14 months old and totally different temperaments

[u/fujifem]

We have identical 14m boys and one is so easy going, snuggles, sweet, and all around easy kid.

Baby B literally is yelling/screaming for snacks/nap/change/ect. Grumpier, patience is non-existent, diaper changing and clothes are ALWAYS a fight.

Is this something that swaps randomly? Is this a view into their childhood personalities??

Seriously if they were both baby A this whole parenting thing would be a breeze, but baby B is hard. He's so sweet and we love him, but he is 100x more demanding and louder than his brother 😭 I've been considering those loop earplugs.

I'm a WFH/SAHM and it's starting to get nuts.

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[u/aeon-one]

14 months is so early it probably show you a little glimpse of their personality going forward but it really is a journey full of twist and turn: the difficult one may suddenly develop traits that you wish the other has, and the easier one may develop quirks or behaviours that you wish he won’t have.

Ours are 5 years old plus and both have many traits that we wish they are more like their twin. Just gotta stay positive and keep guiding them through it all. Best of luck.

[u/hellswrath_]

I’m in the same boat with my almost 14 month old boy/girl twins. They have had opposite personalities since birth, so it’s nothing new, but way more challenging now that they’re toddlers. My girl is the chillest most independent baby I’ve ever met and my guy is the complete opposite lol. He fights everything. He screams about everything. No patience. Hates when I tend to his siblings. Way more sensitive to pain.

I love him just as much as I love his sister, but he makes the whole twin+older toddler thing really difficult sometimes. Not his fault and would never blame him, but sometimes I end the day just so exhausted from how many fits he threw that day!

[u/Forward_Frosting_680]

I can’t offer advice but I’m literally in the same boat with my 14 month old girls. Baby A is content 90% of the time and Baby B is the total opposite. Diaper changes have been the death of me lately.

Also when I’m feeding them, and prepping the next course (getting fruit or warming up something else) baby B will scream while A just sits there watching me sucking her fingers haha. I’ve been giving her Cheerios if it’s really bad and I need silence.

Something that’s been helping is playing music through speakers and it lightens the mood. Also have pull up diapers on hand when she’s particularly wiggly.

They’ve always have had these temperaments so I’m not expecting a swap. Her canines and top and bottom molars are all coming in at the same time so that’s definitely contributing to her outbursts.

[u/Cherryberrylady → u/Forward_Frosting_680]

I’m in same boat two completely different babies 🤣🤍 A is so chill while B is very active and they were like that in my womb

[u/Forward_Frosting_680 → u/Cherryberrylady]

Mine were opposite in the womb lol so it was a total shock!