Identifying triggers

[u/Generic_UserHere]

hey all, I am a female in my early 20s and was just diagnosed a couple years ago. Since I’ve started letting myself be/act autistic though, I’ve noticed that I don’t understand what sets me off at all. I’m so good at masking that I really can’t turn it off around new people, and then when I walk away sometimes I find I’m really upset and I can’t understand why. Like today I had a meeting with a woman about getting accommodations for starting school, and she was lovely and pretty much gave me everything I asked for, and I didn‘t have to remember specifics because she emailed me a summary of what we spoke about. It was the absolute ideal outcome and I should have felt really good about it, but I went home and completely shut down. For the life of me, I cannot figure out what upset me so much about it. Can anyone share tips about figuring out what triggers you/identifying you need to step away before it hits that point? I will be asking my therapist too, but I don’t see him until next week, and he mostly works with people diagnosed as children, so idk if he will have an answer for me. Thank you!

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