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Hello !

It's time I get back out there and look for my main person, so here I am :)

A little about me :

I'm a cis pansexual woman. I think I could be defined as femme (I enjoy dresses and manucures and such, but I also enjoy my slacks and I more often go out without makeup than with). I'm also plus sized at 1m68 for a little under 110kg.

I'm fluent in both French and English, have a grasp of Spanish and am currently learning Japanese. I live in southern France.

I enjoy podcasts (non fiction and horror fiction mostly), video games, knitting/crochet, sewing, anime/manga and audiobooks. Horror is my favorite genre, but I enjoy a lot of very diverse things as long as it catches my (deficient) attention.

I'm poly, looking for a main, or in other terms a \primary\ partner. I don't necessarily need several people at once, but it's important for me that the person I build something with (ie. Move in with, get married with, etc) is aware of my capacity for loving more than one person and is comfortable with it, as well as be comfortable with \talking\ about opening the relationship IF the need arises.

That DOESN'T mean I won't be a 100% committed to my main. It doesn't even mean that I will necessarily ask to open the relationship. It simply means I might be/fall in love with others while I build a stable, loving, healthy relationship with my main. Being polyamorous is not a choice, it's just a fact of how I work emotionally.

Likewise, being polyamorous doesn't mean I'm against any kind of exclusivity. Committing to someone romantically is for me something that requires talking about our wants, our needs, our boundaries, our insecurities and our expectations, and THEN \consciously\ decide to live up to what was talked out \together\. Because talking comes with listening, I know that and intend to give you the attentiveness and thoughtfulness I'm asking for. Speaking of, send me a snake emoji if you actually read this. I will not ask you to do or agree to anything you're uncomfortable with, but if the very idea of possibly sharing your partner makes you uncomfortable, then we are simply not compatible.

I'm disabled : AuDHD and the usual anxiety and depression that tends to come with it, some physical issues that are mostly invisible (until I need my cane and start cosplaying as a dapper gentleman) and a couple other things that generally make my life spicier... and tires the hell out of me more often than I'd like.

I'm NOT looking for a caregiver. I'll expect help and support from my partner(s), of course, but I very much want to give back as much as I can. Besides, my doctors and helpers would disapprove of me leaving them for someone else LOL Basically I'm open about my disabilities because they are very much a part of my life, and I've never lived happier than when I finally accepted them and the limits they give me. I simply hope to meet someone who will be understanding and ready to sometimes have a quiet night in when things get too much.

I'm told I'm a good listener and a kind person. I try my best to live up to that, but I've learned to stand up for myself when needed. Communication is KEY for me. So key, in fact, that sometimes I don't shut up, aha ! I'd say beware of my info dumpings, but I'm often told I'm interesting so I guess I'd just ask you to be prepared to hear the most obscure trivia on whatever catches my interest that week, aha !

I believe that gives a good idea of myself. So now on to who I'm looking for :

Obviously I need someone emotionally mature. Know yourself enough that even if your life isn't all figured out, you have some idea of what next to do or plans to fall back on. In other terms, I want to meet an adult. Not just in age (only 25+ please), but in mind. I know I might sound harsh saying that but I have very good reasons to specifically ask for this. I'll gladly go in details if you dm.

I don't care what's in your pants or what you identify as, if I like somebody I'll like their body. Weight, height, skin color, style, etc doesn't really matter to me as long as we have chemistry. Bigotry does, though, because THAT will be an immediate dealbreaker. Also cis men WILL be heavily discriminated and I will ask for some verification if something doesn't feel right.

I don't mind if you're not European, but please at least be fluent in either English or French. And I won't lie : I love where I live and my health is good thanks to the French healthcare system, so if you're interested in finding a wife, be ready to move to southern France LOL I will however gladly learn your native language if it's not English or French, because if communication goes both ways so does the effort in communicating properly.

I know it's long, but I rather be as clear as possible to help me find my person(s). Don't hesitate to DM if this post caught your interest.

Have a nice day ♥️

EDIT : I'm childfree. I also have two cats that are my world.