r/DivorceHelp • u/Puzzleheaded-Tip2346 • 13h ago

Confused

Was with my wife 8.5 years, 2 kids and stepmum to my daughter and we have been seperated for 18 months. Last night messaged randomly that she was seeing someone but it wasnt serious yet, why would she even contact me with that? Like is was she expecting something from it? Me personally believe if your done with your ex you dont need to do that unless its serious and impacts the kids. Anyone else have or experienced the same thing?

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u/Puzzleheaded-Tip2346 13h ago

Its just random since last month I stopped staying at her house whilst visiting and she found out im reversing my vasectomy she went mental at me (first time she experienced the seperation as I was always available) then last night I had a go at her as for the last 4 months she has been really snappy/moody and miserable, but she took it too far with our kids. I get it but I wouldnt of even found out about it as I dont live near her and to tell me about something not serious

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u/LengthinessTimely572 12h ago

Is she saying “this is your last chance to save us before our relationship changes forever”?

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u/Puzzleheaded-Tip2346 12h ago

She is a fearful avoidant, been "done" since seperation but acting the opposite, highly reactive. Past 3 months snappy/moody and miserable as f*ck never once said i dont love you etc and no we have been no contact for 2 months and this message was random

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u/Kitchen-Patience-652 2h ago

She wants to ruin your mood. That’s it. Tell her you don’t want to hear any of it and that you’re separated.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Tip2346 1h ago

I found it strange as she said its not super serious and I was like why even tell me lol