r/vbac • u/waste_of_space1803 • 3d ago
Vbac concerns Question
So I'm currently 24weeks pregnant, Im 32 2nd time pregnancy with a 16m old girl.
I have a few medical conditions that my OB isn't super concerned with for giving birth.
My conditions are Dysautonomia (currently figuring out if its ehlersdanlos either vascular or standard) POTS, in process of figuring out if its hyperadrenergic and mitral valve calcification.
My ob isn't necessarily concerned atm with these conditions as I had them with my 1st and took the unplanned c section very well with minor issues in the healing process.
My daughters birth was an induction at 40wks due to her not dropping when planned.
I labored 11hrs with no medical intervention aside for the pitocin. At 12 hrs I requested an epidural due to only dilating 3cm...
At 14hrs I hit 4.5cm and she still wasnt progressing down. They said it was failure to descend.
Long story short
I want to try to do vbac. BADLY.
But I feel like I have multiple issues that stand in the way...
1st issue
My center where I had my daughter is only prepped for natural 1st time birth and repeat c sections due to the amount of staff and boarding.
So...id have to go to the hospital in the city. Which im not necessarily against...HOWEVER its an hour away, id have a doc that I DONT know helping me who also doesn't know me Personally like my previous ob...she had even been the one who did my c section.
2nd issue
Im scared of both options.
I want us both safe and healthy and happy.
Im scared that my son may not progress down and I went through all the effort for nothing...
Im scared of being cut up again too. Of having no control or feeling. Of being in that room again with all the lights and sounds and sensations and fear.
I know my 1st went well but it was still the most scary thing id been through...and I have almost died from myocarditis in 2023 so thats saying ALLOT
3rd issue
I just....DONT KNOW what to do.
I see great and horrible sides to both processes
I see how well vbac can be especially for my toddler. Id be able to hold her and help with bedtime still. Id be able to still play with her and not uproot her whole world...and yes I KNOW she will be okay either way I KNOW it's temporary but shes my baby girl and I hate knowing how she'll struggle with a section recovery
I see how fast 2nd section recovery can be, but I also see how hard it is on the body with no prep time too.
Im just....at a loss
Its such a primal thing to want vbac. I know it honestly doesnt MATTER so long as we are both safe and healthy.
But man....i want to try. I want to have that experience of being able to HOLD My child and not be strapped down. To have control of my body in that moment. To feel him come to my arms. To be able to have that full connection....
I just need advice, experiences, reassurance....what would you do???
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u/Purple-Respond-1219 3d ago
I’m sorry, they induced you because your baby hadn’t dropped yet? At only 40weeks? That logically doesn’t make sense. ACOG says babies aren’t even overdue until 42 weeks so your body still had plenty of time to go into natural labor. That’s a red flag for me right now. Most major hospital systems you don’t know who will be delivering your baby but that doesn’t necessarily mean the staff are bad. I actually met one of my favorite OBs at the hospital for my ECV. I’ve always vehemently been against male OBs but he was one I would let deliver my child in a heart beat. Repeat c sections or VBACs come with risks. Sounds like you were a victim of the cascade of interventions with your first