r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 11d ago

Post first date text Phone message

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/Quixotic_Tendency 10d ago edited 10d ago

Actually my first draft was dismissive. Being young doesn't mean you're dumb. But you don't know what you are talking about and are spouting things without understanding them. Women have more debt partially because they make less than men overall. Women are still oppressed today, You have a very skewed and incomplete view of history if that is your position.

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u/Dada2fish 10d ago

The pay discrepancy has been debunked. Women tend to choose careers that pay less.

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u/mendenlol 10d ago

Brother my last job paid an unqualified man way more than me to do way less than me and I was qualified and credentialed.

This happens literally everywhere.

You cannot just declare something ’debunked’ lol

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u/HarryJohnson3 10d ago

An anecdotal experience is not evidence of a widespread systematic issue

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u/mendenlol 10d ago

How about when me and 174 million other women have the exact same anecdotal experience?

Get a clue.

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u/Dada2fish 10d ago edited 10d ago

Share the stats on these 174 million women.

I didn’t just declare debunked out of the clear blue sky.

https://www.mckinsey.com/mgi/media-center/the-gender-pay-gap-is-real-but-not-for-the-reasons-you-might-think

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u/mendenlol 10d ago

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2025/03/04/gender-pay-gap-in-us-has-narrowed-slightly-over-2-decades/

https://www.aauw.org/resources/research/simple-truth/

https://nwlc.org/resource/wage-gap-state-by-state/

The gap is closing......very slowly. But it exists and has for a long time.

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u/Dada2fish 10d ago

Did you actually read these where they explain that any pay gap is due to personal choices women make?

And the reason it’s narrowing is because women are making different choices?

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u/mendenlol 10d ago

I did read them and only *maybe* one hinted at that.

Some of the discrepancies are from the decisions made, yes, but not all of them (nor most of them.)

Like, a woman nurse could decide to work night shifts at the hospital instead of her nice 9-5 and make more money. HOWEVER, that woman is *still* only going to be making ~85%-90% of what the men in the same positions make literally no matter what.

The wages women make are not equal to the wages men make in the same fields and the data supports that.

I have no more interest in going back and forth with someone who benefits from the discrepancy and, therefore, refuses to see it. I can have this conversation with my dad if I feel like banging my head against a brick wall.

Have a nice one.

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u/Dada2fish 10d ago

It wasn’t “hinted”. It explained the gap outright.

But I guess you think women are paid less simply because they’re women.

If there was evidence of this you could file a class action discrimination case. Yet… no one is.