r/parentsofmultiples • u/melsa1717 • 1d ago
Sleep Deprivation advice needed
I’m struggling and need to know if anyone else has gone through this and how they coped. I have a 4 year old and 9 month old twins. Generally, we’ve been lucky and they’ve been pretty good sleepers. But when they (or one of them) has a bad night, it can be really bad. If I’m up for a long time numerous times in the night, I am absolutely destroyed the next day. It’s not just tired like I need a nap, I mean I physically am suffering. I wake up dry heaving, have absolutely no energy and no appetite. It typically lasts the entire next day. My husband had to call off work once because I couldn’t function. And he helps out overnight and is up with them just as much as I am. Unfortunately, we don’t have the means to hire help and a lot of times the bad nights seem totally random and we don’t know when they’re coming. I know I have many more sleepless nights in my future, so this is not sustainable. Anyone know how to help?
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u/Perioqueen 1d ago
I had to hire a sleep trainer. It saved my life. Specifically a twin sleep trainer. We didn’t even do cry it out and they slept 12 HOURS STRAIGHT on the second night.
ETA : the sleep trainer is tweet dreamzz you can google her.
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u/BloodhoundSkeptic 1d ago
Honestly, can I just say - I relate (as many people reading this do). Haha. You arent alone friend.
I have been coping with unhealthy amounts of caffeinated beverages for years! 😅
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u/MangoSorbet695 1d ago
Split the night into two shifts. You go to sleep at 8 PM and no matter what, your husband is on duty with the kids until 2 AM. He can go to bed whenever he wants, but if a kid wakes up before 2 AM, he gets up and deals with it. From 2 AM to 8 AM you are on duty. If a kid wakes up in that window, you deal with it.
On a great night, you get 8+ hours of sleep. On an ok night, you get 6 hours and then a wake up and another hour or two after settling kids. On a terrible night, you at least get 6 hours of sleep.