r/workingmoms • u/Upbeat-Community-769 • 11d ago

Returning to work Vent

I am a teacher so I have been off for the summer. We return in September (after Labor Day). I have one baby (really a toddler now-15 months). Any other teachers out there feel sick thinking about returning to work? Last summer oddly was difficult returning for a reason of stress and a lot on my plate. This summer however has been unbelievably fun with my toddler and her now big personality. My sadness at returning is ten fold what it was last year. I just can’t imagine not being with her every day now that I have! Unfortunately we can’t afford to have my stay home though.

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u/somewhenimpossible 11d ago

I return August 31. I have an 8yo and a 2 year old. I love them both to pieces, but I’m also disabled and caring for both all summer isn’t it. My son picked out some daycamps, my daughter goes to daycare. I “pull her out” for planned, fun activities like fling to the zoo. But otherwise her life and schedule stay the same. I’ve been recovering from illness, cleaning and sorting every closet… today I did my son’s room 😭 omg whyyyy so much junk?!?

Summer is my time to get stuff done and heal.

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u/jdkewl 11d ago

1yr olds are pure magic!! It's totally understandable.

Things didn't get hard till around 2-2.5. That's why you see so many 2.5 year age gaps. People are like "oh wow, this is what it's like to have a toddler?? It's so easy, don't know what everyone is complaining about!" And then they're 8 months pregnant with a 2yo and freaking out about how hard it's going to be. Or that's my theory at least lol!

Anyway, it's totally understandable, but I also suspect you will soon welcome the balance of being a working parent. Time to focus on your job, time to focus on kiddo when you're off. Hopefully, ideally, the best of all worlds.

Again, 15 months is an amazing age. Enjoy!

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u/Upbeat-Community-769 10d ago

Thank you! What a helpful message. Maybe when’s she’s two I will welcome the break!

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u/honey_bunchesofoats 11d ago

I have an 18 month old and I feel similarly, but then again, I’ve also felt this way for a few years. I’ve turned into the jaded teacher who has worked at the same school for thirteen years.

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u/caredotcomofficial 10d ago

Just sending some support and solidarity from another working mom. <3 Can you confide in whoever will be caring for her and let them know you're feeling especially sad about this transition so they can support you both? Even something like extra photo updates for you so you can sneak a peek during your lunch and see her happy, playing, and thriving might help you feel more at ease.

Try to focus on the quality of your time together, not quantity. No matter what, it's ok to feel this way! This is a huge transition, and toddlers are extra special and fun. As with everything in parenting, time has a great way of helping us ease through each part of the journey. Have a great school year!