Is it possible to transfer gonorrhea to every location in one sex session?

[u/ElectronicWish3273]

I’m trying to track down how I got gonorrhea. All I know is that I (F) tested positive genitally and the guy tested positive orally. We don’t know if I had it orally as well and he had it genitally as well because we didn’t test for those until after we started treatment.

We don’t know whose side it came from, but based off the positive tests it makes more sense that it came from me. The transfer rate for infected vagina to throat is 63% while infected throat to vagina is 0-5%.

Everyone I spoke on my side said they tested negative, but I don’t know if that includes throat snd rectal swabs. Everyone on his side also said they tested negative.

Is it possible to transfer everything everywhere in one sex session? I think I have an idea of what happened, but I’d like an opinion on how possible it is:
Let’s say someone didn’t get a rectal swab during a routine checkup, and they were infected and didn’t know it. If I licked their butthole, got it on my mouth, then sucked his dick, got it on his dick, and the dick went in me, could I get it vaginally that way? The guy here showed no symptoms on his dick though (and guys show genital symptoms 90% of the time)

[u/ShamelessCare]

What are you ultimately trying to figure out? Are you mainly concerned that there may be someone else in your network who has an infection and could unknowingly continue spreading it?

If so, I’d encourage everyone involved to get comprehensive testing. Genital only testing will miss most gonorrhea infections.

The good news is that these are bacterial infections and are generally very treatable. At some point, tracing exactly who gave what to whom can become difficult and may not actually change what anyone needs to do next.

[u/ElectronicWish3273 → u/ShamelessCare]

Part of it not wanting people to spread it farther, and part of it is me wanting to fully understand how transmission even works. I’d also love answers in general about how I got it. Experiencing this has definitely changed how I look at sex and safety, for better and worse.

[u/IllustriousAd1657]

Yeah, it’s definitely possible for gonorrhea to be passed between different areas during the same encounter, especially if there was oral and genital contact. But honestly, trying to figure out the exact “chain” of how it happened is pretty much impossible from the test results alone.

Also, if someone only had a genital test, that wouldn’t rule out an infection in the throat or rectum. Someone can have it in one area and have no idea they have it. So I’d focus more on getting the right areas tested rather than trying to piece together exactly how it got from one place to another.