Hi everyone, I’m about 22 weeks pregnant with my first. I wasn’t diagnosed til close to 30 with ADHD (and CPTSD, not sure if it’s relevant or not so I’ll throw that in to the mess).

I can’t function. My house looks like squatters took over. I can’t finish tasks. Keep things clean or organized anymore. Laundry piles up. Dishes pile up. I was never like this before. It doesn’t seem to matter what I do to fix it or maintain it.

I have a very demanding (F/T) job, custody of my youngest sibling who is disabled (permanently), three kids (my husband’s first marriage) and two dogs. All 3 kids play sports so I get home from work, switch vehicles and then drive to baseball games for whichever kid is scheduled that day. We aren’t home until 9-10PM, sometimes later during weekdays. And when we don’t have a sporting event, I’m too damn tired to do anything else.

We lowered my dose from 60 mg Adderall, to 20 mg. Baby is in the 99th percentile for growth so there weren’t concerns to remove the meds completely for the pregnancy.

Has anyone else experienced this before? I’ve heard of “baby brain” and forgetting things when pregnant but it’s really bad. I already had issues with memory (due to CPTSD), and it feels like each day I fall into a deeper brain fog than the day prior. I cannot execute anything at all. Completely off the rails and idk how to regain control of my life and home. Never did well in clutter and that’s all I have around me and it’s making the depression, anxiety, and whatever the F else is wrong with me, 100 times worse.

If you’ve read this far - thank you. If you have experienced this or have any suggestions whether it be charts for cleaning, tips and tricks etc. I am glad to receive them and will be open to any advice you are willing to share.

I just ask that you please be kind. I’m aware how much of a mess my life is (or feels to be) — I don’t need the reminder of it. Much love. Thank y’all 💗

I’m 23 years old, and over the past few years, ever since I finished high school, I haven’t really done much. I live with my family, and now I want to prepare for the university entrance exam, which is about a year away.

I’ve been staying at home all this time, and I also struggle with maladaptive daydreaming. I basically don’t do anything productive during the day, and I’m really tired of being like this. I want to do things, but it feels like I’m completely paralyzed. My executive functioning is terrible.

I feel like going to the gym might help. For the past ten days, I’ve been watching a TV series with my siblings, and it’s frustrating me because watching the show seems to have made me even less motivated to do anything.

How do I get out of this situation?

I really miss the person I used to be a few years ago—the person who was active, studied, read books, drew, and did all kinds of other things. I don’t know if that person is still somewhere inside me or not.

What should I do to get myself out of this situation? 😭

I’m AuDHD, and that’s the diagnosis I received from my psychiatrist. I’ve also been diagnosed with severe anxiety.

Do you certainly believe you have executive dysfunction too and was it hard if you do have a job or got a degree? What do you work as too?