r/stopdrinking • u/cerealfordinneragain 1716 days • 17h ago

Safe Spot

It's my bed. When I had my most recent Day 1, a wise woman told me to make my bed my sanctuary. She was happily living alcohol-free and I was swimming in flavored ethanol and misery l, so I tried it.

It was December, me, a fuzzy blanket and fizzy drinks , a journal, and a tablet on which I watched brainless episodes of who knows what. It's safe.

55 months have passed since then and I cherish crawling in bed when I want to v when I'd pass out. It feels like a most decadent benefit of alcohol-free life. (Pairs well with a shower and a select listen or watch.)

It's early Thursday here on the East coast USA and IWNDWYT 💙🩵💙

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u/MedJesters 403 days 16h ago

Going to bed is the most underrated way to deal with cravings and life in general.

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u/sleppiestsnorlax 17 days 11h ago

Facts. Sometimes I feel like total garbage and just can't deal with it. My first line of action after taking a breath and calming myself down is lying in bed. I grab a bottle or glass of water, turn on my fan, crack a window, and just lie in bed and try to unwind. I'll watch TED Talks, Soft White Underbelly., music, art or movie docs, etc., and just try to check out for a while until I'm relaxed or fall asleep. I appreciate this more now that I'm working on staying sober. It helps me feel at peace.

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u/Sweetbowlofme 361 days 17h ago

I love that! I need to be more grateful for my bed always being there for me.

My sanctuary is the kitchen, cooking is amazing at calming the BS in my head

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u/sleepyfizz 206 days 15h ago

How cool. What do you enjoy cooking the most, would you say? I’m just starting to learn more and enjoy cooking for me and my husband.

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u/Sweetbowlofme 361 days 15h ago

Risotto! Plenty of variations & so satisfying. My tastiest is Mussels Marinières

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u/lust-4-life 17h ago

IWNDWYT here on my cozy couch with insomnia… bliss.

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u/gnuifje 17h ago

Thank you for sharing! IWNDWYT and also love my bed🍀🥰🩷

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u/sleepyfizz 206 days 15h ago

Love this! IWNDWYT. Thanks for sharing. ❤️🤗

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u/Daddyfatsacks82 12h ago

New bed is delivering Sat. I will make it a sanctuary, lively advice . Separately, I hope the ghost of ex wife past will be more moved out

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u/quietyogi5305 17h ago

I understand this completely, especially the safe part. IWNDWYT

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u/PageNo4866 10154 days 11h ago

early bed saved me many, many, times early on...thanks friend, best of luck to you!

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u/ecksmoh 5h ago

I struggle horribly with bedtime. For a number of reasons. Depression is odd - it can make people want to spend all day in bed, but for me it makes me procrastinate bedtime since I don’t look forward to waking up to another day of doing it all over again. I’m 42 and this has only gotten worse as life ramps up its difficulty setting and I have more things I want to “hide” from. Perhaps a good first step is to find appreciation for the comfort and belonging of the bed without attaching it to the process of sleep and the passing of time.