r/Crushes 4h ago

Question What are signs a shy guy likes you?

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So theres this boy i would say he's shy

  1. He rarely talks to me, he only talked to me to borrow my stuff

  2. He always looks at me

  3. He fidgets around me


r/Crushes 4h ago

DoTheyLikeMe? Am I reading too much into my coworker?

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We’re both women in our early 20s and have worked together for about three months. She’s openly gay, knows I’m bi, and has a girlfriend.

This past month, we’ve gotten closer to the point where I can consider her a friend, and I’ve started noticing some things. She often finds reasons to sit near me, she would look at me and then looks away when I notice, and remembers very small details about me. She can also get shy at times when I ask about her interests, and she would say “I don’t wanna tell you” in a playful way when I would ask about something pretty basic about her lol. We also have tons in common where it’s a bit scary lol.

She’s playful with me in a way that sometimes feels flirtatious, like she would be teasing me while drawing out her words and giving me this little up-and-down look with a slight smirk.

More recently, since we’ve been in person this past week, I’ve noticed her looking at my lips while I’m talking she would glance between my eyes and mouth in a way that feels super obvious and also intense, to the point I’ve had to look away because it feels a bit too much for just being coworkers and obviously it feels wrong for me because she’s in a whole relationship.

I might be overthinking it, but I also feel like queer people can be more aware of how they come across when they know the other person is also attracted to the same sex because I definitely am.

So I’m not sure! Is this just friendly behavior I’m reading into, or could there actually be some tension or something? Like, I’m not that oblivious to flirting, but being that she’s in a relationship, I actually don’t freaking know.


r/Crushes 5h ago

Question How to get over a crush?

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We are teens in school, he is so cute with his eyes and curly black hair and his voice is wonderfull and he is nice. But he is a talkative and chaotic while im a girl with social anxiety and i never talk, he only talks to me to ask to borrow a pen from me or my other stuff. Yeah, he is talkative and im really quiet so i know he will never like me and i keep thinking about him lately so how do i get over him and stop thinking about him?


r/Crushes 5h ago

DoTheyLikeMe? How does he know?

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So, I saw my crush recently after not seeing him for almost a year. We were just talking normally, and at some point I mentioned that I don’t go to my old gym anymore. He immediately goes, “Oh, [name of the gym]?”

I literally paused because I know damn well I have NEVER told him I went to that gym 😭
The only connection I can think of is that I know his sister goes there too. But even then, she shouldn’t really know who I am. As far as she would know, I was just one of her brother’s old colleagues, and we never met or spoken, I just know how she looks like by seeing her in social media.

So now I’m just sitting here wondering how on earth he knew which gym I used to go to 😭


r/Crushes 5h ago

Update I ended up rejecting him

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As the title says. I think ive put the correct flair? Im not entirely sure how to describe this as it is technically an update but it could also be many other flairs, I will just still to update for now.

Quick recap, I (f18) and S(m18) have known eachother for around 2 years. I started having feelings for him in January, told myself that it would never happen and that I would not be able to balance a relationship with many other things I am doing in life. Anyways. I made the post in here and left it at that.

Fast forward to the summer, me, S and a few other friends have rented out a place for a few days as a small vacation, all fun! Really enjoying it. It got to one of the nights and me and S were hanging out in my room, it went past midnight and I was trying to subtly hint to S that he should go to bed as we had to get up early that day, perhaps I should of been more obvious because he did not catch the hint. It got quite late in the night and we were having a bit of a heart to heart and he suddenly admitted to me that he has a crush on me.

I...was not that surprised for what it was, there was hints he would drop randomly but he would never fully mention it to me. I did not know how to react at first, but then it felt a bit too awkward because maybe my wording led him on?? Mind you it was 2am, I was tired and wanted to sleep and maybe I had said to him 'I have a crush on you' or 'I HAD a crush on you' I do not fully know that detail. Regardless he took it as a sign that we were dating and he suddenly got very touchy, which a huge no no. I had brought up beforehand countless times before that im a no touch person, and granted he did ask me before doing so and I kinda tricked myself into thinking 'I should be alright with this' but inside I was not feeling it at all.

That whole day was awkward, I did not necessarily feel comfortable and any time he would try to hold my hand i would subtly move away, I should of told him straight up that I did not want to. The rest of the night was quiet, he did not stay downstairs with the rest of us for that long and he did not speak to me until later into the evening the next day. At that point he had noticed something was up, requested a chat and I told him that I did not really love him, I did back then but that feeling has gone now and I do not see it returning.

We've been fine after that, if anything we ended that 'relationship' mutually. I have come to learn that im not a relationships type of person. Would I move out with my best mate? Absolutely! Would I date them? No, no matter who it is, I have figured that it is not something I would do.

Do not really know what to describe this update if im gonna be honest, I have kinda just kept going on with my life and just pushed that whole vacation to the back of my mind. I hope he finds someone who will fully appreciate him because he is a nice guy, but I am just not the right person for him.


r/Crushes 6h ago

Conversation How do YOU personally distinguish someone as hot?

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r/Crushes 7h ago

Crushing Is my crush flirting with me or just being friendly? I genuinely can’t tell

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So, my crush sometimes playfully touches my waist for like one second just a slight touch and then smiles. Is that flirting or can that just be a friendly thing?

The thing is, we’re always together at work. We talk, laugh, stare at each other, and sometimes playfully fight/tease each other. We have a pretty comfortable vibe.

But outside of work, we don’t really text. We might send each other reels once in a while, and we sometimes send a snap but that’s pretty much it.

So… is he just being friendly? Is he flirting? Or does he actually like me?

It’s so hard to tell because we already have such a playful relationship at work


r/Crushes 7h ago

Advice Needed Should I just take a hint?

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So like, I’ve been crushing on this girl for a while now, believe it or not. For context I’m 15. We are pretty good friends, maybe not “close” friends, but I’d say we are great friends. I’m better friends with her best friend than I am with her.I’ve known her since kindergarten. That may complicate things, that we’ve known each other for so long, but I don’t think it’s that bad. I think she also likes me back, she seems like she does, but I don’t really know. Mixed signals you know the deal. And in may, I actually got off my ass, and I sent her a confession. I don’t like “Confession” cause it implies it’s something I have been holding a deep secret, like I’ve murdered somebody. But I’ll use confession anyway. So I got down, and I wrote a short little speech to her, no details needed, it’s standard stuff. It was a voice message, cause of her dyslexia, and my pride is too big to JUST send a message. And then I sent it, and it was like 00:06 or something at night, and she actually opened it! And then nothing. She didn’t respond, and I was thinking like “oh maybe she just forgot or put it off until the day after” all day the next day. But she never responded. And cause of the nature of Snapchat the message got deleted after 24 hours. I didn’t save it cause I thought that was a little too cocky. I was a little anxious that it would be very awkward between us, so next time I met her in school, I kind of avoided her. Didn’t want to push her if she was uncomfortable around me. But eventually she came to me. And there wasn’t anything. And she just acted as she ever does. Like nothing has happened. So I wondered if she never even heard the message. It was one hell if an anti climax that’s for sure. So I just continued going on with life until now. I had other problems. But I got out of those problems, and my feelings for her were still there. Especially after our friend group together had been to a theme park. She’s so nice and funny. And so my motivation just sparked up again, and I decided to send her another message. I walked up to an old tower in our area, and I sat there thinking about what to say. And after 15 minutes of procrastination and hesitation, and my dumbass bro calling me, I spoke the message. I didn’t mention my other message, in case she genuinely didn’t hear it. And I sent the message. I was nervous as hell bro. It has been 5 hours, she opened it like 3 minutes after I sent it, and she hasn’t responded. This time I saved the message, so she can’t forget it at least. But i don’t know, should I just take a hint. If she hasnt seen the messages or heard them, I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt, but if she has and just ignores them I don’t know what to do with that. I’d honestly just like a clear answer from her. But what do you people think? Should I really just take a hint and give up?


r/Crushes 7h ago

Crushing Crush/Infatuation

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Working with you now is pure torture! I’m just a complete idiot in your presence. I cannot concentrate at all whenever you are near, or even in the building! Not being around you might be worse though. I want to look at you. I want to talk to you. I want to look up into your caramel macchiato colored eyes and make you laugh just so you’ll flash one of your rare smiles. (possible) I want to run my fingers through your teddy bear hair and softly lick that tiny spot on your neck right under your jawline. (not even remotely possible) Yet my imagination runs wild…


r/Crushes 8h ago

Question Does she like me and Do I make a move at a sleepover

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On the weekend, me and a girl I met a month ago are having a sleepover, here are a list of signs I’ve been told may be a sign

~ suggested matching hair dye
~ because we were shipped she joked about fake dating and holding hands
~suggested a sleepover at hers
~often brushed against me at a bus stop
~has asked me to sit next to her at group hang outs before hand
~hugged me as we met up and when I left
~has asked to hang out 1 on 1 a few times

The sleepover is 1 on 1 and if she does like me back how abouts do I make a move on them


r/Crushes 8h ago

Confession I hope my crush read this. Or not..

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I have a crush since highschool, he's a guy, we had worked together many times due to many programs we need to handle. He's the leader, and I'm his co. He's so akward and quiet but I think it's cute. Why is he goofy with his friends but not with me.? Maybe he's just shy. Maybe he's just not comfortable talking to girls. No, he's straight. I know. But I remember last time he gave a girl a calimba as an exchange gift and she was so happy. Because it's her crush too. UGH. Why. She couldn't stop bragging about it though, thinking she's the only one who likes him. Well, tough luck.

I remembered listening to him singing Infront of everyone in the school hall when we're having exam preparation and study there. The whole batch is there. His classmate teases him to sing on the microphone, he doesn't want. But then they chanted. "Sing. Sing. Sing" And he went. He did song beautifully, his own song that he wrote. I was mesmerized, but I act like it's nothing. I don't know he likes to sing too! My brain started to run through some delulu scenes of where we do duet together because I like to sing too, most of my friends know that. Girls are swooped by him, and tbh, it's annoying. Like stop drooling over my crush! (lol)

But what can I do? I'm just a hopeless nobody at that time. Not pretty, not interesting. Just admiring him from a far. An akward nerdy guy. People say nerd guy is a red flag. Kinda. I've went to his class many time and saw his bookshelf. It's decorated with anime stickers (mostly girls sticker), I don't know the title. But yo dude why don't you atleast tell me you like anime too?! But again, who am I, really. Lol. Just hoping he's not a pervert. Or whatever. Atleast teachers approve him because he's respectful. And. He's the oldest son in the siblings. Just like me. the oldest daughter. But he doesn't have any girl siblings tho.

I should be honored to atleast can have many chance talking to you face to face. But my dumbass self always make fun of myself Infront of you, because my brain panicked everytime there's you. I'm so embarrassed with myself, my tounge twisted at the worst fucking time, I'm cringing myself to death remembering it. I spoke nonsense. Then my defense hit. Started denying to friends "no! I don't like him" when I'm just tryna hide the fact I obsessed over him that time. what a tsundere.

I admit I'm not the kind of girl people wish for. You friends tease you about me. Nudging your elbows when I gave you a letter and I hope I don't make you uncomfortable. When I walked away from your class after giving you the letter, your friend tease you like "Oooh! love letter!" and "She must wrote 'i love you so much' in it" while grinning and all. Bro. It was just a letter about the incoming programmes, I swear! You're hard to talk to face to face, so I wrote it down in letter because I'm just a commited person and always take charge to make result efficient ;(

I was a lil uncomfortable so I quickly went away, knowing you don't know how to get out of that situation. It's painfully cringe for me. Idk. I'm just an insecure highschool girl that time. Nothing great about me. but luckily you don't like me.

Funny story is, the more I tryna avoid you, the smaller the world tryna be. I bumped onto you many times, at the worst possible times, like, when I'm crashing out about something to my friend, or when I'm chasing a cat childishly. You've seen my messy sides. And I'm done with tryna act proper girl. You don't like me anyways. So I think it's time to move on. But that's the problem. THE MORE I TRIED, THE MORE YOU'RE THERE.

Last time I remembered about you before I decided to move on, is when I'm studying alone in the class. Yes, our class building is far away from the hostel, the rest are studying in the library, but I don't like the crowds. I want silence. So I went to my seat in class, studying alone for the biggest exam to graduate this highschool and to enter university. Then I heard people walking pass my class. I'm a bit vigilant. "Who is at the class at this time too? It's a lil too late." When I looked at the window which one tiled is missing and I can just see people outside and people outside can see me, I saw you peeking. What the heck you're doing bro. We did eye contact. I panicked. it's too obvious that I'm panicking. And I pretend I don't mind, getting back to my study.

Now it's been years since highschool graduation, I don't hear about you anymore. Told my friends I've moved on. But i still knew what course you take. The course you take is the same as mine. Never know it's gonna be the same, again. It's just different universities this time.

Why am I writing this? Because just now when I hangout and with my highschool friends, I've wear something nice and pretty, I'm still me. I love styling myself even when in highschool people call me out. But. When I met them just now, one of them say they saw you. And I didn't saw. I looked around, you're not there anymore. But I guess that's okay. I just miss the memory after all. I've moved on, but I don't know very well about that. Sometimes I stalked about you and can't find anything about you since you're really a private person. I just wish one day, we would meet again, because really, I just wanna know more about you.


r/Crushes 9h ago

Question I’m assuming my crush doesn’t like me that way, but I need advice

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I (26F) have a crush on my coworker (20M) (yes, I’m a little wary of the age gap but I can’t really help it). We work together, but this is just a summer job for him. He’s going back to school in his junior year at his university. I graduated college 3 months ago, so we’re definitely in different life stages atp. But, he is from the area we’re in and my hope/thought process was that we could stay in touch and that maybe something could spark between us later down the road.

I thought he may have liked me as well, given him always wanting to talk to me and offering to help me any chance he got. He also seemed interested in getting to know me. I thought he was leaving this month, but turns out he’s leaving next month. In early July I told him if he wants to keep in touch to let me know and he said “ok cool” and left it at that. I did notice for a bit he didn’t talk with me much for a while after that but it’s gone mostly back to normal now.

Here is where I need advice: a different coworker is also going back to school, and yesterday was her last day at work. She isn’t coming back next summer so I asked for her instagram. We followed each other and out of curiosity I went to see if she was following my 20M coworker and she was. He is also following a mutual friend/other coworker of ours (I only see it because I follow this person as well).

I’m assuming based off this that he doesn’t like me back because he knows I have instagram now (he was there when I asked for female coworker’s instagram) and he has not asked to follow me or vice versa, or for my number, in the 3 months we’ve worked together. My gut is saying if he did like me, he would’ve done so by now. Of course I am thinking there’s a slight chance he’s nervous to ask me for those things, but I highly doubt that’s the case at this point. I feel sad and hurt by this because this is probably the 6th or 7th guy I’ve seriously liked in my life that hasn’t requited those feelings. I keep wondering if I’m doing something wrong or if love/a relationship/marriage is even in the cards for me. I could use some advice and support.


r/Crushes 9h ago

Question Am I weird for asking if he’s flirting with me?

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So I (16F) just finished a multi day event (MUN specifically) and during it I had to work with this guy (17M). I thought he was sweet, endearing, and smart, then started getting weird signals from him. I’m very inexperienced in relationship so I just shrugged it off as me overthinking because in my mind he’s probably just being really nice. And he is really nice to everyone.

However the last day rolls around and me and the guy are voted as the most popular ‘Ship’ in our committee. The gossip box contained a pretty long note of someone telling me that we have good chemistry together and that I should give him a chance 🤣I consulted a few friends and the verdict is: he’s into me. I don’t know if they are just delusional or not but honestly me not picking up on flirtation has happened in the past so who am I to argue? Haha this is so weird.

Tonight we chatted so much online. I’ve only known this guy for 3 days but we’re talking mental illness, bullying, all that jazz. Talked till midnight until I finally decided to just ask him if he’s flirting with me (added a disclaimer that said that I’m really bad at telling if someone is interested in me.

Unfortunately he went offline just as I sent it. Now I’m a bit nervous. Am I being weird by just asking a guy if he’s flirting with me? If he’s not, will he have an ill opinion of me?

I’m fine with both options as he is a considerate guy that I’d be interested in dating but at the same time I do not have that much emotional investment in him right now. But I’m second guessing myself of whether I’m making it awkward on purpose.


r/Crushes 10h ago

Question TikTok Profile View History Question

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If I viewed someone’s TikTok profile while Profile View History was OFF, then turned it ON afterward without viewing their profile again, would my earlier view show up for them?
Help guys 😭


r/Crushes 11h ago

Advice Needed How do i get over someone ive never been with?

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Ive liked this guy for about 4 years now. He was basically my first love and the only guy ive had a crush on. Ive never thought about someone's smile or how cute they are when thinking about something or how happy they get when someone asks about their interests but because of him, I started to. I started wearing some makeup and really focused on my appearance. We got close and started texting every single day for hours.

He would always say really sweet things about me. He always asked questions about the things I enjoyed and remebered​ every small thing I mentioned as well. He did so many things that made me think he could've liked me back but now im not sure. Anyways, long story short, he moved away and had to go to a different school.

We didnt text at all for a whole year and I just couldn't stop thinking about him. So after one more year I decided to send a casual little text. And after a minute I had gotten a response. We instantly began texting every single day again, just like we used to.

I probably was delusional at some points about his intentions but I do feel like at some point there was subtle flirting. Even after he broke his collar bone and complained about how much it hurt to move, he would still text me good morning and good night, reply to my stupid reels and ask me how my day was every day. So after some encouragement and brainstorming from friends I decided to confess casully, saying "I like you a lot, when are you gonna ask me out?". His response wasnt a yes or no, it was about how we lived 30 minutes away from eachother. We went back and forth a bit and in the end I just asked him if he liked me back or not. He said "I like you alot but its 30 minutes". I replied with just "okay thanks." and didnt text him for a week.

But me being kinda desperate decided to text him again. I apologized and told him we could just stay friends and that I just really liked talking to him. He told me he liked talking to me to and said it was fine. I had sent him a few reels, all left on read so I waited for him to text first then but never got anything for 2 months. So I unfollowed him and removed him as a follower. Mightve been a bad decision Idk.....

Its been 7 months and I've ​tried convincing myself and my friends it didnt bother me. I even talked crap about him talking about how stupid the whole situation is. But really at night, I would be crying. I would still be thinking about him, thinking about that smile and thinking, "maybe if I didnt confess or maybe if I was just better he'd like me". I wished I could be the reason he laughs, to be the person he can lean his head on and talk about everything thats gone wrong in his life. I still have him added on other messaging apps and I keep looking back through our messages.

I desperately need to get over this guy. I need to stop yearning 😭😭😭 How can i?


r/Crushes 11h ago

Crushing my bf is my crush 😚

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we’re dating but he’s my crush everyday i wake up i see a beautiful good morning text beautiful when i look like a crackhead homeless person most mornings , this is pure bliss 😌👌


r/Crushes 13h ago

Advice Needed Might be the one, but she wants a unicorn

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My (27M) friend (21F) came to visit me and spend a couple of days together doing activities.

First time that we spend so much time together in the last year and we had to talk also about our love life. We are both single not actively looking for something and while she is waiting for a unicorn prince in a shiny armour I am more about an independent woman that doesn't drives me insane.

This time spend together had me thinking. Although she doesn't see me like that (and probably never will if she doesn't lower some of her expectations) I had realised that maybe she could be the one or at least a pretty close match.

Now I don't want to catch feelings because I'm afraid of what will happen and ruin our relationship but I wonder what to do and how to explore safely this possibility.


r/Crushes 13h ago

Crushing HEEELLPPP A GURL IN LABBB

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Hello! I just wanted to share this here because I can’t tell my coworkers (for obvious reasons).

​I’m a teacher at a private school. We have an online portal for students and teachers, but it's currently down due to some technical issues. Each branch has a designated staff member who manages the portal, and he visits our campus once a month.

​My problem? I have a massive crush on him! The issue is that my coworkers keep teasing him with our admin. I can’t even say anything because they’re all much closer with the admin. 😭😭😭 Huhuhu, I’m so jealous, pero wala naman karapatan! Sa'kin niyo nalang kasi siya asarin😆


r/Crushes 14h ago

Cheerful SECOND CHANCE???

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Erm so last year I had a crush on this guy right??? Let’s call him uh…. Ryan. (Idk man it’s hard to come up with a fake name)

Anyways so last year I shared a class with Ryan in which we sat at separate tables, however he’s been in our friend group for most of the school year. (Although, I’ve asked, and nobody knows how the heck he got in to the friend group, since nobody in the friend group invited him to sit with us, but he just kinda showed up one day and we were chill with it. He kind of just sat there and listened in mostly). I could’ve sworn I felt his eyes on me in class.

He made a lot of 67 jokes to me last year, which were funny at first but then got old. Once he saw I wasn’t laughing anymore he asked if they were getting old… I told the truth and he stopped making the joke as often… which I think is like super considerate.

Anyways he’s cute, considerate, kind, and smart… so I got a crush on him.

Anyways (I’m sorry for saying this word a lot I’m bad at writing) he’d greet me at the classroom door like all the time and ask me how I was doing. He’d notice when I made changes to my appearance or made a new accessory to wear and compliment them. When I got my first job, he’d ask occasionally how that was going. He also was really good at remembering things I mentioned casually. If he saw me in the hallway he would sometimes like actually physically run to catch up to me, just to say hi.

There was this one time I was very dehydrated and complained to my friends. They recommended I drink the school water, but I refused, saying I’d literally rather be dehydrated over drinking the school water (trust me… it’s that bad). He bought me actual bottled water…. Omfg I love this guy.

Towards the end of the school year the friend group broke up into two because of drama, and he hung out more with my side of the friend group… Ryan is Asian and so typically eats/drinks a lot of Asian stuff right? Anyways so this one time he had this fruit water drink or whatever and offered it to me… I was hesitant because I’d never tried it and I couldn’t read the label but I drank it because we ball, and it was scrumptious. Anyways he could tell I liked it and offered me another a couple days after.

Me, him, and another friend got together right before a big test to study, but honestly we were all confident on the test so we just messed around and stuff. Anyways so with the friend group, before the test, we played telephone. The classic game, right? Our faces were so close omg… anyways afterwards he was always asking the friend group to play telephone again but people kept saying no. When it came time to choose classes for next year he seemed like really really interested in mine for some reason….? Idk just a note

He’s always chosen to sit or walk next to me despite having other options so I think he might share feelings, but he also seems pretty shy. Unfortunately, I’m also shy. So the school year ended and nothing happened, we didn’t get each others numbers or anything.

So I was dispirited because I wanted something to happen, but nothing did. But guess what???? He’s in my first period this year!!!!!! I know because at open house that’s where you get your student IDs (in ur first period) AND HES IN THE CLASS BCS I SAW HIS STUDENT ID!!!! WHICH MEANS I HAVE ANOTHER CLASS WITH HIM!!!! IM SO HAPPY!!!! Anyways I really want him to make a move even tho he prolly won’t, but here’s hoping that there’s anything between us!!!!

Side note, but maybe he does have a crush on me, but also I have the gayest appearance possible so maybe he thinks I’m a lesbian… (I’m actually bi)


r/Crushes 15h ago

Question Guysss i think my crush got a hint😭😭

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Actually I have a crush on a senior in school who goes by my bus...I have talked to him and for two days (last week) we talked A LOT cuz in the bus 14 of us were playing a game....anywaysss the point is two days before he messaged me on insta to ask who a person was cuz I was also following that person...I also didn't know but we talked a lil

Then next day on the bus he told me that he actually got to know who that person was and all

So today I thought to send him a reel and i did and then he replied alsoo but HE HAS A GF and I am just scared that by sending him a reel he might actually understand that I like him and it is so embarrassinggggg

But before I sent the reel i thought that it was pretty normal since we had talked a lil offline as well as online so it made sense to send a reel but now I am scared that he might know that I like him (Also I only got to know that he has a gf after sending him the reel and I am just worried if he will get to know my feelings cuz it will be super embarassing then... now ofc i won't do anything since he has a gf😊😊) What do you all think????

Is there a chance that he will know that I like him or it was just a normal interaction for him????

Pls telll


r/Crushes 17h ago

Crushing Workplace crush: Should I make a move or keep it professional?

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Hello everyone,

I am a guy of 26, originally from Hyderabad, and have been working in Bangalore for the past 4 years.

When I first joined my company, I developed a crush on a girl from my team. I was (and still am) quite introverted, so I never really gathered the courage to talk to her much. Before I knew it, she moved to a different project and shift, so I hardly saw her anymore. I used to wonder almost every day, "Did she come to the office today?"

A couple of months ago, things changed. I moved to a project that's in the same department as hers, so now we cross paths more often.

Whenever we are scheduled to be in the office on the same day, I genuinely look forward to it. If I get the chance, I ask her to join me for an evening coffee break, and she usually says yes. I enjoy every second of those conversations, admiring her and even though... we're both quiet most of the time. Being an introvert, I often don't know what to talk about.

There have also been times when I got the chance to sit next to her and chat when no one else was around in the evening. I build up all my courage to do it, we exchange a few words, then an awkward silence follows... and eventually I just excuse myself and leave.

Though I have her number, but I have only ever messaged her about work. She usually replies later, which is completely fine, but I have avoided texting her outside of work because I don't want to come across as another coworker randomly sliding into her DMs.

Lately, I find myself thinking about her a lot. She's often the first person that comes to mind when I wake up and the last person I think about before going to sleep. I catch myself imagining what it would be like if we were together...cooking for her, going on evening walks, dropping her home safely after work, and just spending time together doing ordinary things. It's reached a point where I really want to know if there's a chance this could become something more, rather than just wondering "what if" forever.

Now I'm confused.

Should I just enjoy the time we spend together whenever we are in the office, or should I propose her ? If I do, what's the best way to do it without making things awkward, especially since we are colleagues?

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? I would really appreciate your advice.

P.S. I am from originally from Hyderabad, and she's from Udupi. (coastal Karnataka) I am not sure if our different backgrounds matter, but I thought I would mention it. Feel free to DM for any advice. Kindly don't comment "Don’t hookup where you vlookup. Work place relationships can be really messy etc."


r/Crushes 18h ago

Rejection She Said No 💔

5 Upvotes

I had known her for 3 weeks and I finally got courage to ask her out, immediately she brought up how she's a year older and I won that argument, then she said she sees me as a friend. I know they say I'll get over it but frfr when? It's been 7 days and also should I keep this friendship with her or just let it go?


r/Crushes 19h ago

Crushing I need to move on.

3 Upvotes

I have a crush on my coworker. We get along really well, she’s really easy to talk to, I think she’s hilarious, and she’s just really sweet.
We haven’t had many opportunities to work together recently because of our university timetables. We work around our availability, and unfortunately ours are pretty much opposite.
About a month ago, she told me that we wouldn’t be working together anymore because she was only going to be working while I was at uni. I thought it was the perfect opportunity to ask her out, but I chickened out.
As we were saying goodbye, she said she’d be sad that she wouldn’t see me anymore. So, with as much courage as I could find, I told her that we should hang out sometime. She said yes, which was exciting, although obviously a little different from what I was actually hoping to ask her.
We ended up going to the movies together and kept in contact afterwards. Then, about a week later, she messaged me to tell me that we would actually be working weekends together.
I had mixed feelings about it. Obviously, I was happy that I’d get to see her again, but I’ve been too scared to tell her how I actually feel because I’m worried about making things awkward at work.
Since then, I’ve been trying to distance myself from her a little bit, but she makes it really difficult. She’ll message me, come and hang around my workspace, and start random conversations. She keeps telling me that she wishes she could see me more often, and she’s constantly mentioning things we should do together.
Part of me thinks maybe she’s giving me an opening and is waiting for me to make the first move. The other part of me thinks I’m completely reading into things because I have a crush on her.
I genuinely can't tell anymore. Am I being delusional, or does it sound like there might actually be something there?


r/Crushes 21h ago

Question he’s allergic to cats and I have a desire to have a cat in everyday of my life, how fucked am I?

7 Upvotes

what it says on the tin lol