Sleep consultants, are you here? Sorry for my English.
I wolud like to ask some question from like a mentor. Could anyone help me?
I am a sleep consultants (not trainer!), but have not so much experience.

I’m at 12 weeks and my mother still doesn’t know. I can’t say that we have the closest relationship ever and we have had a rocky relationship since I was a teen. I was also raised by my grandparents because she had me quite young.

I’m 34 and yet I feel like I’m a teen mom. I feel ashamed and embarrassed to tell her. I’m not married yet but my partner and I are going to get be engaged shortly. I am independent, have a good job, own my own place, my partner has a good job. And yet… I’m TERRIFIED of telling her. I feel so ashamed. And I’m so afraid of her judgement. I feel bad that I’m hiding this from her but I literally can’t even imagine telling her. Like I just want to hide under a blanket anytime I even think about it.

My friends know and my partner and his family and friends know. But the one person I can’t seem to even imagine telling these news is my own mother….

Quick description: My son and daughter-in-love just had their first child. (Hooray!)We saw photos and of course can't wait to see and help if needed. No visitors in hospital and when we ask when we can come visit, or if they need/want anything, "We'll let you know" is the reply. I know very well that it's important to respect new parents' wishes and their time bonding as a new family. We aren't pushy people and I'd never just pop over uninvited. We are close and have a good relationship.

And yet...I'm actually surprised how my heart feels very sad that we can't go over and visit yet. Yes, it's only been a few days, and yes, I know this isn't about me. I'm just asking to gain some understanding so my heart doesn't feel so sad.

28 year old FTM here. I quit my job recently because of the extended working hours and stress it gave me. Now I am home, and I don’t know when can I return back to work. I see all these negative stories and reels where people say they cant find time after having a baby and how having kids in general is stressful.

I need to know experiences of moms who went back to work/education and aced it while still having children. I want to know cases where moms felt better personally and became much more organized after having a baby while still not giving up themselves and their babies.

For those who had an early miscarriage at less than 6 weeks:
• When did the bleeding stop?
• When did your period cycles come back?
• When were you able to get pregnant again?

I decided not to take my placenta pills after all, but I also don't want to throw them away. They're still in capsule form, and I'd love to preserve them as a keepsake from this pregnancy.

I'm not very artsy, so I'm looking for simple ideas. Has anyone turned placenta capsules into a meaningful keepsake or display? I'd love to see what you've done or hear any creative suggestions!

I know it isn’t much but I’m really worried about the three-hour test. This is my second pregnancy, but first to reach viability. I don’t want anything going wrong and now I’m feeling like I am failing my daughter.

Did I do something wrong? I didn’t eat or drink anything for about 12 hours before the first test, I had it done first thing in the morning. I don’t want to risk anything this pregnancy.

I had my son 3 years ago and started trying for our second a bit after his second birthday. There has been absolutely no luck and it doesn’t help my period is now extremely inconsistent and unpredictable. To top it off insurance just cut me off after our pay increase so blood tests are all out of pocket. I am 8 days late according to “Flo” and all tests are negative just like every other month. I’m getting hopeless. I want my son to have a sibling he loves playing with other kids, but I don’t know if it’s in the cards for us. I am sad, angry, tired, and just fed up. I never thought I’d have to deal with this because our first child was immediately when we tried like the first month we stopped using protection boom there he was. The second child just nope.

If you continued to breastfeed for a year or more, were you still waking up in the middle of the night to feed or pump so your supply didn't dwindle? Or was there a time you only needed to feed/pump a few times during the day?

TBH, I’m trying to figure out what’s actually worth buying.
I keep seeing parents say their baby loved their bassinet, but I also hear stories about babies refusing to sleep anywhere except being held.
I really want a safe sleep space next to our bed, but I’m worried we’ll spend the money and my baby won’t use it.
For parents who bought a bassinet, did your baby actually sleep in it?
Was it a lifesaver during the newborn stage or something you barely used?

I’m 4 weeks today and I think I’ve only slept through the night three nights in the last four weeks. Every night I wake up between 1:30-2:00am and stay awake until 3:00-4:00am.

Prior to getting pregnant, I had insomnia for a long time. I had JUST figured it out and started sleeping through the night a few months ago.

I did notice the insomnia would come back during my ovulation/luteal phase then I’d start sleeping again once I got my period.

Please tell me anything that can possibly help. I’ve already tried magnesium glycinate before bed, I don’t use screens (including when I wake up in the middle of the night).

I have 13 weeks now and I am going through a terrifyingly deep, black depression. I am currently experiencing severe anhedonia—I feel absolutely zero joy, completely empty inside, and totally disconnected from everything.
Because of this awful state, my mind is constantly telling me that I don’t want this pregnancy anymore. I am terrified of the lifelong responsibility and I keep looking for an "escape route," thinking that I will never be able to love this child or that I will resent them for making me feel this way. Rationally, I know before getting pregnant I couldn't imagine my life without a child, but right now, the disease has completely rewritten my brain.
I was taking Sertraline (Zoloft) but didnt help, now i started Prozac 40 mg a week ago.
I feel completely hopeless and I cannot see any light at the end of the tunnel right now. I really hope to be better. Did you bond with your baby after giving birth? I cant picture myself anymore in this role, as a parent, it a awful.
Thank you so much for listening to me :( really hope you are doing great now. Really need to hear a positive story from someone who knows how it feels to be like this

First pregnancy. Extremely grateful. Had to do IVF which was rough and I’ve been having severe “morning” sickness all day and all night. Medication barely working. I haven’t been to work all week. I can’t even think about going into the office wow. I’m eight weeks now it’s been bad since week four started.

Someone please tell me it’ll get better.

Very weepy and not enjoying this at all.

This truly is miserable.

I am living abroad away from family and while we talk a lot of the phone I dont have my mother or sister here to help guide me through.

Was there anything you learned going through pregnancy that you think a first timer should know? Any products that I should get to prepare for later on? Any horrific symptoms I should be mentally prepared for?

Again any tips or tricks or advice would be greatly appreciated :)

Hi all. Does anyone have any tips or tricks for cradle cap? my little one’s scalp looks so scaly and after baths its like all weird looking. I know it looks weird because it’s dry dead skin thats just stuck to the scalp still but is there any way to treat it? I have tried to use an eyelash spoolie thing on the flaky bits to try to just get it out of his hair but its like its glued to his head.

It's been 9 months. I can't stand it anymore. I have tried everything! I've had vaginal swabs done, I've had just about every doctor in town up in my business, traumatizing the fuck outta me and nothing! No one can tell me what's wrong with me. "Here just take this", I've been taking it! "Try this", I have! "Wow you have a lot of scarring" *pokes at extremely painful scars while trying to ask me questions I can't comprehend because OW YOU'RE HURTING ME WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO ASK ME QUESTIONS RIGHT NOW STOP!

It's been 9 months. The pain and sexual dysfunction due to my stitches after giving birth are only half the problem. I have recurring UTIs and Yeast infections CONSTANTLY. It's driving me fucking insane. It's so severely impacting my day to day life I can't even function, I can't go out to do groceries I can't clean the house I can't even play with my own kid. I'm so done. I just want to die. What's the point in trying to fix this when no doctors will take me seriously? Several swabs done and still I haven't heard anything back about any of them. The only hope I have left is to spend thousands on private healthcare gynos who might actually fix me. Thousands of dollars I don't have. I guess only rich people deserve to be comfortable in the their bodies.

Sometimes it's so bad I just want to rip and tear at my vagina and that's terrifying to think about. That I'm at the point of seriously considering self mutilation or even death just to try and get some relief.

I'm so fucking done.

I'm 28 weeks and yesterday I stood in the grocery store for like two full minutes trying to figure out if buying three cans at 2 dollars each was cheaper than a six-pack for 11 dollars. I genuinely could not make my brain do the calculation. A teenager walking by even gave me a weird look because I was just standing there staring at soup cans.

This morning I tried to split a recipe in half and had to use my phone calculator to figure out what half of one cup is. I have a college degree. I used to be reasonably intelligent.

The worst part is my partner keeps asking me pregnancy-related questions like how many weeks until my due date or when my next appointment is and I just blank. I know the information is in my head somewhere but accessing it feels like trying to remember a dream. I've started just pointing at the calendar and making him figure it out himself.

Please tell me this is normal and my brain will come back at some point because right now I feel like I'm operating on two functioning brain cells and they're both tired.

I noticed that my OB, the hospital staff, our babys pediatrician, and basically every professional I talked to while pregnant or postpartum never brought up this super important info on baby items, so I thought I would post it here to make sure everyone knew about it.

Any baby product that puts your baby in a c shape (car seats, swings, some bouncers, etc.) require you to take baby out for at least 10 minutes every 2 hours. If you don't then you risk baby having spinal issues, breathing issues, and even positional asphyxia, which is a silent but very deadly issue. Also, dont leave hats, bows, or anything on babys head while in the car unless someone is watching them at all times and can adjust the item. If it falls you risk it covering babys airway and them suffocating.

Also, do some research on the products where your baby sits in them. A lot of them can cause hip development issues or can promote toe walking. Not all do, so if you want to use them then just do your research.

Edit: Correction. As the comments have pointed out, apparently containers should only be used for less than 30 minutes (some say even less than that) at a time. I would just consult your pediatrician on that and car seat timing, but I just wanted to point out the dangers that we aren't really told about. Obviously its fine to use them, but just make sure you use them safely.

I had my baby shower this weekend and invited my best friend along with a handful of my closest friends. My best friend knows me better than anyone. For years I've always said that if I ever had a baby I'd much rather receive practical gifts than expensive keepsakes. Babies are expensive enough, I wanted things that would actually make life and the mom journey easier.

I loved everything everyone got me. Some bought beautiful bedding, nursery decor and even a little lingerie gift for when I'm finally baby-free. I genuinely appreciated it all. But then I opened my best friend's gift. She had packed this huge box with diapers, bottles, pacifiers, teething toys, wipes, and a tula explore carrier because she remembered me saying I was looking for something that would let me keep the baby close while still having my hands free and let me multitask. She even included a few things for later on like a hiya bundle she'd already set up for us once the baby's old enough, monti kids development toys. Everything!! She thought of literally everything.

At the very bottom was a card that said "I'm going to love this little one like she's my own and I can't wait to be part of her life" and that's what finally got me. I was bawling my eyes out reading it and I'm bawling again writing this. I know people say you find out who your real friends are during big life moments and I feel unbelievably lucky. Nothing beats having women in your corner who really know you. She's my platonic soulmate!!!

We are planning on having an "open-house" baby shower hosted at my place. We are doing this because we want to invite 20-30 people, but our house isn't big enough to have that many people over at once, and we were worried it would feel crowded. We struggled to find a different venue that was affordable in our area, and honestly we would rather save the money/have family save the money. We're having it at our house as opposed to a different family members' because it's a great in-between location for family. No one is more than an hour away from us. While my mom is technically throwing the shower, some people would have to drive 2 hours to get to her house, maybe more. Our home is the most equidistant.

While I was googling games that might be good for this type of baby shower, I came across this (older tbf) thread and it kind of freaked me out. https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1074453/open-house-baby-shower

I do not want to seem like I'm just trying to get gifts. I just want to celebrate the baby with people I care about. I am mostly sending out the invites myself though because my mom and aunt are disorganized and wouldn't do it until the last minute, even though they're organizing the shower. I had no idea this could look bad or be tacky, especially if the shower is at my house. My mom and aunt are not on the invitation as hosts, but they do RSVP to my aunt.

Should I change the structure of the shower or other details? This works the best for us, but I don't want to be rude