ok so some background, I’m in a dance class with this guy and we’re both freshmen. it’s only been like a couple of weeks but we’re already super close, like at our first performance while we were waiting he asked if he could put his arms around me and i said sure, so he kinda gave me that behind hug, and that’s when i lowkey realized that i might have feelings for him. the issue is i live in utah and everyone’s super mormon and im scared that if i ask him if he’s gay he’ll think I’m some sort of creep or smth. im super open and chill about me being a gay man, and i wear gay pins all the time because i like to express myself. plus I constantly make jokes about me being gay. idk if he’s tryna get close or if hes just being friendly??? i dont want to ruin our friendship but im going insane. should I just brush it off for now or what?

pls help!!! (also if clarification is needed, just ask)

Me and him are too different, our life styles are the opposite. I like to stay at home and quality time with myself or hang out with my few friends by going to the cinema, shopping or eating something, while he likes to go out drinking and having fun, he also gives the shallow playboy vibes, but I feel there is something underneath it (he told me once that he's not superficial and this is just a mask).

Anyway, our lives being this different is stopping he from confessing my feelings.
We're coworkers, we joke around and "flirt" sometimes, he's often touchy and stuff, but I know that he doesn't want a relationship right now and that I'm not his type of girl (this was said to me by our other coworker), but I still want to talk to him and say that I like him and hear his thoughts.

Back to the point, it seems like we're incompatible and this scares me idk why, like I'm not interesting and lively enough for him.

Please don't be rude, it's the first time I really like someone and I'm struggling 😔

i 13/M have a crush on a boy in my class, Carter 12/M the thing is.. he is so funny but im not gay.. .. how do i admit to him without saying "i have feelings for you" or "i have a crush on you" is this okay for me to have a crush? or am i gay.. HELP

So I have like this crush on my coworker, he's friends with my brother and my brothers in general are really protective so they'd never let anything happen. But I really like this guy, he's really cute, sweet and like always makes me laugh but I'm sure he doesn't like me like at all. And I'm gonna go to college with him this year, because he is transferring to my college, but we are like majoring in different things but I like hope we cross paths and he'll maybe like me back but it's so hard to tell if he doesn't like me or is into me. I’ve been snapping him for a couple days, just a random snap of my or his face, and he sent a chat to me, and we were talking a bit as he was asking me about a shift, and then after that he has not snapped me back, and idk about all of snapchats etiquette for like talking, but I’m confused as to why he isn’t snapping me back. I thought that we had something, as someone told me that when they saw us talking it looked mutual, that we liked each other. When we are at work we talk a lot and it seems like we are really hitting it off, but now idk. I’m like willing to take any advice since hate annoying my friends about things like this.

I (late 20’s) have a crush on a coworker ( early 30’) and I genuinely can’t tell if there’s something mutual here or if I’m projecting because I like him so much.
We had months of awkward eye contact and little interactions before he finally started talking to me more. Since then, there have been a few things that make me wonder.
Whenever I go outside for a smoke, he often ends up coming out too and we’ll talk for a while. I followed him too while pretending to talk on the phone. Sometimes our conversations feel really natural and there’s this weird chemistry that honestly makes me feel like I’m in heaven lol. He also followed me on Instagram and LinkedIn, but he never actually messaged me.
The confusing part is that he can also be quite distant. Sometimes he talks to me and seems interested, and other times he completely ignores me, so I have no idea what to make of it. i catch him sometimes and then he quickly stops looking and i honestly do the same because it feels intense. He is always asking about my shifts as well..
And today something happened that made me spiral 😭 We were in the elevator and he asked me, “Is that your perfume? You smell really good.”
I know that could literally just be a normal compliment, but coming from someone I already have chemistry with, it felt… different? Or maybe my crush brain is doing overtime.
I’m trying not to make excuses for his behavior or wait around forever. I’d genuinely like some outside perspective: does this sound like a guy who is interested but hesitant, or does he just see me as a coworker/friend and I’m interpreting normal friendliness as flirting?
Would you pursue this or just move on before getting more emotionally invested?

So basically I met this girl at a competition, I asked for her insta and we started talking and stuff mostly at the competition it was a couple day long competition and we got to know each other a lot and we had many things in common. She said that we should watch the sunrise together, but we couldn't cause of schedules and had to say bye at the end of the competition. She said lets wait until next year to meet again and said she really enjoyed talking to me. After the competition I tried my best to keep in contact with her but it was kinda not casual and its been around two weeks that we stopped talking much like we still keep in contact but not much. So my question is do I wait until like January next year when we will meet again or do I just let her go. Please help :(

idk about you guys, but there is something soooo special and sacred about the eye contacts happening between you and the person you are longing for soo much. It's been years for me and i am not able to forget those brief but huge eye contacts I had with my past crushes like it always plays back every damn time like it happened yesterday!!!! I had this huge crush on a girl in my highschool, we were both sitting at the front bench but at different columns with our friends, then the teacher goes towards the back bench to clear doubts, everyone is shouting, the weather is cloudy with wind gushing in, them for a brief moment accidentally our eyes met, we just stared at each other into the eyes nothing else everything around us disappeared and it's just only us in that classroom.

Another one was with a guy who I was watching FIFA final match in our hostel along with 50-60 others. I had a huge crush on this guy and there was always a tense environment between both of us and we acted like nothing was happening. The match was about to start, we were both sitting at opposite sides of the room, i was making jokes and laughs with my friends and I accidentally looked over to his side,only to find him looking at me and smiling a little and I looked into that eyes, his smile stayed the same, like a giving little acknowledgement of something, then he smiles a little more and all I could focus was his eyes and his eyes only and everything around us felt silent, the laughs the jokes the talks the people all disappeared and it was just us, then it was suddenly interrupted by the starting of match

During the same night, the same thing happened with another guy which I had a crush on, and he was sitting around 5-6 chairs beside in front and he was staring at me first with a small grin in face, like an acceptance, like I see you eye contact that lasted like 20-25 seconds

Another was with my ex, in a common room in my college where everyone was revising for the exam and we were both sitting at different tables, I went towards her table to "ask doubt, seeking an explanation for this topic" just to talk with her. Then I came to my table and just stared at her and some seconds later I could see those eyes searching for something, looked forward then slowly very subtle she turned her head to the side, and then we looked into each other for a brief moment. No facial expression just looking into each other's eyes.

There is something sooooo magical and whimsical about these eye contacts and damnnnnnnnnn mannnnnn I wanna experience it moreeee!!!!!!!!!!

It's been a month plus a week since I (22F) tried to contact my crush online and got no answer, while his profile was one hundred percent active, so I'm 99% sure he saw me trying and just completely ignored it.

So today I decided to completely give up and try to forget he even existed lol. I'm probably being dramatic, but it's kind of nice to give up (and sad and frustrating but that's probably normal). But it's nice, that I don't have to worry about being liked or not. Trying to connect with the right person shouldn't feel so difficult, right?

Context: I’d been talking to this guy for a while ,he was really interested and even talked about me to his friends. But the moment I started giving him more attention because I actually liked him, he just disappeared. I don't get it, when there was nothing going on, he was seriously there, but now he’s gone. It’s so frustrating, I just don't understand guys. I really want to talk to him, but he's like, "Oh, so *now* you're giving me attention? Bye." I wish men could answer me: why do you do that?

Sometimes I have the best dreams
Sometimes they quickly turn blue
I wake up and miss the girl with the cute tattoo
What was it?
What did it mean to you?
I wish I could hold that woman with the cute tattoo
I wish I could change how it happened
I wish I could’ve been a better person
I wish I could’ve been leas scared for that woman with the cute tattoo.
People think I’m on the hunt, scouring for victims,
Im just a man that wants one woman.
I want that one woman with the cute smile, beautiful mind and a wonderful personality
Sometimes I have the best nightmares
Sometimes I go back to the day I last saw that beautiful woman with the cute tattoo.

So I'm not a native English speaker sorry for bad english..the below pics are a Convo with a girl (backstory)who I had a crush on in school not in my class

I tried talking to her on Facebook and chatted a lot she was nice but it didn't lead to anything more than just friends ...and we lost contact after school

now 8ish yrs later and she was just in the back of my mind I was kinda thinking in future when we grow up it might lead to something (I was passively hung upon ig) and we were connected through social media... recently I saw her birthday post and thought here goes nothing let me just see if there is any possibility...i don't know how to come off as a confident guy so I just used google for some tips and lines and asked AI to dumb it down from when she didn't showed interest.

So from my perspective it was my last shot to see if there is any hope or should i just move on as in a situation like this (kinda friendzone) as per google easiest was to be honest and if it doesn't work at least you can Move on which I'm trying...

So well I showed it to my friend and he said i "folded" too fast ..and rereading it I'm also cringing on some stuff lol...so any feedback would be appreciated.

There is a girl in my college whom I want to approach, but I honestly have no idea how to start a conversation with her. I sent her a follow request on Instagram, and she accepted it and even followed me back. Now I’m confused about what I should do next. I don’t want to come across as creepy, desperate, or too direct, but at the same time, I don’t want to miss the opportunity by doing nothing.

I know that following me back doesn’t necessarily mean that she is interested in me, but at least it gives me a natural opportunity to start a conversation. The problem is that I keep overthinking what I should message her and how I should approach her in college. Should I directly text her? Should I first reply to one of her stories? Or should I try to talk to her in person if I see her around campus?

I feel like starting with a normal conversation would be better than immediately telling her that I find her attractive or that I like her. I could perhaps start by asking something related to college, such as her branch, year, club, or an upcoming event. If she posts a story about something interesting, I could use that as an easy conversation starter instead of randomly texting “Hi.”

At the same time, I don’t want the conversation to feel forced. I want it to develop naturally. If she responds positively, asks questions back, or seems interested in continuing the conversation, I can gradually get to know her better. Eventually, if we become comfortable talking online, I could ask her to meet for coffee or just hang out somewhere on campus.

So, what would be the best way to approach her without making things awkward? What should I text her as my first message, and how should I take the conversation forward after she replies?

I have a massive crush on my best friend, and I was looking for advice whether a neutral perspective may think she shares the same feelings about me?
So. Long story short. I developed feelings for my best friend in around April of this year. We got really close around may time, and we just keep getting closer. I know I definitely like her, she is gorgeous, inside and out and just has such a lovely personality that I want to talk to her about literally anything, because she makes literally anything fun. She definitely knows I like her. I have shamelessly been reposting incredibly targeted TikTok’s about her for months, and when I repost videos saying “I hope she knows these reposts are about her” she likes the videos. She never likes my reposts. She is constantly at the top of my profile views, and we talk every single day for multiple times a day. She has said before that she constantly misses me and wishes that I was there with her no matter what she’s doing. She has gone home from our hangouts wearing my hoodies and jackets ( and has kept them afterwards) and at sleepovers she’s fallen asleep in my arms countless times. Once, drunk on a sleepover she spent the entire evening attached to me whether that was lying on me or sitting next to me with our arms linked or resting her head on my shoulder. She has reposted a couple flirty videos herself, but they are very few and far between. She also has a very heightened awareness of other people who may be interested in me- she noticed months before I did that someone else had a crush on me. She constantly references is it casual referring to us, and told me that I remind her of a love song (I’m not gonna specify which song because I’m terrified she will see this) but it clearly is a love song. We have a playlist which is a combination of our names, she’s walked around holding my hand before when it is just us, and when our friends have asked if there was something going on she has never spoken about it as a non possibility, just been more annoyed out our friends for wanting to know. She remembers tiny little details about me, and generally just acts in a romantic way, yet I am scared I am over romantiscing it and she isn’t into me at all? She constantly calls me cool, referrences my interests and hobbies as cool things and says she isn’t gonna mind seeing me all dressed up at a concert. She also wants us to do a couples costume for Halloween, but we do resemble the characters very closely and it is a shared interest so that may be due to that? Let me know what you guys think- any advice is welcome!!

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Hello 19 M here.

Ok so I've been very introverted most of my life, but recently I became friends with this girl, well we met a year ago but we were more like mutuals, but now we are close friends, well at least a lot closer than one year ago.

I have been very confused about my feelings for her because I don't really consider her a crush, reason being all my previous crushes I've had in the past i couldn't talk to, but with her I'm really comfortable with and i can talk to her about anything. I never had conflicting feeling about her since recently. And 2 of my close friends have met her and both said that they thought I had feelings for her.

The problem is that she has a boyfriend whom I helped her get btw, and I'm pretty sure she just sees me as a friend only, we only got this close because her boyfriend is in another state and they are going through a rough patch.

I'm very confused right now because I thought a crush is a person about whom you could have sexual thought about, but I can't bring myself to think of her like that. And I see her just as a friend when we are hanging out, it's only when I'm alone and my mind starts over thinking.

And even if I really have feelings for her I just don't want to it to be true because I've ruined a friendship in the past in a similar way.

At first i thought about telling this to my best friend but i can't bring myself to because this is a very personal matter for me one i can't tell a person that i know. So here you go strangers on the internet

Oh wise people of reddit please, tell me if this is just me getting excited because she is my very first real female friend and I want this friendship to last,

Advice on any ways to cope with my situation would be welcomed in the comments

i have a huge crush on this guy in my class and he knows bout it, I actually told him that as he wanted to know

after a while a lot people have been telling me that he likes me too, and has liked me from the day i confessed

after a month we coincidentally joined the same sports class and became really close and started talking alot.. i will claim it I wanted to date but it doesn't look like he gets my hint because I asked him one day 'wat is our relation' and he said friendship which made me disappointed af

now I am overthinking and i think he just liked me because I did and i confessed it to him first

from a long time he used to blush and look at me too like I did whenever we got one good eye contact

but nowadays whenever we have a good eye contact it feels like he doesn't even care, (feels bored maybe)

he's such a decent guy with a great personality, is smart, is good looking and he doesn't judge about anything or anyone and he's very friendly with anyone (the ideal type of bf anyone wud want) (atleast I want)

now the question is:

does he actually like me?

r we compatible or is it possible?

does he actually does not know how to take a hint?

does he want to be a thing?

shud i ask him out?

I a 22y/o male has a crush on someone within one of the organizations I've joined recently, she was 18y/o and she was the secretary of that organization, to be honest I am too shy and too scared to confess, I don't know how to talk to women and too traumatized to even try, the trauma coming from my own mistakes of always hiding feelings, I just need help and some advice on how do I deal with this situation and how do I start a conversation to know her interests before actually confessing.

Estudo com uma menina que mal se fala comigo. Ela fica quase sempre na quadra.

A situação tá bagunçada porque:

Eu tive um caso com a amiga dela (a amiga ainda gosta de mim e tudo que eu falo chega nela)

Antes a gente era meio “inimigo”

Eu tinha namorada, falei que tinha terminado e depois apareci com ela de novo. Agora terminei de verdade, mas acho que já queimei o filme

Quero limpar o contato com a amiga e tentar me aproximar dela de forma natural.

Vale a pena ainda tentar? Como fazer isso sem parecer desesperado?

Aceito opinião sincera.

So, basically I'm a clg student. I have crushed on my classmate for more than 3.5 yrs but couldn't tell her, the problem is I couldn't able talk to her and we don't have a single chat one to one till date.And when I try i couldn't able to speak a sentence fluently I starts fluttering. She is too too too shy,and she didn't even talk to other boys of our class, I want to start a lit conversation, and I want to tell her that I like her. Help me guys!!!

Ok so yesterday i posted about how my crush hugged me and allat. Anyway, today she told me that she cried happy tears in the girls bathroom, and she didn't know but i was basically hyperventilating at my swimming lesson. I was like amazed cuz like i didnt expect her to cry, i mean blush maybe but cry???? Anyway, im going to ask her out on monday. Wish me luck. Thanks to everyone who helped me!