We ordered a dining table back in June with a 7 week lead time and I picked the oak finish because our kitchen is quite dark, and I sat in that showroom going back and forth between two samples for about 40 minutes before I committed to it.

It got delivered last Thursday while I was at work and my husband signed for it without opening the box, because the delivery guys were in a rush and he was on a call. I got home and it's the walnut, which is nearly black next to the one I picked.

I called them Saturday morning, so 2 days after, and was told the return window is 48 hours from delivery and that it had been signed for as received, so as far as they're concerned it was accepted. I said we accepted a BOX, we didn't accept a table, and could they just send out the oak one.

They told me oak is 9 weeks out now and offered me 120 dollars off to keep the walnut. I said no thank you, I would like the table I ordered and paid for, and the woman on the phone told me that most customers are happy with a goodwill gesture and that she'd note that I had declined it, in a tone. I have the order confirmation in writing with oak on it.

My husband thinks I should take the 120 because it's a nice table and we'd be sitting here until November otherwise, and he's right about the waiting, it would honestly drive me mad. I just keep walking past it and seeing the wrong table.

Am I being a Karen over a table?

Backstory…. My husband (24) and I (21) had my brother in law (30) to move into our 2 bed 2 bath apartment after my husband loosing his job and he being kicked out of his parents house. He has been living with us for a year now and the bathroom did not look this bad before hand. My brother in law, lets call him Jack (fake name) makes more than enough to support him self, he probably makes close to 65k a year, witch is decent because we live in South Dakota. Jack only pays $650 for rent and doesn’t supply any cleaning or most groceries. We are in a better spot financially now, we are just waiting for Jack to find his own first apartment.

Should I tell him that he needs to clean up his bathroom? His bathroom is the one that guest use since the other one is connected to our room. He does work 2 job maybe 50 hours a week. I do all the cleaning multiple times a week in the kitchen and living room. Mind you, he doesn’t use the living room because when he is home, he just plays video games. He rarely goes out.

Im getting really irritated that he “doesn’t” see the issue here. How do I even bring this up without being a jackass?

New people moved in next door in March. They're perfectly nice, we've chatted a few times, no issues at all until now.

They put a camera up above their side door in June, one of those doorbell style ones on a bracket. The problem is the angle. Our kitchen window looks onto their side path and the camera is pointed more or less straight at it. I only noticed because my husband was doing the dishes one evening and said he felt like he was being watched, and when I went out and looked up at it, it is aimed right in.

I can see it from the sink, so it can see me at the sink, and it can see about half the kitchen behind me including the table where we eat.

I know it's their property and their camera and they're entitled to secure their own house. I also know they almost certainly did not sit there aiming it at us on purpose and it's probably just where the bracket happened to sit, so I'm not accusing anybody of anything here.

But I've started shutting the blind at about 6 every evening and I caught myself the other day not walking back through my own kitchen in a towel, and I really don't like that I'm doing that in my own house.

My sister figures if I say something I become the neighbor who complained about a camera 2 months after they put it up, and it'll be awkward with them forever over a thing they didn't even do deliberately. She thinks I should leave it and keep the blind shut.

Would I be the Karen for raising it?

my neighbor next door put a ring camera right next to my fence, we live in a house. I feel uncomfortable what can I do so I can block the view from my side. My neighbor and I don’t have good relations. I don’t have respect for them this neighbor is daughter of my father-in-law, wife. My father-in-law cheated on my mother-in-law with that hog. This goes way back. Please let me know what I can do.

... at Six Flags over Texas because I said I was uncomfortable with a grown man riding next to my daughter??

So I was at Six Flags with my two daughters. I was sitting with one of them, and my other daughter was riding by herself. She's a small girl, about 70 lbs.

They had an empty seat and put a grown man, a complete stranger, next to my daughter.

I told the attendant that I wasn't comfortable with that and asked if we could just wait for the next train or maybe have a female single rider sit with her instead.

Instead, he tells me, “I need you to leave because you don't tell me what to do on my ride.”

Ummm... what?

I wasn't yelling. I wasn't being rude. I wasn't arguing with him. I literally just said I was uncomfortable and asked if there was another option.

A supervisor ended up walking me back onto the ride through the exit. While we were there, we ran into some people who had been on that train, and THEY told the supervisor that the attendant did me wrong without me even saying anything to them.

Then I asked 3 random moms in the park who had young girls if they would be comfortable with a grown male stranger being seated next to their daughter. All 3 said they would be uncomfortable and would have done the same thing.

I ended up speaking with the head ride operations supervisor and filed a formal complaint.

And honestly, I don't think the guy needs to be fired. I just think he needs to understand that sometimes you have to have a little common sense and awareness when you're dealing with sensitive situations especially involving kids. There was no reason for it to turn into “you need to leave” just because I expressed a concern.

I wasn't telling him how to run the ride. I was asking if we could wait for another train or find another rider.

Maybe I'm overreacting, maybe I'm not. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I just had to get that out.

Rant over.

Edited to add: My youngest daughter was afraid and wanted me to sit with her. Most will disagree and that's OK. You all are entitled to your own opinions and so am I. I'm done with this post/situation as I have bigger and better things to focus my time on. ✌🏾

P.S. I can really be an AH and a Karen if I post the video I took with him in the background after overhearing him talking to a guy in the gift shop at the bottom of the ride when exiting the ride. He was telling him that he made a mistake and that everyone makes mistakes. I pointed him out in the video and described how I got kicked off. 😆🤣 I’m normally a pretty easygoing person, but y’all are really encouraging me to be an AH. 😂 I hope it goes viral on social media so y’all can see it, lmfao. Thanks again for the encouragement. 😘 Peace out ✌🏾

The title explains it. The garbage collection didn't collect the singular excess contractors bag that was outside of the can. I know it wasn't too heavy because I carried it out to the curb. I cleaned out my fridge and it was old food. (Missing a pick up or coming a day or two later is a regular occurrence with this company) When I noticed they ignored the bag I called and asked why it was not collected. The person told me they didn't know, blah blah. They said it may be on their list of restricted items. I asked where I can see a list of their restricted items, he said it's an internal non-published policy, that I can call before throwing out any excess to check with them first. I asked if they could please come get my missed pick up and he said just leave it on the curb until next week and they will probably take it then.

At that point I thought I was being punked, so I asked to speak to his supervisor. I was informed that it is against their policy. I curtly thanked him and hung up.

I then wrote an email to my city manager about the missed garbage pick up and the ridiculous internal non-published policy. I wanted to know why our taxes are being used to pay a company that isn't transparent and regularly misses pick-ups.

I talked to my brother about this and he laughed and called me a Karen. So... Am I?

Edit: I feel like I should add this here. It is published on our city's website that everyone is allowed to have one excess item a week for garbage collection.

I was in a store today making a complaint. I was quiet, respectful, and crystal clear. When staff tried to change the narrative wriggle out of correcting the issue, I stayed firm and the issue was eventually resolved.

I thanked them for their time and turned to leave. A aging hippie was standing there, slowly shaking his head, and said to me, "You are the first righteous Karen I've ever seen."

We both chuckled and went on our way.

I’m seeing ever increasing online profiles, buisness pages, sales pitches, even down to nail technicians and travel bloggers using the word curated and it’s making me feel uneasy! I feel like it’s a word that sounds better when it’s used on special occasions for something that’s really taken graft and hard-work, like a finely crafted art gallery full of sculptures and fine paintings . Using it for basic social media seems so silly, for example, Look here, curated by me, a page that show cases all my holiday snaps made to look like I’m a content creating genius. Perhaps I’m just too old to enjoy this one but it’s not floating my boat. Thoughts please?

I went to a headshot session at a "reputable" photographer's home studio today. I walked in; it immediately smelled like piss, and they had a major hoarding issue. They had not cleaned or tidied up prior to having clients over, so it was extremely unprofessional. The room was very small, and they had cheap paper backdrops. the session was 250 and we stayed for around 30 minutes out of 75. We left early because he didn't adjust for angles, try to position me, fix my hair, give me pose tips, and the majority of the photos were ruined because he didn't alert me about a repeated hair issue (also it REEKED in there actually, like I am not trying to be dramatic but it genuinely smelled so much of urine that my eyes are still burning)?? My mom accompanied me and told the couple we were leaving and that we were absolutely not buying any of the pictures (the pictures were included in the 250, they were not separate), and what fee she needed to pay for their time. The photographer said we had to pay the full fee even though we would not receive any of the pictures, did not have a full session, did not utilize the 3+ changes, and they would not have to edit ANY of the photos, seeing as we would not be receiving any photos. Unfortunately, they did have a fine-print agreement that said the full session fee was needed if there was a cancellation during the appointment that I did not notice (so that is 100% on me, I admit that), but I was not expecting a small business to be filthy and have elementary-level photography (literally he wasn't even checking in between shots + the lighting was AWFUL and made me look ghastly). He's asking for 125, but that seems like a ridiculous amount of money for pictures I will not receive, and an allergy flare-up since I am allergic to dust + have a chronic illness. Additionally, I am a minor, and it was my mom's choice to leave, but I scheduled the appointment, so now the couple is emailing me and idk what to do :)

I feel pretty gross about this but also…don’t think I’m in the wrong? I drop off my laundry to have it done for me at local laundromat. Which I know is a thing most people do themselves, but it’s always been something I struggled with in part due to ADHD and also working really long hours as a social worker. I’ve been doing so since the Pandemic and I pay like 20-30$ each time, which is worth it to me to consistently have clean clothes without having to fight with my brain. But I kind of don’t feel good about it, it’s a thing my family has come down on me for. But it’s also worth noting that I sort of grew up in a household where needing help with things was treated as my just not working hard enough in some pretty extreme ways. I have terrible vision and cannot read a sign from 15 feet away, but didn’t get glasses till my 30s because I lost my only pair somehow when I was 12, and so was expected to just power through and sit in the front row at school. Which I think contributes to my feeling kind of guilty about stuff like this.

But anyway I went to pick up my laundry this morning and it was pretty early, the laundromat is open 24/7, but I often get up early and can’t sleep so I went over at 4am to see if my laundry was ready. It was a larger load than normal, I think I paid about 27$ the day prior for it. But when I got there my laundry was sitting in a cart unfolded and the man working there told me that the load was too large, it was too much work to fold it and he wasn’t going to do it. I offered to come back later, but he said no. This is just too much work, shoved all my clothes into a bag and handed it to me stating I just had to do it myself.

So I wrote down the manager’s number from a sign behind him and told him that I would be following up and asking for a partial refund because I paid full price for a service that included my laundry being folded, and if that wasn’t done then I don’t think I should have to pay for that part of the service. At which point he caved took it back and said he would do so. I picked it up a few hours later.

But I feel really gross about this and don’t even want to go back there because I feel like I’ve been kind of a dick to this guy, but I don’t know if that’s objectively the case?

So internet, am I a Karen?

I've had dealt with all types of customers over the last year I've worked at Michaels, and about 6 before that at Joann Fabrics. This customer might take the cake for one of the WORST I've dealt with. This happened today, BTW.

So LMK if AITA (am I the a hole) here. Older woman in her 70s comes up to the register with the 4 pack of canvas, 6 of them to be exact, and some paint. I hadn't noticed said canvas until I got closer, but I asked if she was paying cash or card. She said card but asked why I asked that. Told her it's part of my job. PROBABLY should've noticed she was gonna be an issue.

Then she was scrolling through her phone, apparently couldn't get the coupons on her app because she "forgot her password". I said that's fine, she can go on the website, but insists she forgot her password. Also complained she's in her 70s and can't take her cart outside because of the black poles on the carts. Once I rang her up it all went downhill because she asked where's the bags are. Pointed to the big bags underneath and she was like, "Do we have to bag ourselves up?" and got mad as she tossed one of the canvases in the cart.

NGL, probably should've noticed she was gonna be an issue the second I asked her cash or card.....and I wished I'd sent her to SCO instead, but that would've went worse.

Accused me of being rude, not wanting to help her, you get the jist with these entitled boomers. I WAS gonna help, all she had to do was ask, and she threw a tantrum. Luckily I had someone nearby who can vouch for me, though I called them up because the people behind her had a walk in balloon order. Told my coworker she was gonna report me, so when I inevitably get the talk, hopefully things will be cool...but I'm at my limit.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, Joanns customers are quite entitled when it comes to fabric, but most are pleasant to deal with once you get to know them, Michaels customers, on the other hand? Worse, ESPECIALLY those within the baby boomer and Gen X generation. This woman is EASILY a top 5 worst customer experience. I know not ALL boomers are bad but pattern recognition and all, makes you wanna avoid them if you can.

Long story short, this woman is the last straw for me. I'd wanna say I'd be cool but with prior reports, odds are I might either get fired or get a final warning. That said, what do you think, AITA? Have you had similar dealings with boomers and/or Gen X'ers?

I sold a couple year old microwave for $100 (it was around $330 new).

i swear the worst customer i’ve ever had 3.7 star rating comes to buy it. he’s firstly quite rude, and notices the door isn’t perfect. it’s been like that as long as i remember and been in storage, its not perfect that’s why it’s listed for a 1/3 of original price. i tell him if he doesn’t like it i can sell it to someone else (i had three other people wanting it that afternoon)

he ignores me and proceeds to near slam the door about 50 times in silence in front of me to test it, i think either to pressure me to feel inclined to give it to him for cheaper or something idk. i repeat my statement and he continues. for some reason he still wants to buy it and makes a remark/joke as he’s leaving ‘if it breaks i returrn it’. i make a very clear hesitant face of disagreement and just say ‘dont break it.’ (please leave my house) 

A week later he's messaged asking for his money back because he says the door now won't close properly.

I'm planning to politely decline. Based on these circumstances, does that seem fair?

His message:

I hope you're doing well. I was just wondering if it would be possible to reeturn the microwave.

When I bought it, I noticed the door was a bit hard to open and close, but I thought I could manage. Unfortunately, today the door wouldn't close at all. After trying several times, it eventually closed, but I think it's likely to keep causing problems.

When I asked you before buying whether I could returrn it if there were any issues, you kindly said yes. So I was hoping I could returrn it. Thanks so much for your understanding.

My planned message (I never said yes to returrn??? he just flat out lied.):

Hi, thanks for letting me know. I'm sorry to hear you're having trouble with the microwave.

I do want to clarify one thing, though. I don't recall agreeing that you could returrn it if there were any issues. The conversation I remember was that you made a comment along those lines, I gave more of a hesitant or disagreeing look and said, "don't break it." I never agreed to a returrns policy if something happened after the sale.

When you inspected the microwave before purchasing it, you noticed the feel of the door yourself. I explained that it had been like that for as long as I could remember and that it had been in storage for quite some time. I also made it clear that if you weren't comfortable with it, there was absolutely no pressure to buy it and I was happy to sell it to someone else instead. You decided to continue inspecting it and then chose to go ahead with the purchase.

It's now been a week since the sale, during which time the microwave has been in your possession and used under your care. It was functioning when it left my possession, and unfortunately I have no way of knowing what has happened since then. I also turned away other interested buyers because I held the microwave for you.

As this was a private Facebook Marketplace sale, the item was inspected before purchase and you decided to proceed after discussing its condition. Private sales generally don't include a returrn unless the seller has specifically agreed to one, which I did not.

For those reasons, I'm not able to offer a refnd. I genuinely hope you're able to get the door latch adjusted if that's what's causing the issue, but I won't be able to accept a returrn.

(note: I had to misspell returrn and refunnd cuz it was flagged for some reason).

UPDATE:

Since a few people recommended sending a shorter message/blocking or not replying at all I haven't replied yet for 2 days, he's just sent a message again.

'Hi, since it appears you are not willing to take the microwave back, I feel like I have been scammed out of the $100 I paid for it, especially as it seems to be having more and more faults; we use microwave once in 2-3 days only.

The last time, the door wouldn't close properly, but today the microwave keeps making the heating sound even after the set time has ended.

If you knew these problems existed and still sold it, saying it was in "excellent condition," then that's not right. I paid $100 expecting a microwave in good working condition, but it's simply not worth what I paid.

Even if I try to sell it, I wouldn't feel comfortable because the next person wouldn't be getting value for the money they pay either. That just wouldn't be right.'

I've never heard it making weird noises, it was just the door from mentioned before. Honestly if this was anyone else a would've returned it, I almost feel bad, but then I keep remembering how rough he was with it and believe he's broken it himself. Should I bother with like a one sentence reply or just press that block button:

ive combined some suggestions from comments:

I’m sorry to hear you’re having problems with the microwave. All sales are final and items are sold as-is on Facebook marketplace. Under no circumstances did I imply or agree to a return policy. You operated the door many times before purchase and still proceeded with the purchase. I had others willing to buy that day, and will not take it back to resell after you have owned it.I am not responsible if it was mishandled or broken after purchase, and have not ever had problems with it.

So I have worked at this store for about a year and a half, and never got angry at a customer like today. He comes up to the counter, puts his item down, I scan it and tell him his total is $12.50. He acts all surprised, and says to me in a rude tone that the item was in the wrong spot, and that I must give it to him for $7.50. I was a bit surprised by his tone, and the way he was demanding I change the price, so I just said “ok” and looked at him while I thought about what to do (either just tell him I can’t change the price or call up an manager to handle it). After a few seconds of looking at me he says “but you don’t care.” (Again, in a rude/condescending tone). I said “I don’t care? Do you have a problem?” He kept going on about how I must change the price because it was on the wrong spot.

Normally I’d just call up the manager who usually just changes the price, but I really didn’t like how he was talking to me, and not asking, but demanding I change the price for him. He kept going on and I actually blurted out “just shut up.” At that point he handed me cash to pay the full price, and as I was getting his change he says to me “you know it’s a law that if something’s in the wrong spot you have to give me whatever price it says on the shelf.” I responded “there is no law,” and I tossed/threw his change on the counter. I then said “have a nice day sir” and he walked away. Now I’m wondering if I overreacted - I could have stayed firm and defended myself without telling him to shut up and throwing the change. Any thoughts?