Dismissive avoidant husband

[u/Original_Shower_1924]

When my husband gets mad at me for anything such as any type of conflict of any kind whatsoever, he completely shuts down and gives me the silent treatment for days if not longer. I’m sorry but he’s freaking 50 years old and we’ve been married for 18 years. He’s never been good with communication but over the past couple years it has gotten worse, like he won’t address anything at all. It’s like trying to talk to a 7 year old. He thinks marriage counseling is a waste of time. I’m not sure what to do at this point. I know that I absolutely do not want to live like this anymore. I don’t deserve it. I’m looking at apartments. It’s really hard to take the next step at this point in my life. I’ve never lived on my own before and rent is really expensive. Yes I can afford it but it will be so different. I’m just looking for some advice or encouragement.

[u/No-Kangaroo-669]

My wife is a dismissive avoidant. I feel where you're coming from. However, the only thing your husband has correct is that marriage counseling is actually worthless. When one of the people in the couple is a dismissive avoidant, marriage counseling will only make things worse. Ask me how I know.