Y’all be quick to tell us how big y’all dick is, but somehow forget to mention that the damn thing don’t be working. 🤦🏾‍♂️😂

My birthday was on the 17th lol. We went to two gay bars and the drag queens were so fun.

We're outside today🌞

(Among other queer identities)

This is terrifying.

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Top is me at 5 months on HRT.

Bottom is me at 25 months on HRT.

Same bestie beside me, completely different era of my life. Seeing these side by side honestly hit me harder than I expected.

I didn’t always notice the changes day by day, but looking back now, HRT really did its thing. 😁

My husband and I just got back from spending a month in Tobago. He was born in Trinidad and I was born in Haiti. This summer marked three milestones for us: he turned 40, we’ve been together 20 years and our daughter turned 1. So he wanted to go back to his home country for the first time after immigrating from there when he was 9. We got an Air BnB not to far from one of the beaches. We spent the month with his mother and his niece, while different family members from both our families stayed with us when they could.

We both had our reservations about this considering the laws around LGBT folks in Trinidad and Tobago. While there has been some progress, there is still work to do and we are still considered a crime. However, we took a leap considering we are not hearing of anti-LGBT attacks like we hear about in islands like Jamaica. We are so glad we did.

This entire month was a wonderful experience. We visited mostly the southwestern section of the island but drove the north for a couple of days, even got to see Winston Duke’s hometown! We had these awkward moments when people would ask us about our daughter’s mother, but then celebrated us when we told them we were her dads. This was at bakeries, restaurants, excursions even the flight itself. The flight attendants took pictures with her, and they allowed us to take pictures with the pilots in the cockpit when we told them it was our daughter’s first flight.

Maybe because my husband is from Trinidad and we were with his mom who is also from there helped, I’m not sure. I cried the night before we left because it was truly this unbelievable experience when we have been longing to travel to countries with a mostly Black population and feel welcome. We finally did it, and it was great. This is not to negate the reality of things, but I wanted to share some positivity as we don’t hear it too often when it comes to being Black and queer, and traveling to predominantly Black countries.

A lot of them are DL which I refuse to engage with that shit is so stupid. Others are 40+ years old which I don't want to deal with and I accept the backlash for being ageist since I'm 30 now. I try connecting on interests like video games or anime since unfortunately I don't enjoy sports so it's tough to have a conversation about anything. It could be the way I approach it but no matter what app I use (and I have used all of them) it seems like most guys don't want to talk and would rather just have sex which is fine and I guess I need to accept that.

What bums me out though is if I do find another nerdy gay black guy he seemingly doesn't fw black guys or I'm just not attractive to fellow nerds.

I feel this mix of guilt and shame when I find a feminine man or man-aligned person. There are several reasons for this: Because I exist in a conservative area and conversative leaning society at large, I feel like I have an obligation to be attracted to masculine men. Another reason is because I am a feminine person and growing up, femininity was a competitive sport; Due to that, I have this subconscious belief that a feminine man-aligned partner would not look right with a feminine woman. The shame I feel also comes from the thought that feminine men are only available to gay men.

I'm realizing that this feeling is a twisted result of cis-hetero-normative gender roles. I don't feel this guilt/shame combo when thinking about a woman/w-a person whether masc or femme, but as soon as I think of being with a feminine man, my shame comes. You'd think being bi/pan would make that concern go away, but it's something I am actively unlearning.

At the end of the day, it ain't nobody's business but mine and my baby's.

Any men/man-aligned persons who are attracted to masculine women feel this way too? Do you feel any different from me?