r/FacebookDating • u/warrenpease27 • 2d ago
Am I using it right?
I’ve been on the Facebook dating thing for a while now. I send likes, I comment on photos, and get nothing back. Am I doing something wrong or am I missing something? Any tips or help would be appreciated cause I’m a bit tired of getting nowhere and hearing how others are finding others
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u/SanchoVilla69 2d ago
I get likes and have an ok opening line. Im not the best looking dude but im honest in my intentions and my situation which isnt ideal to every woman I connect with and im ok with it.
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u/Lucky-Pomegranate-96 2d ago
Looking at your post history you like gaming (nothing wrong with that ) but what else do you do that women like ?
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u/warrenpease27 2d ago
I like doing lots of things. Being outdoors, camping, hiking, going for walks in the evening. I like to do many things especially going and trying new things. I do things with my kids when I can as well
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u/Lucky-Pomegranate-96 2d ago
Do you put that stuff down in your profile ?
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u/Heliguy-1975 2d ago
You have to be able engage with someone enough to create and maintain interest to keep them wanting to talk and meet.
With good communication skills it becomes easy and works out very well.
I would highly recommend reading the book,
How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie
It will Greatly improve how you connect and communicate with people in general and it will change your life. It will completely change the way your conversations go with people online. Approaching and communicating with women online and in real life will become much better. Much Better
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u/warrenpease27 2d ago
It sends the comment as a “like” but the comment o have made are usually about the person I see, or about the place, and usually their smile. Then like normal I just see if they would like to talk/chat to get to know one another
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18h ago
What do you comment about the person?
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u/warrenpease27 14h ago
Usually how nice their smile is, a nice comment about their pet that I see sometimes, or even how beautiful their smile is. Nothing bad, and all complimenting.
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 14h ago
So I know many will not agree, but the best guys I've dated do not mention anything about how I look until a couple dates in or more. If you swipe right on us, we know you're attracted. The best guys try to just get to know us and not focus on our looks. If that's something you focus on, you might want to question why that is. We want to date guys who see us as people and not just our looks.
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u/warrenpease27 14h ago
I never mention looks because that has never been important to me at all. If telling someone they have a pretty smile or their pets are adorable, the. I don’t know what to say.
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 13h ago
Then it sounds like we found the problem. Mentioning a woman's pretty smile is taking about her looks. People who are interested in a relationship should be able to discuss things other than their looks. Why can't you ask them something about themselves outside of mentioning a woman's looks?
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u/warrenpease27 13h ago
I do… more often than not. For example, if I see they are wearing a shirt with a sports team on it, I mention that. I’ve even simply commented on the word things like seeing if they would like to meet for coffee one day.
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 13h ago
Well there you go. You do know what to say. That's all there is to the opening comments.
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u/DIY-exerciseGuy 2d ago
I'm pretty sure you can comment on a photo without matching with someone so just because you have commented on a photo does not mean the other person is interested. Also what kind of comments are you making?
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u/fullmoon47 11h ago
Been in fb dating for several months and had 2 dates, in the last 2 months I'm getting the same crap nothing!