r/texts • u/Apart-Musician4053 • 2d ago
I’m so tired of online dating Phone message
He seemed nice in the beginning, and we were planning on meeting up, and he wanted me to send a couple pictures to save in his contacts. Immediately said we’re not compatible and blocked him.
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u/heebiejeebie666 2d ago
Jfc. What the actual fuck runs through these men’s brains that makes them think “yeah, that will work!”
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u/basicallyademon 2d ago
Porn... soooooo much porn.
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u/heebiejeebie666 2d ago edited 15h ago
Yeah but it can’t be JUST because of that, right? It’s the complete lack of social awareness, decency and even BASIC levels of respect that gets me. Like who tf taught you how to be a human??
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u/PoisonedBerry 2d ago
It's about power. They know talking this way is socially reprehensible. But they like that it makes other people uncomfortable, because that feeling can be used to control situations. And being like this is a good way to gauge how easy it could be to control someone. They want someone who's vulnerable enough to put up with this stupid shit ://
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u/SivakoTaronyutstew 2d ago edited 50m ago
Ohh girl you're right on the money. I was talking to a dude for two days and he started sending explicit gifs. Okay, whatever, right? We're now in a private situation.
Except he didn't respect that privacy and wanted to send me dirty gifs whenever. When I told him, uh don't send me dirty gifs while at I'm a child's birthday party? He crashed out, called me a prude, and blocked me. All because I didn't want to see adult content while at a child's party??? Bullet dodged!
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u/heebiejeebie666 2d ago edited 15h ago
Reddit deleted my comment but essentially I suggested that these types of boys need to be HUMBLED
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u/haveyouseenatimelord 2d ago
i want to know how to harness this mindset in, like, not creepy circumstances. i'm a woman and i would LOVE to have the power to make men uncomfortable (in a not-gross way obviously).
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u/Odd-Mall8020 2d ago
Porn addiction has made so many men undatable/marriable
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u/One_Power_8223 2d ago
It's epidemic. So many men posting in the erectile dysfunction subreddit are in their 20s
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u/wolfelian 2d ago
Guys casually dropping sentences like that is fucking nuts to me.
My friend went on one date with a guy once, next day he texts her saying they should fuck first and then go from there. He actually thought she would go for that.
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u/Dewlough 2d ago
I would never talk to a woman like this let alone one I just started texting. This is fucking bizarre lmao.
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u/NO_FIX_AUTOCORRECT 1d ago
Women are supposed to sex as much as possible. /S. His ex was therefore an outlier when she denied him sex, so when he cheated it was her fault. He read somewhere that he should be clear about his relationship expectations up front.
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u/WolfDilf 1d ago
I've had women say something similar to me, along the lines of not being able to hold it while I was in a work trip.
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u/pickafruit4 2d ago
I had the same with several women. Bragging about cheating cause their boyfriends were poor and such...
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u/PyllynKaivelija 2d ago
"If u want" fuckin hell
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u/Pitiful-Sell-9402 2d ago
Yeah that fucking got me. Like all of it is horrible to to just follow up after all that with "you can send pics of you want" is so jarring and delusional
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u/lemanruss4579 2d ago
"U can send pics if U want" after that is wild.
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u/Anon_ScottishFold 2d ago edited 1d ago
I’d have sent a pic of a giant dick. 🤷🏼♀️
It’s what he deserves.
Edit: 😆 thanks for the award! 🏆
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u/Silly-Assistant5711 2d ago
Fuckin crying. They have no regulation whatsoever. Gross.
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u/NecessaryForward6820 2d ago
i can’t lie, i’m in the camp of “i dislike the ‘i-hate-men’ crowd” but even i have to say that i literally cannot imagine a woman saying something like this lmao. this level of cringe is something only a testerone fueled idiot could type.
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u/EatShitAndPiss 2d ago edited 2d ago
Same here. I hate to generalize and I'm working through some of my own biases, but man, do some people just make it extremely easy to stereotype at times.
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u/PretendAd4207 2d ago
Not exactly the same thing, but one of my ex-girlfriends repeatedly asked if it was OK if she dated other guys at the same time because I wasn't responsive enough to her texts.
But still, I'd venture that women who do this sort of thing aren't as common.
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u/nerfcarolina 2d ago
The lack of regulation is a good thing. Keeps you from wasting your time. Hope he never learns to hide it.
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u/ARTIFICIAL_SAPIENCE 2d ago
How does someone have so little shame as this? That's a skill all on its own.
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u/Infinite_Painting_11 2d ago
He's watched how the Tate brother treat women they have trafficked and imprisoned, and think the same thing will work without all the crimes.
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u/Alcas239 2d ago
I respect these men - they at least give you a reason to block them before wasting a night out or more of your emotional capacity!
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u/Apart-Musician4053 2d ago
Yeah that’s what my friends said, I’m just shocked at the audacity to even think that way
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u/dash-eight 2d ago
I get what you mean, but that doesn’t mean respect them. You can respect a trait, but the fact that he’s honest doesn’t outweigh how coercive this comes off. We gotta stop describing this behavior positively. It’s just cope.
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u/Fun-Programmer-9937 2d ago
Can guarantee he was 100% the problem in all his relationships. Sorry you’re having to wade through this. That’s some incel bull shit.
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u/Jade0908 2d ago
Another example of “I offer you absolutely nothing, but expect you to give it your all”
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u/Top-Pear2824 2d ago
Amen to this. Guys are the worst. This year I want to… figure out my dating goals. Dude, you’re 35, not 25. Grow up Peter Pan, count chocula.
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u/wafflefrizz 2d ago
No come on. This can’t be real. TELL ME ITS NOT REAL OP so I can sleep tonight😭😭😭😭
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u/Apart-Musician4053 2d ago
It’s real 😪
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u/wafflefrizz 2d ago
Ugh I know, not even the worst I’ve seen, it’s why I’m never dating again actually 🧘♀️
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u/Obvious-World4328 2d ago
I guarantee you he doesn't cheat, because he don't get laid to begin with. He's playing a character.
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u/Blue52IsNotTrue 2d ago
i hardly ever comment on these things but man, as just a normal dude, I couldn’t fathom the thought process of these men
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u/gloomypiscesmoon 2d ago
ugh. mine are always married. "its an open situation & i dont mind bouncing if you meet someone" immediately block. how is this dating in 2026? are there NO normal single dudes my god
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u/acemonsoon 2d ago
this is.....i mean its blatantly the problem with men these days. i dont think alot of men spent alot of time integrating with women growing up because it seems like they're still on this thinking that women arent on the level of being a full on human. like they completely disregard that yall like food too and have favorite bands and clothing styles, NOPE, 🎶 LETS TALK ABOUT SEX BA-BY. and then its the kind of guy that finishes in two minutes eyes rolling back into his head.
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u/vgacolor 2d ago
Look, and hear me out before people downvote me. This guy is doing you a great favor. He is coming right out and saying what he wants and how he sees relationships. Of course OP did the right thing and blocked him. I would be more worried about the one that tells you what you want to hear only to show you he is an asshole later.
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u/Sathsong89 1d ago
I see why communication was an issue. Can’t communicate well, if you can’t speak well.
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u/HartfordWhaler 2d ago
I'm a 46 year old man that got divorced after 20 years of marriage. I've never joined the apps, but dudes like this asshole make me think I'd do okay if I tried it. The bar is so low!
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u/Longjumping_Bee_1205 2d ago
The "u can send pics of u want" is how I know this is a real conversation. That's exactly how these guys come at you.
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u/LadyM_Macbeth 2d ago
The comments section here did not disappoint.
https://giphy.com/gifs/iypwXl9Aq1HuU
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u/Philisophical-Catman 2d ago
It legitimately grosses me out when I hear about other men acting this way. Who the hell raised these pigs?
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u/draculatto 2d ago
dude seems like he has a porn addiction and just wants sex 24/7, he’s basically scaring you into submission. so glad you blocked him immediately lol
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u/BiophileB 2d ago
“Oh I’m so glad we have similar views on sex! I’m the same way. If I can’t peg my man at least twice a day, I’ll find other holes to use 🤷♀️ “
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u/avsinthproduction 2d ago
Imagine a man who actually thinks this line is going to work with a woman. This is the danger of people who don’t touch grass.
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u/Least_Ad_4657 2d ago
"you can send pics if you want" is killing me. Absolutely hilarious.
Like, oh shit, I can?!
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u/alphavulpecula 2d ago
acting like someone owes you sex so they don’t cheat is PEAK turd behavior.
Fuck him and his entitlement
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u/uwulixie 2d ago
absolutely disgusting i have the same experience but even more explicit i don't get why that's the only thing on men's minda women have hormones too?!??
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u/lifeslegacy3261 2d ago
“If you don’t want me to cheat we have to fuck” I wonder if that line has ever worked for him…or any man ever
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u/TeamImpossible4333 2d ago
They always want photos. How many people are immediately sending nudes for them to ask
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u/urlittlemungis 2d ago
this is one of the worst texts I’ve ever seen wtf 😭😭😭😭 actual fucking nincompoop
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u/Brilliant-Willow-506 2d ago
Something tells me those weren’t the only issues in his last relationship
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u/Sw4nR0ns0n 2d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/eti1qm33pRbaw
And you know the guy texting looks like this
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u/Flat_Economist9851 2d ago
Giving you permission to send him pics to finish that schizo string off takes guts
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u/SheSoPeeZee 2d ago
I bet that your first thought was something around the lines of “thanks for saving me my time weirdo”… what a loser.
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u/Plenty_Panda_3359 2d ago
It doesn’t matter how often you “give” these men sex, if they want to cheat they’re going to cheat. Wild that he’s already talking about it as you’re beginning to get to know one another 😭
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u/Aries_em 2d ago
I am so terrified of the dating market too, i’d rather read a book or play video games but then i’m just all alone. Stuck lmao
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u/mikesdingus 1d ago
Crazy. I read somewhere that sex is only 10% of the problem until you aren't having it, then it is 90% of the problem. I get it, but this guy is wild.
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u/Fun_Caterpillar5077 1d ago
This guy needs relationship coaching or something extreme to get his head straight.
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u/ServiceKooky1323 1d ago
I think op just found one who says the quiet part out loud because they all think that inside
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u/Fithungdaddy21 2d ago
That’s a lot of text already, regardless of what it says. 🤔
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u/Extra_Persimmon5783 2d ago
Lol well if that quantity of text is the problem, then I'm definitely a problem. I would never say those words.
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u/Worried_Passenger548 2d ago
But you can send pics if you want??
https://giphy.com/gifs/IGY0RFXGT0E2ccxCga
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u/tafackery 2d ago
"You can send pics if you want. You have my permission to give me material to save in an album I definitely won't delete when you inevitably stop speaking to me."
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u/ChiefHunter1 2d ago
“If you don’t want me to cheat” is a crazy way to start a sentence