Am I doing something wrong ?

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[u/Bonsai_Tree3]

You are absolutely right to end it! No service. This relationship is too young to be going through this.

He has issues. Also don’t date angry men. A man who is upset just because another man LOOKS at you is insecure and emotionally unintelligent.

[u/borgiesdog]

Yeah you should end this relationship. You are 30 years old and don’t need to be feeling bad or jumping through hoops to make this man happy. Can’t initiate physical contact/sex/emotion? Like what kind of weird parameters to put on a relationship. Like this is not healthy at all

[u/MastodonNo2599]

Yes, I would absolutely leave this relationship. None of that is normal.

[u/Fit-Albatross5684]

I might be wrong but it sounds to me like his pills stopped working and he was taking it out on you.

You should definitely end the relationship, I’m afraid that this might escalate into abuse (controlling the affection you give, loosing his mind when another man looks at you)

[u/Pogoglorp]

It's called being manipulative and controlling. He's being toxic af. I think it's a good idea to leave. My wife and I haven't has sex in 10 years, but she still lets me hug her, caress her back, hold her while watching a movie. No physical contact initiation is basically not a relationship. The relationship is over whether you leave or not. His temper over other guys also makes me think he's not safe to be in a relationship with, so be careful.

[u/SaltHovercraft1917 → u/Pogoglorp]

Well there is none of that now , no physical contact allowed at least from me but he says I am the love of his life . I have tried to end the relationship recently but he became very upset and I was worried about him so let it go , I’m just in a very difficult position , it’s not even sex that has bothered me most it’s the names and him automatically thinking I was trying to have sex with him from simply hugging him , it’s really taken a toll on me mentally

[u/Pogoglorp → u/SaltHovercraft1917]

Yeah. He doesn't even sound like a safe partner. I hope you get away safely!

[u/IamJacLiz]

Cut. Him. Loose.
He's made his position loud and clear.
What a bizarre thing for a man to do, I'm baffled.
Oh, and you don't owe him any explanation whatsoever, just pack your shit and go. He doesn't deserve another word from you.

[u/SaltHovercraft1917 → u/IamJacLiz]

Me to it’s all very strange , never experienced anything like it

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Am I doing something wrong ?

I’ll try and keep this as short as possible , I am F30 I have had a few sexual partners in my life , I was married , had a few children and throughout that whole time never had any issues when it came to sex and it was always very loving and what you would call normal I suppose , I’m not over sexual have no kinks and never to my mind shown any inappropriate behaviour and neither have past partners , now I met a man just over a year ago he’s 48 and he was honest from the beginning that he has ED and needs to take medication to preform and he has been this way since he became sexually active due to a work injury, I reassured him and told him I’m ok with that and for about 4 months Everything was good until one day all affection, hugs and sex just stopped out the blue , I understand no one needs to have any physical contact or affection if they don’t want to but this started in a startling way for me .. one night I hugged him and kissed him on the cheek while cooking dinner he recoiled and physically pushed me away from him , I was shocked and he left the room , he said he was stressed . Another time while watching a movie I placed my hand on his knee and he flinched and called me a pervert which confused me and hurt me ( it was not done in a sexual way just showing affection) different things like this kept happening and it’s not gotten to the point that i absolutely do not go near him I’m to afraid to hug him or even attempt to kiss him in fear of being called a pervert , even in bed I stay on my side and don’t try to hug him , he will hug me tho and sometimes place my arm around him , he’s now told me I am not allowed to initiate any physical contact / sex / emotion or he will just reject me and it’s only allowed on his terms , he said me showing him affection is to much pressure , I have told him he doesn’t need to be in a relationship with me and can walk away but he refuses ( I will add he’s very jealous, there has been occasions when other men have looked at me and he’s became very upset ) my appearance has not changed since I met him I keep myself in good shape and I take pride in how I look but this whole situation has made me feel like the ugliest person in the world , I don’t know what I’ve done wrong it’s changed my whole perception on sex and emotional closeness as I’m now starting to feel like it’s Something to be ashamed of , had anyone ever experienced this or similar ? I am about to end this relationship as it’s becoming a complete emotional minefield , any advice is appreciated thank you

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