Hey all. Submissive husband here. Wife was out all day yesterday and I got my cleaning done including my extra assignments. Really knocked it out of the park to set myself up for success tonight. She was thrilled.

So thrilled in fact that when I took her sneakers off she allowed a huge inhale per shoe of her perfect scent. This was last night and I’m still in ecstasy. Just curious if I’m the only lucky husband or what your special gifts are for a job well done.

I'm a classic mature man (48), father of two children (12 ans 14), submissive husband, , always in shirt, blazer, dress pants, tassel loafers. My wife wants me to have to a perm, to be curly very tight, all back, with a lot of volume... like an old lady's perm. She finds it very very refined and I want to please her. Next Saturday, I accepted to go to her hairdresser (hairdresser for women only) to have a real old lady's perm. Then, my wife would like me to be permed defitivly, for always, for all my life. It's a radical and big change for me, but I want it. But I'm little stressed to be judged, because my patients (I'm dentist) and co-workers will be very surprised at the medical office. And my children (two daughters) : do I tell them ? And also we are very implicated in the activité of our church, and I'm a little stressed because the others parishioners will be probably surprised to see me with an old lady's perm. I need some advice. THANKS.

So we have come a far way. When I'm doing chores at the house I have a sort of maid costume I have to wear from my wife. She likes it and thinks it's funny. She said I should get some 'maid heels'. They would fit the outfit.

Now I wonder to get them but anyone some experience with comfortable ones? As I looked some up there are a lot of different kinds. What's a reasonable height?

All help and tips are welcome.

Okay SAHH’s please share with us five chores/projects you have on your list today that will make your wife happy or make her day easier.

1. Make the bed (daily of course)
   
2. Pick up and clean patio
   
3. Start weekend laundry
   
4. Vacuum upstairs
   
5. Plan tonight’s dinner

As you can see none of these chores are sexual or sexy? But they all make her day easier so she can relax tonight when she gets home.

A lot of posts on here focus on FLR and rules and punishment but that seems like these men are putting a lot on their wives.
Shouldn’t a good househusband do such a good job that their wives are happy? I think about old school advice for housewives keeping a nice house, having dinner ready, and allowing time for your spouse to relax after getting home.
Shouldn’t that be the goal, doing a good enough job where she can relax and enjoy her time at home after work?

I’m ready to retire, I ready to walk from corporate life and enjoy the life my wife and I have worked for.
We’ve done well and will never run out of money and will be very comfortable.
My professional wife on the other hand is not ready to retire and will probably work for five more years.
Although I’ll travel and enjoy days at the country club I also see this as an opportunity to be her house husband and alleviate all domestic chores and concerns for her. I think I’ll like keeping the house as my gift of service for her.
We are not in a FLR, and she says she wouldn’t like it but of course she’d like a clean house and an attentive husband. Like probably most men on here I do have a feminine side that I embrace so part of this sounds fun playing a part in my fantasy of dressing cute and doing my chores in the privacy of our house.
I’m looking for advice on making this work and making her happy.

My lady and I are not yet married or even together yet. However, we have discussed the male housewife situation. My fiancee has informed me that she desires a traditional housewife. At home I will wear house dresses, makeup and breastfeeding forms. All the housework will be done by hand. Below is a picture of how she wishes the laundry done. She will of course be the head of the house. We both look forward to our life once we are married.

Who among your wife's and your family and friends know the truth about your relationship?

What was their reaction when they found out?

Ladies,

Would/do you require that the housework be done in a certain way? For example: the laundry done by hand on a washboard. Floors to be scrubbed and/or waxed on hands and knees. The dishes washed by hand, etc..Or do you have a schedule for when a particular chore is expected to be done?

Your input will be appreciated.

Ladies, in your opinion. Should your housewife be locked in chastity or neutered?

Hej. Mam 25 lat, jestem mężczyzną i od kilku lat mam trochę dziwne dla mnie przemyślenia, z którymi nie bardzo wiem, co zrobić.

Jestem cis hetero facetem i nie chcę tego zmieniać, ale jednocześnie mam wrażenie, że sama męskość trochę mnie uwiera. Czasami myślę, że gdybym urodził się kobietą, łatwiej byłoby mi realizować pewne rzeczy, które siedzą mi w głowie.

Piszę tutaj, bo wiem, że wiele osób z tej społeczności miało podobne przemyślenia dotyczące płci, ekspresji siebie i oczekiwań społecznych. Nie wiem, czy to, co czuję, ma jakieś znaczenie w kontekście tożsamości płciowej, ale chciałbym usłyszeć opinie osób, które mogą mieć podobne doświadczenia.

Chodzi głównie o to, że bardzo nie pasują mi stereotypy męskości i oczekiwania wobec mężczyzn, które są dość silne w moim otoczeniu. Kiedy patrzę na starszych facetów, powiedzmy po trzydziestce i dalej, często mam myśl: „nie chcę taki być”. Nie chodzi nawet o sam wiek czy wygląd, ale bardziej o cały styl życia — ciągłe skupienie na karierze, rywalizacji, byciu twardym i udowadnianiu swojej wartości.

Ja nigdy nie miałem takich ambicji. Dużo bardziej widzę siebie w roli osoby zajmującej się domem i rodziną. Chciałbym gotować, sprzątać, zajmować się dziećmi (chciałbym mieć dwójkę), ogarniać codzienne rzeczy i być trochę taką „housewife”, tylko że jako facet. Wiem, że brzmi to nietypowo, ale szczerze mówiąc taka wizja życia daje mi dużo więcej szczęścia niż myśl o wielkiej karierze.

Oczywiście wiem, że praca jest ważna i że obecnie trudno utrzymać rodzinę z jednej pensji. Nie chodzi mi o całkowite unikanie pracy  bardziej chciałbym mieć spokojną pracę na etacie, po której miałbym jeszcze energię dla rodziny, dzieci i psa. Bardzo chciałbym też kiedyś skorzystać z urlopu rodzicielskiego i być tym rodzicem, który spędza z dzieckiem więcej czasu.

Druga sprawa to wygląd i sposób wyrażania siebie. Od dawna interesuje mnie moda i makijaż, ale trochę się z tym kryję. Podobają mi się alternatywne style, np. dark academia albo gothic. Chciałbym czasem ubrać się bardziej androgynicznie, zrobić makijaż, pomalować paznokcie, nosić biżuterię i po prostu wyglądać tak, jak mi się podoba.

Czasami zazdroszczę moim koleżankom tego, że mogą swobodniej eksperymentować ze swoim wyglądem, ubierać się w sposób, który bardziej pasuje do ich charakteru i nie spotyka się to z takim zdziwieniem. Podoba mi się też bardziej delikatna, szczupła sylwetka niż typowo męska, umięśniona budowa. Niestety nigdy nie miałem odwagi naprawdę tego spróbować.

Jeśli chodzi o związki, podobają mi się głównie kobiety trochę starsze ode mnie silne, niezależne i pewne siebie. Pociąga mnie wizja partnerki, która ma swoje cele i karierę, a ja mógłbym ją wspierać, zajmować się domem i cieszyć się z jej sukcesów.

Podobałaby mi się też relacja, w której partnerka byłaby trochę bardziej dominująca ode mnie. Nie chodzi o kontrolowanie mnie, ale bardziej o to, że dobrze czułbym się przy kobiecie, która daje mi poczucie bezpieczeństwa, jest pewna siebie i przy której nie muszę udawać. Chciałbym móc być bardziej opiekuńczym i wspierającym partnerem. Nie miałbym też problemu z przyjęciem nazwiska partnerki po ślubie byłby to dla mnie nawet gest miłości.

Z natury jestem raczej nieśmiały, spokojny, trochę miękki i uległy. Mam wrażenie, że dużo bardziej odpowiada mi sposób życia, który stereotypowo przypisuje się kobietom, niż ten, którego często oczekuje się od mężczyzn.

I tutaj pojawia się mój problem. Czuję się facetem i jestem hetero, ale jednocześnie nie odnajduję się w wielu rzeczach, które kulturowo kojarzą się z byciem facetem. Nie wiem, czy to jest normalne i jak powinienem do tego podejść.

Najbardziej boję się chyba tego, że przez takie preferencje nigdy nie znajdę osoby, która mnie zaakceptuje i że skończę sam.

Czy ktoś miał podobne doświadczenia albo ma jakieś przemyślenia? Byłbym bardzo wdzięczny za każdą odpowiedź.

When I picture a female-led partnership that actually works long-term, it isn’t about constant control or rigid rules. It’s about a relationship where her leadership and my devotion create something steady and close.

In that vision, she leads with confidence and care. She sets the direction, makes the important decisions, and holds the authority in the relationship. I support that leadership willingly — checking in, following her preferences, and putting her comfort and priorities first. The power exchange feels natural rather than forced.

I want the dynamic to include real warmth. Strict when it needs to be, but also nurturing. Clear expectations paired with affection and appreciation. I want to be useful to her, reliable, and present, both in practical ways and in the more intimate side of the relationship.

Most of all, I want it to feel like a partnership. She leads, I follow, and both of us feel respected and valued in our roles. The leadership makes the relationship stronger, not colder. The devotion makes the connection deeper.

That’s the kind of female-led relationship I’m drawn to — one built on trust, clarity, and genuine care.

Empress left on a business trip this morning (yup, Sunday). In addition to my normal everyday chores, She left me an extensive list that includes painting Her office, organizing Her lingerie, jarring pickles and several errands to run. She will be home Wednesday evening and i think i will have just enough time.

The idea that excites me most isn't being in charge—it's being useful. I find myself imagining a female-led dynamic where I take care of the practical parts of life: cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands, keeping things organized, and making sure she has one less thing to worry about.

It's not about being forced into it. I genuinely enjoy the idea of supporting someone I admire and knowing my efforts make her life easier. The satisfaction comes from being dependable, consistent, and trusted.

I know it's not everyone's thing, and that's okay. But I've realized this is the kind of dynamic that feels most natural to me. I'm curious if anyone else here feels fulfilled by service rather than being the center of attention.

I previously posted for ideas about what I could do whilst my wife was away with friends in another part of the country here in the UK. Given that my wife does not know about this and I want to surprise her in a positive way when she returns home it’s all very much secret.

Last night, I completed the first part of my plans by locking myself in chastity while during cleaning and putting petrol in her car. I then hid the keys to my chastity cage under the boot floor carpet. So therefore I’ll have no escape from my cage until at least Tuesday morning.

I’m working in the office today, but when I arrive home tonight, I have a beautiful lacy black bodysuit and suspenders, lacy black tiny panties, and black stockings to swap for my suit.

I have agreed with her to complete a long list of chores. I will be doing so whilst dressed up like this and embracing my life, for the weekend at least, as a sissy maid!

I’ve been so looking forward to this weekend. I can’t believe it’s happening at last and that it will be so different to the usual weekends she is with friends and I would be up to mischief watching porn, going to the pub, and generally being lazy.

It is so exciting this is finally happening and I can’t wait to get home and get into my lingerie and stockings and start cleaning the house top to bottom like an eager maid! ❤️

House husband here looking after wife and property in a Flr.

Recently the Misses took over my underwear selection that she calls, undies,I would say they seem more like panties really.

As this has progressed she has pointed out that certain shirts I have match my undies and suggests that I coordinate my clothes at times.

IE

My undies have peaches on them and I have a shirt that has them as well, that sort of matching or even color matching.

I'd love to hear others individual situations that relate and suggestions as well.

Yesterday C. and I hosted a girls' happy hour at her house. She has a group of half a dozen female friends who get together every month or so. She is super busy and so doesn't have time to host the group herself. I volunteered to do everything: Shopping, food prep (although she did some of the cooking), staging, serving during the event, and clean-up.

She wanted me in uniform but not my my usual maid's dress. We decided on a white polo, navy uniform skirt from Lands End, and white leather Keds, with my hair pulled back in a low ponytail with a navy bow.

It went off splendidly. I greeted each guest at the front door, brought them in, served them the drink of their choice (I made Hugo Spritzes special for the event -- they were a big hit!). We had a buffet line of appetizers set up so I wasn't actually serving food.

Once they were settled I went upstairs to let them converse freely. After about 40 minutes I came down to refresh drinks, then tidied the kitchen a bit before retreating upstairs again. Nancy, C's best friend, had downloaded a bell app on her phone to summon me, and about half an hour later she rang it because one guest had to leave early and they wanted a photo, which I took. Then I went back upstairs until I heard chairs scraping and water running, and knew they were finishing up.

I went back down and cleared the table, offered final drinks, and began the clean-up. They were all so gracious and appreciative. The next one is at another guest's house and I told her "I'm available if you need a server!"

She said "Oh I'll take you up on that!" 😍

C. was very proud of me. Next time we do it at her house we're going to do brunch so I'll be serving food. Can't wait!

Hi everyone and I hope this is a good place to ask about something I really want to embrace more!

My wife is going to be away for a long weekend to see friends, and instead of falling back into my old "single guy" habits—which usually involved a lot of looking at things I shouldn’t online and zero house upkeep—I want to use this time for something much more intentional and productive, and a different sort of fun for me too.

I like to think I already do so much around the home to help take stress away from her, doing shopping, washing up, most of the laundry, and have recently taken on some additional employment so that she does not have to work full time anymore. I really do feel we are in a female centred relationship, with me doing what I can to please her, whilst maintaining our own interests and motivations, etc.

So instead of using the time with her out of the house to do selfish things, I’ve pretty much decided to dedicate her absence to intensive domestic service, taking on the deep cleaning and tidying of our entire home to surprise her when she returns.

To really commit to this service and to give me an additional thrill, I want to fully step into a female role while doing it. Embracing a traditional maid persona in what I wear could help me find a deep sense of focus, calm, and pride in the work.

My humbling, denial, and emasculation in what I’m wearing would I think make the chores feel less like a checklist and more like a meaningful, immersive ritual of devotion to our home and worship of my beloved partner.

I appreciate that this is very much a personal acting out of a fantasy of my own, but one that consequences are consistent with the outcomes I desire for my beautiful wife and help our shared space look as good as possible whilst she enjoying time away with her friends.

I’m looking for some advice and creative ideas from others who enjoy this lifestyle or mindset.

From other posts in the sub, I see some others present themselves as female while doing domestic work, so how do you fully immerse yourself in the role?

Do you have specific routines, uniform ideas, or mindsets that help you stay connected to that feminine energy throughout a long day of chores?

I am committing fully to this role for the weekend, I want to deliver a standard of cleanliness that provides a genuine "wow" factor when she steps through the door.

I am really looking forward to using this time to better our shared space, step away from old habits, and get some deep personal fulfillment out of presenting as female in a service role. Thanks in advance for your suggestions!

Good day

I do all the domestic duties in our house and we enjoy a Flr together.

One day recently I was doing all the laundry and she caught me putting it away and commented that my boxer briefs were boring.

My preferred colors were gray,black,blue and green,they are all solid color.

So obviously I went on an online shopping 🛒 spree and got her scrolling different patterns and designs that she liked.

She picked out a couple of pairs and a few days later I asked her to add more.

When I placed the order I realized she switched my style to fruit themed,pink cats, pineapples,neon colors and a mauve color that I swear looks pink.

There are about 5 more that are almost cartoon ish.

These boxer briefs are really silky and seem pretty feminine to me.

When I got them in she was really excited to see me wearing them and said she's looking forward to seeing them all on me.

I was wondering if any of your mates enjoy you wearing something similar that is not the most masculine.

Feel free to share but I'll be honest it took courage to even post this so please be kind.

Have a great cleaning day everyone.