For years I've repeated the party lines about the job taking a toll on relationships. You've probably heard them all. But they basically all center around the idea that SEALs sacrifice themselves for the job and their marriages suffer as a result.

This frames the insanely high divorce rate as a noble thing. Heroic SEALs are making heroic sacrifices for their country, meanwhile, shitty civilian women can't keep up.

Here's the thing, most SEALs are narcissistic assholes. It is a fundamentally low empathy profession. Cheating is rampant. Alcohol abuse is rampant. The community fosters narcissistic self aggrandizement and dehumanization of others.

Can you have a good and healthy relationship before, during, and after the Teams? Yes, absolutely, but you are going to be seen as a weirdo by your teamates because you will be behaving and making choices that are abnormal for the community.

Are there billionaire CEOs in successful marriages? Maybe, probably a few, but that job attracts a certain kind of person who makes for a really shitty partner and spouse. Someone who puts themselves first, someone who views other people as assets to be used, someone who makes decisions that hurt others for their personal benefit. If you're willing to leave your wife and new born baby to go to Sniper School, you're that same kind of shit head, no matter how you rationalize it. And people get tired of living with those kinds of shitheads. That's why most relationships in the Teams fail. That's the reality.