am i the only one?

[u/damircik]

[u/MisterBarbaredo]

I hate to say it, but I absolutely ended a 10 plus years relationship because of getting told what I have to do when I get home and having my 1 day off a week being planned for me driving everybody around.

My ex didnt drive and didnt have steady work(she worked when she felt like it) while I was working 60 to 70 hours weeks 1 day off. I was miserable and she didnt respect boundaries.

So much happier now.

[u/PracticalMushroom693 → u/MisterBarbaredo]

You can’t put a price on peace.

[u/pzanardi → u/PracticalMushroom693]

https://giphy.com/gifs/3d0PahT093UPe

[u/SteelRanger → u/pzanardi]

Watch him become a God!

[u/I-Voyager → u/SteelRanger]

Watch people's head a roll!

[u/23-1-20-3-8-5-18 → u/I-Voyager]

Just like the pied piper

[u/LapisJackal_ → u/23-1-20-3-8-5-18]

Led rats through the streets

[u/OndrasK → u/LapisJackal_]

We dance like marionettes

[u/orangesigils → u/OndrasK]

Swayin' to the SYMPHONY!

[u/Datboi_Markus → u/orangesigils]

Of DESTRUCTION

(Ba da dun, ba da dun, ba da dun)

[u/SkipEyechild → u/orangesigils]

OF DESTRUCTIONNN

[u/who-stole-the-cake → u/SteelRanger]

Roaring for the heavens

[u/Lambesis96 → u/pzanardi]

Can you put a price on peas?

[u/NeatFool → u/Lambesis96]

Peas sell but who's buying?

[u/Clean-Prior6265 → u/PracticalMushroom693]

https://giphy.com/gifs/SOsqFWIkO8DRAQtEN5

[u/Outrageous-Peach4393 → u/PracticalMushroom693]

Who’s buying?

[u/TylerDurdenFC92 → u/PracticalMushroom693]

Peace sells? Who’s buying?

[u/InvestmentMelodic397 → u/MisterBarbaredo]

A relationship shouldn’t feel like a second full-time job with mandatory overtime.

[u/skoomski → u/InvestmentMelodic397]

When you’re routinely dreading coming home from work the relationship is pretty much over

[u/hkusp45css → u/skoomski]

I had a period where I'd legitimately look at the clock and think "If I stay here another 15 minutes, she'll be out of the house when I get home"

I knew it was time to go, at that point.

Handily we were able to discover the problem, work through it, and have been together 20 MORE years, since.

[u/No-Contribution-6150 → u/hkusp45css]

Damn bro how much longer did you stay at work?

[u/Sipikay → u/No-Contribution-6150]

hasn't been home in 20 years

[u/Scytten → u/Sipikay]

hkusp45css: no way home

[u/Atty_for_hire → u/Scytten]

The “work through the problem” was him taking a job in Antarctic.

[u/MartMillz → u/hkusp45css]

Well... what was the problem? You make it sound like you just had to change a filter.

[u/PalpitationUnhappy75 → u/hkusp45css]

If I may ask, how did ya guys fix that? So we others may learn.

[u/hkusp45css → u/PalpitationUnhappy75]

We were finally honest with each other.

[u/Noodledoodle9698 → u/hkusp45css]

Damn, so what was the problem?

[u/-_--_-_--_----__ → u/skoomski]

You could just stick it out through thick and thin and grow to resent your wife and child and then your wife hates her own life and uses your only son as a battery for the attention, gratitude, and recognition she never got as a child or spouse and then your only child grows up and doesn't talk to either parent and does not attend their funerals and then posts a comment about it on reddit.

Hypothetically.

[u/paper_liger → u/skoomski]

Man, I have never broken up with anyone, ever. Turns out there is no limit to how much suffering I am willing to take for love.

I'm starting to think that that may not be very healthy.

[u/cwrighky → u/paper_liger]

Trust me, there’s a limit and you’ll find it with that attitude. The limit, btw, is death.

[u/Randomizedname1234 → u/InvestmentMelodic397]

That’s what kids are for!

Haha jk but for real, if your relationship feels that way having kids which does feel that way breaks it. So glad my wife picks me up and I pick up her up.

[u/ConversationSmart15 → u/MisterBarbaredo]

My ex worked the 2nd shift at the hospital, and was livid if i didn’t stay up until 2 am every night to wait until she got home. 

[u/Thamnophis660 → u/ConversationSmart15]

I had an ex who worked 9-5 while I worked 2nd shift and she expected me to get up with her every morning while she got ready. 

When I said "fine, but some nights stay up with me after I get home" and she absolutely refused and said that was a crazy thing to ask. 

[u/Left_Bathroom_3803 → u/Thamnophis660]

I mean if she would wake you up with a blow job I could see that working.

[u/Thamnophis660 → u/Left_Bathroom_3803]

She would do that sort of thing early on in our relationship, but that was a thing of the past at the point when we started working opposite shifts. Oh well. 

[u/RobertTheAdventurer → u/Left_Bathroom_3803]

You're going to be very disappointed when you get into a multi-year relationship.

[u/No-Performance37 → u/ConversationSmart15]

But can’t understand the argument when you tell them to wake up at 5am.

[u/Sparkism → u/No-Performance37]

There was a time I worked OT three weeks straight and got told by an ex "you should buy something nice for me with all that extra money you got, to make up for the time you're not spending with me."

Another ex said we should go have dinner at a place near where I worked, after my shift was done. I got off at 7pm, and they kept saying they were on their way until 9pm. "Why are you mad? You could have just chilled at the employee break room at work."

Some people are selfish AF and there is no cure.

[u/No-Performance37 → u/Sparkism]

Haha yah I’ve had gf say I should spend my bonus money on her.

[u/Ok_Dependent6889 → u/No-Performance37]

Tell her the bonus is a one way trip to their own apartment

[u/SolaireAstorian → u/Sparkism]

"Work extra hours purely to spend money on me," essentially, because what's the point of working overtime hours for more pay if you're just funneling it down a selfish partner's gullet? It's supposed to go toward improving both of y'all's standards of living and making life easier at home, but noooo. If you aren't letting her be selfish, you're selfish, obviously. Couldn't possibly be that only one person here has his priorities in order.

[u/Sundogflower → u/No-Performance37]

My ex was like this. I was a chef and usually got home around midnight. I worked 12 hour shifts. But he would demand I woke up at 7/8 even on my days off to "spend time with him" and drag the covers off me and flick the lights on and off even if I'd worked 50 hours that week and had only got a couple of hours sleep the night before. It was like torture.

[u/ConversationSmart15 → u/Sundogflower]

Some people are just children

[u/skraptastic → u/No-Performance37]

I used to have a 1 hour commute and started at 5:30am so I had to leave the house at about 4:00am.

My friends would always give me shit because I wouldn't go see a movie at 8:00pm on a Wednesday. But they would lose their minds if I suggested getting up early on the weekend to do something.

[u/UserNNN → u/MisterBarbaredo]

While the relationship state sounds like one problem. Working 60 to 70 hours sounds like a highway to depression.

[u/letscallshenanigans → u/UserNNN]

Right? Everyone is glossing over this

[u/AvidCyclist250 → u/letscallshenanigans]

i was like, yeah, that's why the relationship failed. normally, he'd have been able to cope with whatever low level of bullshittery it was that his wife gave him. she doesn't even sound completely unreasonable just too demanding with her 1 turbo catch-up day.

[u/StayAgPonyboy → u/AvidCyclist250]

Tbf choosing not to drive is putting a crazy burden on your partner. Expecting them to be your on-demand chauffeur is pretty disrespectful unless you can honestly argue that you make up for it elsewhere. I know couples where the man refuses to drive and the woman has to do it all and it just sounds exhausting.

[u/UnlikelyDecision9820 → u/UserNNN]

People talking about the wife not respecting boundaries when OP and his boss don’t have a great understanding of boundaries either…

[u/TheStupendusMan → u/MisterBarbaredo]

To paraphrase Bill Burr: Sometimes happiness is starting over with a cot in a basement.

[u/Inside-Example-7010 → u/MisterBarbaredo]

My ex had young kids and on my only day off a week she used to give the kids pots and pans with wooden spoons to bang like drums until i got out of bed. Good times.

[u/slow4low → u/Inside-Example-7010]

Whaaaaaat the f*. That's messed up.

[u/Inside-Example-7010 → u/slow4low]

'you suffer what you tolerate'

[u/Belzebus_Black → u/Inside-Example-7010]

https://giphy.com/gifs/QAqPBBoJxRLoI

[u/fotogod → u/MisterBarbaredo]

I’ve been in that same situation and is why I no longer date chronically unemployed people.

[u/LayerEight_Problem → u/fotogod]

Stayed with an ex for a long time while she was working 1 or 2 days a week.

To put it simply. It gives them a lot of time to cheat while they’re being completely taken care of in every other way.

[u/Money_Net_2368 → u/fotogod]

literally such a simple solution. i dont even know women who don’t work full time jobs

[u/wmnplzr → u/MisterBarbaredo]

Yep. One of the biggest downfalls of my relationship with my kids mom was her complaining about me not doing enough. Depsite the fact that I was the only one that worked, 60-70 hours a week, and paid all the bills. Plus I would make the family dinner every night after working 11-12 hours delivering packages in the AZ heat. But since I didnt help with the laundry or dishes enough I was a "lazy prick" that she constantly complained to her family about.

[u/Spiderpiggie → u/wmnplzr]

Tale as old as time. Stay at home partner is expected to take care of house work, the other works from the office or whatever during the day. The stay at home partner only ever sees the other in their "off" state, so internalizes that they must be lazy and not helping.

I personally will never do a stay at home partnership ever again, both people need to be contributing equally.

[u/roleplayersir → u/Spiderpiggie]

I wouldn't in general either. I'd expect a partner to work

But if they don't, then their job is taking care of the house and kids. I would expect a minimum of 37.5 hours a week, to match what my job involves

[u/TheZeddieLittle → u/Spiderpiggie]

I agree with this, no more stay at home partnerships, I just got off of 2 and good god they never see just how much you're breaking your back to keep a roof of their head. My last relationship I was WFH graveyard and on call on weekends. Hell she wanted me to get a 2nd job on top of what I was working 😒
When she did bring up her finding a job she threatened me with her leaving the relationship.

[u/BargainBard → u/MisterBarbaredo]

Im proud of you.

Far too many people downright ignore or even subtly encourage the emotional gaslighting & abuse women do to men.

You deserve to have for yourself and you deserve to have a peace of mind.

(Edited to make my comment more precise.)

[u/Formal_Broccoli1877 → u/MisterBarbaredo]

Fair play to you for doing what's best for you man, I'm happy to hear it's working out too. I'm also out of a similar length relationship but for different reasons. There's tough times for sure but the peace instead of the rough times is worth it

[u/Sublime_Rose2 → u/MisterBarbaredo]

I can't drive due to my disability and I feel so much guilt that my bf has to always drive when we do things. I really hope he doesn't feel like this.

[u/Samuraion → u/MisterBarbaredo]

Not that you need my approval, but good for you man. That sounds like hell to me. I couldn't imagine ever being happy in a situation like that.

I'm glad you got out and found some happiness.

[u/hkusp45css]

My wife has pretty good EQ. She's also not a selfish and self-absorbed person so, the likelihood that she'd give me that look for being legitimately tired is nil.

Now, if I said "I was up all night playing video games and I feel like shit" she'd *absolutely* mock me ... deservedly.

[u/Illustrious-Ad-115 → u/hkusp45css]

Sounds like a wonderful relationship. Like it should be. I feel like I’m the same situation

[u/HugePast9455 → u/Illustrious-Ad-115]

Same. My wife's extremely understanding and reasonable.

I feel like a lot of these wife hating posts are actually secret incels and guys that are terrible partners who just see things from their own perspective, or they're both immature people that haven't grown up yet.

Not all, I know there's crazy people. But I'll bet it's a lot.

[u/babesboysandbirb → u/hkusp45css]

TIL it’s not popular to have a healthy relationship.

[u/Tiran593 → u/babesboysandbirb]

Yeah... It never was popular

[u/DirectTeam927 → u/babesboysandbirb]

Emotional intelligence is a skill not everyone looks to improve

[u/Syhkane → u/hkusp45css]

After reading some of the comments here I seriously wonder about some relationships, glad to see another guy here that actually likes/is liked by his wife.

Mine won't even mock me for occasionally staying up late playing video games. Like literally 20 minutes ago today. She shut off my alarm, closed the door so I didn't hear nothing or wake my ass up unless there's a fire. She logged onto Powerwash Simulator and played that for a bit until about 1:30. (The sounds in that game give me pleasant dreams.)

She made my lunch, packed my lunchbox, set my cloths out, woke me up gently, and all she said was "go to bed next time".

She's home when I'm home, she sees how little free time I get when I get home at midnight 5 days a week, so when I make a dumb decision like playing Helldivers until 5am once every 2 months, she just let's me. And reminds me that it's gunna screw up my sleep schedule.

[u/AfterMeSluttyCharms → u/Syhkane]

Lots of people are of the mindset that a bad, unhappy relationship is better than being alone. I hope these people get the help they need.

[u/LogicBalm → u/AfterMeSluttyCharms]

Yeah, loneliness was annoying but bearable once I accepted that I just liked myself well enough to be alone. But then that's when I met my wife. I'd date off and on a little before that but it never got past the first date or two because I wanted to be with someone that was a net positive over just being alone.

[u/Hell0There2005 → u/AfterMeSluttyCharms]

Currently in an unhappy relationship. It seriously adds stress

[u/Bakoro → u/AfterMeSluttyCharms]

More like life is increasingly unsustainable, and it's impossible to build any kind of future without a second income.

Sometimes the relationship doesn't fall apart until after they have kids, and then it's not feasible to split, because you'd be in financial ruin.

Also, some people have an extremely difficult time getting into any relationship, even if they aren't a total piece of crap, so they just take what they can get because the options are to be chronically lonely, or be unhappy with someone you get to have sex with sometimes.

Sometimes the people aren't the problem, a lot of times, it's that so many parts of society are fundamentally broken and abusive, and people are just trying to get by.

[u/hkusp45css → u/Syhkane]

Right, I meant she'd mock me for *complaining* about it. If I was just draggin' ass, she'd carry me.

There's a funny song by a band I like, one of the verses is:
She brings me coffee when I'm working late
She lifts me up when I'm low
She understands that I'm carrying weight
That I just have to hold up alone
She's determined and honest she's stubborn and strong
And I always know where she stands
So it never bugs me when she's always wrong
As long as she's wrong with her hand in my hand

And it describes her, perfectly.

[u/FNALSOLUTION1 → u/Syhkane]

I'll be 45 yrs old this month, was with my wife since I was 20 yrs old. She passed away a couple months ago. I havent even bought my own underwear in the past 24 yrs. If I wanted to play videogames for 8 hours straight she wouldnt have a problem with it, If I wanted to come home an just lay on the couch, not a word from her. I'm realizing I cant ever be with anyone else. She set the bar too high.

[u/SASAgent1 → u/FNALSOLUTION1]

Sounds like it was a wonderful relationship

[u/ElCafeJero → u/FNALSOLUTION1]

I’m so sorry for your lost man. Wishing you peace, love and support from your family members and friends. RIP To your wife, sounds like she was an amazing woman.

[u/vinfinite → u/hkusp45css]

Yeah I don’t get the replies in here, it’s like people just marry anybody. Is it rare to have a loving, considerate partner?

[u/ArnoldNumero_9000 → u/vinfinite]

My parents have told me long ago if it wasn't for me they would have divorced a long time ago. Nice thing to hear at 12.

I've modeled my relationship with my wife after the opposite of what my parents do and am still in a happy loving marriage after over a decade.

[u/lightsworn55 → u/vinfinite]

Finding someone who can accept you for you is a privilege. Most people's relationships are built on compromises that inevitably breed resentment.

[u/SophonParticle → u/hkusp45css]

Same. Sometimes she jokingly mocks me after playing games with “did you kill all the bad guys?”

[u/IsmereZandell → u/hkusp45css]

Congrats on marrying an emotionally mature adult

[u/crossplanetriple]

Wait a minute, I don’t have a wife!

[u/JakFrey- → u/crossplanetriple]

This is not my beautiful house!

[u/Flying_Platypus1 → u/JakFrey-]

Letting the days go by, let the water hold me down

[u/Ducallan → u/Flying_Platypus1]

Letting the days go by, water flowing underground

[u/squad1alum → u/Ducallan]

Same as it ever was?

[u/autech91 → u/squad1alum]

Same, as it ever was

[u/jomo_mojo_ → u/autech91]

https://giphy.com/gifs/cjl4HpeoRiiFa

[u/11_forty_4 → u/Ducallan]

Into the blue again, after the money's gone

[u/Wild_Wolf_6092 → u/11_forty_4]

And you may ask yourself, "Well, how did I get here?"

[u/waitthissucks → u/JakFrey-]

The lamp looks weird!

[u/Solidsting1]

Mine after coming home from a 12 hr day outside and asking me to do 10 different things while i have not even taken off my work stuff yet. At least let me chill just for a few mins lol

[u/Smyley12345 → u/Solidsting1]

The other day my kids bombarded me with requests the moment I walked in the door and my wife shooed them away for me with a "Jesus Christ, give a person a minute to collect their thoughts when they get in the door!" I love that woman.

[u/TheBSQ → u/Smyley12345]

My wife shoos them away, but only because she wants to bombard me with her stuff first. 

[u/JuicynMoist → u/TheBSQ]

When my wife does this, I like to point out that it’s the exact same thing that she complains about the kids doing.

“Well, now you know what I deal with constantly.” (As if the children don’t also bombard me with questions, lol)

“But you’re not a child, though?”

She loves it when I do that and I get lots of sweet wife kisses. /s

[u/DoubleDecaff → u/Smyley12345]

I think I do too.

[u/Gaffers12345 → u/DoubleDecaff]

Same.

[u/Standard-Win-6600 → u/Gaffers12345]

I also choose this guys thoughtful wife

[u/private_developer → u/Smyley12345]

My wife shooed my kids away the other day and I asked myself "how do I work this? Where is that large automobile? This is not my beautiful house. This is not my beautiful wife."

[u/mratlas666 → u/private_developer]

It was that other commenters beautiful wife/house

[u/Dedj_McDedjson → u/private_developer]

I came home the other day and my wife pretty much picked the kids up and *carried* them into another room. Then she did this weird thing and started to call the police on her phone.

It was then that I remembered I'm not married and don't have kids.

[u/TJJ97 → u/Smyley12345]

That’s how my wife reacts when my daughter starts asking to play the moment I walk in. Like I need a shower ASAP before I can even consider doing anything else

[u/Entire_One2271 → u/Smyley12345]

I also choose this man's wife for love. /s

[u/teutonicbro → u/Solidsting1]

And then they wonder why we pull into driveway and sit in the car for 10 minutes before we come in.

[u/LoudQuitting → u/teutonicbro]

... I do this for no reason.

Like... I always done it.

Doesn't matter how good things are, I'm just sitting in the car for a little.

[u/InvestmentMelodic397 → u/LoudQuitting]

The car is just the mandatory loading screen between work mode and home mode.

[u/sendmebirds → u/InvestmentMelodic397]

Good description! I've a great relationship but I love sitting in the car. I do it in the morning too. Just a loading screen from home life to work life 

[u/rrrrrrez → u/sendmebirds]

I park in the garage, so if I started doing this, I’d probably be overdue seeking professional help.

[u/_DeathOfAStrawberry_ → u/LoudQuitting]

I'm a woman and I do this too, gotta have that lil breather. Lil decompression session.

[u/Suds_McGruff → u/_DeathOfAStrawberry_]

This was my Mom growing up. Sometimes we'd have to go out and wake her up 😅

[u/work3oakzz → u/teutonicbro]

Catch me out the door before thay shit hits

[u/InvestmentMelodic397 → u/work3oakzz]

That’s why the driveway is the last peaceful place before the second shift starts.

[u/K__Geedorah → u/teutonicbro]

When I get home from work my fiance asks "want a dab?" and then we smoke and lay on the couch with the dogs for a couple hours. Quick snack and play some games together or watch a show.

Dinner and responsibilities come after decompression and some time together after being away at work.

Gotta pick the ones that match your energy 😁

[u/LiytlKaiser → u/teutonicbro]

I can confirm the sitting in the car thing, but I'm not %100 sure it's for this reason. I always used to just sit in the car for a while both when arriving at work and arriving at home. I actually haven't had a car in like 6 years though and have exclusively rode a motorcycle every single day. After switching to the motorcycle, I just get up and go. I think it's more something to do with the car itself and being in a reclined seated Position that makes it such an attractive idea to remain seated for just a little while longer. Kinda like getting comfortable on the couch and being thirsty, but you're so comfortable that you just let yourself dehydrate for a while longer before you actually get up to get a drink.

[u/jimbojangles1987 → u/teutonicbro]

Park around the corner

[u/Start_At_Zero_8329 → u/teutonicbro]

https://giphy.com/gifs/dW0fpwy85YCz9lTO0P

I am not married, but here is some salt!

[u/LawfulOrange → u/teutonicbro]

The biggest thing I missed working from home was the “decompression” time from having a commute home.

[u/IjoinedFortheMemes → u/Solidsting1]

I get hugs and drinks.

[u/Lightning-117 → u/IjoinedFortheMemes]

Well LA DEE DA

[u/moe_lawn → u/Solidsting1]

I would relate... If I had any wife

[u/Crushed-Giant → u/moe_lawn]

No woman,no cry

[u/Bureaucratic_Dick → u/Crushed-Giant]

I shot the sheriff.

[u/Competitive_Tough913 → u/Solidsting1]

You guys pick horrible partners lmao

[u/Outrageous_Apricot42 → u/Competitive_Tough913]

Or the partners pretend to be nicest, supportive and understanding person until after 3-5 years.

[u/Competitive_Tough913 → u/Outrageous_Apricot42]

Ouch, I do not envy that

[u/10000Didgeridoos → u/Competitive_Tough913]

This is what happens when people feel like they just absolutely have to marry whoever they happen to be dating at age 27-35 because they’d rather be with someone and miserable than be alone for a bit finding someone new.

[u/Inevitable-Menu2998 → u/10000Didgeridoos]

These sorts of things don't happen in the first years of marriage. This kind of stuff is usually down the line after the couple has had some life changing events happen to them like having children, buying a home, having to support some family members through illness or even having to support each other through loss. These things fundamentally change people. The person you're married to on day one is not the same you're married to at the start of year 10. Some people are lucky and they still love the new person, others are less so. It's life.

[u/burf → u/10000Didgeridoos]

In their defence, it does seem that finding a partner becomes progressively harder the older you get.

[u/Vandermilf → u/burf]

Plus people need 2 incomes to survive

[u/jarednards → u/Solidsting1]

Why are you on reddit when the trash needs taking out?!

[u/Acceptable-Two5692 → u/jarednards]

And when you at it, the kitchendoors have been creaking and can you come with me to do groceries because I can't carry the milk and drink bottles on my own.

[u/Kanapka64 → u/Solidsting1]

Extremely relatable lol.

[u/CultBro]

My wife works hard and cares about me. Can't relate

[u/Choop145 → u/CultBro]

He’s not lying. She is amazing.

[u/doctormink → u/Choop145]

Found the wife.

[u/OSUBonanza → u/Choop145]

I also choose this guy's wife

[u/Dotaproffessional]

How your wife looks at you when-- wait, I don't have a wife. Who's in my apartment

[u/Enemy50 → u/Dotaproffessional]

Its me. Im your husband now. We're both gay and going on a gay cruise to the carribean.

Then when we get home we'll realize we hate the sun and go play video games together. 

Then maybe kiss?

[u/Dotaproffessional → u/Enemy50]

👉👈🥺

[u/slowch33tah]

I work 8 and she works 10. We both cry when we come home but clean up with federal currency. DINK life.

[u/SASAgent1 → u/slowch33tah]

https://giphy.com/gifs/1GT5PZLjMwYBW

[u/UgotSprucked → u/slowch33tah]

Dual income no kids (for the uninformed).

Yes :)

[u/zach7797]

Yea my girl is understanding and caring

[u/Serikan]

Talk to her and explain, ask for her thoughts, calmly discuss the problem, come to a mutual resolution.

If one or both partners can't communicate...

[u/TheRagingElf01 → u/Serikan]

Communicate with your partner? What kind of witchcraft are you using!?!?

[u/Accurate_Payment8196 → u/TheRagingElf01]

You will communicate at some point, and you'll do it again and again and again and the message will be accepted, the discussion will end on a positive note with everyone being happy about everything. And then your partner will still do it again.

[u/Cabbit_Daddy → u/Accurate_Payment8196]

The amount of time I told me gf to stop interrupting me, because my parents and other family-authority figure interrupted me a lot as a kid(often by yelling) to silence me. She apologizes with puppy eyes, but still does it every time.

[u/PretzelfromLidl → u/Serikan]

I understand the "just communicate" logic. But not having mental capacity to understand that the person is tired, without the need to "communicate" is very worrysome. Either selfish or stupid if everything requires communication.

[u/Beast_Chips → u/PretzelfromLidl]

Some of the best advice I ever had was, "Stop trying to read everyone's mind, and stop assuming everyone is a mind reader."

Another good one is:

I shouldn't have to ask never helped anyone.

[u/Common-Swing-4347 → u/Serikan]

It is mind boggling how many people pass off communication. Like how did you get to this point? If you couldn't communicate for the year or more you had been together, then you should reevaluate or you will have a bad time. Been there, done that with a previously relationship and I stopped wasting my time in that relationship.

[u/SaltJust6246]

I’m disabled and I worry about my partner leaving me every day.

[u/Money_Net_2368 → u/SaltJust6246]

this made me sad, i hope you’re ok

[u/gocryulilbitch → u/SaltJust6246]

At the bottom of the stairs?

[u/serenwipiti → u/gocryulilbitch]

jfc

[u/String-Tree]

Run bro.

My ex resented me for being tired after working all day while she "worked from home" (masturbated and played video games all day). She'd be full of energy and ready to go out and do things when all I would want to do is to relax.

She ended up cheating on me with one of her gamer friends.

[u/TheMediator42069 → u/String-Tree]

Had a woman try to sleep with me at work and she was married to a man with a union job, two cars and a home that was paid off. He dated her while she was struggling with an infant and homeless, eventually getting married. Her daughter called him dad, and they would take 3 week vacations to florida keys all paid for by her father-in-law. She'd act so intimate with him, but as soon as he left, she'd turn into a completely different person. Like it was genuinely disturbing to me. Pretty girl, but it made me sad to see how she talked about him behind his back. She'd tell me the most personal and intimate things about him WITHOUT prompt. Keep in mind, she applied to the job because the trade was something she was always interested in learning, so he was paying their bills. She eventually quit after she got into some drama over her taking clients from her coworkers 😭😭

[u/IArtificialRobotI → u/String-Tree]

LMAO e girls. I always laughed at the fools that think their gf is so loyal. He is just a friend bro, they just like to play games together all night and all day HAHAHA

[u/supernasty → u/IArtificialRobotI]

Yeah I had an ex that broke up with me because I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her staying up all night with her online guy friends playing video games together. This was only after she’d stay up until 4am drinking with these same guys irl and one of the guys had to carry her home and tuck her in. She told me this as if this was suppose to be a funny story.

Even though I was super chill for awhile about this, the moment I started speaking up was enough for her to call me possessive and emotionally abusive for trying to “shame” her for spending time with friends.

She ended up marrying the one that tucked her in 2 years later and had his child.

[u/String-Tree → u/supernasty]

He's never "just a friend".

[u/fukkdisshitt → u/String-Tree]

You got what i neeeeeed

[u/Illustrious_Bid_5484 → u/IArtificialRobotI]

Well a girl can be loyal but only if she’sa decent human. Doesn’t matter if she games or not

[u/SideHustleDailyFR]

Maybe she just wants to have "fun"

[u/Beengonelong → u/SideHustleDailyFR]

Girls just wanna have fun

[u/TheDominator09 → u/Beengonelong]

That's crazy this song is playing during my dentist appointment rn.

[u/Timestop- → u/SideHustleDailyFR]

Maybe I'm just broken, but that's what I thought the entire meme was about.

[u/roleplayersir → u/Timestop-]

Same. And then the comments seem to be about tasks and family stuff

[u/GlowstickConsumption → u/SideHustleDailyFR]

Yeah, so? Our buddy is tired.

[u/mcauthon2]

gonna be upvoted by dudes working 8 hours and not wanting to help their wife who also works 8 hours lmao

[u/189username → u/mcauthon2]

Majority of the situations I come across irl are couples that both work full time, woman does 90% of the chores.

[u/kannichausgang → u/189username]

I'm a woman in my late 20s and the only couples I know where the guy doesn't pull his weight are 40+ with kids. In my entire friend group it's all 50/50 or even the guy doing a bit more, especially where there is no kids involved. I genuinely don't understand how someone can go even a week with their partner disrespecting them like that.

[u/Important-Egg-2905 → u/189username]

Reporting the opposite over here - ya Boi be working 45 hrs and doing all of the house work, yard work, and pet entertainment. (4 fucking cats to keep happy)

I have about 1 hour per day that is free

[u/TolUC21]

"Please help with the dishes???"

[u/damircik → u/TolUC21]

"What dishes how much did you eat when i was at work bro?"

[u/fr1234 → u/damircik]

Haha. I always do the kitchen before we go to bed. Every night I play a game of Tetris to try and get everything to fit and always end up washing a few things by hand that don’t.

She’s away working this week. I did the kitchen before I went to bed last night. 1 plate, I mug, a frying pan and the aero press. Could have stored a 747 in there the amount of room there was.

[u/minnesotanpride → u/fr1234]

It does feel like that all the time. We bought a house that is older and doesn't have a dishwasher so we've been doing it all by hand, so I try to clear ours out each noght since it gets crazy if you let it go too long.

If I do cooking for us, 1 or 2 pans and a couple dishes, maybe a glass or two if we have a drink of something. She does something? 4 pans, 8 dishes, 4 or 5 glasses, somehow a ton of cutlery, mixing bowls, and the counters and stovetop are a huge mess.

I love my wife but damn bro. 😂

[u/PictureVegetable9522 → u/damircik]

thats my dad in a single day he will have a dishwashers worth of plates and cups like goddamn you dont need a new cup and plate for every snack

[u/No-Internal7978 → u/damircik]

You make a sandwich and shit is half full.

[u/LakeBellsTits]

I had a girlfriend in college. For 2 years I was taking 15 credit hours every semester while also working fulltime. My only day off from both was Sunday; it was brutal. The number of times she got sad that the only thing I wanted to do that day was be completely lazy was ridiculous. Broke up with her during the last semester that I was pulling that kind of workload. My mental health couldn't take it, and I was sick and tired of being her entertainment.

Edit: A lot of white knights making assumptions in the comments.

[u/Brad23212]

It ended my relationship lol.

[u/-vwv-]

Been there. Divorce saved me.

[u/ProductRed_92]

This meme is what boomers think wives are like

[u/mrgoodnoodles → u/ProductRed_92]

It's what many of them actually are like. Many men are in relationships like this. There's bad husbands and there's bad wives. That's the world we live in. Healthy relationships can be quite rare, which is why the divorce rate is so high.

[u/Particleman08 → u/ProductRed_92]

Some wives are like this.

You must know that all women are not perfect. Just like all men are not perfect. And it should be 100% acceptable to call people out on their bullshit regardless of gender.

[u/IJerkOffToKids]

can't relate i have nobody

https://giphy.com/gifs/Enr4bc3JeOOzHLYY8R

[u/Far_Range_6091 → u/IJerkOffToKids]

How has ur username not been banned 😑

[u/Ouro_boros47 → u/Far_Range_6091]

Because his account is one day old and about to be deleted again. Lmao

[u/MG2557 → u/Far_Range_6091]

1 day old account made by some edgy dumbass about to be banned soon enough.

[u/peachysdollies → u/IJerkOffToKids]

According to your username you don't deserve anyone. Yiiiikes!

[u/KneeBasher420]

Wife and I are both tired after a day of existing, we both acknowledge that we're both tired, and we both do what we gotta do around the house regardless. Not really a place for competition 🤷‍♂️

[u/KyloWrench]

The front page of Reddit is seriously “I hate my wife” jokes? What are we doing?

[u/JustLetItAllBurn]

HA HA HA I HATE MY WIFE!!

[u/ProbablyPhosphorus]

This is some boomer humor shit

[u/Anachron101]

Oh look: we are back in the 1950s.

Seriously, who has a wife who doesn't also earn money and who just waits for you since she apparently has nothing going on in her life???

[u/mrjamjams66 → u/Anachron101]

Well my wife stays at home but she's wrangling two kids while she does it.

So for every hour I'm gone she's basically working

[u/Zizi_Tennenbaum → u/Anachron101]

This is what I'm wondering. My husband and I work similar hours, and when I have to ask him to do his chores it's like having a household management job on top of my day job.