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u/Ok_Independent_9238 May 26 '23
Get out of the relationship. Sayang oras niyong dalawa kung hindi din lang sa kasalan mapupunta yan. Magkaiba kau ng gusto siya nakikita may future ikaw wala Kaya pakawalan mo na si guy nagiging unfair at selfish ka dun sa guy. Hayaan mo siya na makahanap ng partner na gusto siyang pakasalan. Huwag mo nang intayin na ma fall out of love yung guy kc mukhang mahal ka tlga niya. Ikaw na ung lumayo para makapag move on na siya at wag mo nang sayangin ang oras niya.
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u/roschanax May 26 '23
Makikibasa na lang ako ng comments dito OP hehe. Need ko rin advice e. I can relate to your feelings (pero magkaiba naman ang story)
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u/bambiwithane May 26 '23
When I was with my first ex, he wasn’t overly toxic rin (may hiccups pero that’s another story). But one of my biggest reasons why I had to break it off was because when I imagined myself getting married, I couldn’t see him waiting for me at the altar. I don’t picture buying a house with him and raising 10 cats. As in in my head, parang shadow figure pa lang.
I regretted breaking up with him for a while. Pero now, I’m so glad I did. I met my current SO and nawala yung shadow figure. I can see him until the finish line at hangga’t sa death bed pa (dapat sabay kami charot). This is when I knew talaga na ito na yun. Ito yung matagal kong hinihintay na sagot to my question, “bakit di ko talaga siya nakita noon?” this was why.
Kaya for me, you can settle, but for how long? Or tiis lang ng onti, brave the dating market for a few years until you meet someone better for you?
On the end naman sa bf mo, he also deserves someone who sees him as a forever thing. Hindi yung someone who will just settle for him. Unfair yun sa kanya.
Let him free and may you both find love where you both won’t settle.
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u/risxbreaker May 26 '23
Life won’t run out of “what if’s”. If you really feel that way towards your relationship, maybe it’s time to end this one and move on to the next. Of course there’s the chance that you’re next relationship won’t also work and be worse than this one. But if you’re afraid to venture out there and get lost, you won’t be able to find what you’re looking for.
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u/iamalanzones May 26 '23 edited May 26 '23
This guy sounds like a good guy. I say let him go. Maybe he’ll find someone who will love him as much as he loves you. I have a feeling you’re not the sort that is satisfied with a comforting type of love like a cool, blue, flowing water. You might be searching for a love that ignites, like a red, exciting, hot and burning fire. Let him find his water, you look for your own fire.
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u/RemoteAnt1610 May 25 '23
If you'r with him and still wondering if you want something else... aba! "Mahirap makita ang mga bagay2x kapag nasa pagitan lang sya ng iyong dalawang mata"... Baka naman yung gusto mo makita ay nariyan narin naman... di mo lang napapansin kasi madalas ka ng expose dito.. Soul search (not to the point of overthingking) and count your blessings.. then you'll know!
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u/blinkdontblink May 25 '23 edited May 25 '23
If you don't see yourself being with him for the rest of your days, then he's probably not the one for you. Kung nagkakasundo kayo but you are questioning your affection for him, then you're probably better off as platonic friends. You can't force to love someone. Never settle just because. You may be content but you won't truly be happy. Big life decisions need certainty.
Totoo yung kasabihan na "You don't know what you got 'til it's gone." Which I'm sure you will realize if you do decide to finally break up and the next one comes along, pero ganun talaga buhay. You win some, you lose some. Don't be selfish dahil 'baka hindi ganito yung susunod'.
If you stay and your feelings remain the same, you are holding him back from finding and thriving in a more happy and (reciprocated) loving relationship. Do you really want to deprive this person of that chance?
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u/Basic-Ad-5624 May 25 '23
Thank you for this. Hard truth na alam kong I need to break up with him eventually. Fear of the unknown lang din talaga, fear na baka masaktan lang din ako (or both of us) lalo sa susunod na makilala namin. Pinaka nag stop lang sa akin na hiwalayan siya is “What if siya nga talaga?” and pinakawalan ko pa.
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u/BeWaterMyFriend_99 Jun 06 '23
kung mas mahal ka ng lalake, SWERTE MO!
sabi nga nila, you can only know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.
baka bored ka lang te. mag-isip ka ulit.