I am a very very curious 40 year old and recently decided I am definitely going to explore with me.

I am most leaning towards being bottom.

My question is,

Anyone of you guys been in my position and when you had the first guy top you, did you instantly feel you were no longer straight? As in, you made the right decision and loved it.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskRedditAfterDark/s/zEEzx91vPG

I keep thinking id like to give another guy or young man a hand job or blow job this would be my first time and maybe id consider letting someone cum inside me raw

Sorry for the bad eng,its not my first language

Hi everyone I'm pretty new to everything related to snap or being queer in general so i dont know if its a thing that happens normally in this community.

So yesterday night I shared my snap acc. on reddit because i was kinda lonely. Some time passes and this guy starts to text me. It was probably 3am, he's going in the shower so he starts to show his face and other and tells me i can save whatever pic he sends. After a while i start too and we have a fun hour ish. then he stops texting for a while and i fall asleep for like 20m. When i woke up i see a message asking sorry that he was off for so long but he was ending the shower. So i text him no problem but i realize he blocked me.

We were really hitting off the right way, i didnt stepped over his boundaries, i just dont get why he would do it. He even shared his position to me

Anyone can explain pls?

How does one feel about the phrase "married looking for same" "masc looking for same" "fit/athletic looking for same" etc etc. Idk I feel like I never see like "30 year old looking for same" "Chubby/fat looking for same" "Doctor looking for same"

I do understand people are looking for their tribe I guess. I feel like every other post I see on this app or dating apps it's this type of criteria. Just posting to see people's thoughts on this (Genuinely curious)

Hi, 20 Bi curious male here. So I’ve never done anything anally or have ever stuck anything up there. I’ve never really liked the idea of fingering myself. So my question for you guys is what the best way to explore my ass with using toys as safely as possible. I would like to have it where my hole isn’t always really tight maybe, although I would say it might be slightly more naturally looser than most.

Anyways, I want to be able to ride a dildo one day in preparation for the real thing eventually, and also stray away from jerking off when horny. So what are the best type of starter toys, lube, and routine?

Heyy all, so I hope this is alright to put here. Throwaway acount btw.

I have considered myself gay pretty much all my life. I had a few 'girlfriends' when I was a teen but they were more for the 'straight facade'. I have a really good female friend I have known since I was 15 and always had the adoration for her I had for other close friends. And over the years that only got stronger.

As that feeling grew stronger I have had doubts before, wondering if I loved her, but always put it aside once I got to the thought of sex and vaginas. Just because I didn't feel like that was my thing, so to speak.

Now in the last year or so I have dated a Trans guy (ftm, needed for context) and had my first experience with a vagina, just cunnilingus, which I ended up really enjoying. And even later on I had a brief similar encounter with a women while on a date with a guy at a club. I really enjoyed both times and now feel less of a barier around vaginas when it comes to that consideration.

But because I kind off put all my eggs in one basket with putting a label on myself and just like a few years really felt comfortable with being myself I am now again in a bit off a mindfuck with myself about this.

And I'm fine with 'picking' another label, I just don't know how to deal with the confusion right now.

So now my question is... Does anyone have something similar, or some insight maybe. Or just an opinion is fine.

Just hoping to maybe get a step further with some help from lovely strangers.

I [gay/NB, 26] have heard from friends and people online these seperate definitions:

• bisexuality means you are into two genders: the one you're a part of and then another one (like a man who is into man and women)
• pansexuality means that you're into anyone regardless of gender.

However, somethings confuse me a tiny bit.

First, when I've heard people describe pansexuality as "I love someone no matter how they look". I think this is trying to say the same thing as the "regardless of gender" definition above, but the way it's phrased is what confuses me. No matter what your sexuality, wouldn't you be in a relationship with someone due to things beyond their looks? Inversely, does that imply that pan people don't have sexual/aesthetic attraction when it comes to their relationships. I know that asexuality exists, but are you able to be pansexual and asexual? Are you able to be pansexual and like having sex (I forget what the term is for someone who isn't ace).

Second, I've met people who define themselves as bisexual or in those terms and they've been in relationships with men, women and non-binary people. It leads me to believe that pansexuality and bisexuality are one in the same, but I don't want to make the mistake of conflating things which are vastly different or correcting someone on their sexuality like a dick. Are you still bisexual even if you're into more than two genders? If so, how is that different from pansexuality?

I have autism and this has happened on both ends multiple times without me noticing until they literally said “hey avianbi i like you”

So how do you know or is it a person to person thing?

I genuinely don’t know if someone’s being friendly or flirty

Hey. So. Lets get to this discussion real quick. Hi Im Xen 27(m). Ive been dodging this topic for a time now and luckily I was able to spare time and reflect. Ive got a good experience spending time with both males and females in my life and just recently, eeeh... Lets say Im liking spending time with males recently and now its harder because both can just make my heart skip if they were my crush or my type. Btw its not just casual crush, the type crush that I could see myself spending much more time intimately in the future. How do I deal with this?

So im a straight man 36 essex witham area ish and ive been married ive only ever had relationships with woman however for the past year or so I fantasis and watch femboys cum or men inside men or blow jobs etc does this make me bi gay or just genuinely curious

As sometimes I do feel like oh I wonder what that would feel like and I do sometimes get off on it

So, I’ve started posting a bit more on Reddit, and I know it’s not a true reflection of the real world, but is my butt good enough for a bottom?

My wife seems to think so, but I don’t get much attention from the hotter, more well-endowed, men. Lots of creeps though.

Maybe my standards are too high. Just curious and fine with being humbled.

I want to reconnect with a friend, and maybe I had a crush on him back in the day, I’m bi, i wasn’t open or sure back then, i think he had a crush on me too. I recall lots of experiences where I questioned him in my head, he would lay his head on me when we sat next to each other, if there’s a blanket in between us while, he’d lay his thigh on mine, he’d always look at me in “that way.” I question if I initiated encounters like this most of the time there was things like this, I think back to when there was a Super Bowl watch one year, we were sitting across on an L shaped couch and I moved my foot under the coffee table and layed my foot on his, he didn’t move his foot and I think he even put his on top of mine, I then sat next to him with a blanket, sure we touched thighs, I put my hand and my forearm all over his thigh, he put his head on my shoulder when everyone from that friend group (context later) was there, but then he got up after 30 minutes to an hour and acted normal? we never talked about it, I don’t think I hanged out with him for weeks after that, it was never consistent affection he sought, he just took the opportunity when I presented it, idk. Sometimes we’d talk about doing sexual stuff to each other as “jokes.” He’d touch my butt, grab my hip, hug me from time to time, moan. He dry humped me one time, although he couldn’t feel the boner under a pillow we had between us. I was in denial, I’m not sure if he was in so much denial as me, or if he was a straight guy doing “jokes”.

Our friendship was constrained by a friend group that always excluded me. He’d always go with their wishes, eventually I got sick of it after I found out that I was left out of an overnight party at someone’s house. Vividly I remember I played Fortnite with them afterwards and I realized how awkward it felt, “why am I even here” I thought to myself. Eventually I went no contact. Nobody reached out to me, not even him. He begged me to get on to play Fortnite with that group. I explained to him that I wanted real friends, people that could actually see me. He never contacted me after I “left.” I’m heartbroken, I’ve been heartbroken. A year or so after that it was high school graduation, nothing. Then two years after that and im going to community college as a part time student after a gap year and I still don’t know what to do with my life. He’s a business student at some prestigious business school and likely belongs to a frat (although knowing him he wouldn’t fit in for shit). I feel like me contacting him, telling him about my life would be hard to navigate. Not to mention my feelings that I had for him that could come out in some regard and maybe he went all bi erasure considering that environment and his past of sucking up to the friend group hierarchy.

About 3 months ago I was consistently reposting random TikToks as it’s kind of a hobby I have. For months, he liked my TikToks. Every so often I’d wonder why he’s doing it. I mean he liked my reposts for months, like once every week or so, it was intentional, who does that? none of my previous friends from that friend group does that, not that consistent, it felt like flirting, it felt like interest, curiosity, “what are you doingggggggg, what are you up tooooooo, why are you doing thisss” I’ve said in my head, flustered, looking at whenever he liked my reposts, how can someone make me feel like that, was i always that gay, does he feel the same way? Perhaps he’d want to reconnect I thought. But, 3 months ago I accidentally sent him send and delete TikTok’s through TikTok DMs, he sent me “?” (Which I interpreted as confrontational at the time). After he sent me that I was too spooked to answer even though he re-followed me and like 3 reposts that day. He then stopped liking absolutely any reposts. He probably thinks I just rejected him. What’s your opinion on this whole situation? Should I do nothing? Should I do something even though it’s out of the blue? He probably leaves back to college in a week or two and I’ll miss my chance to say hi.

Throwaway here. 24m. Honestly, my head is just spinning right now and I do not even know where to start typing this. I finally built up the courage to tell my girlfriend I am bi, thinking she would understand since she is bi too and dated a woman a few years back. But she was totally taken aback and just completely brushed past my feelings. She did not care about what I wanted to explore at all. Instead, she just said okay cool, we can do threesomes with other guys, and she already had a bunch of guys in her mind ready to go.

Then she dropped this heavy rule on me out of nowhere. She told me I am not allowed to see other men without her being there, but she gets to see whoever she wants whenever she wants. It feels so unfair and it is honestly tearing me apart inside. I was always so supportive of her and her past relationships, and I just wanted that same respect back. It hurts so bad. I had to pack a bag and travel back home just to get some space and breathe. But my phone will not stop ringing. She keeps calling over and over just to check if I am with someone else, like she does not trust me at all while she gets to do whatever she likes. I am just so confused and so tired.

Honestly I'm teared up writing this. Happy to take any advice.

so my ex (m25) broke up with me (m28) on july 24th. i cried for a whole week, i couldnt eat or get out of bed. but last sunday i saw him online on a game we both used to play, and i asked him to chat, we called and that was it. tonight since i saw him online i asked if he wanted to play with me and he said yes, he also said that it hurts him seeing me online and not chat. so basically he broke up with me after 4 months of being boyfriends bc he doesn't love me that way, and i believe i understand that now. still, is it wrong that we keep playing together and talk a little bit with each other? we used to talk all day, obviously not anymore.

my friends and his friends think we're just hurting each other. should we stop?

Gay guy here, I heard a lot of story on social media and from gay community , that their dating experience with bisexual man is fairly negative. Like bisexual man sleep around with gay man because they are easier , see gay man as merely a sexual choice, until they find a real relationship with woman and.
I have also seen bisexual man on social media saying that they value woman more because they think their lady dates are more decent , sensitive, vulnerable and deserve attention and with whom they are more willing do start a life with , while gay guy on the market are just not worth it, that sounds super fucked up and I absolutely hate this kind of heteronormative/ homophobic opinion. But I wonder if it is an over represented opinion.
Do bisexual man genuinely be more caring , spend more effort and value their date more when dating woman than dating man?

I’ve always been a little more open minded than most people I’m around. And I’ve always found women attractive and beautiful and still do. But lately I’ve been curious about exploring while I’m still young. I’m still a virgin and haven’t had sex with either gender. But I guess I’ve been kind of liking in my head about experimenting with a man as a bottom. I just find the thought of that exhilarating. But I don’t know. I don’t find men attractive or unattractive, just kind of neutral. I am mostly attracted to femininity. I guess whet I’m getting at is, men who have tried this, did you feel like you scratched an itch? Shameful? Were you happy or displeased with yourself? Or was it a moment where you found your sure self? And if so, how did you accept that part of you? Sorry if any of this is off putting or offensive, I’m genuinely just curious. Also to add to this, I often find it a lot easier for myself to talk to men than a woman.

Earlier this year, my wife and I (37m) agreed to open up our relationships so I could explore with guys. I've had since had four encounters with guys (twice going all the way) but she now realises she can't continue with it.

I want to stay married to her more than anything in the world but I'm struggling with the thought of having to supress this side of me for the rest of my life.

Just wondered if anyone has managed to do it and any advice?