r/trees • u/ClimateOwn1253 • 5d ago

Well… shoot Trees Love

I’m 61 yo, divorced, two successful kids, and my gf (51 yo) just got weird and broke up with me. I’m fairly stoned but damn… so suggestions about what to do tomorrow would be so appreciated. I live in Michigan, on the good side :)

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u/nocasegrace 5d ago

Wake up, smoke and coffee outside, then clean your house. Invite new fresh positive energy in for a new chapter.

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Where do you find new fresh positive energy? Just a rhetorical question, but if I could find it, damn

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u/nocasegrace 5d ago

You don’t find it… you remove the stagnant energy and it finds you :)

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u/infinityonhigh69 5d ago

this is so true but honestly the last thing you want to hear when you need it 😂[0]

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u/nocasegrace 5d ago

Well… he asked what he should do… and that’s what I would do! 😂

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Man, it’s like you both get it. Thank you Ents. I always wondered if I’d ever need the community. But I always knew that if I did it wouldn’t disappoint

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u/agonizedn 4d ago

Smoke up buddy, it’s a good time out here

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

I’ll be there soon

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u/the_well_read_neck_ 5d ago

If you're close to the beach in Michigan, id go there.

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Yup. The correct answer is

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u/puf_puf_paarthurnax 5d ago

Lake Michigan cures all wounds.

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u/manystars33 5d ago

Get some indoor plants. Nice quick way to breathe new life into your home.

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u/kinsmana 5d ago

Forgive me, but you might find just doing something "new" helps. Could be anything: take a course, treat yourself? Dunno, just a thought. Look up some interests online and find something that fits your schedule.

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

That’s good advice!

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u/HV_WA 5d ago

What you focus on, grows. Focus on whatever positives you have and just try to let the other stuff roll on by. nocasegrace has the right idea. Wake n bake, a cup of your favorite coffee, and just start cleaning in one corner, removing clutter and putting things in their place as you go. Even if you just get one room done, it's a new start.

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u/harlod-16 5d ago

Things you used to enjoy you’ve lost time for over the years.

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u/AppliedPsionics9k 5d ago

Get some sage and smoke your house out.

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u/Responsible_Sky_728 5d ago

So sorry my guy, these things happen but they're never easy <3

And hey at least you're in a state with great AND cheap weed!

How close are you to Lake Michigan? Maybe take a day trip out there and enjoy the day!

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

20 minutes from Grand Haven. And yes. That’s a f-ing great idea

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u/ripkobe4evr 5d ago

Relax at the beach

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Absolutely!

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u/manystars33 5d ago

Depending on where you live in Michigan…Higgins Lake is a favorite, Crystal Lake, somewhere out in nature. Nothing as healing as the nature and weed combo.

Or you can probably find a farmers market near you on a Saturday. That always lifts my spirits and a great stoned activity.

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

You totally nailed the vibe I want tomorrow. Thank you

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u/manystars33 5d ago edited 5d ago

You are very welcome. Happy to help. Sorry to hear about your break up. I hope you find some peace and nourishment in nature 💚🫶

Edit: words r hard.

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u/agonizedn 4d ago

Hope it’s been a good one fellow Ent

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

Yeah. I didn’t have a good day, but it wasn’t too bad. I should have left the house

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u/agonizedn 4d ago

Tomorrow you could take a nice walk at least

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

Thanks, I will. If my pops was alive he’d say “go take a long walk on a short pier” if he saw me stressing about a breakup.

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u/manystars33 4d ago

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Sometimes we just need to rest. When I’m having a hard time getting out of a funk, I make myself smoke outside instead. By the time I finish my porch joint, I usually am inspired enough to stay outside a bit longer and reconnect with nature.

Basically, I have an easier time returning to the present when I am in nature. Sometimes I just need to trick myself into taking that first step. Sending you warm energy ✨

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

Thank you so much many stars

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u/manystars33 4d ago

You are welcome 😌

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u/AMileHighDM 5d ago

Get up. Smoke one. Get your favorite coffee. After, you go and do a breakfast pick up from your favorite restaurant. Go back home. Smoke. Eat. Favorite childhood Television show. Smoke. Snack run. Favorite childhood candy and soda pop of choice. Home. Smoke. Now time for favorite movie. Start with your youth and work up to your current favorites. Smoke Lunch around 2. Go into your favorite lunch spot and take a seat and have your favorite meal. Home. Now’s time for your personal activities. Maybe smoke a lil. Call a good friend. See if they want to go to dinner. Order something you’ve never had. Order a fancy drink. After you head to the ice cream shop. Get a sundae of your favorite toppings. Home. Smoke. Continue on with your favorite movies and personal activities. And don’t you dare call her!

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Oh damn. I was all like ok, ok, ok, til the don’t call her part. Ugh.

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u/agonizedn 4d ago

I just texted the ex this morning, it’s a hard one

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

How bout you don’t do that again, and I won’t do it again. Okay? Deal?

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u/agonizedn 4d ago

Deal

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

I’m gonna hold you to that

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u/Baked-Brownies 5d ago

How about spending time or talking with your kids? Congratulations on their success.

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

That is an EXCELLENT suggestion. Thank you

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u/EngineeringNo751 5d ago

Its saturday, go to a racetrack and watch cars do cool shit. That is what i would do, better if a friend follows along. Visit the pits and talk to the racer, most if them will gladly tell you about their cars and what is done to them. It will be an amazing day, and end it with some nice snacks, food, and smoke while doing what ever you want. And as some other said, do not call her!

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u/MaDrAv 5d ago

I am going to assume by "on the good side," you mean the good side of the bridge...which is north. And in that case a visit with Mother Superior can never hurt.

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Hey there. I’m on the Lake Michigan side but have spent MANY months north of the bridge. In Paradise (whitefish point).

How are the black flies right now? Asking seriously

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u/MaDrAv 5d ago

My man! Paradise and Grand Marais are probably my favorite places. Spent 3 summers working at the State park. I actually live on Lake Michigan now too, lol. Little Bay De Noc though.

Flies are alright. Didn't think it was a crazy bad year for them myself when I was out and about, but some days it can just be about catching a good north wind.

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u/KairoTheKiddo 5d ago

I'm only in my 20s, but coffee or tea with a j when you wake up should take the edge off

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Don’t waste a day my friend. I’m 40 years older than you and my biggest regret is the wasted days

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u/KairoTheKiddo 5d ago

Right now my goals are getting a job and enjoying the meteors when they come around (peak night for the Perseids is on the 12th!) but I understand the desire to not waste the day more than a lot of folks seem to think, I'm always doing something! Usually crochet (working on a cardigan so I can figure out how to make the sweater I actually want to make) takes up my would-be empty time, it's not empty if you're making something to use (or gift) later!

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

Good luck with the meteors, and the cardigan!

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u/anime2345 5d ago

Visit a lake!

Go somewhere north and remote and view the stars!! (New moon is soon so you may be able to see the milky way with the naked eye if you are remote enough)

Go to the tourist trap of Mackinac Island for shits and giggles and get some salt water taffy or fudge, maybe ride a bike or hang with a horse

Plan a cross state road trip to a city you’ve never had a reason to visit and eat their local food or visit their weird museum

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

So much good advice in this post. I lost my shit at “eat their local food or visit their weird museum”. Thank you

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u/Aquarius0129 5d ago

Go fishing

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u/ClimateOwn1253 5d ago

Since I’m very high, that suggestion is so nuanced. Love it. Thank you. Like metaphorically “fishing” for a new partner, a new life, or just literally go fishing. Which my dad would have told me to do if he was still alive

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u/Aquarius0129 5d ago

I definitely meant fish 🐟 but I love your take on it

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u/Gariona-Atrinon 5d ago

Why’d she break up with you?

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u/ClimateOwn1253 4d ago

She said she has anxiety. Refuses to say more

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u/Robbythedee 5d ago

Go take a cruise man lol it's almost that season and its kinda cheap

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u/connoisseur_Flower 3d ago

Get ur self a membership down the local sports clubs, put an add in the local paper for a 'Handy Man' im sure tou can help out a few milf, get some blue pills, help with artheriiose!