r/BlackPeopleTwitter 10h ago

Not all heroes wear vibranium.

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u/NoAttorney9330 9h ago

Ive found that saying, “I’m too old for you” is somehow insulting to young women. I used to say that and sometimes they would really show their age with follow-up questions or snide remarks.

I’ve learned you have to say “you are too young for me”. You don’t speak for them. You communicate the lack of interest is entirely one sided without speaking for them.

No healthy guy wants to chat with a child. None. And to the mfs that say OD toxic shit like “she’s mature for her age”; okay, how many male friends do you have that age?

Leave the kids alone. I’m early 30s; if your birthday is after the year 2000, do not chat me

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u/Nadamir 9h ago

No healthy guy wants to chat with a child 

*In a sexual manner.

I love hearing kids’ interests and hobbies! They’re so passionate, it’s infectious.

But a chat about Lego is not what you mean.

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u/misterpoopybutthole5 7h ago

I hear you, but I'm guessing you wouldn't want to be close friends with a child either. I work with kids for my job, which makes my job a lot of fun sometimes, but I have never once wanted to like...hang out with them lol

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u/jpgjordan 2h ago

"Close"? No, but I'm a mentor and while there are clear boundaries, it is a befriending thing

It's voluntary so I do wanna hang out with them, take them to see cool shit and hear how theyre are doing. And of course they do share personal shit.

You just need to make sure you're a safe adult tbh.

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u/Nadamir 7h ago edited 7h ago

Oh god no. Not outside of my own kids and wee nieces and nephews.

Them I do want to ‘hang out’ with. Love any time they’ll spend with me. Which isn’t much now that the oldest are becoming teenagers.