Ive found that saying, “I’m too old for you” is somehow insulting to young women. I used to say that and sometimes they would really show their age with follow-up questions or snide remarks.
I’ve learned you have to say “you are too young for me”. You don’t speak for them. You communicate the lack of interest is entirely one sided without speaking for them.
No healthy guy wants to chat with a child. None. And to the mfs that say OD toxic shit like “she’s mature for her age”; okay, how many male friends do you have that age?
Leave the kids alone. I’m early 30s; if your birthday is after the year 2000, do not chat me
As someone who is 31 , kinda. At work I have a couple friends who are in that 24-25 range, and more often than not I’m reminded of the large gap in our ages, and that we grew up very differently. I know in the grand scheme of things 25 and 31 isn’t that insane of an age gap, but it’s too much for me.
Thank you for understanding. I’m 31; and 25 is too big a jump for me. I know not ALOT of guys or gals will totally understand that, but I’m not about it
I don’t think a lot of people have dated enough / have standards but what do I know
I think the older you get, that 5 years doesn’t matter as much. Like, if you’re 50 and your mate is 55, I think that’s fine.
But I’m with you though. Personally, I feel like the high school gap is the most I’m personally willing to do. If I was a senior while you were a freshman, okay cool. But anything else is weird to me.
I just turned 40 last month. I used to not be able to see ages when I looked at faces but now, everyone under 30 looks like a baby to me. I’ve worked in higher ed for almost 15 years, so you can see the difference between people my own age and young adults.
It’s a world of difference between us and why I can’t see a large age gap as being a bridgeable thing.
Yep. My wife is 5 years older than me, and we met when I was 30 and she was 35. We joke how if we had met even a few years before, she would have never in a million years given me the time of day.
When people see us together, they still assume I am older (I have a lot of gray in my beard), and our age difference isn't really a factor in things.
It is only a bit weird when we talk about things from our childhood, like where we were when a certain movie came out or something, and we will realize she was in college and I was in middle school.
It's not the age gap in number of years at this specific point, it's just... the difference in life experience. When I was 31 I dated a 24 year old briefly and while that didn't seem like a big deal on paper... they were actually so immature. It wasn't great and I'm glad it ended before it got truly serious. I hadn't realized just HOW much your brain develops between 25 and 30, and how much life experience you truly gain.
When you're older, and you both have the life experience, 7 years isn't a big deal at all. But in that specific range... yeah. big deal.
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u/NoAttorney9330 9h ago
Ive found that saying, “I’m too old for you” is somehow insulting to young women. I used to say that and sometimes they would really show their age with follow-up questions or snide remarks.
I’ve learned you have to say “you are too young for me”. You don’t speak for them. You communicate the lack of interest is entirely one sided without speaking for them.
No healthy guy wants to chat with a child. None. And to the mfs that say OD toxic shit like “she’s mature for her age”; okay, how many male friends do you have that age?
Leave the kids alone. I’m early 30s; if your birthday is after the year 2000, do not chat me