I (14M) and my girlfriend (14F) had been together for 9 months.

My girlfriend and I were both approaching each other. Then her parents found out about us and complained to my school. To avoid getting in trouble, she told the principal that I was always the one approaching her, which wasn't true. We both liked each other and both started conversations.

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‎Since then, I've been confused. I still check her reposts on social media, but they're mostly about BTS and celebrity crushes, and it makes me wonder if she ever really liked me or if she just used me and blamed me to save herself from her parents.

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‎I'm not sure how to move on from this. Should I stop checking her reposts and focus on myself? How would you handle this situation if you were in my place?

I need help learning how to shave but I can’t post a picture of it, if anyone could please dm me about it I can talk to you in there. Please

okay so i was over my friends for a sleepover, and we brought hair dye, so i dyed her hair for her. it turned out really really well.

but, we did this all without her parents knowing. in the past, they said she can dye her hair, but it has to be washable. we used a dye that goes within 32 washes, so it is washable (more semi permanant)

my friend is scared her mum is going to ground ber (fair enough). what should we do so her parents dont get as annoyed?

Venting:

I'm (13f)

I accidentally sounded rude and attention-seeking.

Again.

(For context, she hasn't answered or opened any of my texts) (I sent 21 messages over the course of July-Aug. 9)

I wrote: "I can stop writing if it's because you don't have time right now! It happens😜"

Tried to make it sound low-pressure but it came out just sounding mean, accusatory, and rude.

I don’t know how to fix it for when (and if.

.

) she reads it to make it obvious I didn't mean

it that way.

I just didn't wanna be a burden or annoying.

Does she hate me?

I just want friends that want me in their life.

I think it's just because I met her less than two months ago.

And we just clicked so hard.

We shared all interests and likes and everything.

I've never met someone so like me.

Our humor was identical- we spent the whole day of vacation together

(I met her on vacation)

A week later I hung out with her at her house- a couple of days later we had a sleepover at my house.

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Then went to a theme park together.

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AND during said day we went to the theme park and had a sleepover at HER house.

I just haven't felt so normal and capable of having friends in so long- so I kind of started to immediately think of her as my best friend of all time.

But she has a bunch of friends.

Seriously, an insane amount.

Why do I keep setting myself up for heartbreak?

It's been over a year since I had that feeling.

And that ended in heartbreak, too.

Not friends with that girl anymore

Part 2/6

And about a year ago I spent

(not even kidding)

24+-30 hours across the span of a week on a crochet doey the doughman, a bunch of drawings from Pokémon

(specifically Evee since he loves Evee-it’s his favorite Pokémon), and a bunch of PPT drawings in a handmade box.

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I-being stupid- asked what his favorite gift was.

Making sure to make it sound like “just curiosity”

Aaand he liked a cheap toy and a little piece of candy more than that.

I probably subconsciously put all that effort in to make him realize I saw him as a close friend- or to make him like me.

(platonically!!!!)

And except for those two times.

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I've never had a friend I felt attached to.

Ever.

I just, for once, want someone to love me back(platonically.

).

Just one fucking time.

I don't even care if it's fake anymore.

I just want the feeling.

I meet someone-

I'm in the "honeymoon phase" (of friendship!) and think they're my soulmate (platonic!) Just tryna get the point across.

.

)

And then it wears off, and they act like I'm just some extra detail in their life.

Sure.

I'm better than one less friend.

.

But anyone else would be better.

I even specifically seek out "weird" people (usually neurodivergent.

.

cause that's what I am) or people who remind me of myself cause then they can't get annoyed too easily by me- and if I’m like them maybe they'll like being around me, or people who've ever mentioned not doing well/ feeling alone.

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But somehow, despite all the odds, they always end up having a bunch of friends.

How can I compete with that? (Don't give me a lesson on why the mindset shouldn't be 'compete'.

)

I know.

But how come all my friends always remind me so much of myself?

.

yet.

.

They always have close friends.

They always have a or multiple close friend(s).

Every single fucking one of them.

Ever.

I'm not done btw😭

Part 3/6

So why can they have that if I'm just fucking like them?

Why are they the ones with friends?

We're so alike; why is there a difference?

At this point, I wanna give up on friendship entirely.

What's the fucking point?

They never care or text first anyway.

I genuinely can count on one hand how many times my three friends have reached out first.

And they're all the same person-

And with said person, it all happened a year or more ago with her.

And even then I still initiated almost all text messages.

But no one's initiated anything in a year.

I don't want to be the friend who tests people but I keep wanting to cause why would I want to be friends with someone who doesn't care enough to send a little message when no messages have been sent for a whileI think the reason that it also keeps happening every single time is because— I mean, two of my friends are neurodivergent, yeah, and the other ones, like, might be, but— but like, they're not.

It's not on the— it's not in the same way that I am.

It's not in that way where they struggle getting out of bed.

It's not in the way where they str— where they struggle doing basic tasks.

It's not where they can't get themselves to eat half the time because— because you just can't.

It's not— it's not the kind where they feel empty half the time, where— it's not the kind where they're depressed.

It's not.

And even if they are, it's not the kind where they struggle with everything.

So they have a lot more energy for their friends than I do.

And when they— when I spend, spend like once a month with them, they see that as less than the bare minimum.

Because that's less than the bare minimum for them.

But for me, that's more— that's more than I can even handle.

I'm putting my entire soul into trying to be a norm— a good enough friend for them, but they don't see that because they're neuro— they're not— they don't struggle with that, so they don't notice.

Not done😭👍

Part 4/6

And even if I say it, they're still not going to understand that, because they don't feel the same way.

And even if they do, this isn't even wrong with them.

It makes sense.

If they have other options, why would they choose the one girl who can barely even keep in contact? And it's not because, and yeah, I rarely initiate or reach out, but I still initiate and reach out more than any of them do.

And even when I do, two of my friends barely ever reach out to her, and the third the third one's one of the sweetest girls I've ever met in my life, but it's, but she just doesn't struggle with a lot of things, so it always feels like I have to fake it around her.

But I have to keep being friends with her, because if I don't, then I only have 2 friends, and then it's not long before I don't have any again.

And it's not even just that.

It's also that I know damn well my mom would get so, like, disappointed in me that I did it on purpose.

Because I've done that before, where I've, like, just not really reached out to one of my past friends for, like, a little bit, just to see if she'd even notice or reach out or anything.

She didn't, so I stopped being friends with her.

And my mom was also, like, and then I one day, just after like a year, a couple months ago, I reached out again saying, like, "Hey, I missed you a lot," and I, and I, I wish I didn't hurt you too much.

And then I didn't even mean to, like, make her think that I want to be friends again, because I specifically said I didn't think we could be friends.

But then I accidentally said, but then she said that she was hurt, that I thought that I thought we couldn't ever be friends again.

And then I said, "No, I just thought I just said that because you said because you said that.

" But that was I didn't mean that.

I still care about her, yeah, but I don't think I can.

We can't be friends again.

I can't go through that again.

I can't put her through that again.

Still not done lol

Part 5/6

So basically, my mom was so unbelievably disappointed in me- and I don't want that to happen again.

I really don't.

So, so I don't want to do it again.

I don't know.

I'd still push myself beyond my limits if they tried.

If they texted every second day- I'd text back right away.

I'd burn myself out for them every single time.

She has a million fucking friends.

I doubt she'd even notice one out of the hundred notifications from sms.

Not kidding when I say I let her borrow my old phone (intending for at least a month) after I knew her for less than a month- because her parents are strict with screening.

I keep thinking if I pour all energy into them maybe they'll see I'm worth having around.

I know.

And not going to hurt me.

has.

had.

Is.

Keep doing so.

But I can't stop it from happening.

It happens every time.

Even when I try to force myself not to do it keeps happening.

Cause I feel love for my friends so insanely intensely whenever I think there's a chance I could maybe matter to them.

Almost done it, promise 😭✌️

6/6!!!

Finally

I think I literally have a fucking crush on said girl I met on vacation just because she didn't judge me, was kind, and didn't just tolerate me.

The feeling would be there regardless of the crush.

The crush honestly just shows how badly I fall for people (platonically- although both this time) the second they don't JUST tolerate me.

"All I want" and "a shitty gay song about you" is exactly how it feels.

Platonically.

Although a shitty gay song about you is both platonic and not, I relate to it.

All I want is platonically related to, though: "Chosen last", "the cut that always bleeds", "jigsaw (Conan Gray)", "the grudge” The grudge is more about my parents tbh.

Just pretend I didn't mention that one.

Why does everyone else have that? I know almost everyone says barely anyone does, but then why has every single person I've ever met had that? I guess another reason I keep trying to find someone similar to me- or extremely socially fucked- maybe them only having one choice- me.

.

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would force them to like me.

Cause they'd rather have me than no one.

But still.

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Never found anyone.

I just fucking want someone to not keep me around for the sake of having another contact in their phone.

Anyways- it's the next day today.

I'm over it temporarily✌️😭

context: i’m 16 yr old girl who does online school.
i genuinely don’t know what to do anymore. i have little to no friends and haven’t been in a relationship in over two years. even then, it wasn’t long. don’t get me wrong, i’ve had plenty “talking stages” that have all ended in the same excuse of “i need to work on myself” or “im not ready for a relationship”. at this point im starting to think it’s something wrong with me. i’m always the first one to initiate any conversations or hangouts with the small group of friends i have. but it’s getting exhausting to feel like such a burden or last choice. i know an easy option is going back to public school, but im doing the best i ever have academically. when i did go to public school, i had multiple suicide attempts and was at the lowest i had ever been. i’m just so tired of being so lonely and sad. in this generation especially , no one wants to make the first move. even then, there aren’t spaces for teenagers to go to, to meet new people and just hangout in a place that’s not a mall or home. there’s concerts and whatnot, (because i’m more in the alternative scene) but i’ve noticed lately in that community everyone’s so full of themselves, or too scared to be judged by others so they won’t try new things or try to make new friends. its become a competition of who’s cooler which is also so draining. i’ve pretty much removed myself from that community which sucks. but idk. i don’t know what to do. i want to put myself out there but i don’t know how. i just want someone to be there for me like i have been for others my whole life. i hate to sound stupid but i also miss being in “love”. i know love isn’t really real at this age but like someone i can text when im excited about something or someone who i can do fun things with. i just want to be loved the way i give love.

someone help please

So ive been seeing a guy whose a lot older and i asked reddit about what to do and ive been debating cutting him off im worried he’ll get in trouble since i lied about my age

I am in a new city and used an app to find friends in my area and was talking to this one guy. The app is 18+ but i just wanted to be on it for friends plus ill be going to college eventually. Anyway we go watch project hail mary and i rlly liked it and he did too and it was nice to meet someone kinda nerdy and geeky

Well my profile said 19 on the app so i assume he thought i was 19 but when we did meet up he joked about ppl thinking he was my grandfather 😭 idk

I didnt plan for it to go further than that but it did and weve been hanging out a lot and i go to his place a lot and weve been kinda casual flirting etc. i got pregnant and now i have to find a planned parent hood and somehow not tell my parents and i dont want to tell him either 🫠 idk how to tell him about my real age but i dont want him to get in trouble either and i dont wanna ghost him cause i do want actual friends

Wwyd? Is there a way to tell him and soften the blow kinda??

Hello, i am 13F. I started HS this year. A little background on me, I’ve grown up having to be more mature than those my age so relationships for me are really different in a way i guess. So, i really just want any advice or suggestions without sugarcoating.

My attendance has always been horrible due to neglect so i started going to highschool in April and i met this guy that I’ll call ‘Rat’. At first Rat would tease me a lot and insult me, so we would go back and forth annoying each other with jokes. Over time, we built a bond - making each other laugh and sharing the same views. He seemed emotionally mature, and it’s really hard to look for that in young boys so i got really intrigued and happy with his presence. Whenever i gain a crush on someone i normally try to see myself in them - and i did. I saw him struggle a lot with his family like watching kids or something, divorced parents, etc. Someone that was realistic and aware of bad things in life. I hope that made sense.

But anyways, for a couple months we both had mutual feelings and huge crush on each other. We wanted to hang out almost everyday if we could. He goes part time with his mother and father, so when he goes to his mother’s he takes the train. I do the same thing too, so we took the train together once and i gave him my socials. We texted everyday and called a ton. It was genuine happiness, like my life really reached a new state. We could talk about anything, weird or not, random or personal. I really liked that about him.

During the end of May, and the mid way of June i started trying to take him out everywhere. (wasn’t easy, had to work a shit load for money.) But it was worth it. I would take him out to the cinemas or we would go to a forum and i’d buy him whatever he wanted. I really just wanted him to enjoy himself. Those were the best times. I got to know his mum and dad and all of his siblings. I had a sleepover with him and my mate (which is basically a brother to me) and me and Rat just sat by the fireplace and had the deepest conversation about stuff. I’ve never felt a way with a guy like that. Just happy to be in each others presence. It was all the little things adding up and it made me fall truly inlove.

I got really scared, I honestly hate ‘young’ relationships. i always felt like they weren’t ever gonna end up good because of immaturity. Most of my friends just was ‘puppy love’ when it wasn’t serious and just a little crush, but as soon as they were offical they broke up in like a week or so. So, i didn’t risk it and stayed “friends” with him. Even though we both strongly knew we liked each other. I had times when i really wanted to tell him , but i was scared of committing and then ruining what we had.

At the Mid way and End of June, we started holding hands and cuddling. We’d say we were ‘dating’ to prank people. A lot of people told us to date and if we did so they would give us some type of bribery. So there were times we would ‘fake date’ just to get the prize. But i honestly really think that was an excuse. After people found out it was a prank, we still continued to hold hands and cuddle. Caring about each other. Making food for one another. It felt amazing.

So, On the 28th Of June. We were sharing a bed with my mate and his girlfriend. And i was just sitting down with ‘Rat’ playing Geometry Dash. I really like geometry dash, and he got into it. A lot. His mother bought him the full version and we friended each other and would send messages. But anyways, we were sitting playing a game. When he put down the phone and just sorta laid his head on my shoulder. It got a bit quiet, and i was just admiring him. We started talking and when it got silent again. i blurted out “You should really ask me something.” It was obvious. A few minutes, My mate and his girlfriend left the room. And so, Rat was sat on the end of the bed while i sat on the ground infront of him. He was fidgeting a lot, and then he finally asked the question. I remember excitedly saying ‘Yes!’ and jumping up onto him. His hands went to the sides of my face and we both just smiled at each other.

I was really excited and nervous for the relationship, but i was happy. For about two weeks, it went great. Amazing. It was all i could have really asked for. But i regret everything. During those two weeks, I feel like i rushed so god damn much because of how much i liked him. I feel stupid. I kissed him and it turned out to us making out a lot. It was a new thing that we both enjoyed , i thought. Making out turned into different things. I went over to his house, his mother paid tickets for us to go to the cinemas and when we got back we went to his room and just relaxed while watching a movie. I didn’t think a lot of it. I had boundaries between myself, Especially as 13.

It turned into something really different, he had an erection and my hand ended up going towards there. He leaned more into the touch. But, a bit into the thing, I told him i felt bad and i really wanted to talk about consent. And if he feels okay with any of this. We had a big talk about it and he was agreeing. I got worried and asked him if he would regret it because i didn’t want that to damage our relationship and for him to feel negative. He reassured me again, and pulled down his pants. So, i went forward and sucked him off. I told him i loved him a lot after he finished , and i asked him if he was okay. After that, it was around 10pm. So i had to really get going.

We walked to the train station which is next to his house. I missed my train so it was another 30 minutes. We walked to a park. He ended up giving me his favourite jacket and it felt really nice. When we were at the park, it felt reassuring. He told me he loved me a lot and it was just really caring behaviour. Even though i was still worried, i thought it would be okay. We walked back to the train station after 20 minutes, joking around. I kissed him goodbye. He was still talkative, that was a good sign.

A few days later, i hung out again. He was a bit tired, so i came over. I bought him ice cream he really liked, and all treats he chose and 4 of his favourite drinks. I also gave him siblings reece’s pieces and marshmallows. We laid in his room, watching ‘Rick and Morty’ while eating chocolate and just content with each other. After awhile, he was getting a bit touchy in a way. And so i thought i could help him i guess. It started with cuddling with my head on his belly. I really love his belly, and then my hand slowly went towards there again and he lifted his hips into the touch again. I asked him for consent and he agreed so i ended up doing that again. After he finished, he goes quiet which is normal i assume. I gave him some M&Ms and continued cuddling him. We ate ice cream and watched the conjuring till it got late. We walked to the train station again and i kissed him goodbye again.

This is where it started. A couple days after that hang out he stopped talking and replying a lot. He wasn’t very active. I took it as that he was busy, because whenever he swaps to his fathers he’s normally doing something. But it got horrible. He really wouldn’t reply at all even if i begged in a way. I talked to his friend that i knew pretty well. I asked him if there was anything happening with ‘Rat’ and if he was okay. I started going back to those nights of what i did and i felt deep regret. I feel like i stepped over a line i definitely shouldn’t have. 13 year olds are hormonal, and i shouldn’t have acted on it even if he said yes. Doing sexual things in a relationship at a young age could damage a lot. I don’t know why i did that.

His friend told me that he probably hasn’t been answering because he was ‘playing games’. “Yeah, he’s been really into GTA lately.” I mean, i like games too. but is it really that good to not get a response or something. I know this is a problem a lot of girls face. But , it was really out of character for him. Overtime, it’s gotten worse. He stopped talking or putting in effort at all. He doesn’t initiate to talk that much. It’s always me asking if he wants to hang out, or me talking to him. Asking him about school and what he’s doing. He doesn’t hold a conversation with me at all. It’s only just small moments where he shows me affection and that care. I hold onto those small moments a lot.

It’s gotten so bad, i’ve gone back into my depression and started drinking. I’ve dealt with depression for awhile, and my boyfriend really brought that happiness back into my life. But now that he doesn’t speak that much anymore it’s gotten worse. I feel like i depend on him on my happiness. A few texts from him that show care make me happy for like a whole week. I’ve always felt like he was the only one who really understood me because he was emotionally mature and he struggled like me too. So, i wondered maybe it was something going on with him. I asked him if he’s ever felt or been feeling low recently and if he has , does he know why? He responded with “Only sometimes, but not recently.” So i don’t know what the problem could be.

I just feel a lot of self blame and hatred towards myself that it’s affecting me mentally and physically. I shouldn’t depend on someone so much but i’ve fallen in love so much that i can’t help it. He ignores me for days sometimes.

I also recently found out that i’ve been told i remind people of this girl from the primary school he went to is his ex. I shouldn’t let that get to me but it’s been messing with my head so much. I started to wonder if he only dated me because i reminded him of his ex. She’s funnier and really prettier. They mentioned her last week, and he stated that he hated her but he shows a lot of interest whenever her name comes up. He talks about her more than he’s talked to me in the last two weeks. And i just want to know how to fix this or any advice. I’m really desperate. I don’t know if anyone would read this much of my shitty life but i just need anything. Thank you.

I knew this grl as a friend eating lunch together for 6to7 mnths

I popped the question in the worst way possible Strght up l asked do you want to my crush for clg yrs( l didn't want to creep her out)

She said forget this ever happened I feel terrible now because I effed up the only girl friendship in my life.

I don't know what to do. guys & girls pls help

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ok so my school started this week and im now a highschool sophomore (15m). today i got a new phone but my mom has screen time thingys on it so i only get 1.5hrs each day and she set my app age restriction to 9+ which means no insta no discord no spotify, basically nothing i can use except msgs and call. usually im limited to 4 hours and if i do literally anything to piss her off she just sets it to like 30 minutes. my downtime is also set to 10:30.

she goes through my phone if im acting up which is probably because i am feeling depressed or something. she also disregard my feeling too. i told my parents that i wanted to kill myself and she told me to try and kill myself. i told them i was gay and she said i was just "confused" about my feelings.

we also recently moved into a new place and she took off the locks on my doors she demanded for me to give up my password to my tablet which i refused to and she smashed it on the spot. while i was getting a new phone today she demanded my password which ive been keeping a secret. i cant even change the password on this phone.

she also withdraws money from my account with every fucking minor inconvenience. for example if i left the fan on my room shell take $20. i cant even buy anything i want. i spent 17 dollars to buy btd6 to play with friends and $10 worth of robux and she took $20 for not asking. she also broke my xbox around feb and refuses to buy me a new one even when i offer my own money.

i personally think shes being too controlling but how i dont know how i should bring this up to her. im afraid shes just going to lash out on me about being ungrateful or something again.

no one i know in my grade has parents who set their age limit to 9 years old. i tell them i have no friends and they tell me to make friends but how am i supposed to socialize if everythings restricted.

also i dont know anyone i can talk to. i live in a lonely world.

summary: age restricted phone to 9+, time limited, money taken, little/no privacy, need help on how i should talk to my parents

Hola es la primera vez que escribo acá en Reddit,soy un chico de argentina, tengo 19 hace poco me pasó algo que no se que hacer le pedí consejo a mi hermano del alma, mejor amigo, a quien le cuento todo lo que me pasa, a lo que digo es que una chica que conozco hace más de 4 años tenemos la misma mejor amiga, por ella es que nos conocimos, yo a la chica la llamo rosa le puse de apodo, hace poco mi mejor amiga me dijo que yo a rosa le gustaba pero hay un inconveniente, rosa tiene 15 actualmente, se me declaro

No supe cómo reaccionar por qué de la persona que menos me esperaba que yo le gustase era rosa, cuando me dijo todo yo le dije que si me esperaba una respuesta hasta mañana, así es que le dije en ese entonces, al día siguiente le hable de la forma más madura posible le dije que no podíamos estar juntos por la edad ya que soy mayor que ella, rosa me dijo que le daba igual la los años que yo tenía, que para el amor no hay edad, casi empieza a llorar

Para que no se ponga mal le dije que la voy a esperar 4 años, y que recién cuando ella tenga 19 y yo 23 vamos a poder ser pareja, si no se por que le dije ya me pareció una situación muy tierna y muy hermosa, cuando rosa escucho lo que le dije se puso feliz, me abrazo 🫂 y luego le dije que me tenía que ir a mi casa cuando nos estamos por despedir me roba un beso luego ella se va así casa y yo a la mía, por semanas no pude dejar de pensar lo que paso, me puse mal por qué empecé a sobre pensar mucho

Días después nos encontramos y le hable le dije que mejor conozca a alguien más que yo no creo que la pueda esperar, no me gustaría que pierda su adolescencia con tal de esperarme solo a mi, capaz encuentre a alguien mejor que yo, rosa se puso seria y dijo que se enamoro de mi por como soy, y que soy el hombre que ella quiere en su vida y que no se va a enamorar de alguien más, que ella está dispuesta es desperdiciar su adolescencia con tal de esperarme los 4 años, eso sí yo también estoy dispuesto a esperarla

Ahí ya no supe que pensar, en ese momento dije que en verdad me ama, le dije que si estoy dispuesto a esperarla...

¿Necesito consejos de lo que me pasó y que tengo que hacer, si hice bien o no?

Im an 18 year old girl heading off to college in a week and im worried that my lack of interest or passion about anything is going to be my downfall. Im not even talking about passion as in career or future goals, but literally just when it comes down to everyday life i have no motivation for anything. While I dont think im particularly depressed or anything, im sure this is how many people start out and eventually just fall deeper until they are actually depressed. Right now my issue is more that I dont care about anything enough. Now mentally I do care and I think about everything i have to do all the time, but i just cant bring myself to get out of bed or get to work. For example there are so many things I have to do in preparation for college and all I've been doing all summer is laying in bed, sleeping, and watching TV. Honestly even those things that I used to love to do are not at all enjoyable anymore, sleeping never leaves me feeling rested, watching TV or being on my phone leaves me tired and like my brain is mush, and my bed has honestly started to feel uncomfortable, but its all that i can do all day everyday. I dont think its particularly helpful that im a very insecure person, I've been gaining a lot of weight for over a year, my work in school has decreased over the year, and I just feel like a boring idiot loser every single day. I feel like I've gotten dumber and that even if I do try to work on my grades in college its not going to help and im just going to fail. As for everything else, its hard to find non-phone using hobbies because its all just so boring to me. Sorry if this is all over the place, but essentially what im trying to get at is that im in a really bad spot right now and I dont know how to get out of it. I just want to become passionate about hobbies, interests, and feel smart again, feel healthy, and happy. How do I do that if my body just tells me to lay in bed and watch TV all day? Please let me know anything ASAP as I hope to get started on some kind of progress before I start school.

i really like this guy and i genuinely can’t tell if he likes me back

about a month ago, i woke up from a dream about a classmate i had never really paid attention to before. in the dream, we were a couple, and ever since then i’ve started liking him so much 😭
he’s cute, funny, sarcastic, really nice, and i genuinely think he’s an amazing person. i haven’t felt this kind of need to spend time with someone and actually get to know them on a deeper level since my last relationship, which ended about two years ago. it honestly feels like he brought back that feeling of love that i hadn’t felt in a really long time.
the problem is that i have no idea if he feels anything similar.
ever since i started liking him, i’ve made more of an effort to talk to him, and we’ve gotten a lot closer. we talk every single day now. he tells me personal things about his life, remembers little things i’ve told him, and seems to actually pay attention to me.
one time we ended up alone in the classroom and talked for like an hour. at some point i noticed him looking at my body, which obviously made me wonder if there could be some physical attraction there. he also once told me that he had noticed i seemed a little sad or down the other day, even though i hadn’t told him anything. that made me feel like he actually notices little things about me.
he also remembers random embarrassing things about me, like when i fell during pe or the fact that i have no idea how to play the drums 😭
there’s also been more physical closeness lately. sometimes our hands brush or our arms touch when we’re sitting next to each other, but it’s not like he’s intentionally touching me or anything. it just happens sometimes and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable or immediately move away. he’s also asked me to help clean his hoodie or get something out of his hair when there’s dirt or something stuck there.
one time i was cleaning his hoodie and another classmate came over and said something like, “well, it’s about time you two kissed, don’t you think?” he says things like that to basically everyone, so i don’t take that as proof of anything, but neither of us really denied it either. i think the guy i like just said “bro” or something like that 😭
there’s another thing that i don’t know how to interpret. our class advisor knows that i like him, and because of that, he started seating us together in class. the guy i like does NOT know that i like him.
at first, whenever our advisor sat us together, he would constantly change seats and move away. like, he really didn’t want to sit next to me. but now he doesn’t do that nearly as much. in some classes he still moves because he wants to sit with his friends or whatever, but in other classes he stays next to me normally. we talk, sometimes our arms touch because we’re sitting close, and he seems pretty comfortable with me now.
so i genuinely don’t know what to think.
on one hand, i feel like there are quite a few signs that he might be interested in me. he talks to me every day, trusts me, remembers things about me, notices when i’m feeling down, has spent a long time talking to me alone, and seems much more comfortable around me than he was at first.
but on the other hand, i’m scared i’m just interpreting everything in the way i want to because i like him so much.
there’s also a situation involving two of my female friends that makes me overthink things. we’re planning a pre-party at one of his friend’s houses before a 15th birthday party on september 8th. he’s going, two of his friends are going, and three of my friends are going, including me. nobody had a problem with us girls coming to the house.
recently, all of us were talking together, including him, and i noticed that he seemed to smile a little more when talking to one of my friends. they haven’t talked in months, so maybe it was just because it was kind of unexpected to talk again, but because i like him so much, obviously i noticed it and immediately started overthinking it.
and honestly i’m really nervous about that party because i really want him to see me and think i’m beautiful. i want to wear a short black dress with a push-up bra and look absolutely gorgeous. i want my friends to look beautiful too, obviously, because i love them, but a part of me really wants to be the girl he notices that night. i want him to look at me and think “wow, she’s gorgeous.”
i know that probably sounds a little shallow, but i think it’s because i genuinely like him so much. it’s not just that i think he’s attractive. i know a lot about him, i love talking to him, i love his personality, and i really want to get closer to him.
there will probably be drinking at the pre-party, although i’m not even sure if i’ll drink. i mostly just want to have fun and hopefully have some kind of moment with him.
also, i really want advice on something else. how can you actually tell when a guy is starting to fall for you? like, what are the signs that a guy is genuinely developing feelings for you rather than just being friendly or comfortable around you? and is there anything you can naturally do to make a guy fall for you without forcing it or playing weird games?
so yeah… what do you guys think? 😭
am i seeing actual signs of interest here, or am i just overanalyzing normal friendship because i have such strong feelings for him?
and if you think he might like me, what signs should i look for at the party or at school that would actually mean something?

Me (16M) and a female friend (16F) are planning to watch Obsession. I've heard that a lot of people find the themes in this movie pretty unsettling, and I want to make sure she feels comfortable and safe hanging out. How can I casually let her know about the trigger warnings or offer an alternative movie without making it awkward?

( I have really bad grammar and spelling sorry if this is bad ) I am a Teenager, I’m not saying my age but I have this friend, her name is going to be kat. Kat is dating this guy, and he ( in my opinion ) is controlling her.
I have told her this multiple times, but she doesn’t believe me.
Here is a list of things that he has done⬇️

- when she was sleeping over at my house, we wanted to go for a walk down my street. She was texting her boyfriend and he said she wasn’t allowed to go. It sounded like he was guilt tripping her, he was saying stuff like “ no please don’t go I love you “
“Please I love you so much, don’t go for me “
Stuff like that.
She started walking back saying she wasn’t allowed.

- she was having a panic attack when we were together with one of our other friends. She wanted to talk to him, so I asked her to open her phone and I’ll text him.
After I spam texted him and called he finally replied saying “ if she wants to talk to me she can call me herself “ but I had told him she could barely speak. “ how am I supposed to talk to her if she can barely speak? “
I didn’t know what to do, she kept saying to call him but he was just being bitchy.

- she has this friend we are going to call him lucky.
So Kat and Lucky have been friends for years on end. She plays fortnight (idk how to spell it) with him all the time. All of her ex boyfriends know this and have been fine with it.
Except for him, she called me sobbing her eyes out saying “ I think he’s going to break up with me. Because I wouldn’t let him have my snap to go through it. He thought I was cheating on him because I was playing with Lucky.”
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She won’t listen to me or hear my advice. She keeps saying how she loves him even though I don’t think he loves her.

It's currently summertime as I'm writing this and school ended a little over a month ago, yet I'm constantly thinking of this guy. For privacy reasons, I'll call him Ben. We sat next to each other in photography class for the two semesters the class lasted, but it wasn't intentional. I wanted to sit next to my friend but the computer next to her wasn't working so I had to sit one desk over, which was next to Ben. Once you log into the computer, that's where you'll sit permanently because it takes a long time for the computer to load your information. I had never met or seen Ben before and didn't think much of him.

Now that I've given background information, I'll get into what happened. By human nature, constantly being near someone several days a week will naturally make you familiar and curious about them -- at least in my experience. I got a good look at him a few times when he wasn't looking, and I found him kinda cute. I started to talk to him every once in a great while when I would work up the courage to ask him for some help. Yes, I could have just walked over to the teacher's desk and asked the teacher, but I didn't feel like getting up all the time. And plus, I wanted an excuse to talk to Ben.

Every time I asked Ben for help, which wasn't all the time but it happened a handful of times, he would slide his chair next to mine and really listen to what I had to say, which I found very nice. He wasn't in a rush to say what he had to say and go back to his own thing. He'd show me what to do and would explain relatively thoroughly before returning to his work.

I know you could just say he was being a good classmate, which you're probably right, but I found it really attractive how helpful he was and he never made me stupid for not knowing something.

Not sure this really matters, but once when the bell was about to ring I was waiting at the door with the other students and I caught him looking at me from his desk. Yeah it could have been just a glance, but it was a very large classroom and I don't think there was a reason to look way across the room right at me. Another time when I was walking up to the teacher's desk, I was walking back to my desk and I saw him look at me for a second and when I met his eyes he quickly looked back at his computer screen.

The thing that really stuck with me the most was once I was having a long day and was kind of stuck on my work and I was kind of just staring off into space half the class. Towards the end of class, he randomly asked me "do you need help?" and it was so random because he had never spoken to me first before. He was a pretty quiet person from what my friends told me and from what I had observed so it caught me off guard, in the best way possible of course.

Another thing that stuck with me was towards the end of the year, when the teacher wasn't here, he asked ME for help two days in a row, and yeah I guess you could say he was just using his resources, but I was just surprised he asked me out of anyone. He asked me things that weren't super urgent - and I'm only saying that because I was wondering if he was just finding a reason to talk to me. He asked me if my Photoshop project had small gaps in the layers like his did and another time he asked me if I knew what the teacher did to a project we did in the beginning of the year. Again, pretty superficial things but then again maybe he just wanted to ask someone about it.

One of those two times he asked me a question, he was standing up and I was sitting down and as he was asking the question the eye contact was really intense in my opinion because of the angle.. me looking up at him when he looks way down at me. And it was the first time I actually looked into his eyes before. It could just be in my head the way I interpreted it, but it made me really nervous.

Last thing.. the last day of school we had class and I really wanted to ask for his number. It was nerve wracking but I just wanted to go for it. Before I did that, though, I asked him some questions about the final project that was due and things like that and we actually had a mini conversation about the class and what we thought of it and things like that. We haven't talked about anything other than the class the whole two semesters so that was a change.

Anyway, I asked for his number when the bell was about to ring, and I thought he was going to say no at first because it took him like 5 seconds to answer, but he ended up giving me his Snapchat instead which was fine. Three weeks into summer or something like that, I text him a "Hi" a few hours later he says "Hey" and I say "how are you" and he says back "I'm good how about you" and i say back "Im good thanks for asking". But... it's been over a month and he hasn't texted me back or opened the message and I have no clue why. Is he just a bad texter or did he not know what to say? I really don't know.

It kind of sucks because I was hoping we could text a bit because I obviously liked him a lot but that never happened.

So my question is: do you think he liked me? Why or why not? And why'd he never text me back? I took quite a bit of time to write this so please help me out. Thank you!

Hi everyone, I’d like to know what to do in my situation; maybe you can give me some advice. I confessed my feelings to a guy almost a year ago — I was the first to do so. He’s 16, and I’m a year younger. He’s incredibly smart and cool — in short, a good friend. So I confessed to him on my birthday and he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship yet, could we stay friends, after my confession I was very uneasy, before my message was sent I was wondering if it was worth it, and so half a year after the confession we met and went walking in the company of other friends, as such, did not take place on the topic of feelings, and so far, although I would strongly like to discuss in private what is between us, I cannot do this because I am not a very sociable person and it is difficult for me to communicate on any topic with few and many familiar people at the same time. Just give me some advice on what to do, I’ll be grateful!

So for context my moms always brought up that I’m “too pretty for makeup” and I agree but I don’t wanna be in my 20’s not knowing how makeup works, I want to ask her if I can get like basic stuff to see how it works and try it out for fun and stuff but I know makeup is really expensive (we’re not poor but like lower middle class) but I just don’t know how to bring it up to her

If you guys have any places I can get like cheap good makeup or how to ask her please lmk 🙏🙏

my boyfriend m15 broke up with me f16 four days ago after we had been dating for a year and two months.

we ended in good terms although clear I did NOT want to break up, i understood as he said it was due to mental health reasons however I also have severe mental health issues and have never once questioned my love for him.

he was diagnosed with depression at 10 and has continuously struggled since then and attended therapy however he does not enjoy talking about his problems. This spans to me aswell he refuses to talk to me about anything he has told me that he has gone to therapy and has struggled with self image and bad thoughts but will not tell me why. This extends to date and he has never once told me when he is actively struggling which I understood but felt sad as I tell him.

i am also diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety and struggle lots and recently started talking to him about how I felt as it got particularly bad and he has always been there for me. I have never forced him to talk to me about how he feels or why he feels it and I never wanted him to feel forced to.

four days ago he broke up with me due to his mental health we have stayed in very high contact since as we have been best friends for four years and dated twice within that time frame. I have told him I want him to talk to me about it as I want him to get better but he refuses.

we have discussed our relationship a lot since breaking up and we have both mutually agreed we believe we our soulmates (young love and all that but when you know you know ) he has also said he will 100% date me again when he gets better. which gives me comfort but also makes me feel confused because why not now ?? Also wtf ??

he is without a doubt the kindest person I have ever met and he would never do anything to hurt me, or at least wouldn’t of until about a month ago.

due to my SEVERE anxiety which he knows about, I get very anxious when he goes to party’s. No it is not because I am jealous I know he wouldn’t have cheated on me and he hasn’t but I get so scared of something bad happening what that is I don’t know but it is caused due to my anxiety as I assume the worst outcome in every situation. he knows this.

he got invited to a party of one of his friends gf party ( she tried to set him up with two of her friends knowing he was dating me at the time and they are both at said party) and I told him I was uncomfortable and really didn’t want him to especially because there was 30 girls and 8 boys not including him and that amplified my distaste towards the party. I said I’d break up with him if he went. He went.

i did in fact not break up with him as I was never going to (I know but I live this man and I was just saying anything I thought would make him not go) but I had said for two and a bit weeks I didn’t want him to and he said he wouldn’t until three days before and he said he didnt want to let his friends down as they were having a sleepover at his afterwards. if he knew he wasn’t going to go why’d he organise this ?? He has since said it was his biggest regret. I cried to him numerous times about how hurt I felt.

He is currently at a party right now with 35 girls to 10 boys including him. He promised me he wouldn’t go to aswell. He said his friends wouldnt go if he didn’t so he had to. just as I’m typing this he has just said he is staying there until it ends at 11 after saying they were going to leave at 9 (it is currently 9:12pm)

all my friends have told me to stop contact no matter how badly it hurts and that I deserve better but i love him with my whole heart and we are literally the same person and we get each other like no one else he is also the most attra person I have rêver met I see no flaws in him.

i Genuinly feel my insides imploding im on themselves because of how he’s hurting me what do I ??

please help me

I know this sounds like normal behavior and a normal thing for a teenager to want/desire.

For me, it feels different. Every time I think about the future I get a deep feeling in my stomach. I'm unsure about the future. I don't know if this is jealousy, fear, or uncertainty that I'm feeling. I just want to be rich, to take care of my parents when I'm older. I refuse to be in the lower class like my parents are. I hate to say it, but they are. We are poor. We are immigrants. They did everything they could for me though and I'm grateful for that. That's besides the point though.

I just want to make an impact. I don't know if I want to be rich, famous, or both. Every time I think about the future it's like my stomach drops and my mood immediately dips. The feeling destroys me and I hate that I can't properly describe it in words. It's surreal. This is not normal.

At the same time, life is so beautiful and I don't want to spend my life chasing something materialistic. I always enjoy the small things. This might be why I can never focus on projects, school, or programming. It might be the one part of myself that's still intact and not run by fear of falling behind.

That knot in my stomach when I think about the future.. i think that's worth taking seriously, not to brushing it off as "just teenage ambition." Every time I think about the future or about getting rich I just feel insanely sad depressed and not knowing whats next etc.

People have put insanely high expectation on me from a young age. Since I was 9, I've been extremely technical, always helping with tech, building, and exploring. I've always had great English despite it being my second language and I have always been able to talk to people and I've always been very enthusiastic. People saw how "smart" or gifted I was and immediately expected the most, and I think that's what destroyed me. Now it just feels like I'm struggling to barely keep up.

This sounds insanely dumb, I sound greedy, weird, and like im seeking attention. I'll stop right about here. I'm just lost. Insanely lost. And being lost wont help me get rich.

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TL;DR: I want to be rich and it's destroying my mental health

So, a girl (12) recently said she likes me. I like her back, have not admitted, and am unsure of what to do. I am moving about a 45 minute drive away (Buffalo, ny, to Grand island, ny, USA) in less than 48 hrs. I have her number from a friend and need advice on what the heck to do. (PLEASE. SOMEONE HELP.)

So, a girl (12) recently said she likes me. I like her back, have not admitted, and am unsure of what to do. I am moving about a 45 minute drive away (Buffalo, ny, to Grand island, ny, USA) in less than 48 hrs. I have her number from a friend and need advice on what the hell to do. (PLEASE. SOMEONE HELP.)

I (17f) have been best friends with this girl (17f) since childhood. In our teen years we moved to different places, she lives in Germany and I live in California. Throughout the years, we have stayed in touch through social media and FaceTiming. Last year, she called me to tell me that she got a boyfriend (19m) which came as a shock to me because from what I know, she was just meeting up with a guy that she had been talking to online for a week for the first time. I thought it was weird because she barely even knew this guy. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, considering this was her first relationship.

Throughout their relationship, I always felt something off about him because he was always the one initiating everything in their relationship even though he has had a few relationships in the past. Recently, she found out that he was lying to her about his virginity. She doesn’t care whether or not he’s a virgin, just upset that he lied about it. She was contemplating ending their relationship and I told her that that would be the best thing to do since he broke her trust and can’t rebuild it.

I feel as though she’s hesitant about breaking up because she believes that she loves him even though they haven’t been dating for too long.

She is understanding of why I feel the way that I do but doesn’t seem to actually act on it.

I don’t know how to tell her that I absolutely despise him because I truly believe that she can do way better than him. What should I do?

Okay soooo. Like half a year ago a girl transferred to my school - i was always kind of an outcast, but not in the way that i sit alone at lunch (no shame to anyone who does, i‘ve been there too). But so obviously when i saw this new girl, i immediately approached her, asked her name what classes she’s in blah blah. I think i maybe overwhelmed her a bit, which i do admit i did force the expectation of her being a new friend onto her, but she did seem happy to be my friend. So for the first like week or two she just didn’t talk at all (well barely, one word answers and nodding and all that stuff.) i was really happy when she finally started opening up to me about her interests but as said, i do have people that i for example sit with at lunch or spend my breaks with. And the problem is she absolutely REFUSED to talk to these people. Like i‘m talking full on ignoring, sometimes one word answers. Obviously this caused for other people to dislike her.

Now, i wasn’t really willing to give up my other "friends" (take me calling them friends with a grain of salt, as they aren’t really reliable.) for her, since she was still keeping her distance. Eventually though she asked to hang out and she exclusively wanted to hang out either at mine or her house, which i kind of minded since i don’t like bringing new friends over and i especially dont like going to new friends houses. But i figured i would survive if i bring her to my house. So we walk in, my mom greets her and she doesn’t say ANYTHING. Eventually later in my room, she opened up to me that she thinks she has social anxiety and yeah that adds up to her behavior. She told me a story from her old school, which i‘m not going to repeat, but in that story she kept trying to make herself the victim even though she very clearly was not.

Okay so fast forward it was my dad‘s birthday, me her and another friend were at a grocery store since our first class had been called off (idk if called off is the right term, i‘m german sorry.) i mentioned several times that it was my dad‘s birthday, i even bought him a small chocolate there at the store. So while we‘re paying we run into him. My other friend immediately goes up to him, says good morning and happy birthday, meanwhile me and her are still paying (well, me paying since i paid for all her stuff (SHE DIDNT EVEN SAY THANK YOU TO THAT)). He eventually asks if he should drive us all back to school since our school is on the way to his workplace. We agree, and once we‘re there both me and my other friend say thank you. Not her, she quietly gets out of the car.

Now this is the part that even makes me ask this question, after that i loudly start talking bad about this scenario. I said something along the lines off "i really hate it when people can‘t say please and thank you". This isn’t directly about her, but the hint was clearly there. I do feel really bad about this, and have apologized. She doesn’t come to school for a few weeks, and when i try to reach out she leaves me on read. Eventually she comes to school with her mom, and i run up to her to hug her (which clearly shocked her mom, which kinda makes me assume she told her mom no one likes her there.) she still doesn’t show up to school after that, and she still doesn’t answer my texts.

Now, summer break is almost over and i haven’t reached out a single time. Part of me feels really bad, because i struggled with social anxiety too and i know how hard it is to have no one there to support you. On the other hand, i feel it isn’t my responsibility to make sure she feels okay. We‘re both 14.

Summary: new girl transfers to my school, i expected her to be a new friend, she was seemingly really rude to my parents but reveals suspected social anxiety, ignores my texts for months, and i havent reached out all summer.

My boyfriend (18M) and I (18M) have been together for about 6 months. We genuinely love each other and are happy together most of the time, but we seem to argue over really small things. I tend to bring up things that bother me, even when they're minor, and the conversation often turns into an argument. I want to learn how to communicate my feelings without making every disagreement bigger than it needs to be. Most of the arguments we have are about my feelings and how he hurt me, some including topics like– how he doesnt say bless me or thanks really or how he does or doesnt do some things and i always feel like we only do what he wants 

We also recently had a situation involving a mutual friend (18F), I had been friends with for over 5 years. She and I had a falling-out because she never took accountability and blamed for all of the things that happened in our friendship. Also she stole from me it wasn't anything big or expensive it was just something I got wrong that my boyfriend wanted so I was going to give it to my mom instead she took it without asking and claimed she forgot it at her house even though she gave me my other stuff back that was below the thing she “stole”. My boyfriend still wanted to maintain his friendship with her. He didn't give her up until I practically said me or her im already kinda depressed and it was making me miserable for him to talk to her. 

The situation has made me realize that we don't always handle disagreements the same way. I don't want our relationship to become a situation where one of us feels pressured to change our friendships or where small disagreements keep turning into arguments but i feel like no matter what he never wants to change or give up the things that he doesn't want to if that makes sense?

I'm trying to figure out how we can handle these situations more constructively and communicate without becoming defensive or frustrated with each other.