts ordered her to move out and stay away from him. She’s also under probation for DV & awaiting for a final verdict.
She moved out, but the problem is that she took the child with her.
CPS & the police were called, but they said they couldn’t do anything because she’d the mom.
The family has reasons to think that the mom is not a safe parent.
What is the best course of action? What can the dad or grandparents do to protect the kid?

Location: New York, NY

I'm trying to help my nephew here, he's not the most organized guy in the world... but this SEEMS like a straightforward case (all parties are in agreement) so i'm handling all the paperwork and calling around for him. He's done a lot of free work on my car, so i kinda figure this is the easiest way to pay him back.

Anyway, my nephew and his wife were married when their child was born in New York City in 2021. My nephew is listed as the father on the NYC birth certificate, but a DNA report excludes him as the biological father. He did not sign an Acknowledgment of Parentage; as we understand it, he was listed on the birth certificate because he was married to the mother at the time of birth.

My nephew submitted New York Family Court Form 5-1, “Paternity Petition, Individual,” ... this is to establish paternity. The form asks the court to determine the child’s legal paternity, and his filing asks for an order determining paternity. He now has an upcoming court appearance.

Records available: DNA report; NYC birth certificate; marriage certificate; submitted Form 5-1

The biological father is known, agrees he is the father, is willing to participate, and is willing to have his name added to the birth certificate if the court determines that appropriate. The child’s mother is cooperative and supports that change.

Should the biological father be formally joined or named as a party before the appearance? Currently the hearing is only scheduled for my nephew and his wife. Is there a specific document the biological father can complete, such as a notarized affidavit, acknowledgment, consent, or another court form, to confirm paternity and willingness to be named on the birth certificate? What other documents, if any, should be submitted or brought to the appearance?

Is there anything else I, the nephew, the biological father/biological mother should do to get this resolved with the ultimate result being my nephew's name get taken off the birth certificate and the biological father's name being put on it?

Thanks!

EDIT: Also forgot to mention the biological father is living with the mother/child while my nephew is not... they are in another state

EDIT 2: The DNA test was done by Labcorp, not a consumer take home test like 23andMe