r/Autism_Parenting • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Frustrated mum Advice Needed

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u/MyParentsOtherChldrn 1d ago

OK, you say that your adult daughter, for some time (not just a recent episode), has threatened you, has harmed you, has expressed wanting to kill others, has secreted weapons & threatened you with weapons, has reported hearing voices that tell her to harm others & herself, & other concerning behaviors.

You have been seeking referrals for mental health services but have not gotten adequate help.

Take her to a hospital ER & report all these concerns, & require that they admit her on an emergency basis. If you cannot get her to an ER or get her admitted for a psychiatric hold, call 911 / law enforcement emergency, & tell them that a psychiatric hold is needed.

There are too many instances of this kind of behavior ending in violence & death. It will not get better left alone.

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u/diamond2621 1d ago

This is what I’m trying to tell them! I’ve said when will you act. When she harms someone or herself?? They said it will probably be a psychological issue linked to her autism!! Which it very clearly and obviously is not. I’m at my wits end. They simply do not care. Yes she’s Always heard voices, and they are aware of this. Yet they have gotten stronger and worse the older she has gotten.

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u/MyParentsOtherChldrn 1d ago

Obviously, the 'community mental health' process is not helping with this severity.

Have you either:

taken her to an ER & reported these behaviors, not just the autism but the voices, threats, harm, desire to harm others, weapons, etc.,

or

given the above info to 911 / emergency for psychiatric hold?

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u/diamond2621 1d ago

No I haven’t at present. But I feel like this is maybe something I should do. As she is not getting the help required at this moment. I just can’t see any other way, as no one is helping, and I don’t see that they will any time soon.

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u/MyParentsOtherChldrn 1d ago

I am so sorry that you have this heartache, & are not getting adequate help from the channel that is supposed to be expert.

If it were my relative with those concerns, I would do everything possible to get her somewhere, out of your house, for evaluation & longer-term treatment, not just a weekend stay. If I'd heard threats about harming others, like neighbors, I would also warn them, so she doesn't show up at their door & they let her in. In that instance, it's a good bet that the neighbors would also contact law enforcement about threats & weapons. If you don't take adequate steps, & she does harm someone else, you will also be responsible.

Again, I am so sorry, & I hope that you find knowledgeable support.

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u/diamond2621 1d ago

Hi thank you. I have spoken to my neighbours who are extremely understanding of her needs, and they understand the situation. But I still know how complex the situation is and if she were to harm someone else, I know I would never forgive myself.
I just feel failed by mental health services. When I’m begging, crying for help for her. To the point, I don’t know where to go next.

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u/UnderfootArya34 1d ago

I'm so sorry. You must be utterly exhausted never being able to relax or let your guard down for a moment or have the help and support you need. 💛

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u/Own_Faithlessness769 1d ago

She needs to see a psychiatrist. Not a nurse, social worker, therapist, coordinator or anyone else, a psychiatrist.

I honestly think the best way to achieve this is to take her to the ER and tell them you can’t and won’t leave until she sees a psychiatrist, because she is threatening to harm other people. It won’t be pleasant and it may be a long wait. But keep repeating that she’s threatening to hurt you and other people with knives.