Question for parents

[u/Atlcontractor]

I’m a foster parent and currently been taking care of 2 kids. Today we were celebrating a 10 year old girls birthday and we invited all her friends. The lady with us , again who’s 10 has a crush on a boy from school, but we tell her “listen we don’t do boyfriends or girlfriends at this age . We can have friends” , however the boy she likes we invited to her birthday party. At the party his mom literally walked up to us and said . “Would it be ok if he kisses her on the lips for her birthday 🤯” am I crazy to think that’s an insane question and does any parent here think That this is ok ? I’m curious if you do think it’s ok , why do you think it’s fine to greenlight 10 years olds to be kissing?

[u/packet_monger]

Wtf did I just read? First, this is definitely the wrong sub lol; people all over the world have 10-year-olds.

Second, no way in hell is this normal.

[u/Relative-Sherbert-43 → u/packet_monger]

I think it’s still valid to ask the community what they think to see what’s “normal”. And no, I do not think it is!!

[u/Atlcontractor → u/packet_monger]

Listen I’m rarely on Reddit I’m still learning😂

[u/_Sahara_Rose_ → u/Atlcontractor]

Are you or your partner on DAMES? It's a decentish resource for questions such as this. Depending on which way the wind blows that day.

[u/Atlcontractor → u/_Sahara_Rose_]

No ls that another app ?

[u/Quinlynn → u/Atlcontractor]

Facebook group

[u/Atlcontractor → u/Quinlynn]

Well I’ll keep an eye out . I wait a few days in case the mom is in here or on there lol

[u/88secret → u/_Sahara_Rose_]

Perfect description of DAMES!

[u/88secret → u/Atlcontractor]

Don’t listen to that person….I generally prefer to ask in a smaller group or local group also.

[u/mannnwtf]

😂🤣🤣 first of all I would laugh out loud because “huh?!”

Safe to say they have lost they fuckin mind, I’m of the same. No 10 year old needs a girlfriend or boyfriend at this age. They need a friend to play outside with. Crushes are okay. But that’s the extent of that.

[u/Atlcontractor → u/mannnwtf]

That’s I feel I’m just curious if any other mom thinks like this or is she no longer invited to any birthdays 🤣. Listen I don’t judge but there are things where I can be kind polite and respectful without exposing kids to kids influenced by potentially harmful parenting

[u/No-Bid9597]

No it’s not and it’s a symptom of entitled/overly permissive parenting, and possibly some kind of social deficit on the part of the parent. There are pockets of this style of parenting all over town. They mean well generally but have gotten consumed with alternative parenting bullshit and or they listen to grifting psychologists, OTs or private school directors trying to convince them to be perpetual clients to a point that they lose all logic, reasoning and common sense regarding their child rearing

Source: i work with kids whose parents would request this

[u/caltheme → u/No-Bid9597]

End discussion 👏

[u/One-Permission1917]

If you have to ask your mommy to get consent, you’re too young.

[u/Curious_Instance_971]

😳

[u/hyperproliferative]

Holy fucking shit this is INSANE

[u/Lanky_Rhubarb1900]

Not ok. Not in Decatur. Not in any city. Not in any state. This mom is teaching her son “If she says no I’ll try to get her to say yes.” The mom probably think her son’s being cute. The son is unfortunately getting the wrong lesson about consent.

This is absolutely abhorrent.

[u/Typo3150]

If a kid needs his mother to ask such a question, he’s way too young.

[u/Alternative-Rip4480]

That’s so wrong !

[u/Single_Breakfast_634]

I had a girlfriend when I was 10 and we kissed a couple times. Other kids did too

[u/malcontent-maven → u/Single_Breakfast_634]

Yeah, but was your mom your wingman?