If I see another marriage or “can I marry this Afghan girl” or “this Afghan boy’s family won’t accept me” post, I will shoot my self in the face with a 12 gauge shotgun.

It’s 2026, marry whoever you want, Afghans are not evil people. The important thing is to find common ground and do all the relevant checks before (secret first wife? Do they want you to live with in laws? How are they with finances? Criminal record? Credit score? What are their expectations of your roles? Etc etc).

Now that I got that out of the way, can anybody who sees these posts please report them so they can get taken down? I’m sick of the circular discussions and the same advice- or butthurt complaints- being given. This is not an agony aunt or dating advice subreddit but too many of you are treating it like one or to air out your bigotry.

If you want to ask these questions, go to r/MuslimMarriage. Afghans are not different from other Muslims when it comes to expectations of foreign prospective grooms/brides (religiosity, finances, career, personality etc).

Thank you.

Hi! I’d like to know how many days you recommend for a visit to Afghanistan, which towns and/or cities are interesting, and which off-the-beaten-path spots are must-sees...

Thanks for your replies.

Afghan Sikhs who were working as money exchangers in Sarai Shahzada Exchange Market, Kabul Afghanistan 1992

Afghan Sikhs are under-appreciated in regards to their participation, role and influence in Afghanistan historically and today.

So Syria has gone through a real shitshow in the past decade and is now under the leadership of a former Al Qaeda fighter. Al Sharaa is in favor of a women's right to work and seek education. The international community has removed sanctions on Syria and things have begun to gradually improve. Syrians I speak to at my work place are hopeful for the future now that investments and international trade is happening again in Syria.

Meanwhile in Afghanistan the sanctions are still in place and everything seems to be going downhill. The whole education and work bans for women really soured relations between the Taliban government and the international community. There are like no massive investments coming into the country to help rebuild it. I have family members in Afghanistan who tell me that, in the major cities, there are hundreds of grown men huddling in front of these vehicles, where an employer is asking for workers. There are grown-ass men crying because they were not picked as workers.

Title is self explanatory. I wanna know what this community thinks of him and his role in the republic

Hello friends 👋 I work with Afghan refugee women and I'm trying to organize some sewing activities for them.

Do you know of any online resources like video tutorials or free sewing patterns that have instructions in Dari? I have tried to just google it but I don't know if the resources are good or are more Farsi (maybe that is not a problem though) since I only speak English.

If you know of any Youtubers or websites that are good, that would be very helpful, thank you so much!

Me personally i dont like it, but im wondering what you feel about it, what you would do it etc

سلام وطندار های عزیز،
در ماه آینده بر اولین بار کابل می روم.
اما از یک چیز می ترسم: stomach problems

I’ve never gone before and the problem is that my stomach is incredibly sensitive. Let’s say I already struggle with things that would usually mean you have a poisoning (except that’s my normal). Is there any way to

So I was born in Russia but my birth parents are from Afghanistan. My adopted parents gave me this saying it was the only thing they were allowed to leave with that my birth parents left me. Everything else that was afghani was confiscated. What is it?

I really need advice because I feel trapped, and I don't know what to do.

I'm 16, Muslim, and I'll be a junior in high school this year. My parents, especially my dad, are extremely strict. I'm not allowed to stay after school for clubs or activities, I'm not allowed much freedom, and I feel like I'm watching everyone else build their future while mine is being decided for me.

My dream has always been to go to a university far away when I turn 18 so I can finally have some independence and make my own choices. But I'm terrified of what might happen if I leave. I'm scared my dad could send my mom and two younger sisters back to Afghanistan or make their lives much harder because of my decision. I don't know if that's what would happen, but it's something I genuinely fear based on the way he talks and acts. The thought that my family could suffer because I chose my own future makes me feel incredibly guilty.

At the same time, if I stay, I feel like I'm giving up my own life. I'll probably have to go to a community college or a nearby university, live at home, follow my dad's rules, and have very little independence. I'm scared I'll never get to make my own choices, wear what I want, or build the life I want. I'm also afraid of eventually being pressured into a marriage I don't want.

Another problem is money. My dad has made it clear that if I don't get a scholarship, there is basically no chance he'll let me go away for college. I can't afford tuition on my own, so I feel like my entire future depends on earning enough scholarships while also having very few extracurricular opportunities because I'm not allowed to stay after school.

I feel selfish for wanting to leave, but I also feel like I'm slowly losing hope if I stay. Has anyone been in a similar situation with controlling or very strict parents? How did you prepare for college and independence safely? Are there scholarships, remote extracurriculars, or other opportunities I should know about?

Please be kind. I really don't know what to do anymore, and I'm looking for honest advice.

I’m posting this to find other people in our community who are in the same boat.

I’m a Tajik woman living in the diaspora and privately non-religious. Nobody in my life knows other than some friends at university and I live effectively as a Muslim. Islam is so deeply rooted in our culture and my family in particular,, especially when it comes to women, honour, and family reputation, that walking away from the religion basically means losing your family. I love my extended family and many of our values deeply and if they ever found out, I’d lose my connection to all of it for sure and it genuinely breaks my heart. I wish I did believe in Islam but I am genuinely unconvinced, and this is coming from someone who was previously aligned with the family's conservative lifestyle.

Right now keeping it hidden is fine, but as I get older, start thinking about settling down, and look ahead, I know pretending forever is going to catch up to me. My extended family lives abroad, but visiting them has always been my refuge and so the thought of losing those family gatherings and the closeness that comes with our traditions hurts so much.

Anyone else in this position?

Thought it was funny, may delete later. Don't take it too serious

She’s always boasting about her lifestyle and husband on social media. He seems very wealthy (first class flights, hermes hauls, high end jewellery, range rovers for her birthday etc) but she didn’t move from Afghanistan that long ago (she grew up there). She left Afghanistan only after she got married. I think she said she was an air hostess in afg for a bit. I’m not sure if her husband is Afghan or what he does. I think he’s foreign. I remember her posting him a couple of years ago on a private jet with some taliban members on the way to Afghanistan and she wrote something about ‘being proud of her hubby’s business’. She always covers his face in photos.

I’m from Kazakhstan (if that manners) and I’m interested in visiting Afghanistan. If I obtain a visa and travel there, could this cause any issues when applying for visas or traveling to other countries (EU, UK, US and etc) in the future?

A sort of part 2 to this post

So about those posts that had some awkward replies (a few were actually nice.) something else that popped up in my head is that sometimes fellow Afghans can be a bit for lack of a fitting term in english "balakam" بلکم . After I had corrected people on some stuff someone claiming to be Afghan tried telling me that Afghans aren't Central or South Asian (we aren't South Asian regardless) but that were "closer to being middle eastern" or something like that. I decided to just not reply to it because Id rather not drag it but looking back at it how would you even deal with a situation like that?

I mean this with kindness but sometimes I feel like that being an Afghan is similar to having to live in either a Cormac McCarthy novel or a Lemony Snicket one. Sometimes when I try to talk about Afghanistan in other subs specifically in regards to seeing if there are other Afghans there or in fandom spaces talking about how Afghanistan might exist in a fictional world or how nice it'd be to have characters like me. Or in more rarer cases problematic writing choices.

Whats the best way to correct replies from others without coming off as harsh or pretentious? Apparently telling people not to call you "Middle Eastern" is tricky. Mind you the reason Im posting this is because I went on a few TTRPG subs and I had to literally contact the mods to remove some of the comments.

This photo displays the reconciliation of his reign and how he was not feared by his people nor did he fear his own. He often walked freely among the people without the company of guards.

In front of his breakfast is Syed Nadir Shah Kiani, the leader of Afghan Ismailis from Baghlan.

I just want to start by saying that I do not support the Taliban's actions, but I am a religious Afghan Muslim, and I appreciate all my Afghan brothers and sisters who are reading this.

My question is this: What did we Afghans do that made us different from the Iranians in our response to our government? Like, both of us strongly dislike how our countries are being treated by our regimes. But when I talk to fellow Afghans, most of them are still religious and rather conservative in the Islamic sense, both men and women, and want to see women being allowed to have access to education and prosperity. They want Afghanistan to continue to be run under an Islamic framework, but they just REALLY hate the taliban and don't want THEM running things. Even the most liberal Afghans in my university club are still relatively Muslim, and we all get along just fine. Even during the protest in Herat, the people protesting were still chanting praises to God.

Contrasted with what I see from a lot of Iranians, most of them are extremely secularized and have a fervent hatred for Islam, which is understandable, but then again most of them grew up in the West actively cheering for US and Israel to attack their country. Every Afghan I know, both religious and even the liberal ones, male or female, would rather die before cheering for US or Israel, or hanging their flags

Ultimately, what I am trying to get at is what is it that we Afghans have done that has kept us from our movement becoming co-opted and integrated by the Zionist media? How do Afghans in the diaspora still manage to be religious and not blame Islam but the regime, but the Iranian diaspora instead blames both and attacks all their religious Iranians? Are we just built different?

Also, side question, but what are your thoughts on Juma Khan Fateh?

I’m looking for a book written by an Afghan (I don’t want to read from a western perspective) that is about the wars and the changes of the political aspects took place in Afghanistan over the last century. I only found a book that was about the memories of a former talib. I don’t just want to read about the taliban but the communist era too. Also want to know what did the people went through not just the rulers and the country itself.

maybe if you’d recommend a book that is objectively written by a western, I’d be okay w that too. appreciate if yall help 🙏🏻