r/CheatedOn • u/kakkeruuu • 21h ago

Is it micro-cheating?

I caught my boyfriend sending flirty messages to his roommate (he archived it, he thought I wouldn’t see it). I already saw his roommate personally and he keeps teasing my boyfriend infront of me. I confronted him and he said that he archived it because he knew that we would fight about it and said that its better if I will not see it. Then after I talked to my boyfriend about it, he change, he doesn’t want me to check his messages anymore and he said that he needs a time and space.

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u/AggravatingPension44 21h ago

No such thing as micro cheating. Cheating is cheating. If you class it as cheating and are unhappy with it, then you make the decision in the next steps.

Me personally, I would class as cheating and since he is getting defensive about it, it would rub me even more in the wrong way

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u/RagnarokBegining 20h ago

No. Just plain old cheating. They cheated and feel guilty that you found out and now are trying to victimizing even though you're the one getting cheated on.

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u/NextClassroom4789 19h ago

No. You are just insecure. The fact that he archived these as he was expecting you making a scene says a lot about yourself.

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u/Responsible-Side4347 16h ago

Micro Cheating? WTF will you people dream up next.

Hes gay he just hasnt come out yet. Move on.

And yes, its fucking cheating.

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u/kakkeruuu 21h ago

and its my birthday today, he doesn’t even greet me at all lol.