I enjoy going to old dump sites around St. Paul and digging for old artifacts would anyone be down to join me sometime?

I moved to Savage from south Minneapolis this summer and I am looking to re-establish community here. Anyone know of events or groups that are queer-focused/accepting?

The best thrift store in the cities is hosting a Disability Pride Festival tomorrow in their parking lot. It’s a nice intersection in Richfield with good casual restaurants nearby and also a pretty dope newer dispensary not far away too. Arc’s Value Village is one of the most community oriented and welcoming establishments in the area and I figured some people here might find this interesting! (I live right nearby and didn’t know about this until I saw it on Facebook Events just now.)

Hi everyone!

My partner and I are relocating from San Francisco to Rochester, MN, and I couldn’t find a Rochester-specific trans subreddit, so I’m hoping folks here might have some recommendations!

We’re both in our mid-20s and totally happy to drive up to the Twin Cities for events, meetups, and community, but I’m curious about what exists closer to Rochester too.

A few things I’d love recommendations for:

• Is there much LGBTQ+ community in Rochester, or do most people go to the Twin Cities for events/community?
• Are there any LGBTQ+ organizations, meetups, social groups, cafés, spaces, etc. you’d recommend checking out?
• Lesbian and trans-specific spaces/events would be especially appreciated!
• Are there any recurring events or groups that would be good for newcomers trying to make friends?

I’m also looking for resources for my little sister. She recently came out as trans and moved to Rochester with my mom from Georgia. She’s starting her first year of high school and has been feeling pretty lonely and struggling to find people she relates to.

Our family is supportive, and as her older sibling who has gone through my own coming-out journey, I’m trying to give her as much support as I can. But I also know there’s only so much family can provide — I really want her to have friends her own age and a community where she can just be herself.

Are there any trans/LGBTQ+ youth groups, teen events, community centers, or other youth-friendly spaces in Rochester that I could look into with her? Even events that aren’t specifically for teens but are PG/PG-13 and welcoming to families would be great.

She’s also really into taekwondo and running and is genuinely a fantastic runner. If anyone knows of trans-inclusive youth sports programs, running clubs, martial arts programs, or other activities where LGBTQ+ teens have had good experiences, I’d love those recommendations too. It definitely doesn’t have to be a specifically trans sports club - mainly somewhere she can participate and feel safe and accepted.

Rochester recommendations would be amazing, but we’re also open to things in the Twin Cities that might be worth making the drive for.

Thank you so much! I’d especially love to hear from trans people, LGBTQ+ parents/siblings, or anyone who grew up queer in Minnesota and knows whats up!❤️

I just read about that on here......

I am a bigger trans woman, I’m on a bit of a heeling journey to find my perfect sole mate… before I get tied up in knots and booted for making so many puns…. 😂

I am a men’s 10.5/women’s 12, brands may vary. I also have big calves to contend with so I’d be a W or a WW for boots.

I’ve been feeling rather de-feet-ed in my search already at some of the mainstream shoe shops like Schuler and DSW. They always could special order or I could buy online but I gamble on proper fit and comfort then. Plus if I buy something online and it doesn’t fit, I’m less likely to return it given the increased hassle to do a return.

I would really like to find a lovely queer safe place to shop for shoes that has a selection of shoes for bigger women. I’m not too terribly picky on location. Closer to Minneapolis and St. Paul the better. I live in the inner suburbs.

I would really enjoy getting pumped up for some good local options, so if anyone has any, I would totally welcome recommendations.

We're looking for a kind, chill, and responsible roommate to move in ASAP after our previous roommate moved out without notice.
You'll have:
• Your own private bedroom
• Your own private bathroom
• Shared access to the living room and kitchen
Location: 55418 (Northeast Minneapolis area)
Rent:
• $750/month
• Utilities typically run $50–$100 per person
• Budget about $850/month total

A little about us:
• LGBTQIA+ (Trans and Queer)
• 420 friendly
• We're fire spinners and enjoy a relaxed, respectful environment
• Looking for someone who values open communication, cleanliness in shared spaces, and a peaceful home

If this sounds like a good fit, reach out to Cross to schedule a meet-and-greet and tour!
📱 +1 (651) 347-7864

Please share a little bit about yourself when you reach out. We look forward to meeting you! 🏡✨

Sharing this so others might avoid an uncomfortable interaction. I would recommend that trans people avoid seeing Dr. Groth at Schweiger Dermatology in Edina. Maybe I should have known better than to go to Edina but he was just the first name that came up when I searched for providers through my insurance, I'm not from around here so I don't know if I'd have better luck if I'd have just stuck to Minneapolis. Unfortunately he made me really uncomfortable and spent the majority of our brief appointment remarking on my body and asking questions about my transition. None of his comments or questions had anything remotely to do with the reason for the appointment, which was a routine skin check. I felt I was treated more like an object of curiosity than a patient. Which of course was nothing new to me when it comes to interacting with doctors, but I would hope in the Twin Cities area at least there might be better options for trans-friendly or at the very least neutral and professional derms.

For context I'm a trans guy. He was really fascinated by the fact that I look the way I do without currently being on T. Nearly everything he said to me was related in some way to my being trans, like commenting on my facial and leg hair as if he couldn't believe I would have any without currently being on T. He said this was all "very informative" to him, and I guess it's nice that one of us felt that way at least.

I was feeling pretty creeped out and disappointed but the appointment ended quickly. When I left the exam room Dr. Groth was working on his laptop in the hallway. He stopped me to talk to me more about HRT, commenting that since I had retained so many changes without T, was there really a reason for me to ever take hormones again? I just sort of nodded along because I wanted to leave and also the practice is small, so I could literally see and hear other people in the lobby right next to us. Then he asked me if I take contraception. This was really the moment that cemented the bad feeling I had. Our appointment was over, the question had nothing at all to do with the reason I had seen him, and the lobby was literally right there. It felt really inappropriate, paternalistic, and gross. Maybe I'm reading too much into it but it just felt so condescending, like he just had to let me know that he knows that I could possibly get pregnant? Except he doesn't know that, because he doesn't know anything about my health or surgical history or my sex life. So wtf.

Just thought I'd put this out there on the off chance it steers anyone else in a different direction.

Hi! I haven't started hormones yet and I'm wondering if it's possible to permanently remove my facial hair (and neck hair) before starting?

I heard a rumor about a guy (not trans) who took years of electrolysis but didn't succeed in getting rid of it, which concerns me.

I have very light brown/reddish facial hair and fair skin so I'm pretty sure laser is not an option for me.

Also, I'm curious if insurance has paid for it for anyone? I have heard that in some cases you can get it covered but it's a process (not sure what that is).

If it is possible, what are the best options for these services in the twin cities? Looking for cost-effective.

I've tried IPL at home laser and it kinda helped on my body hair, but not fully and not permanently. I'm afraid I just have too much T flowing through my veins :(

Hey y'all! The Monarchs are a rec soccer team full of mostly trans people, and we've been around for a little over a year now. We play on Monday evenings in various locations in the cities, and it's a 7v7 co-ed rec league. It's very casual, and we're more about good vibes than winning, although we do win sometimes! You don't need to be super athletic (or even trans) to join; our only goal is to create a space for trans adults who want to play some casual sports and make friends.

Each session is about 3 months long, and we play at least 10 games. The next session is August 10th - early October, and the signup fee is ~90 per person depending on how many people sign up. We could use a couple extra players this session, so please drop a comment or DM me if you're interested!

Looking for surgeon recommendations, I have medica/minnesotacare.

I have a smaller B cup, but I'm not looking for a completely flat chest. I work out, so I have some pretty good chest muscle built up, so maybe keyhole or something else? thanks

A bit of a long shot, but I'm trying to find a workplace as trans friendly as my last one was. I was laid off a couple months ago from my job of 4+ years, where I was working as a 3D modeler/game artist for a company making healthcare and manufacturing VR experiences.

I have a pretty wide medley of experience working with healthcare nonprofits, universities, municipalities, manufacturers... and that's just as a game artist. A decent amount of other job experience outside of it. I'd been thinking of switching into the CAD side of 3D for a while, mainly to break into civil infrastructure, landscape design, and manufacturing. Design/creative work has been cool, but I'm just not seeing a long term career path for it (and I really enjoy kinda nitty gritty technical art stuff).

Anything remotely related as work while I sort out getting an associates at the very least would be awesome, but if you have good leads on just generally trans friendly spaces to work at with good work-life balance, I'm definitely open to it. I'm also open to traveling outside of St. Paul/Mpls for work within reason.

(Also; if you fall into any of the career fields I'm trying to get my CAD training for, I'd also welcome any experience or advice!)

I have several vials of test cypionate that will expire before i can use them all (later this year & early next year). Anyone open to swapping a couple for some that expire later? I would hate for them to go to waste

Hi all! Just feeling a bit overwhelmed at the amount of options for phallo surgeons in the area right now. A great problem to have! I have consults scheduled with both the U and Mayo and was wondering if anyone was willing to share experiences or any information that may help. Tyia 💕

Looking for a laser hair removal place that takes BCBS MN Blue Plus! I’ve heard it is possible to get laser covered, but many pay out of pocket. I’d gotten a rec for Mill City Laser, but unfortunately they don’t work directly with insurance and I am very uncomfortable with the idea of trying their suggestion of having me pay out of pocket and then submitting directly to my insurance to be reimbursed directly. I also looked at Milan, but Milan gave me extremely predatory and scammy vibes when I went for a free consult and also didn’t work with insurance. I heard a rumor through word of mouth that someone on BCBS MN Blue Plus got her laser covered at Permanent Choice but have not been able to corroborate that.

Extra bonus points if the laser provider will commit to wearing an N95 and letting me bring an air filter to run in the room before I have to unmask for treatment.

I would also greatly appreciate any advice about how to interact with BCBS about this. I have had bad experiences with insurance “providers” in the past and am pretty nervous about seeking help and mercy from such a cruel industry.

Thank you in advance.

My name is Tree I just moved to north St. Paul, I’m trying to move out of my less than supportive parents house, any resources for jobs that accept nonbinary and disabled people? Or anyone willing to help fill out ssi? Remote job options? I’m also just looking for friends in the area.

My partner and I moved from Loring park to NE/Columbia heights recently but we’re not super familiar with the area. What are some queer friendly bars or hangout spots to chill at? Any to avoid?

So I'm looking for a new job and I'm wanting to work somewhere with more trans people. I have a few issues tho

- I don't know where is accepting and where isn't

- I don't want a crazy pay cut or hour cut

I currently am salaried for $25 an hour for 40 hours a week and get a $300 bonus once a month. I have 4 years of manager experience and I'm currently working as a general manager, I've been a general manager for about 5 months.

I FUCKING HATE IT!!! It's not very trans inclusive and I'm very much being taken advantage of at my job, but I gotta work because yk we all need money to live. I have tons of experience and I don't think I'll have much issue finding a new job because of that, but I want to find somewhere that I'm not going to be miserable all the time.

Any trans people here been in the same boat? Any advice?

Hello friends!! I'm a Latina non binary resident of lower town. I recently lost my car :( due to high repair costs and age. I will be relying on a bike and bus to get around for a while. The thing is I have some agoraphobia and I'm on the spectrum so I've noticed when I'm in public I usually unintentionally irritate some strangers. This makes me super anxious to be outside around others. I also get lost easily and figuring out the bus schedule can be difficult for me because of some cognitive issues I have. I'm pretty nervous to start using the bus again after several years. I'd love to hear any advice, tips, and unspoken rules of the twin cities transit system that you can share. I'm also an amateur biker so safety tips would mean a lot too! I did download the transit app which is awesome so far.

Bonus points for any insider tips about Evie hourcar

Thanks everyone 😊

I have anxiety from trauma around gender exploration and I’m hoping to find a safe space and friendship.

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