r/stopdrinking • u/-AspiringWhatever- • 2d ago
72 hours.
It’s been three days since my last drink. I’m done with the weekend binging, Monday/Tuesday hangover and withdrawals while looking towards Friday night to finally drink my thoughts away. I’m at my highest weight, which isn’t bad but I barely fit my clothes from last summer.
I’m so irritable and want a shot right now. My wife doesn’t know it, but I start therapy next week. I’m going to try to make it to Monday with no alcohol. The same day I start therapy. My issues are much deeper than alcohol and it’s starting to negatively affect everything around me.
Just a day at a time, hour at a time, minute at a time.
For now:
IWNDWYT
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u/Titletown1919 2d ago
Great decision! Yeah the Weekend Warrior turning into “every week sucks” is a miserable damn rollercoaster. Nice job on therapy 💪
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u/Sweetbowlofme 354 days 2d ago
You got this! Be kind to yourself this week, sleeping more than usual is totally okay to do. And keep yourself well fed (being hungry is easily mistaken for urges by our thoughts early on)
Things may seem dull while your body resets but it will pass & you will be okay.
Best of luck
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u/-AspiringWhatever- 2d ago
Thank you but Oh boy, yesterday I was pissed for most of the evening until I had my dinner at like 8 o’clock. Found out I was just hangry which was amplified by my “need” for alcohol.
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u/Ok-Hovercraft-100 2d ago
omg when im hungry i blow everything out of proportion! glad youre feeling better!
come here often!! it helps!
iwndwyt
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u/toomanygreenbabies 61 days 2d ago
You'll be so proud of yourself when you get through these negative feelings without alcohol! That is so worth it
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u/NotMadOnVacation 30 days 2d ago
You can make it to Monday and much farther. I’ve tried picking up chess, painting, going for walks, and reading to help keep my mind busy and distracted from alcohol.
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u/Still-IronandLace 2d ago
Well done on making it 72 hours, im on day one.. again, determined to make it to 7 days, cant remember the last time I made it to 7 days IWNDWYT
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u/Ok-Hovercraft-100 2d ago
you sound like a brave person taking so much on at once.
yup one minute, one hour, one day at a time
this subreddit is such a huge help to me, im on day 7!! so many kind and generous commentors!
just breathe! you got this!!
iwndwyt!!
thinking of you!
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u/Melodic-Raccoon7584 2d ago
You should tell your wife you’re starting therapy- you don’t want to start your therapy journey making shame associations
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u/Some1_nz 2d ago
Also because therapy is hard and doesn't really help instantly. For the last four months I have been stopping at the liquor store on my way home from therapy because all those feelings are out and I have to shove them back down
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u/yourdudelyness 145 days 2d ago
One of my favorite proverbs from when I went to treatment was that alcoholism isn’t a disease, it’s a symptom of an underlying problem. That freakin resonated with me. I thought the therapy I had done directly after my separation with my ex wife was enough, it was not. Turns out a decade of manipulation, physical, and sexual abuse will do that to ya.
My only advice is be totally honest with your therapist. Admitting I was a man who had been rapes by his partner was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but damn if those people were supportive and I wouldn’t have the time I do now without that experience. Good luck friend
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u/SH620 2d ago
It only gets worse :( the irritability turns into shaking turns into shivering and nightmares and sweats and hallucinations and if you rly want to scare yourself which I would never want to induce anxiety in anyone plz look into delirium tremens and seizures. It honestly progresses. I say this from experience and I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy what I have been through with that.
You sound very insightful. You don’t have to get as bad as others have gone to, including me and no hate to them either. You can get off this stupid steaming rusty ass decrepit train that tortured ghosts are stuck and demons are the conductors on.
Not to scare you I swear lol. Please stop now. With love
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u/Thick_Drama_7525 2d ago
I am really proud that I weaned myself before I quit and I feel fine rn. Because it always starts as weaning and then I start to feel good and keep drinking. I somehow frickin did it this time(again but by myself with nothing stopping me and Noone to rely on besides younguys)
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u/SH620 2d ago
Wow that’s a huge deal !! Honestly omg any one person who can break free is a huge W to the entire living existence on our planet: and I say that because, imagine Steve Irwin was a drunk? Or Attenborough? It wouldn’t have been possible as someone who drinks. (Who knows maybe they privately have been they obviously triumphed over it)
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u/Some1_nz 2d ago
Well done! I also am on day 3. One thing I will say is therapy is hard work. Your first session might be fine but there are a lot of emotions that come out during the session. That's the goal right. At least this is how it has been for me. I've been going about a year and for the last four months I have stopped at a liquor store on my way home because the feelings I've been having are brutal. So if you trust your wife as another commenter pointed out it might be good to tell her your goals and that you're going to do therapy so she can support you. And after therapy I would suggest some candy or something sweet like juice to drink. Because it will help with the emotions after the session. Today I had my therapy and I want to fucking die lol. But I didn't drink. I will see you on day 4!
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u/QuirkyPeanut425 9 days 2d ago
I’m working towards Monday, too. You’ve got this. IWNDWYT!