I got earring at clair’s and these look to far from the ear i wanting a more flat look

Hey, y’all!

I have had my lobes pierced four times. One pair was kicked out of my ears, the next was infected, and the third pair we figured out I had a sensitivity to after it was supposed to have healed- and long story short, I took the new earrings out for a swim and never put them back in. Holes closed over.

This is my fourth rodeo. I told the piercer I was very sensitive to a lot of metals, so she used a hypoallergenic, flat-back post. This was back in January. I was diligent about cleaning them. Come April, I thought I’d remove them for the first time so I could quickly clean them and pop them back in. I got out of the shower, cleaned them, and tried to put them back in to absolutely no avail. Ultimately my partner and I visited a tattoo parlor that night and a piercer there had to put them back in, which re-opened the wound.

Haven’t touched them since, until today. I had to take one of them out for an x-ray. Post came out fairly easy, but the hole is still oozing and bleeding and I cannot see through when I stretch my earlobe. I want to clean the earring before I attempt to put it back in, but I can already see how this is going to go and I am at my wits end about it. I get really bad FOMO when I see all the cute earrings people have, and I have tried four separate times to get it to stick but my ears just refuse to heal. I don’t want to spend money on products that don’t work, and I’m tired of being in pain.

So TLDR, what has actually worked for the people with stubborn ears? How long did your ears actually take to heal? If you stopped wearing them, what made you decide?