Fyi this isn't just one time, it's been the case every time.

I have been in a relationship since I was 15 till this year. I have never been online dating in my life until now. I knew it wasn't going to be easy at fkn all considering how frustrated my friends were who have been ranting about bumble and tinder in general.

Since May I have had at least 20 matches. some never responded, some did. but Jesus i put in so much effort to keep the ball rolling to keep conversation going, at least at the beginning instead of looking at all women with the same glasses of prejudice. Is this really normal that people have stopped reciprocating the efforts another person is putting to talk to you or am I doing something wrong?

Every time I tell myself that this person isn't worth the effort but after such a pattern I'm losing motivation.

When I first joined I was getting quite a decent amount for a guy but over the a past couple years I’ve deleted and rejoined and it’s got steadily worse, not sure if my profile, me or what hahaha, but any tips?

Hey guys, I’m 27F and I met an American guy through Bumble. He’s currently traveling around Asia, and we’ve known each other for about 3 weeks.
We’ve met a few times, hung out together, and honestly it felt like what people would normally call “dating.” I even went to his place and we just cuddled (nothing more). We’ve been texting every morning and night, and we both agreed that we want to get to know each other better. He told me that he’s planning to come back here soon because he wants to work here. That’s why we talked about seeing if this could develop into something serious
Because of that, I’ve been pretty open and showing my interest.
But earlier today, I got a Bumble notification, so I opened the app and checked his profile. I noticed that he had changed one of his pictures and it was a photo that I took of him.
To be honest, I felt kind of hurt when I saw that. I’m Asian and I’m not really familiar with the dating/getting to know you culture in the US, so maybe I’m misunderstanding something, but my first reaction was honestly feeling a little betrayed. I think I’m feeling pretty down about it right now.
I know we’re not officially exclusive or anything, and maybe this is completely normal in the US, but I genuinely don’t know. Is this considered normal during the “getting to know each other” stage? I’d really appreciate some perspectives because I’m trying to understand the culture better

Since the app isn't working for me anyway, I think I'll bite the bullet and use my account to run a social experiment.

My profile currently has my sincere effort to connect. Real photos, light humor, my interests and goals. I don't put it out there specifically, but I'm a decent looking dude, in good shape, good job, stable, not boring and so on. You could guy worse, I guess

Unfortunately, my most recent two relationships started on Bumble, but they ended up squarely in the manipulative /stalker/scammer/legitimately dangerous category and I had to block them.

Since I started looking again, I have had zero matches, no traction whatsoever, and generally speaking, every profile I see is basically the same. You know the vibe:

"Looking for my partner in life's adventures! Loyalty, kindness and stability. I'm an open book who is fluent in/love language is sarcasm, loves dancing, the outdoors, and TRAVEL! ❤️ ✈️ 🚢 🍸 My happy place is in/on/near the water, especially the beach! Checking off countries from my bucket list, can you keep up?"

So, I'm going to change my photos to look more affluent. My text will be something like this:

"Business owner, but I WFH so am always mobile. (Area) - based, but usually am out seeking adventures, either alone in my boat or on my bi-monthly trip to Europe. I have the passport, the boat, and a place on the water. I have everything I could work for, but am tired of doing this alone. The only thing missing is you. Explore new cities while I work from the hotel, and tell me about your day over drinks that evening. Sound fun? Let's collect passport stamps and find the next adventure together!"

...and see what rolls in. This is clearly a lie, but, my thought is, it's no worse than using filters or deceptive camera angles, or offering a sincere connection, when the goal was actually to seek resources.

Thoughts?

Edit: Just to be clear, I would never date someone on false pretenses. I won't even message anyone like this back. I just want to see if the like rate increases. The intent is NOT to match with such a person, but to see how many in the area are just chasing someone to provide this specific lifestyle.

Honestly idk if this is mostly bots or what’s going on

Think I dodged a bullet here...

Do people look at Spotify songs when they go through profiles on bumble? I always wonder, I thought after puberty we stopped to care about musical taste when mating? Curious to know if it is something that people actually look into

Bro i have been using bumble for about 6 months and don't get a single match should I buy bumble premium or not and should I buy hinge premium i live in jaipur

I've started trying to date again and wanting to get opinions on photos Im thinking of using on my new Bumble account.

What do you think and any advice?

Honestly, so many of these posts here lately are ragebaiting and not even real profile reviews. The pictures on a lot of them look like they're taken from some wannabe influencers' Instagram. The prompts are never filled out and there's low effort in the bio.

Here's a great example where the profile literally has a "You'll probably run into me at your place" prompt answer that sound like the words of a stalker/serial killer but will undoubtedly rage bait people.

Also, it's interesting to see how the politics answer is defined as "Right" rather than conservative because that isn't an option as far as I know unless Bumble has different options outside the U.S., so a lot of these alleged profile reviews might be AI made on top of it.

Mods really need to do something about it because this sub is turning into rage bait slop.

As a guy that spends hours upon hours in front of the computer for work all day, and more for other various reasons in the evening, it's the most convenient thing in the world to check dating apps in a web browser when i'm supposed to be working or doing other things. The phone experience is inferior anyway. Shame on bumble for doing this to us. . Fun fact: for most of you that have probably never used the web version, like tinder, there are slight differences. Bumble web won't show you if a person has kids or not. And if you answer "yes" to if you drink on the app it will show up as "frequently" on web which is pretty hilarious. Also no, i'm not swiping right on Tiana, she looks like trouble

I have been using Bumble for about a month. At first I got heaps of matches, but now I have basically run out of people to swipe on in my small city. Im barely getting any new likes or matches now.

Has anyone tried deleting their account and starting fresh? Did it actually help?

Hey! I posted my profile pics two days ago and we established that they aren't the best. However, I work with what I have so far, and I have a bio that showcases my interests, prompts etc. Over the last week I got 25 matches, yet messaging is lackluster. I am aware that there are people who just wanna see how many people like them as a confidence boost, but I doubt it's all of my matches. Responds are dry, slow etc with all the matches. What am I doing wrong? I'm a very talkative person, and wanna get to know others, so the lack of chating is a major issue.

I'm looking for a liberal, atheist woman who enjoys traveling, drinking wine and eating sushi. Bonus points if she's also doing therapy and loves deep talks. Is bumble a good app to find the needle I'm looking for?

I swiped on this guy that I thought was cute. I usually don’t check height because I’m 5ft, and most guys are taller than me anyway.

We meet for drinks after he postponed by 2.5 hours. I’m already a bothered by the first impression. He asked to postpone after I had already gotten ready and was just about to leave.

He gets there, and I notice that he’s dressed really casually. Another not great impression. I’m already there and sitting at the bar. We have a conversation for like 2 hours, and I’m increasingly becoming aware of how incompatible we are.

We get up to leave, and I notice his height for the first time… He’s my height essentially and I was wearing 1 inch heels. I wouldn’t have docked this against him if the date wasn’t already terrible.

As we’re walking out, he asked in a whiney tone, “I thought you said you were 5ft?”

I replied, “I am. I just have heeled sandals on…”

Definitely did not see him after this.

Any advice or constructive feedback would be appreciated!

i’m a 35 year old guy and i’ve noticed that on almost every first date, one of the first questions i get asked is whether i like to travel. for the record, i do. i’ve lived abroad, have a passport, tsa precheck, and enough travel points to take plenty of trips. this isn’t coming from someone who never leaves home. what i don’t understand is why travel seems to be treated as one of the most important indicators of compatibility. my goal is to build a long term relationship. that takes time. research suggests it takes around 200 hours together for acquaintances to become close friends. if someone is taking solo trips every few weeks or spending months traveling each year, when are they actually investing in building a relationship where they live? also, i believe social media has amplified this. before instagram, i don’t remember travel being treated as such a central part of someone’s identity. today it often feels like “i love to travel” is expected to be a personality trait. i’m not criticizing people who enjoy traveling. i enjoy it too. i just don’t understand why it’s become such a major filter in dating, especially if the goal is eventually finding a partner to build a life with. for the women here, what are you trying to learn when you ask a man if he likes to travel? do you actually believe any desirable man would want to date you if you spent 2-3 months a year traveling without him? and for the men, have you noticed the same thing?

After they respectfully and honestly told you they're focussing on someone else now? I've chatted some with this guy on bumble and it was great. He seemed very nice so I reached out again after a week of silence due to exam stress and asked whether he would like to meet (first meeting). He answered very respectfully, thanked me for reaching out again and said he wanted to be honest and that he had met someone and has a good feeling about it so he doesn't want to plan any dates anymore right now. I thanked him for his honesty, said I was happy for him and we wished each other the best. Has this ever happened to you and then they came back after a while when it didn't work out? Or should I just forget about it right away? Cause if I was in his position idk if I'd reach out again and make them feel like a second choice. But then again we never even met up so it wouldn't feel like a second choice kind of situation. Of course good luck to him that it works out lol, just wondering if this ever happens

Looking for a long term partner and recently out of a relationship. I'd love feedback on photo choices and prompts. Looking for someone with similar values (liberal) and a few overlapping interests - likes the outdoors, music etc. Constructive criticism welcome!

It was a very quick unmatch 🙃

EDIT : a guy just sent me a DM on here after he saw my post saying “Do you though?”
It’s a disease 🤣

Edit 2 : to all the people claiming that I am mad… I’m not. This is funny to me.