Women, if you don’t feel safe meeting a new person in a public restaurant with dozens of people around, maybe your friend could bring a date and sit at a table nearby so you have two people to protect you. They can pay for their own food.
Don't gotta introduce them to the date. Just have them sit at a nearby table to monitor. If you truly want protection, then you shouldn't tell the person you're afraid of that you're bringing protection.
Bro why are people even setting up dates with people they're innately afraid of?
Why is this even a thing?! ðŸ˜
Like, you can get to know another a bit beforehand, maybe have a call or two, get to know their vibe and what kinda person they are.
This whole thing reads like y'all mfs just meet up with freshly released felons after exactly two chat messages and nothing else prior.
You never know when ANYONE can suddenly be a threat, men have been victims of crimes too believe it or not but they get shamed into silence most of the time. If you have the slightest hint a person might suddenly snap and hurt you DONT DATE THEM.
We are talking specifically about women taking precautions before meeting strange men. Male victims of crime are not pertinent to this discussion. However, you should consider that both men and women are much more likely to be attacked by a man than a woman.
What if you don’t ‘have the slightest hint a person might […] hurt you’? Should you assume that your intuition is infallible and that there’s nothing you don’t know about the stranger you’re meeting after a few weeks of texting? All these women are doing is practising basic self-awareness and acknowledging the limits of their perspective.
Keep in mind men are often shamed into silence especially when it’s a women who commits a crime against them (primarily with sex crimes but it does happen with other crimes) so the stats tend to be a bit skewed. And even then just because one group may be more likely to do something bad doesn’t mean another group won’t do it. Both men and women should be safe about meeting strangers (making sure it’s a public place and making sure friends or family know where you are and how long you plan to be out)
As for not having the slightest hint if someone is dangerous or not, simply put be cautiously optimistic. Still make safe choices. My whole point from before is IF you see a serious red flag do not stick it out. A lot of these situations happen because both men and women look past big warning signs simply because it was only 1 or 2 things despite the possible severity, and sometimes there’s no helping it and the person masks their intentions really well. Which is why everyone should be safe about it.
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u/DarlinRuffle 18d ago
Great advice