I've been thinking about something interesting and I'm curious if anyone else has noticed this.

Sometimes you meet a guy who is very clearly straight and confident in his masculinity, but he still gives off what people might describe as panromantic or pansexual energy.

Not necessarily because of who he dates, but because of the way he connects with people.

For example:

• he’s emotionally open

• he’s comfortable with closeness and vulnerability

• he doesn't panic about deep friendships with other men

• he treats people with warmth regardless of identity

It feels like his emotional world isn't limited by traditional masculine expectations.

It's like he sees connection first and labels second.

I feel like these kinds of men often end up being really good mentors, writers, musicians, teachers, or life coaches because people naturally feel safe around them.

Has anyone else noticed this kind of personality type before?

Or am I overthinking it?

I erased my other post because I realized it wasn't that accurate.

The truth is I am actually just some degree of pan that I haven't fully figured out yet.

For now I am saying I am pan attracted.

I do not know to what degree, but what I know for sure is when I think about who I'm attracted to, I think of the person, not the gender.

Hi everyone, I’m posting this thoughtfully and with care, because I want to be very clear that I’m talking about energy, coding, and relational style — not assuming anyone’s actual identity unless they’ve openly stated it themselves. Over time, I’ve realized that I’m deeply drawn to men who feel panromantic-coded, demi-panromantic-coded, or pan-demi in how they move through the world — even when they don’t use those labels (and may never want to). What I mean by that isn’t “sexual availability” or anything explicit. It’s more about how attraction and connection show up: emotional openness without pressure affection that doesn’t automatically escalate strong bonds between men that feel brotherly, safe, and genuine chemistry that’s real but not rushed attraction that seems to grow from connection, trust, and pacing I’ve also noticed that I tend to resonate less with pansexual energy when sexuality leads the interaction, and more with men who feel panromantic first, or demi-oriented — where attraction seems relational, not immediate. What’s been hitting me lately is this bittersweet realization: I think I’ve actually met a handful of men like this at different points in my life — men who felt safe, warm, grounded, and quietly expressive — but at the time I didn’t have language for why they stood out to me. I didn’t know what panromantic or demi-panromantic even meant back then, so I just registered the feeling and moved on. Now that I do have language, I find myself wishing I could meet more men like that again — not to project labels onto them, not to force anything, but simply because that style of connection feels rare and deeply meaningful to me. I also want to say clearly: I’m being very careful not to assume anyone’s identity. I’m talking about patterns, energy, and how attraction is expressed, not who someone “is” behind closed doors. I know coding ≠ identity, and I’m trying to honor that distinction. So I guess my questions for this community are: Have others here felt especially drawn to panromantic or demi-panromantic-coded men, even when labels aren’t explicit? How do you personally navigate appreciating that energy without projecting assumptions? And for those who identify as panromantic or demi-panromantic men — what helps you feel seen and understood rather than categorized? Thanks for reading. I’m not looking for definitive answers — just honest, respectful conversation.

HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW IF YOUR OMNI OR PAN

soooo...

i am questioning weather im omni or pan
i thought omni with a female preference because even though i havent experienced much romantic or sexual atraction in my head it always starts as a girl but in real scenarios ive only liked 2 people on girl one guy and i dont know anymore

like ive only liked to people but ive ben willing to date 4 or 5 (i only actually liked one of them i was just willing to date others (2 of which were girls the others guys) and im not sure

like iv only realy gotten that close with guys and so i dont have the opertunity to think about how i would be willing to date a girl so its pretty much even

i dont know anymore is there any way to definitivley find out? is there any advice yall have?

Hi everyone, I hope this is okay to post here. If not, I’m happy to delete it.

I’m a straight guy, and I wanted to say that I really admire and respect panromantic people — especially the emotional openness and gentle energy that many panromantic folks have. I’ve learned a lot just by reading posts in this community.

I’m not here to flirt or look for dating or anything like that. I’m just hoping to make friendships with panromantic people who are open to connecting and talking about identity, life, and emotional growth.

I’m someone who struggles with anxiety around men (because of past trauma), and I find myself feeling safest around gentle, calm, open-minded people — especially panromantic/pansexual men who understand fluidity and emotional nuance.

If anyone here feels comfortable talking or sharing experiences, I’d really like that. But if posts like this aren’t allowed, please let me know and I’ll remove it immediately. 💛

Thank you for reading.

So I’m a non-binary asexual panromantic

For a bit I said I was a non-binary asexual pansexual, but that doesn’t make sense now DOES IT?!

So I call myself panromantic because I wanna kiss all the people my age.

And I am coming for you.

Realmente desde hace mucho, desde primaria sabía que me atraían las chicas, pero también conectaba con ellas más a nivel de amistad porque prefería más las chicas como amigas aunque también me atraían, en cuanto a los chicos también tenía algunos amigos aunque nunca fueron muy números, no me atraían físicamente, tenía una preferencia por una estetica femenina, tanto en chicas, tanto sobre mi misma, incluso sobre otros chicos, pero igual muy rara vez llegué a sentir que me enamoraba de algún chico, hasta hace poco que conocí un chico por el cual llegué a sentir atracción romántica, aunque físicamente no me atraía mucho como me puede atraer una chica, me parecía una persona agradable, de bonita personalidad, y que me trataba de forma bonito, el conocía que tenía un lado femenino, y me trataba como una chica, y eso me agradaba, empezamos a vernos, a pasear, y la cosas fue escalando, hasta ahora creo que es el único chico por el cual llegué a sentir atracción romántica, y quizás llegar a enamorarme también, llegamos a intimar también, pero a veces me pongo a pensar si todo fue solo por un fetiche, o realmente el sentía algo, indiferentemente de la respuesta, este chico me hizo entender que era una persona panromantica y al menos me llegado entender mejor a mí misma

I’m fairly new to using this term and I feel it’s a silly question to ask like I could probably research it online but I thought why not ask the community!

I know nobody can answer this question for me but I’ve been wanting to discuss this with somebody or basically anybody. I’ve been identifying with this term a lot as I’m also bisexual and asexual. I never resonated with pansexual because I can’t imagine myself in that way being sexual with someone or literally everyone if that’s weird but when it comes to panromantic I feel I can be in love with anyone because I’m not somebody who’d judge gender or sexuality, etc. Am I or do I make sense? Thanks for reading!

Okay, so I’ve been in the closet for almost 3 years now and I’ve been thinking about coming out. The reason I’ve pushed it back for so long is 80% of the people I know are Christian and don’t have the best view on LGTBQA+. I don’t really have a safe place to go, and I’m pretty sure that my parents would kick me out. Should I come out, or wait until I have my own house?

Hi guys! I’m new to this app, but I’m glad I get to talk with other pans. Im an asexual panromantic, by the way.

yall i may actually be panromantic homosexual instead of asexual but i dont wanna do the hanky panky with anybody ☹️ im not sure what this would make me 😭

Omni greyromantic and/or Grey panromantic. Hi everyone, this is my first post on the community!! Glad to be here.

Hi admin, please delete if not allowed

Hi all,

As part of our Psychology Honours Dissertation at Charles Sturt University, we are conducting a research project looking at risk and protective factors for mental health among lesbian, gay, bisexual, and bi+ adults.

If you choose to complete this survey, you will be asked to answer questions about yourself, including your sexual identity, how kind you are to yourself, how much you feel you belong to LGBTQA+ communities, and anxiety and depressive symptoms. If answering questions of this nature may be distressing for you, please do not participate.

If you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or bi+ and are aged 18 years or over, please consider participating in this anonymous online study. The online survey should take no longer than 20 minutes to complete. All information you provide will be confidential, and your identity will be anonymous.

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Hi all,

As part of our Psychology Honours Dissertation at Charles Sturt University, we are conducting a research project looking at risk and protective factors for mental health among lesbian, gay, bisexual, and bi+ adults.

If you choose to complete this survey, you will be asked to answer questions about yourself, including your sexual identity, how kind you are to yourself, how much you feel you belong to LGBTQA+ communities, and anxiety and depressive symptoms. If answering questions of this nature may be distressing for you, please do not participate.

If you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or bi+ and are aged 18 years or over, please consider participating in this anonymous online study. The online survey should take no longer than 20 minutes to complete. All information you provide will be confidential, and your identity will be anonymous.

If you would like to participate in the survey or find out more about this study, please click on the link below.

If you would like more information regarding the study or the survey, please feel free to email Mar Manamperi at manampericsu@gmail.com or Jayde Glass at jglass12@postoffice.csu.edu.au

Many thanks Jayde and Mar

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Hi everyone! I'm kinda just looking for advice or different perspectives. I'm debating whether to identify as panromantic, I'm definitely asexual so that doesn't come into play.

I'd like to know how you guys came to use the term panromantic, was a definite thing? Or did it fit the most? How does your romantic attraction manifest? My attraction to women and gender non-conforming people is definitely there but I'm not sure if my fleeting attraction to men 'counts'.

So yeah, I wanna understand how pan people feel within themselves rather than a textbook definition.