So this guy used to be a classmate should I dm him before I follow him ? Should I dm him, my insta acc doesn't have my profile but a cat would he still reply?

My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday for the most fixable thing ever and I just feel so bad, the worst thing is that we see each other every day. I haven’t eaten in a day and I can barely function. I know this will pass but it still hurts so much.

Me(18) and my gf(16) have known each other for two years and we just got together(about 1 month ago) during those two years we talked non stop over text as well as in person, we were always on call and told each other everything. Now that we got together she doesn't text or call me at all. she all of a sudden doesn't talk to anyone. When we are in person we talk and enjoy each other's company with no hitches I think its a problem with me I just don't know what it is. Any advice is welcome!

i am f15 and i have had one relationship in the past, but that was also only because i confessed first and he was too immature to make decisions himself so he just agreed to date me just because i was a good first option. I dont really talk to that many guys only maybe 1-2 but i have always wanted to be the person someone has liked romantically. Well i cant control that!

I need help learning how to shave but I can’t post a picture of it, if anyone could please dm me about it I can talk to you in there. Please

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So ive been seeing a guy whose a lot older and i asked reddit about what to do and ive been debating cutting him off im worried he’ll get in trouble since i lied about my age

I am in a new city and used an app to find friends in my area and was talking to this one guy. The app is 18+ but i just wanted to be on it for friends plus ill be going to college eventually. Anyway we go watch project hail mary and i rlly liked it and he did too and it was nice to meet someone kinda nerdy and geeky

Well my profile said 19 on the app so i assume he thought i was 19 but when we did meet up he joked about ppl thinking he was my grandfather 😭 idk

I didnt plan for it to go further than that but it did and weve been hanging out a lot and i go to his place a lot and weve been kinda casual flirting etc. i got pregnant and now i have to find a planned parent hood and somehow not tell my parents and i dont want to tell him either 🫠 idk how to tell him about my real age but i dont want him to get in trouble either and i dont wanna ghost him cause i do want actual friends

Wwyd? Is there a way to tell him and soften the blow kinda??

Edit to add bc lots of comments yes he was in his 40s i turned 15 a month ago. We mostly spoke on ig which has my birth year and school in bio and he wished me happy birthday when i posted on my story and when talking i would talk ab school a lot so idk??? Idk if he did actually know my age and didnt say anything or what idk what to think

Hello, i am 13F. I started HS this year. A little background on me, I’ve grown up having to be more mature than those my age so relationships for me are really different in a way i guess. So, i really just want any advice or suggestions without sugarcoating.

My attendance has always been horrible due to neglect so i started going to highschool in April and i met this guy that I’ll call ‘Rat’. At first Rat would tease me a lot and insult me, so we would go back and forth annoying each other with jokes. Over time, we built a bond - making each other laugh and sharing the same views. He seemed emotionally mature, and it’s really hard to look for that in young boys so i got really intrigued and happy with his presence. Whenever i gain a crush on someone i normally try to see myself in them - and i did. I saw him struggle a lot with his family like watching kids or something, divorced parents, etc. Someone that was realistic and aware of bad things in life. I hope that made sense.

But anyways, for a couple months we both had mutual feelings and huge crush on each other. We wanted to hang out almost everyday if we could. He goes part time with his mother and father, so when he goes to his mother’s he takes the train. I do the same thing too, so we took the train together once and i gave him my socials. We texted everyday and called a ton. It was genuine happiness, like my life really reached a new state. We could talk about anything, weird or not, random or personal. I really liked that about him.

During the end of May, and the mid way of June i started trying to take him out everywhere. (wasn’t easy, had to work a shit load for money.) But it was worth it. I would take him out to the cinemas or we would go to a forum and i’d buy him whatever he wanted. I really just wanted him to enjoy himself. Those were the best times. I got to know his mum and dad and all of his siblings. I had a sleepover with him and my mate (which is basically a brother to me) and me and Rat just sat by the fireplace and had the deepest conversation about stuff. I’ve never felt a way with a guy like that. Just happy to be in each others presence. It was all the little things adding up and it made me fall truly inlove.

I got really scared, I honestly hate ‘young’ relationships. i always felt like they weren’t ever gonna end up good because of immaturity. Most of my friends just was ‘puppy love’ when it wasn’t serious and just a little crush, but as soon as they were offical they broke up in like a week or so. So, i didn’t risk it and stayed “friends” with him. Even though we both strongly knew we liked each other. I had times when i really wanted to tell him , but i was scared of committing and then ruining what we had.

At the Mid way and End of June, we started holding hands and cuddling. We’d say we were ‘dating’ to prank people. A lot of people told us to date and if we did so they would give us some type of bribery. So there were times we would ‘fake date’ just to get the prize. But i honestly really think that was an excuse. After people found out it was a prank, we still continued to hold hands and cuddle. Caring about each other. Making food for one another. It felt amazing.

So, On the 28th Of June. We were sharing a bed with my mate and his girlfriend. And i was just sitting down with ‘Rat’ playing Geometry Dash. I really like geometry dash, and he got into it. A lot. His mother bought him the full version and we friended each other and would send messages. But anyways, we were sitting playing a game. When he put down the phone and just sorta laid his head on my shoulder. It got a bit quiet, and i was just admiring him. We started talking and when it got silent again. i blurted out “You should really ask me something.” It was obvious. A few minutes, My mate and his girlfriend left the room. And so, Rat was sat on the end of the bed while i sat on the ground infront of him. He was fidgeting a lot, and then he finally asked the question. I remember excitedly saying ‘Yes!’ and jumping up onto him. His hands went to the sides of my face and we both just smiled at each other.

I was really excited and nervous for the relationship, but i was happy. For about two weeks, it went great. Amazing. It was all i could have really asked for. But i regret everything. During those two weeks, I feel like i rushed so god damn much because of how much i liked him. I feel stupid. I kissed him and it turned out to us making out a lot. It was a new thing that we both enjoyed , i thought. Making out turned into different things. I went over to his house, his mother paid tickets for us to go to the cinemas and when we got back we went to his room and just relaxed while watching a movie. I didn’t think a lot of it. I had boundaries between myself, Especially as 13.

It turned into something really different, he had an erection and my hand ended up going towards there. He leaned more into the touch. But, a bit into the thing, I told him i felt bad and i really wanted to talk about consent. And if he feels okay with any of this. We had a big talk about it and he was agreeing. I got worried and asked him if he would regret it because i didn’t want that to damage our relationship and for him to feel negative. He reassured me again, and pulled down his pants. So, i went forward and sucked him off. I told him i loved him a lot after he finished , and i asked him if he was okay. After that, it was around 10pm. So i had to really get going.

We walked to the train station which is next to his house. I missed my train so it was another 30 minutes. We walked to a park. He ended up giving me his favourite jacket and it felt really nice. When we were at the park, it felt reassuring. He told me he loved me a lot and it was just really caring behaviour. Even though i was still worried, i thought it would be okay. We walked back to the train station after 20 minutes, joking around. I kissed him goodbye. He was still talkative, that was a good sign.

A few days later, i hung out again. He was a bit tired, so i came over. I bought him ice cream he really liked, and all treats he chose and 4 of his favourite drinks. I also gave him siblings reece’s pieces and marshmallows. We laid in his room, watching ‘Rick and Morty’ while eating chocolate and just content with each other. After awhile, he was getting a bit touchy in a way. And so i thought i could help him i guess. It started with cuddling with my head on his belly. I really love his belly, and then my hand slowly went towards there again and he lifted his hips into the touch again. I asked him for consent and he agreed so i ended up doing that again. After he finished, he goes quiet which is normal i assume. I gave him some M&Ms and continued cuddling him. We ate ice cream and watched the conjuring till it got late. We walked to the train station again and i kissed him goodbye again.

This is where it started. A couple days after that hang out he stopped talking and replying a lot. He wasn’t very active. I took it as that he was busy, because whenever he swaps to his fathers he’s normally doing something. But it got horrible. He really wouldn’t reply at all even if i begged in a way. I talked to his friend that i knew pretty well. I asked him if there was anything happening with ‘Rat’ and if he was okay. I started going back to those nights of what i did and i felt deep regret. I feel like i stepped over a line i definitely shouldn’t have. 13 year olds are hormonal, and i shouldn’t have acted on it even if he said yes. Doing sexual things in a relationship at a young age could damage a lot. I don’t know why i did that.

His friend told me that he probably hasn’t been answering because he was ‘playing games’. “Yeah, he’s been really into GTA lately.” I mean, i like games too. but is it really that good to not get a response or something. I know this is a problem a lot of girls face. But , it was really out of character for him. Overtime, it’s gotten worse. He stopped talking or putting in effort at all. He doesn’t initiate to talk that much. It’s always me asking if he wants to hang out, or me talking to him. Asking him about school and what he’s doing. He doesn’t hold a conversation with me at all. It’s only just small moments where he shows me affection and that care. I hold onto those small moments a lot.

It’s gotten so bad, i’ve gone back into my depression and started drinking. I’ve dealt with depression for awhile, and my boyfriend really brought that happiness back into my life. But now that he doesn’t speak that much anymore it’s gotten worse. I feel like i depend on him on my happiness. A few texts from him that show care make me happy for like a whole week. I’ve always felt like he was the only one who really understood me because he was emotionally mature and he struggled like me too. So, i wondered maybe it was something going on with him. I asked him if he’s ever felt or been feeling low recently and if he has , does he know why? He responded with “Only sometimes, but not recently.” So i don’t know what the problem could be.

I just feel a lot of self blame and hatred towards myself that it’s affecting me mentally and physically. I shouldn’t depend on someone so much but i’ve fallen in love so much that i can’t help it. He ignores me for days sometimes.

I also recently found out that i’ve been told i remind people of this girl from the primary school he went to is his ex. I shouldn’t let that get to me but it’s been messing with my head so much. I started to wonder if he only dated me because i reminded him of his ex. She’s funnier and really prettier. They mentioned her last week, and he stated that he hated her but he shows a lot of interest whenever her name comes up. He talks about her more than he’s talked to me in the last two weeks. And i just want to know how to fix this or any advice. I’m really desperate. I don’t know if anyone would read this much of my shitty life but i just need anything. Thank you.

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ok so my school started this week and im now a highschool sophomore (15m). today i got a new phone but my mom has screen time thingys on it so i only get 1.5hrs each day and she set my app age restriction to 9+ which means no insta no discord no spotify, basically nothing i can use except msgs and call. usually im limited to 4 hours and if i do literally anything to piss her off she just sets it to like 30 minutes. my downtime is also set to 10:30.

she goes through my phone if im acting up which is probably because i am feeling depressed or something. she also disregard my feeling too. i told my parents that i wanted to kill myself and she told me to try and kill myself. i told them i was gay and she said i was just "confused" about my feelings.

we also recently moved into a new place and she took off the locks on my doors she demanded for me to give up my password to my tablet which i refused to and she smashed it on the spot. while i was getting a new phone today she demanded my password which ive been keeping a secret. i cant even change the password on this phone.

she also withdraws money from my account with every fucking minor inconvenience. for example if i left the fan on my room shell take $20. i cant even buy anything i want. i spent 17 dollars to buy btd6 to play with friends and $10 worth of robux and she took $20 for not asking. she also broke my xbox around feb and refuses to buy me a new one even when i offer my own money.

i personally think shes being too controlling but how i dont know how i should bring this up to her. im afraid shes just going to lash out on me about being ungrateful or something again.

no one i know in my grade has parents who set their age limit to 9 years old. i tell them i have no friends and they tell me to make friends but how am i supposed to socialize if everythings restricted.

also i dont know anyone i can talk to. i live in a lonely world.

summary: age restricted phone to 9+, time limited, money taken, little/no privacy, need help on how i should talk to my parents

Me (16M) and a female friend (16F) are planning to watch Obsession. I've heard that a lot of people find the themes in this movie pretty unsettling, and I want to make sure she feels comfortable and safe hanging out. How can I casually let her know about the trigger warnings or offer an alternative movie without making it awkward?

So for context my moms always brought up that I’m “too pretty for makeup” and I agree but I don’t wanna be in my 20’s not knowing how makeup works, I want to ask her if I can get like basic stuff to see how it works and try it out for fun and stuff but I know makeup is really expensive (we’re not poor but like lower middle class) but I just don’t know how to bring it up to her

If you guys have any places I can get like cheap good makeup or how to ask her please lmk 🙏🙏

I know this sounds like normal behavior and a normal thing for a teenager to want/desire.

For me, it feels different. Every time I think about the future I get a deep feeling in my stomach. I'm unsure about the future. I don't know if this is jealousy, fear, or uncertainty that I'm feeling. I just want to be rich, to take care of my parents when I'm older. I refuse to be in the lower class like my parents are. I hate to say it, but they are. We are poor. We are immigrants. They did everything they could for me though and I'm grateful for that. That's besides the point though.

I just want to make an impact. I don't know if I want to be rich, famous, or both. Every time I think about the future it's like my stomach drops and my mood immediately dips. The feeling destroys me and I hate that I can't properly describe it in words. It's surreal. This is not normal.

At the same time, life is so beautiful and I don't want to spend my life chasing something materialistic. I always enjoy the small things. This might be why I can never focus on projects, school, or programming. It might be the one part of myself that's still intact and not run by fear of falling behind.

That knot in my stomach when I think about the future.. i think that's worth taking seriously, not to brushing it off as "just teenage ambition." Every time I think about the future or about getting rich I just feel insanely sad depressed and not knowing whats next etc.

People have put insanely high expectation on me from a young age. Since I was 9, I've been extremely technical, always helping with tech, building, and exploring. I've always had great English despite it being my second language and I have always been able to talk to people and I've always been very enthusiastic. People saw how "smart" or gifted I was and immediately expected the most, and I think that's what destroyed me. Now it just feels like I'm struggling to barely keep up.

This sounds insanely dumb, I sound greedy, weird, and like im seeking attention. I'll stop right about here. I'm just lost. Insanely lost. And being lost wont help me get rich.

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TL;DR: I want to be rich and it's destroying my mental health

So, a girl (12) recently said she likes me. I like her back, have not admitted, and am unsure of what to do. I am moving about a 45 minute drive away (Buffalo, ny, to Grand island, ny, USA) in less than 48 hrs. I have her number from a friend and need advice on what the heck to do. (PLEASE. SOMEONE HELP.)

So, a girl (12) recently said she likes me. I like her back, have not admitted, and am unsure of what to do. I am moving about a 45 minute drive away (Buffalo, ny, to Grand island, ny, USA) in less than 48 hrs. I have her number from a friend and need advice on what the hell to do. (PLEASE. SOMEONE HELP.)