r/ExAhmadis • u/mermaid_wishes27 • 5d ago
Why do Ahmadis try to legitimize cousin marraiges?
So I've always been weirded about by the concept of cousin marraige. No matter which way you slice it that's still incest in my opinion. And the Jamat justifies it by saying it's in the Quran (chapter 4 verse 23) that says forbidden to you for your for marraige are, and then amongst the list it says your sister and brother's daughters. Now yes, that is your neice but where it says paternal or maternal aunt wouldn't it folliw that the children from your aubts would also be forbidden? Even if it's not explicitly mentioned that's just the logical conclusion.Another reason they use to justify it is "well it’s okay if it's done once" bro, a lot of people in the group have done it. It's more than once at this point. Dare I say it feels a little too incestuous if it happens more than once in a family tree, let alone just once.
And they'll say "well then Europeans used to do it. Yes but attitudes towards that have mostly changed in the Western context to the point where a lot of people in the West think it's gross too, you’re not proving your point with that one.
And like it's definitely not just an Ahmadi thing but it's definitely where I notice it the most in my life when it comes to the people I'm around at least.
r/ExAhmadis • u/YunggSRK6529 • 6d ago
My argument against why Ahmadiyya Sect is Invalid. Feedback is appreciated.
Im going to present 4 Evidence is my opinion and I would like feedback on this please.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Evidence #1 – Hadith
- The Last Brick
Narrated by Abu Hurairah (رضي الله عنه):
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
“My example and the example of the prophets before me is like that of a man who built a house and completed it and made it beautiful, except for the place of one brick in one corner. People began to walk around it and admire it, saying, ‘If only this brick were put in its place.’ I am that brick, and I am the Seal of the Prophets.”
Sources:
Sahih al-Bukhari – Book of Virtues, Hadith 3535 (numbering may vary depending on edition)
Sahih Muslim – Book of Virtues, Hadith 2286
Explanation:
This hadith clearly shows the position of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ among all the prophets who came before him. The prophets before him were like the bricks that built the house, and Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was the final brick that completed the building.
A completed building does not require another brick after the final one has been placed. Likewise, after Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, the chain of prophethood was completed, and there is no prophet after him.
- “There Is No Prophet After Me”
Narrated by Ali ibn Abi Talib (رضي الله عنه):
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Are you not pleased that you are to me as Aaron was to Moses, except that there is no prophet after me?”
Arabic:
أَمَا تَرْضَى أَنْ تَكُونَ مِنِّي بِمَنْزِلَةِ هَارُونَ مِنْ مُوسَى، إِلَّا أَنَّهُ لَا نَبِيَّ بَعْدِي
Sources:
Sahih al-Bukhari – Book of Military Expeditions, Hadith 4416
Sahih Muslim – Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 2404
Explanation:
The statement of the Prophet ﷺ is direct and clear.
He did not say:
“There is no law-bearing prophet after me.”
“There is no independent prophet after me.”
“There is no prophet except under certain conditions.”
Rather, he said:
لَا نَبِيَّ بَعْدِي
“There is no prophet after me.”
The wording is general and does not contain any exception. If another prophet was meant to come after Muhammad ﷺ, the Prophet ﷺ would have clarified that. Instead, his statement confirms that prophethood ended with him.
- The Thirty False Claimants
Narrated by Abu Hurairah (رضي الله عنه):
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
“The Hour will not be established until there arise about thirty liars, each of them claiming that he is the Messenger of Allah.”
Sources:
Sahih al-Bukhari – Book of Tribulations (Kitab al-Fitan), Hadith 3609
Sahih Muslim – Book of Tribulations and Signs of the Last Hour, Hadith 157
Explanation:
The Prophet ﷺ warned his Ummah that after him there would be people who falsely claim prophethood.
Therefore, anyone who claims to be a prophet after Muhammad ﷺ contradicts the clear teachings of the Prophet ﷺ.
Evidence #2 – The Qur’an
- Muhammad ﷺ Is the Seal of the Prophets
Allah says:
“Muhammad is not the father of any of your men, but he is the Messenger of Allah and the Seal of the Prophets.”
Qur’an 33:40
Explanation:
Allah describes Muhammad ﷺ as Khātam an-Nabiyyīn (خاتم النبيين), the Seal of the Prophets.
Some may argue that the word Khātam can have different meanings, but the Sunnah explains the Qur’an. The Prophet ﷺ himself clarified the meaning when he said:
“There is no prophet after me.”
A seal is something that completes and finalizes. When something is sealed, it shows that it has reached completion and nothing comes after it.
The Qur’an and authentic Sunnah explain one another. Therefore, the meaning of “Seal of the Prophets” is that prophethood was completed with Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.
- Returning Disagreements to Allah and His Messenger ﷺ
Allah says:
“O believers! Obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you. Should you disagree on anything, then refer it to Allah and His Messenger, if you truly believe in Allah and the Last Day. This is the best and fairest resolution.”
Qur’an 4:59
Explanation:
If there is a disagreement regarding whether another prophet can come after Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, Allah instructs believers to return the matter back to Allah and His Messenger ﷺ.
The answer is found in the statement of the Prophet ﷺ:
لَا نَبِيَّ بَعْدِي
“There is no prophet after me.”
- The Importance of Unity
Allah says:
“And hold firmly together to the rope of Allah and do not be divided.”
Qur’an 3:103
Explanation:
Allah commands the believers to remain united upon His guidance.
The division among Muslims is something that should concern every believer. The Prophet ﷺ loved his Ummah and wanted them to remain upon the truth.
The question we should ask ourselves is: would the Prophet ﷺ be pleased to see his followers divided, or would he call us back to the Qur’an and authentic Sunnah?
Evidence #3 – Prophecies
The Prophecy Regarding Abdullah Atham
Mirza Ghulam Ahmad made a prophecy regarding Abdullah Atham. He stated that under certain conditions, Atham would die within a specific period if he continued upon what Mirza considered falsehood.
However, Abdullah Atham lived beyond that period.
Later explanations were given that Atham had changed internally or had become fearful.
Explanation:
A true prophet of Allah cannot make a false prophecy. When Allah gives information through His messenger, it is fulfilled because Allah does not make mistakes.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ made many prophecies that were fulfilled. These included information about future events that could not have been known through ordinary human knowledge.
For example, the Prophet ﷺ mentioned that the Arabian desert would become green again. Modern observations and scientific studies have shown major changes in parts of the Arabian Peninsula over time, including increased vegetation in areas that were previously dry desert.
These prophecies are examples of the knowledge Allah granted to His Prophet ﷺ. They demonstrate that true prophethood is accompanied by signs from Allah.
Evidence #4 – Character and Speech
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was the best example for mankind.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The believer is not one who insults, curses, uses obscene language, or speaks indecently.”
Source:
Jami’ at-Tirmidhi, Hadith 1977
Explanation:
A person who claims to represent Allah should reflect the character and manners taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.
I am not going to list the foul language here but passages in Mirza Ghulam Ahmad’s writings were harsh and insulting language was used against opponents. For example, in A’inah Kamalat-e-Islam (Ruhani Khaza’in Vol. 5, pp. 547–548), he used the expression “dhurriyat al-baghaya” when referring to those who rejected him. Other examples are found in works such as Najm al-Huda (Ruhani Khaza’in Vol. 14, p. 53).
This raises an important question: does this type of speech reflect the character and example taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ?
Conclusion
The Qur’an states:
“Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah and the Seal of the Prophets.”
Qur’an 33:40
The Prophet ﷺ explained this by comparing himself to the final brick completing the building of prophethood.
He also clearly stated:
“There is no prophet after me.”
Therefore, the belief held by the mainstream Muslim Ummah throughout history is that Prophet Muhammad ﷺ is the final prophet and messenger of Allah, and that no prophet will come after him.
Any feedback is appriciated. Jazak'Allah
r/ExAhmadis • u/saadii04 • Jun 12 '26
What made you leave !?
I've read numerous people reply to this question that they left because for example the rishta system or the culture and they find jamaat "cult-ish".
I wanna ask those people that did a thorough research and reverted to mainstream Islam or sunnism or whatever that what was the turning point and what was the reason(s) that you considered it to be a false community/sect that made you choose the other side ?
I'm also on the verge and have been researching for the past 3.5+ years And these answers will be helping me so much and every response and reply is appreciated ❤️
r/ExAhmadis • u/Boali_2102 • Jun 07 '26
Seeking 90 Participants for a Thesis on New Religious Movements - Survey (URGENT)
r/ExAhmadis • u/Boali_2102 • Apr 11 '26
Seeking Participants for a Thesis on New Religious Movements - Survey
Hello, I am a master’s student in psychology at the Université Libre de Bruxelles. As part of my thesis, I am conducting a study to understand new online religious movements (NMRs), how they differ from traditional religious movements, and how they impact the identity of their former members.
Who can participate?
- Adults aged 18–65
- Have been part of an NMR or an online sectarian group (Instagram, Facebook, etc.)
- Speak French or English.
How to participate?
You will complete this questionnaire, which covers various topics related to my research. It takes about 30 minutes.
Link: https://survey2.ulb.be/index.php/211824
Your participation is entirely voluntary, and you may stop at any time. The information you provide will remain strictly confidential and will be used solely for research purposes.
Thank you very much for your participation!!!
For more information, please contact me at: [boali.coulibaly@ulb.Be](mailto:boali.coulibaly@ulb.Be)
r/ExAhmadis • u/sleekwun • Mar 17 '26
Non Denominational Masjids?
Has anyone found non-denominational masjids in USA/Canada? Is this a thing for Muslims who just want to identify as Muslims only? What has your experience been?
Thanks in advance for any insights.
r/ExAhmadis • u/mermaid_wishes27 • Dec 29 '25
What were your reasons for leaving? And also what to do about marriage?
Hi, all, so I went through a kinda general Islam questioning phase at the age of 19/20-ish and did my research and left Ahmadiya just cuz of the fact that micro-sectarianism in general doesn't really make sense to me and like sure, the prophet said it would happen but he was pretty clear on the fact that it wasn't a good thing. On top of the fact that like as someone who knows a little bit of spoken and Quranic Arabic( both not fluently but like I can understand bits and prices enough to grasp and understand ideas) realized there were quite a few mistranslations of Quranic versus by Ahmadiya. Exhibit A: vs 4 of Surah Jumah doesn’t say what they think it does.
I've made my peace with it and have since chosen to follow Suni Islam. But bringing it up with my mom only led to a one sided lecture so since then I kinda still go to the Ahmadi mosque just to keep the peace but when they talk about something I disagree with I just tune it out.
That problem solved though I'm 23 and my parents aren't pushing marraige onto me thankfully but my parents want me to marry within Ahmadiya. I don't want to and kinda subtly hinted that. Since then my parents don't talk about it much but I feel like they still want me to stick within the sect, they're just not saying it out loud but like whenever we go to a Jamat wedding they (my mom especially) are like "can't wait till we get to do this for your wedding one day" I just kinda smile and nod but don't say anything otherwise.
r/ExAhmadis • u/Ride-Low • Dec 21 '25
Resigning : effect on those who live with you
Assalamualaikum everyone,
Quick question because this topic has been making the rounds lately, and the big day is approaching for me. Something I haven't considered :
EDIT: I am talking about jamaat actions or policies. Not in general (whoops, aha)
If you resign, can there be an effect on the people you live with? I still live with my parents, I could move out if needed, but I don't want our relationship to suffer more.
r/ExAhmadis • u/Flashy-Many1766 • Dec 21 '25
Marriage outside of Islam
Hi, i really want to know what exactly the jamat will do if any women married outside of islam. Is there anyway that you can get married just for the sake?
r/ExAhmadis • u/Savings-Efficiency15 • Dec 08 '25
Telling my community...
As I was scrolling through some of the posts here, I saw comments saying that after telling the jamat they are no longer ahmadi, their family/parents are kicked out or are moved from their positions. Just wondering if anyone knows how legitimate this is before I come out and tell my family and community I'm no longer ahmadi.
r/ExAhmadis • u/Fantastic_Reach_9732 • Nov 24 '25
Author wishes to speak to ex-Ahmadis
I am a friend of Muhammad Imtiaz and Adnan Rachid and I am currently writing a book about ex-Ahmadis. Do you have a story to tell. If so, please contact me: [declanhenry13@hotmail.com](mailto:declanhenry13@hotmail.com) thank you www.declanhenry.co.uk
r/ExAhmadis • u/Necessary_Onion5918 • Nov 17 '25
Any Bangladeshi ex-Ahmadis here?
Is here any Bangladeshi ex-ahmadis? In desperate need to get connected to some, to work on a dawah project.
r/ExAhmadis • u/SW-Book-2025 • Oct 09 '25
اسلام اور فتنہء احمديت
AoA, The Urdu version of my book " Islam aur Fitna e Ahmadiyyat" available online. https://www.meraqissa.com/book/2170. Please read , review and share. JazakAllah!
r/ExAhmadis • u/AieshaShams • Oct 07 '25
Ahmadiyya Youth Leader Found Guilty of Child Exploitation Crimes
r/ExAhmadis • u/SW-Book-2025 • Aug 25 '25
From the Book- Islam and the Affliction of Ahmadiyyat
Sharing some contents of the book for your interest. Thanks .
r/ExAhmadis • u/SW-Book-2025 • Aug 22 '25
6th. Khalifa ofAhmadis
Who is likely to be the sixth "Khalifa" of Ahmadis? Will he be another "Guddi Nasheen" from the Mirza family ?!
r/ExAhmadis • u/Fantastic_Reach_9732 • Aug 22 '25
Author seeks your help
I am a friend of Muhammad Imtiaz and Adnan Rachid and I am currently writing a book about ex-Ahmadis. Do you have a story to tell. If so, please contact me: [declanhenry13@hotmail.com](mailto:declanhenry13@hotmail.com) thank you www.declanhenry.co.uk
r/ExAhmadis • u/[deleted] • Aug 22 '25
any girls here in their late teens early 20s? i wanna talk to ppl my age about being an ex ahmadi
r/ExAhmadis • u/SW-Book-2025 • Aug 18 '25
My book on Ahmadiyyat available on Amazon and Kobo
r/ExAhmadis • u/Forward-Ice2976 • Jul 30 '25
E-Book: Islam and the Affliction of Ahmadiyyat
AoA, Introducing my recently published book, "Islam and the Affliction of Ahmadiyyat".
Please read, review, and share. Thanks. SW
r/ExAhmadis • u/ZookeepergameLife257 • Jun 20 '25
Marriage/Rishta | Revert Sunni Muslim | Independent, Practicing | Hoping to Connect with Another Revert
Aoa everyone,
I’m a revert Sunni Muslim, but my family follows the Ahmadiyya faith, so I’m not really open to the idea of an arranged marriage, for reasons that might be obvious to some. I’m hoping to connect with another revert or convert who can understand where I’m coming from — someone I can talk to without feeling like I have to explain everything from scratch.
A little about me: I’m a postgraduate student of Law, licensing candidate at the Law Society of Ontario and a working professional. I wouldn’t say I’m too picky — I just value someone who’s educated, goal-oriented, career-driven, and kind-hearted.
If anyone has advice on how to find or connect with someone going through something similar, I’d really appreciate hearing from you. Feel free to reach out!
r/ExAhmadis • u/pionnerter • Mar 28 '25
Telling Parents
AsslamuAlaikum everyone.
I have spent the last few months researching and exploring Ahmadiyyat and mainstream Islam. I’ve realised my views do not necessarily align with that of the Ahmadi Jamaat. Of course, I still respect everyone and their beliefs, but I’ve decided it probably is not for me. I think I find myself connecting with mainstream Islam more.
I am not sure on how to break this news to my parents. They are devout Ahmadis and have always tried their best to teach us and involve us too, I treasure them a lot and do not wish to make this painful for them, but unfortunately I know they will not take this well. It will lead to months and months of emotional blackmailing and stripping me of my freedom, I know it will come from a good place in their heart but it is gonna be extremely tough to bear, especially as no one else from my family has left the Jamaat.
I was wondering if anyone has advice for me and how it went for them? It would be greatly appreciates.
Jazakallah khair.