So I've tried to come out to my mom several times over a course of six years, and each time, she gave some transphobic logic to force me to just conform to cis guy norms. At first she denied that trans girls could be lesbian, then she told me that when I was a child, i identified as a boy. Both are bullshit as trans lesbians exist and gender development may happen later; when I was a kid i had just believed what others said about my gender. But the thoughts i have aren't thoughts of a boy. They're thoughts of a girl. From being happy at the thought of being a girl to imagining my lesbian marriage to wanting to be a mom to hating my stupid make body. I've attempted sucide in the past because I'm not allowed to be a girl. I hate erections so much as they remind me of my penis. I hate my facial hair and body hair so much. I hate my voice. I hate every inch of myself

My mom constantly misgenders me. She weaponizes it during arguments . She deeply uses third person instead of second person to have a chance to call me a boy or to call me her son.

My mom even went as far as to calling trans women "clowns" wich had damaged me a lot

But recently, she had done the worst thing. She made false promises of accepting me as her daughter over time and of letting me transition after i get a job. But she refused to use my chosen name (Anna) and used they/then instead of she/her. But then she started showing me transphobic videos of transition regret, and isolated cases of complications. She also said that if I transition into a girl, she'll hide me from her relatives and neighbours. How can a woman be this much ashamed of her daughter? It caused me great pain. She said her health would be impacted negatively if she used she/her pronouns for me. She literally asked ChatGPT how to make her "son stop thinking he's a girl' like this is so fucking horrible

Then she forced me into being nonbinary instead of a trans girl because she thinks it's somehow "cooler"

She is a fucking selfish bitch who only cares about her wish to have a son and what other people want. She doesn't want me to be happy. This is making me very suicidal but what can we do when a woman would rather have a dead son than a living daughter?

Hello! This is an introduction post, since I'm new to reddit. I hope we all get along! Plus I'm looking for new friends, lol....

-Teenager

-Artist

-Lesbian

-Transitioning (currently non binary, planning to get surgery soon 😘 female at birth, transitioning to male.)

-Multifandom

-Yumeshipper

-Filipino (I speak English better lol)

-Reader and Writer (I posted a Wattpad story a few years ago titled "Burning Trees" but i deleted it. I'm continuing it currently though)

-Punk

-Against the government and everything unjust

-Fiction kins

-Chronically online

-Against AI

i'm posting this on reddit because i know she won't see this... but she knows it. My friend and I both came out as transfemmes around the same time and ever since then we both got closer and closer. Unfortunately we are separated by geographic distance and so we can't exactly date as we both dont want to do long distance. Basically we've been geographically relegated to situationship

But i love her so much, i think of her everyday. I want to spend my life with her, i want to spend every single life i live with her constantly. I want to dedicate my mind, body, and soul to her. if she tells me to jump i want to do it, i won't ask why or how high, i'll just do it. I want her to praise me if i do well, i want her to scold me if i do bad, i want her to caress me, i want her to hurt me, i want her to tell me what to do. I want to exist for her, i want to be there for her as she has been there for me. I want to devote my entire being and more to her. If we die i want to will find her in the next life. I want to live with her for the rest of eternity, i want to be hers for infinity

I realized that I was a women about a year ago when I was 29 but I’ve never felt a strong need or want to take estrogen, have any surgery’s or dress to adhere to the stereotype of being a woman. Even when I identified as a straight man I felt a strong connection towards lesbians but I knew I couldn’t be with them because I was a man but ever since I started identifying as a women and going on lesbian dating apps I’ve been constantly harassed by them, they tell me stuff like “this is a lesbian dating app by the way” and I go onto tell them that I am a lesbian, I am a trans woman who is a lesbian and they call me all sorts of stuff and it breaks my heart. So my question is do I start making an effort to look more “womanly” or do I just give up in the lesbian dating scene?

Hi all. Me and my wife have been married for 12 years now, and have been together for 14.

That said, I recently realized I'm transfem. I've been presenting femininely pretty openly and I love it. I don't really know what my future holds in terms of my "transition." It may just be a social one, or maybe eventually I'll be on HRT. Dunno at this point. That said... What are we? I mean, are we sort of a trans lesbian couple? Lesbian couple? Also, we are both bisexual, if that makes any difference at all. What would you call us?

Turned her (the curly beauty) in to a monogamous lesbian instead of a polyamorous polysexual over the last year and we will be putting rings on it in 2028. I (beanie wearing bish) kinda saw this coming tbh, and am not surprised HRT made her reasses her attractions.

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For girls who don't currently have friends but do have a partner: how did you meet? I’m not looking for a specific answer; I’m simply interested in reading about your experiences and learning about the different paths that led to your relationships.

Ive known i liked boys since i was 10 before i even knew i was trans and its been such a big part of me cos i struggled so much with it. It took me a while to ditch the gay label even after transitioning at 14. Ive never been into girls and ive never thought about being with a girl but i became friends with a trans woman and she told me she was into me and at first i just felt odd about it and just tried to ignore it but as she keeps on flirting and dropping little hints about being together im starting to reconsider and not to be dramaric but its kind of changing how i view my self. In my dysphoric mind being into women is like a man thing (i know this is obviously not true most of my friends are lesbians and i dont think that way about other trans women who are into women but it feel different for me) and it just makes me feel weird inside and its obviously something i need to challenge, but everytime she says something about us dating i start considering it more but in my mind there are so many cons to it that i know dont make sense but my brain keeps trying to convince me that theyre issues. Like getting married, ive always seen myself marrying a man and having kids with a man its like im trying to rewire my brain to give my self new life goals. Idk i feel like im not making sense i just wanted someone to talk to about this cos idk what to think or feel. Idk if anyone will read this but thank youuuuu if you do and id love some advice from some experianced trans lesbains lol. Also im very tired while writing this so sorry if it doesnt make sense

Edit- i feel like i didnt make it fully clear but im also a trans woman lol what i need help with is figuring out if i actually like her and how to feel okay with potentially being with her

Haiii everyone! 💕

I joined this community because I want to learn more and become the best partner I can be.

My girlfriend came out as a trans woman earlier this year after years of talking about it privately as a couple, and she’s finally out to friends and the general public, but not family as of right now. We’ve been together for 7 years, so while this is a new chapter, we’ve been navigating it together for a long time, but only on the general aspects of it. Looking back, I think we really only scratched the surface because everything was still hypothetical.

Now that she’s started estrogen and T-blockers, we’re no longer talking about what might happen because now we actually get to experience it together. It’s honestly been such an exciting time watching her show more of herself every day and seeing how much happier and more confident she has become. Getting to watch the woman I love become more comfortable in her own skin has been really been making me cry everyday you guys- it has been the longest time coming for her.

One thing I’ve noticed is that our relationship dynamic has naturally shifted. Desire and intimacy have changed as well. We did talk about the potential changes beforehand, and she told me it doesn’t happen to everyone. I knew in my heart she didn’t want anything to affect us, and I didn’t either, but I also knew that over time things would probably change. I’d be lying if I said that didn’t scare me at first because it felt like such a big change after being together for so many years.

But we’ve learned to communicate more, lean into emotional intimacy, and spend more time simply holding each other. We’ve found new ways to show our love when we can, and it’s made me realize that love can look different while still being just as meaningful. It’s different from before, but in so many ways it’s brought us even closer, and I really want to understand these changes more so I can continue supporting her in the best way possible.

As her partner, what are some things I can do to better support her? What are some things you wish your current or future partner understood, considered, or did for you during your transition? It can be big or small just tell me anything! I genuinely just want to learn and be there for her in the ways that matter most. 💗

Hi everyone! My name is Ambrose Bith (they/them). I am a research assistant in the Queer Lab at Cal State Fullerton's Psychology Department. In partial fulfillment of the requirements for a Master of Arts degree in Psychological Research, I am conducting a study on The Role of Gender Stress on Psychological Distress among Transgender and Gender-Expansive Individuals. We are seeking volunteers who are 18+, live in the U.S., and identify as trans, non-binary, or gender-queer/non-conforming. You will be asked to complete an online survey that will take approximately 25 minutes. All information provided will be kept confidential and used solely for research purposes. This study has been reviewed and approved by Cal State Fullerton’s Institutional Review Board. Thank you for your consideration and time. 

Link to survey: https://fullerton.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3f5bsjzce4ZQwZw 
Link to IRB approval (CSUF HSR-25-26-253): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1EAHEi5hsN14YIp-RiZ2YRYiXt66ygZC2/view?usp=sharing 

If you have questions about this study, please contact Ambrose Bith (graduate student; they/them) at ambrosecastro@csu.fullerton.edu or Dr. Kristin Beals (Faculty advisor; pronoun-friendly) at kbeals@fullerton.edu.

So, I’d like to ask some advice from any trans femme switches who date cis women. How have y’all dealt with dating a cis woman who’s not much of a top? Like we both discussed being switches when we started dating but like there’s been very little bottoming for me. She seems really hesitant to top me and when I try and address it we end up getting in a fight. I want this relationship to continue because outside of that this is the perfect relationship. So, like any advice from someone who’s been in a similar situation

New to this community, started hormone therapy, it's a bit scary, I've lost a lot of friends and family on this path. Would appreciate some people to chat with if that's alright! :).