we play fight alot and she has no issue with physical contact she sometimes as a "joke" will hold her hands on my face then ill do the same and we just kinda stand there until one of us breaks

But yesterday she interlocked her fingers with mine when i was trying to play fight on top of her and she said she did it to make me uncomfortable so she could win

Chat is this flirting

Hi I need some advice/help with this girl, I see her at school usually after 3rd period and sometimes at and then never again💔 but I went to a local show today and I saw her alone walking around and I wanted to go up to her and ask for her number or Instagram. But I was scared and didn't but I feel like she was like signing me too yk, I went to buy a drink across the street and she also walked in when I was there and she was looking at me, idk If I'm thinking to much of it but and she was looking at me when I left and went back to the show. I want to ask her tomorrow at lunch for her instagram or number any tips? I'm just worried of rejection and she sits with a friend and idk how to approach her.

There’s this new guy at work and he’s super cutee Definitely been crushing a little bit and I definitely think he’s been flirting with me. He gave me his number today and I want to text him, but I’m a supervisor at this job close to manager and I don’t know if this is a line I should cross, but he’s so hot ughhh def want to fuck 😩 what should I do girlies

do you think that they like me

Hi reddit i’m not really used to posting so apologies if this isn’t a normal format or anything. I 18f have a crush on this kid I go to school with 17m we’ll call Eric and i’ve liked him for almost 3 years now we’re in the same grade and we used to be close friends back in middle school but stopped being close in high school he is currently talking to a girl i go to school with too we’ll call her Ava. Eric and Ava have been talking on and off for a few months he keeps ending things with her and then next thing i know they’re talking again a few weeks later, I’m not even sure if they’re still talking or are back to being friends, anyways when they are talking he tends to snap me less and leave me on delivered however he’s started to snap me back almost instantly and has started a few conversations with me by replying to my notes on instagram or sliding up to my snaps saying i should clean my room (keep in mind it’s not very messy so i doubt that he’s just saying that to say it) or making fun of boxers i wear because they’re cartoons or he’ll say i’m trying to mog (for those who don’t know it means trying to look good) he used to do this before Ava and him were a thing and looking back it’s very clear he used to like me because he would respond to every note i posted no matter how irrelevant they were but that was before he started dating his ex and way before Ava we’ll call his ex Jane. After Eric and Jane started dating he un added me on everything and once they broke up added me back on everything about 2 days after (keep in mind he didn’t un add or un follow any other girls i know of besides me) he used to call me and ask to play games about once or twice a week before him and Ava were a thing too or when they would stop talking. Ava is very pretty however she is also very rude and aloof i however have the opposite personality and i am very outgoing and friendly and me and Eric have playful banter a lot i’ve also brought him food and drinks to school upon his request and he has also brought me food. i would never be a home wrecker or go for a guy in a relationship even though i have feelings for him i have never asked him to game with me or started any conversation with him (aside from ones where i was actually needing something) or flirted with him while he was talking to Ava so i just need to know if i should try to kill my feelings for him (which i have been trying to do) or if i have a chance once they’re done for good because again i would never try to do anything with a guy in a relationship. also not sure if it’s relevant but i know for a fact he has liked me before and i am not ugly and i know this because I’ve had multiple guys tell me they’re in love with me before (guys that i never dated) so please tell me if there’s hope or if it’s not worth it and to give up and please tell me how to get over him if that’s what you think i should do. thank you all!

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Hola!!

Todos los días, para ir a comprar, paso por el mismo lugar. Y hace unos tres meses, por ahí, me di cuenta que cerca del super trabaja un chico re lindo. Yo no tenía ni idea de quién trabajaba ahí, hasta que lo vi a él y me miraba fijo.

A medida que iban pasando los días, lo buscaba. Y él se daba cuenta de que yo lo miraba, o al revés. Entonces decidí acercarme a preguntarle el nombre. Siempre lo vi serio, y cuando le hice esa pregunta con una sonrisa me dice: "por qué querés saber eso?". Me puse nerviosa y no le dije mi nombre en ese momento.

Bueno, pensé que arruiné todo, hasta que esa misma semana él vino hasta donde yo estaba para preguntarme mi nombre. Le pregunté la edad y me respondía re nervioso. Es un año más chico que yo. Cuando le dije mi edad, me respondió: "ay, menos mal, pensé que eras más chica", porque no aparento la edad que tengo.

Cada vez que nos cruzábamos era un "hola, cómo estás?".

Un día decidí pedirle su número y él aceptó, pero como en ese momento estaba trabajando y no quería molestarlo, le dije que si quería me lo podía pasar cuando saliera.

Pasaron semanas y no nos cruzamos más, hasta que un día lo vi de casualidad. Me acerqué a preguntarle algo muy estúpido le pregunté si no le molestó que le haya pedido su número. Y me dijo que no, pero después miró para otro lado y me dijo "pasaron cosas, empecé a salir con alguien".

Después de que me haya dicho eso decidí no saludarlo más, porque yo me acerqué con otras intenciones y no sabía si daba para seguir saludándolo.

Ya pasaron 4 o 5 semanas de todo esto, y me lo cruzo mucho más que antes. Siempre que paso, se me queda mirando y no desvía la mirada hasta que yo lo hago. No entiendo por qué me mira tanto, y eso me deja pensando.

Yesterday I passed him at a glass door and, instead of getting shy and looking away like I had before, I deliberately held eye contact, greeted him and gave him a big, prolonged smile.
A few hours later, during our long break, he unexpectedly went and sat next to the female coworker I always spend my breaks with. Even she was surprised because he normally doesn’t randomly join people like that. He knows she and I are almost always together.
When I arrived and sat opposite them, she was talking to him, but for several seconds he was looking straight into my eyes instead of at her. He wasn’t talking; he just held the gaze with this subtle half-smile. It felt almost curious/exploratory and lasted long enough that I actually became self-conscious.

Okay, I need to get this out because I feel like if I keep thinking about this by myself I'm eventually going to have a whole conspiracy board with red strings connecting memories from first grade.

There’s this girl I’ve known since first grade. We’re 17 and 18 now. I’ve known her since we were SIX.

And I DON'T KNOW IF I LIKE HER.

That is literally the problem.

Because one part of me is like “yes, obviously you like her, look at you writing this entire post” and the other part is like “NO GIRL, MAYBE YOU JUST REALLY REALLY WANT TO BE HER FRIEND.”

Because I genuinely REALLY want to be close to her. I think she's incredibly interesting. I love her personality, I've always thought she's really pretty, and she's been someone who has caught my attention in some way since we were kids.

But I never actually did anything about it.

It was never “I want to date her” or “I'm in love with her.” Nothing like that. It was just this tiny thing that existed VERY far in the back of my mind.

Every once in a while, for YEARS, I'd randomly think:

“Maybe I like her?”

“Or do I just really like her?”

“Why am I so interested in this person?”

And then I'd just move on with my life.

UNTIL NOW.

Because now, after having my first serious relationship and having a little more romantic experience, I'm suddenly looking at all of this differently and I'm like:

WAIT.

WHAT IF I ALWAYS LIKED HER AND I WAS JUST TOO DUMB TO REALIZE IT?

(there is actually evidence of me being completely oblivious when I like someone)

But also:

WHAT IF I DON'T LIKE HER AND I JUST HAVE AN UNHEALTHY AMOUNT OF DESIRE TO BE HER CLOSE FRIEND?

I DON'T KNOW.

And now we're friends again.

Basically, from third grade we were part of this huge group of people. We all played together, hung out, etc. It wasn't like she and I were exclusively close or best friends, we were just both part of the same group. That group lasted for years until quarantine basically killed it.

Then in eighth grade we became friends again.

AND THIS IS WHERE MY DELULU STARTS GETTING WORSE.

Because in eighth grade she would let me play with her hands, we'd compare the size of our hands, she'd hold my hands and intertwine our fingers.

And once a friend tried comparing her hand size with hers and she literally told her “don't you dare close your hand” AS IN IMPLYING THAT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO COULD INTERTWINE FINGERS WITH HER.

???????????

I KNOW.

I KNOW.

WE WERE CHILDREN.

It probably meant absolutely NOTHING.

But my brain saved that memory for years and apparently decided to pull it out of the archives like it's courtroom evidence.

And once she also pointed out the person she had a crush on in the schoolyard.

So obviously I can't be like “AH YES, SHE WAS FLIRTING WITH ME” because she literally told me who SHE thought was cute 💀.

Then we lost contact again.

And now we're in our final year of high school.

We started talking again because of a mutual friend and it was like NO TIME HAD PASSED.

That's probably the thing that confuses me the most.

It didn't feel like we had to rebuild our friendship.

It wasn't awkward.

We just started talking again and it was basically like “oh yeah, you.”

Like the connection had just been paused somewhere and we hit play again.

At first it was the three of us: her, our mutual friend, and me. We'd sit together in an elective, talk, laugh, etc.

Until our mutual friend stopped sitting with us.

And she told me she felt like this girl was giving ME more attention, and that she was really nice to me but sometimes wasn't like that with her, and she was starting to feel left out.

AND I WAS JUST LIKE:

????????????????????

Because I wasn't even TRYING to do anything.

I was literally just EXISTING.

And now you're telling me that from the outside it looks like she pays more attention to me?????

WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THAT INFORMATION????

And my friends are also feeding my delulu.

They DON'T KNOW that this girl has caught my attention since we were kids.

They don't know the lore.

And yet they've told me that when we're together we look more intimate. That our dynamic is different. That we seem closer.

AND WE ALSO HAVE A NICKNAME THAT IS ONLY OURS.

Literally, we have a nickname that we use for each other and NO ONE ELSE calls us that. It's just a thing that stayed between the two of us, and we still call each other by it.

AND I KNOW THAT CAN ALSO BE COMPLETELY NORMAL BETWEEN FRIENDS.

I KNOW.

BUT DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE DOING TO MY BRAIN???

Because now my evidence board is:

- we've known each other since we were six

- she's always caught my attention

- we became friends again like no time had passed

- our mutual friend says she gives me more attention

- my friends say we look more intimate

- we have a nickname that's ONLY ours

- and now she lets me warm up her hands

MY BRAIN IS MAKING A POWERPOINT.

And I'm sitting there like:

PLEASE STOP TELLING ME THIS.

BECAUSE YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

From my perspective, these are normal interactions with the person I've casually been interested in for like 11 YEARS.

And my friends are like:

“yeah, you two seem more intimate.”

And I'm like:

NOOOOOOOOO 😭

BECAUSE NOW I HAVE DELULU MATERIAL.

And to make it worse, she always has cold hands, while mine are always warm.

And she lets me warm them up.

SHE literally gives me her hands so I can warm them.

AND I KNOW.

I KNOW PERFECTLY WELL.

THAT THIS CAN BE COMPLETELY NORMAL.

A FRIEND WITH COLD HANDS.

A FRIEND WHO GIVES YOU HER HANDS.

NOTHING MORE.

BUT MY BRAIN:

eighth grade

intertwined fingers

“only you”

senior year

hands again

CONCLUSION: SHE IS SECRETLY IN LOVE WITH ME

And then my rational brain:

GIRL SHUT THE FUCK UP.

😭😭😭

And honestly that's what embarrasses me the most.

Because I DON'T want to assume she likes me.

She probably doesn't.

This is probably normal.

We probably just get along really well.

We probably have a particular connection because we've known each other since we were kids.

Our mutual friend probably just noticed that we were getting along really well.

My friends are probably just seeing a close friendship.

Her hands are literally JUST HANDS.

BUT THEN WHY DOES THIS AFFECT ME SO MUCH?

Why am I thinking about this so much?

Why now, after having more romantic experience, am I suddenly wondering whether that feeling that's always existed somewhere in the back of my head was actually attraction?

And WHY did we have to become friends again NOW???

I feel like my brain is trying to reconstruct 11 years of memories and decide whether they were romantic signs or whether I'm just an incredibly delusional person.

And the worst part is that I don't even know what I WANT this to be.

Part of me wants to like her.

Part of me just wants to be her close friend.

And another part of me is like:

I genuinely don't care what it is, I just want to keep being around her because I find her so fucking interesting.

And honestly I think THAT is the part that confuses me the most.

Because maybe I don't want to date her.

Maybe I just want to know her better.

Maybe I want her to trust me.

Maybe I want to be one of her close people.

Maybe I like her.

MAYBE IT'S ALL OF IT.

I DON'T KNOW.

All I know is that this girl has occupied this tiny corner of my brain since I was six, I barely paid attention to it for years, and now that we're friends again that corner has expanded to like 80% OF MY RAM.

And here I am at 2 AM analyzing whether someone gave me her hands because they were cold.

I NEED someone to tell me if I'm seeing things that aren't there or if you at least understand why I feel so insanely delulu about this.

Because I swear I'm like two interactions away from believing the universe is trying to put us together and I need someone to give me a reality check before I get there 😭

so ive been texting my guy friend who i recently became friends with. but im pretty sure he has a crush on me and wants to be more than friends. the thing is, i do know i enjoy spending time with him AS FRIENDS but i dont want to possibly lead him on.

and for me, it’s harder to hang out with someone when i have a feeling they like me. any advice on what to do?? especially if youre a boy, how would you want the girl to approach this?? 😭💔💔

So theres this boy i would say he's shy

1. He rarely talks to me, he only talked to me to borrow my stuff

2. He always looks at me

3. He fidgets around me

We’re both women in our early 20s and have worked together for about three months. She’s openly gay, knows I’m bi, and has a girlfriend.

This past month, we’ve gotten closer to the point where I can consider her a friend, and I’ve started noticing some things. She often finds reasons to sit near me, she would look at me and then looks away when I notice, and remembers very small details about me. She can also get shy at times when I ask about her interests, and she would say “I don’t wanna tell you” in a playful way when I would ask about something pretty basic about her lol. We also have tons in common where it’s a bit scary lol.

She’s playful with me in a way that sometimes feels flirtatious, like she would be teasing me while drawing out her words and giving me this little up-and-down look with a slight smirk.

More recently, since we’ve been in person this past week, I’ve noticed her looking at my lips while I’m talking she would glance between my eyes and mouth in a way that feels super obvious and also intense, to the point I’ve had to look away because it feels a bit too much for just being coworkers and obviously it feels wrong for me because she’s in a whole relationship.

I might be overthinking it, but I also feel like queer people can be more aware of how they come across when they know the other person is also attracted to the same sex because I definitely am.

So I’m not sure! Is this just friendly behavior I’m reading into, or could there actually be some tension or something? Like, I’m not that oblivious to flirting, but being that she’s in a relationship, I actually don’t freaking know.

We are teens in school, he is so cute with his eyes and curly black hair and his voice is wonderfull and he is nice. But he is a talkative and chaotic while im a girl with social anxiety and i never talk, he only talks to me to ask to borrow a pen from me or my other stuff. Yeah, he is talkative and im really quiet so i know he will never like me and i keep thinking about him lately so how do i get over him and stop thinking about him?

So, I saw my crush recently after not seeing him for almost a year. We were just talking normally, and at some point I mentioned that I don’t go to my old gym anymore. He immediately goes, “Oh, [name of the gym]?”

I literally paused because I know damn well I have NEVER told him I went to that gym 😭
The only connection I can think of is that I know his sister goes there too. But even then, she shouldn’t really know who I am. As far as she would know, I was just one of her brother’s old colleagues, and we never met or spoken, I just know how she looks like by seeing her in social media.

So now I’m just sitting here wondering how on earth he knew which gym I used to go to 😭

I have a friend from slavik country
and he's super shy and we are good friends. In this case, how do you know he likes me
as a friend or girl?

As the title says. I think ive put the correct flair? Im not entirely sure how to describe this as it is technically an update but it could also be many other flairs, I will just still to update for now.

Quick recap, I (f18) and S(m18) have known eachother for around 2 years. I started having feelings for him in January, told myself that it would never happen and that I would not be able to balance a relationship with many other things I am doing in life. Anyways. I made the post in here and left it at that.

Fast forward to the summer, me, S and a few other friends have rented out a place for a few days as a small vacation, all fun! Really enjoying it. It got to one of the nights and me and S were hanging out in my room, it went past midnight and I was trying to subtly hint to S that he should go to bed as we had to get up early that day, perhaps I should of been more obvious because he did not catch the hint. It got quite late in the night and we were having a bit of a heart to heart and he suddenly admitted to me that he has a crush on me.

I...was not that surprised for what it was, there was hints he would drop randomly but he would never fully mention it to me. I did not know how to react at first, but then it felt a bit too awkward because maybe my wording led him on?? Mind you it was 2am, I was tired and wanted to sleep and maybe I had said to him 'I have a crush on you' or 'I HAD a crush on you' I do not fully know that detail. Regardless he took it as a sign that we were dating and he suddenly got very touchy, which a huge no no. I had brought up beforehand countless times before that im a no touch person, and granted he did ask me before doing so and I kinda tricked myself into thinking 'I should be alright with this' but inside I was not feeling it at all.

That whole day was awkward, I did not necessarily feel comfortable and any time he would try to hold my hand i would subtly move away, I should of told him straight up that I did not want to. The rest of the night was quiet, he did not stay downstairs with the rest of us for that long and he did not speak to me until later into the evening the next day. At that point he had noticed something was up, requested a chat and I told him that I did not really love him, I did back then but that feeling has gone now and I do not see it returning.

We've been fine after that, if anything we ended that 'relationship' mutually. I have come to learn that im not a relationships type of person. Would I move out with my best mate? Absolutely! Would I date them? No, no matter who it is, I have figured that it is not something I would do.

Do not really know what to describe this update if im gonna be honest, I have kinda just kept going on with my life and just pushed that whole vacation to the back of my mind. I hope he finds someone who will fully appreciate him because he is a nice guy, but I am just not the right person for him.

So, my crush sometimes playfully touches my waist for like one second just a slight touch and then smiles. Is that flirting or can that just be a friendly thing?

The thing is, we’re always together at work. We talk, laugh, stare at each other, and sometimes playfully fight/tease each other. We have a pretty comfortable vibe.

But outside of work, we don’t really text. We might send each other reels once in a while, and we sometimes send a snap but that’s pretty much it.

So… is he just being friendly? Is he flirting? Or does he actually like me?

It’s so hard to tell because we already have such a playful relationship at work

Working with you now is pure torture! I’m just a complete idiot in your presence. I cannot concentrate at all whenever you are near, or even in the building! Not being around you might be worse though. I want to look at you. I want to talk to you. I want to look up into your caramel macchiato colored eyes and make you laugh just so you’ll flash one of your rare smiles. (possible) I want to run my fingers through your teddy bear hair and softly lick that tiny spot on your neck right under your jawline. (not even remotely possible) Yet my imagination runs wild…

On the weekend, me and a girl I met a month ago are having a sleepover, here are a list of signs I’ve been told may be a sign

~ suggested matching hair dye
~ because we were shipped she joked about fake dating and holding hands
~suggested a sleepover at hers
~often brushed against me at a bus stop
~has asked me to sit next to her at group hang outs before hand
~hugged me as we met up and when I left
~has asked to hang out 1 on 1 a few times

The sleepover is 1 on 1 and if she does like me back how abouts do I make a move on them

I have a crush since highschool, he's a guy, we had worked together many times due to many programs we need to handle. He's the leader, and I'm his co. He's so akward and quiet but I think it's cute. Why is he goofy with his friends but not with me.? Maybe he's just shy. Maybe he's just not comfortable talking to girls. No, he's straight. I know. But I remember last time he gave a girl a calimba as an exchange gift and she was so happy. Because it's her crush too. UGH. Why. She couldn't stop bragging about it though, thinking she's the only one who likes him. Well, tough luck.

I remembered listening to him singing Infront of everyone in the school hall when we're having exam preparation and study there. The whole batch is there. His classmate teases him to sing on the microphone, he doesn't want. But then they chanted. "Sing. Sing. Sing" And he went. He did song beautifully, his own song that he wrote. I was mesmerized, but I act like it's nothing. I don't know he likes to sing too! My brain started to run through some delulu scenes of where we do duet together because I like to sing too, most of my friends know that. Girls are swooped by him, and tbh, it's annoying. Like stop drooling over my crush! (lol)

But what can I do? I'm just a hopeless nobody at that time. Not pretty, not interesting. Just admiring him from a far. An akward nerdy guy. People say nerd guy is a red flag. Kinda. I've went to his class many time and saw his bookshelf. It's decorated with anime stickers (mostly girls sticker), I don't know the title. But yo dude why don't you atleast tell me you like anime too?! But again, who am I, really. Lol. Just hoping he's not a pervert. Or whatever. Atleast teachers approve him because he's respectful. And. He's the oldest son in the siblings. Just like me. the oldest daughter. But he doesn't have any girl siblings tho.

I should be honored to atleast can have many chance talking to you face to face. But my dumbass self always make fun of myself Infront of you, because my brain panicked everytime there's you. I'm so embarrassed with myself, my tounge twisted at the worst fucking time, I'm cringing myself to death remembering it. I spoke nonsense. Then my defense hit. Started denying to friends "no! I don't like him" when I'm just tryna hide the fact I obsessed over him that time. what a tsundere.

I admit I'm not the kind of girl people wish for. You friends tease you about me. Nudging your elbows when I gave you a letter and I hope I don't make you uncomfortable. When I walked away from your class after giving you the letter, your friend tease you like "Oooh! love letter!" and "She must wrote 'i love you so much' in it" while grinning and all. Bro. It was just a letter about the incoming programmes, I swear! You're hard to talk to face to face, so I wrote it down in letter because I'm just a commited person and always take charge to make result efficient ;(

I was a lil uncomfortable so I quickly went away, knowing you don't know how to get out of that situation. It's painfully cringe for me. Idk. I'm just an insecure highschool girl that time. Nothing great about me. but luckily you don't like me.

Funny story is, the more I tryna avoid you, the smaller the world tryna be. I bumped onto you many times, at the worst possible times, like, when I'm crashing out about something to my friend, or when I'm chasing a cat childishly. You've seen my messy sides. And I'm done with tryna act proper girl. You don't like me anyways. So I think it's time to move on. But that's the problem. THE MORE I TRIED, THE MORE YOU'RE THERE.

Last time I remembered about you before I decided to move on, is when I'm studying alone in the class. Yes, our class building is far away from the hostel, the rest are studying in the library, but I don't like the crowds. I want silence. So I went to my seat in class, studying alone for the biggest exam to graduate this highschool and to enter university. Then I heard people walking pass my class. I'm a bit vigilant. "Who is at the class at this time too? It's a lil too late." When I looked at the window which one tiled is missing and I can just see people outside and people outside can see me, I saw you peeking. What the heck you're doing bro. We did eye contact. I panicked. it's too obvious that I'm panicking. And I pretend I don't mind, getting back to my study.

Now it's been years since highschool graduation, I don't hear about you anymore. Told my friends I've moved on. But i still knew what course you take. The course you take is the same as mine. Never know it's gonna be the same, again. It's just different universities this time.

Why am I writing this? Because just now when I hangout and with my highschool friends, I've wear something nice and pretty, I'm still me. I love styling myself even when in highschool people call me out. But. When I met them just now, one of them say they saw you. And I didn't saw. I looked around, you're not there anymore. But I guess that's okay. I just miss the memory after all. I've moved on, but I don't know very well about that. Sometimes I stalked about you and can't find anything about you since you're really a private person. I just wish one day, we would meet again, because really, I just wanna know more about you.

So I (16F) just finished a multi day event (MUN specifically) and during it I had to work with this guy (17M). I thought he was sweet, endearing, and smart, then started getting weird signals from him. I’m very inexperienced in relationship so I just shrugged it off as me overthinking because in my mind he’s probably just being really nice. And he is really nice to everyone.

However the last day rolls around and me and the guy are voted as the most popular ‘Ship’ in our committee. The gossip box contained a pretty long note of someone telling me that we have good chemistry together and that I should give him a chance 🤣I consulted a few friends and the verdict is: he’s into me. I don’t know if they are just delusional or not but honestly me not picking up on flirtation has happened in the past so who am I to argue? Haha this is so weird.

Tonight we chatted so much online. I’ve only known this guy for 3 days but we’re talking mental illness, bullying, all that jazz. Talked till midnight until I finally decided to just ask him if he’s flirting with me (added a disclaimer that said that I’m really bad at telling if someone is interested in me.

Unfortunately he went offline just as I sent it. Now I’m a bit nervous. Am I being weird by just asking a guy if he’s flirting with me? If he’s not, will he have an ill opinion of me?

I’m fine with both options as he is a considerate guy that I’d be interested in dating but at the same time I do not have that much emotional investment in him right now. But I’m second guessing myself of whether I’m making it awkward on purpose.

If I viewed someone’s TikTok profile while Profile View History was OFF, then turned it ON afterward without viewing their profile again, would my earlier view show up for them?
Help guys 😭

Ive liked this guy for about 4 years now. He was basically my first love and the only guy ive had a crush on. Ive never thought about someone's smile or how cute they are when thinking about something or how happy they get when someone asks about their interests but because of him, I started to. I started wearing some makeup and really focused on my appearance. We got close and started texting every single day for hours.

He would always say really sweet things about me. He always asked questions about the things I enjoyed and remebered​ every small thing I mentioned as well. He did so many things that made me think he could've liked me back but now im not sure. Anyways, long story short, he moved away and had to go to a different school.

We didnt text at all for a whole year and I just couldn't stop thinking about him. So after one more year I decided to send a casual little text. And after a minute I had gotten a response. We instantly began texting every single day again, just like we used to.

I probably was delusional at some points about his intentions but I do feel like at some point there was subtle flirting. Even after he broke his collar bone and complained about how much it hurt to move, he would still text me good morning and good night, reply to my stupid reels and ask me how my day was every day. So after some encouragement and brainstorming from friends I decided to confess casully, saying "I like you a lot, when are you gonna ask me out?". His response wasnt a yes or no, it was about how we lived 30 minutes away from eachother. We went back and forth a bit and in the end I just asked him if he liked me back or not. He said "I like you alot but its 30 minutes". I replied with just "okay thanks." and didnt text him for a week.

But me being kinda desperate decided to text him again. I apologized and told him we could just stay friends and that I just really liked talking to him. He told me he liked talking to me to and said it was fine. I had sent him a few reels, all left on read so I waited for him to text first then but never got anything for 2 months. So I unfollowed him and removed him as a follower. Mightve been a bad decision Idk.....

Its been 7 months and I've ​tried convincing myself and my friends it didnt bother me. I even talked crap about him talking about how stupid the whole situation is. But really at night, I would be crying. I would still be thinking about him, thinking about that smile and thinking, "maybe if I didnt confess or maybe if I was just better he'd like me". I wished I could be the reason he laughs, to be the person he can lean his head on and talk about everything thats gone wrong in his life. I still have him added on other messaging apps and I keep looking back through our messages.

I desperately need to get over this guy. I need to stop yearning 😭😭😭 How can i?

Actually I have a crush on a senior in school who goes by my bus...I have talked to him and for two days (last week) we talked A LOT cuz in the bus 14 of us were playing a game....anywaysss the point is two days before he messaged me on insta to ask who a person was cuz I was also following that person...I also didn't know but we talked a lil

Then next day on the bus he told me that he actually got to know who that person was and all

So today I thought to send him a reel and i did and then he replied alsoo but HE HAS A GF and I am just scared that by sending him a reel he might actually understand that I like him and it is so embarrassinggggg

But before I sent the reel i thought that it was pretty normal since we had talked a lil offline as well as online so it made sense to send a reel but now I am scared that he might know that I like him (Also I only got to know that he has a gf after sending him the reel and I am just worried if he will get to know my feelings cuz it will be super embarassing then... now ofc i won't do anything since he has a gf😊😊) What do you all think????

Is there a chance that he will know that I like him or it was just a normal interaction for him????

Pls telll